Just sex or am I over-thinking?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by heliumfiasco on Tuesday, April 3, 2018 and has 25 replies.
So, I have not had sex with the Gemini yet. But he is extremely sexually flirty. Constantly talking about making out, touching my body etc. Last night we go to the movies and the entire time he is just rubbing my body, aggressively rubbing my thighs, basically touching my Vag, but making sure not to directly. Grabbing my face and kissing me. He legitimately couldn't stop touching me.This was only our second date. I didn't mind.... but it made me question the situation. Most men are so skittish in the beginning. He gives zero fucks! Is your Gemini/ or man in general like this? So soon?


I asked him directly "are you looking to just hookup? Because if so, we can discuss that". He said "no, that isn't me. I'm just really attracted to you".... but my gut is like "Nah, he wants to just bang"


I think its because so much of our conversations daily are about him wanting to "put my hands all over your body."


Honestly, I would hook up with him. I just want him to say that's what this is. We're on 2 weeks of talking pretty much all day, every day. I'd say 85% is about him thinking im hot, asking for selfies. etc. If i'm gonna go the hook up route I dont want to be texting all day.




Disclaimer: I do NOT trust these hoes.
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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Idk

I think if a guy is interested he will try to know you better and ask questions. But then if the sexual chemistry is off the charts, he may want to be touchy lol If you want him to slow down, stop him! I think almost all guys will try to be sexual? If given a chance...


As far as how I understand, if he wants to have a relationship, he will try to get to know you. If not then maybe he is keeping things sexual. Doesn't mean it won't get anything further, I think?

Lol

I really don't know. I'm answering based on what I been seeing here.

Are you ok if it's just sex?




I agree. I will say the chemistry is at high levels. But I just cant get a good grasp on him.


I would be down for casual sex. But if thats the case dont be texting me all day. Because then that gets confusing. Just be straight-up. He told me he liked my direct approach and he isnt looking for sex, but to just go with the flow. Yet, he very much seems to be into sex. Haha. So, yeah im going with the flow.... but the flow seems to be about you touching my body.
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wow - a Scorpio I dated for a short period of time was like that - but he wanted sex - I couldn't stand him constantly touching and kissing me - take a chill dude - yuk !
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Posted by Lioness18881
Nah gem guys are just like that. He probably does really like you. They express interest by acting like a slimy man whore but it's genuine interest, not just sex. They just seem that way.
Yeah, as I'm typing it sounds so slimy. And, it was aggressive, but it didn't seem creepy. I cant explain it. But then, after the movie he walks me to my car, kisses me and says "have a good night." After I get home he texts me, "I wanted to kiss you more but it was cold and I didn't want to ask you to make-out in a car." Okay, but dude you basically grabbed my crotch in the movie for like 45 minutes, now you want to be chivalrous. hahaha


I'm well confused. His behavior is so contradicting.
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Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
Idk

I think if a guy is interested he will try to know you better and ask questions. But then if the sexual chemistry is off the charts, he may want to be touchy lol If you want him to slow down, stop him! I think almost all guys will try to be sexual? If given a chance...


As far as how I understand, if he wants to have a relationship, he will try to get to know you. If not then maybe he is keeping things sexual. Doesn't mean it won't get anything further, I think?

Lol

I really don't know. I'm answering based on what I been seeing here.

Are you ok if it's just sex?




I agree. I will say the chemistry is at high levels. But I just cant get a good grasp on him.


I would be down for casual sex. But if thats the case dont be texting me all day. Because then that gets confusing. Just be straight-up. He told me he liked my direct approach and he isnt looking for sex, but to just go with the flow. Yet, he very much seems to be into sex. Haha. So, yeah im going with the flow.... but the flow seems to be about you touching my body.
Rofl


I mean you look sexy so can you blame him? It's not in a creepy way right?

If you are confused or need more time, put a brake on his touchy hands lol

Keep things seductive than sexual and get to know each other. Look at me giving advice lmao


Jeez, I pretty much rushed things with a guy. Even tho he wanted to wait!! 😭


Then if he texts you let him know what you are doing, like hey I'm at work or cooking, etc,... Ideally if they are interested they will ask you questions about what you are doing.


But mostly gems go with the flow. I'm a Gemini and there is no way I will sleep with a guy in the first few dates. And the chemistry has to be exceptionally great for me go for that third date.


