I hate myself

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Maybelle on Saturday, October 26, 2013 and has 8 replies.
I thought gemini ppl are not jealouse. I think I'm the worst person in the world Sad I get easily jealous, easily, and it kills me.
For example, I think about my bf's ex gf, and I have a lot of thoughts in my head. I know 'past is past' blablabla wise words dont work for me. Or anothet example, if I catch my bf looking at some girls, i get jealous/feel bad.
Why why why?? Is it just a girl thing, is it my virgo moon analysing things too much or is it just me?
I really hate the feeling I get, cuz it kills me for all day/week/month, everytime I think about it. I wish jealousing didn't exist in me Sad

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You just can't let anxiety get the best of you.
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I forgot to tell that, eventhough I get jealous I dont tell my bf, I'd either have the depression for myself, i will hold it for myself. Because I find it too awkward to tell it to my bf. I dont want my bf to think I'm a psycho.
When I get jealous, I suddenly turn myself from laughing/happy to serious and quiet till my bf realise I'm being too silent, and he asks 'is anything bothering you?' And I say 'no, nothing'.
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Thanks god some one knows how it is.
Human having emition is good, but too much? It's really tiring, I'm so sick of it, really, I wish I could be more relaxed.
Maybe its my virgo moon, thing too much, worrying too much. I like that I'm serious, but this jealosy, hmmm I'm getting sick :/
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Posted by Maybelle
I thought gemini ppl are not jealouse. I think I'm the worst person in the world Sad I get easily jealous, easily, and it kills me.
For example, I think about my bf's ex gf, and I have a lot of thoughts in my head. I know 'past is past' blablabla wise words dont work for me. Or anothet example, if I catch my bf looking at some girls, i get jealous/feel bad.
Why why why?? Is it just a girl thing, is it my virgo moon analysing things too much or is it just me?
I really hate the feeling I get, cuz it kills me for all day/week/month, everytime I think about it. I wish jealousing didn't exist in me Sad




1. ALL people get jealous and possessive. It's human nature. It's due to our ego's. And in no way is it just a "girl" thing. I have a male friend I've known for 20 years, and we've always been close. But when I bring up my husband in a conversation, or if he's with me when I run into my friend, he (my friend) acts different. It's so obvious he's jealous or maybe even possessive to a point as he's known me longer than my husband. It's really stupid if you think about it. I've tried addressing it with him, but he gets mad. It's just one of those things you don't try to elevate and make worse.
2. Gems analyze a lot, just as much as Virgo's. The key difference imho is that Gems will act on their findings, where Virgo's will internalize it to death and try to rationalize their feelings so they can compartmentalize them and move on.
3. If you are jealous of your BF looking at another woman, then obviously it shows he means something to you. Too much jealousy to the point of being paranoid is unhealthy, and will undermine your relationship. But a little jealousy isn't bad. I've been married 15 years and I still give my hubby crap when he looks at another woman. Most of the time he does it just to push my buttons. The fun part is that I pull the same thing on him when i see a good looking guy at the gym etc.
4. In all relationships, you will come to a realization that once you love someone and they love you in a committed relationship, the common denominator is trust. My husband and I can tease each other because we have mutual trust. It's something that takes time to develop. You either have it or you don't.
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Posted by Maybelle
I forgot to tell that, eventhough I get jealous I dont tell my bf, I'd either have the depression for myself, i will hold it for myself. Because I find it too awkward to tell it to my bf. I dont want my bf to think I'm a psycho.
When I get jealous, I suddenly turn myself from laughing/happy to serious and quiet till my bf realise I'm being too silent, and he asks 'is anything bothering you?' And I say 'no, nothing'.


Didn't see this post before I replied to your first.
Here's the deal with you not telling your BF and assuring yourself that it's better to be depressed and keep it inside. This is not good. I guarantee you in time, you will begin to resent your BF for making you feel this. You are giving your BF power over your feelings and honesty. And you even admitted to having to put on an act to assure you BF all is ok with you. This will backfire. You can only tell him so many times that you're ok. He will see through it.
Even though most guys take longer to realize the truth because they are more literal and less emotional than we women.
The best thing you can do is during some conversation with him along is just say, "you know I really love it we spend time together, when we laugh together, and when you just look me in the eyes. It means a lot to me to be able to tell you how I feel and know how you feel about me. I'll admit it,
sometimes when you look at other girls, it kind of makes me feel as if you don't want to be with me...."
That might sound like a lot to say, and you can certainly say it in your words. You don't have to use the word "jealous". Just put the emphasis on how much he means to you and be honest about wanting him to put the emphasis on you.
I don't think telling him this will make him see you as a psycho. If anything, he will feel happy to know how you really feel about him, and the fact that you've opened up to him in response to his previous questions "Is anything bothering you?" Guys can't read our minds. We don't think or operate as men do. It's how our brains are wired. So if you want him to know the truth, you have to simply be honest with him. Be concise, honest, and without drama. He will appreciate it, trust me.
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Thank you gemini64
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What is the difference between innocent glancing and over eye oggling?
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