i cant let go

I loveu man so much and I am so attatchrd to him emotionally. My family doesn't like him though. Every time they bad moth him it hurts me because we are very close as a family. But I can't choose them over him. I just cannot. I see beauty in his flaws and I don't want to give up. I've completely lost my self preservation over this guy. Part of me tells myself to snap out of it and the other says to follow my heart. My heart is winning over my head.

AriesIntrovert16

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If there is a valid reason as to why your family doesn't like this guy, I would step back and look at the whole picture. Don't just jump in head (or in your case heart) first.

AbstractRay

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Its tough for me. If I left him I would feel a bit incomplete

gemini64

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Posted by AbstractRay
Its tough for me. If I left him I would feel a bit incomplete

NO ONE completes you. YOU can only complete you.

I've been married for 15 years and trust me, it's not about expecting someone else to make you feel whole and worthy. If you don't have that prior to having a relationship, you won't get it from the person you think you can't live without.

And you can't win everyone's heart nor based your love on other people's expectations. My husband is awesome. He is down to earth, giving, compassionate and caring. His parents, OTOH, are not. We have given much to them and done a many nice things to make their life easier. They have never appreciated it nor reciprocated. The only person they truly care about is my leech of a brother in law, who finally moved out of their home at age 38 when he got married. He drinks, smokes and is in debt up to his eyeballs and the bail him out every damn time. They nearly raise his 4 year old as they baby sit her M-F so he can go to work. Yet, when we needed a baby sitter when our boys were younger, they never had the time nor gave a rat's ass about our needs.

So in the end, you have to ask yourself what's more important? Living for your happiness or living to make your family happy? I learned a long time ago you can't change other's behavior. You can only change yourself.