Idk... I don't date a lot. Wish I could help you. I pretty much take a year or a two to get over. Pathetic

I think he finds you hot and wants you. Lol


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True. Im not gonna stress it too much. Im just like "Hmmmmm?"
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Posted by tctao
wow - a Scorpio I dated for a short period of time was like that - but he wanted sex - I couldn't stand him constantly touching and kissing me - take a chill dude - yuk !
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOFA forcing a Cap moon into it = BIIIIG focking mistake 101.


Stupid idiot had to thaw out that heart of ice first & THEN give it time to turn into putty in his hands. He should've come to me for help.
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Posted by tctao
wow - a Scorpio I dated for a short period of time was like that - but he wanted sex - I couldn't stand him constantly touching and kissing me - take a chill dude - yuk !
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOFA forcing a Cap moon into it = BIIIIG focking mistake 101.


Stupid idiot had to thaw out that heart of ice first & THEN give it time to turn into putty in his hands. He should've come to me for help.
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yer daym skippy LOL
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Posted by nano
Posted by tctao
wow - a Scorpio I dated for a short period of time was like that - but he wanted sex - I couldn't stand him constantly touching and kissing me - take a chill dude - yuk !
Same, that is a huge turn off for me. I have to be realllllllly fucking into the guy for something like that to happen and be okay with it.... 1 time in my whole life? When chemistry was off the charts.


I went on 1 date with an aries man once upon a time and he assaulted me. Shoving his hands up my shirt and into my pants. Ripping my clothing. Sticking his tongue down my throat. FUCK. YOU. It wasn't even hot... it was angry... aggressive.... scary.....
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yeah - it was just too much
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I kind of like it. It has nothing to do with not liking it. Its more a concern about the level of genuine interest. I am not familiar with a man being that confident and touchy. Ive dealt with the exact opposite. So, its confusing to me. I dont want to allow myself to like him if its just sex. I'd rather keep the conversations short and go with it from there.
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He said he hasnt had sex in awhile. Typically doesnt talk to people like this, etc. *** hard eye roll*** That he likes me. I said last night after our date.. "So, are we vibing? Should we go out again? Or chalk this up to good conversation and a couple makeouts?".... He seemed offended. Sooooo.... Maybe hes just hyper sexual?
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Posted by LittleStar
He is probably more Taurus than Gemini or something. I can’t stand touching people.
No Taurus.... maybe his Cancer Mars?
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Posted by Lioness18881
Nah gem guys are just like that. He probably does really like you. They express interest by acting like a slimy man whore but it's genuine interest, not just sex. They just seem that way.
Yeah, as I'm typing it sounds so slimy. And, it was aggressive, but it didn't seem creepy. I cant explain it. But then, after the movie he walks me to my car, kisses me and says "have a good night." After I get home he texts me, "I wanted to kiss you more but it was cold and I didn't want to ask you to make-out in a car." Okay, but dude you basically grabbed my crotch in the movie for like 45 minutes, now you want to be chivalrous. hahaha


I'm well confused. His behavior is so contradicting.
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it's only not creepy to you because you are attracted to him enough so his actions don't seem creepy


aka


you are planning on sleeping with at some point soon so his actions are actually warranted
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Posted by nano
Gemini men can be way too touchy feely. Both of my geminis had their hands all over me ALL the time... to the point where sometimes it would piss me off!!! Esp the scorpio moon.


I am so conservative about that kind of stuff... don't grab my ass in public. Don't squeeze my boob in public. That will really just piss me off because I don't feel comfortable with drawing that kind of attention to myself... there's a time and place. I just don't like to be seen that way. I feel its disrespectful to me. Holding hands, okay. Kissing a little, okay. Making out, no.


Tell him to slow down if you want him to! He would respect that.. he's not an aries lol.
lol he's not at aries haha
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Posted by tctao
wow - a Scorpio I dated for a short period of time was like that - but he wanted sex - I couldn't stand him constantly touching and kissing me - take a chill dude - yuk !
Same, that is a huge turn off for me. I have to be realllllllly fucking into the guy for something like that to happen and be okay with it.... 1 time in my whole life? When chemistry was off the charts.


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Story time........


please share.
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Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Lioness18881
Nah gem guys are just like that. He probably does really like you. They express interest by acting like a slimy man whore but it's genuine interest, not just sex. They just seem that way.
Yeah, as I'm typing it sounds so slimy. And, it was aggressive, but it didn't seem creepy. I cant explain it. But then, after the movie he walks me to my car, kisses me and says "have a good night." After I get home he texts me, "I wanted to kiss you more but it was cold and I didn't want to ask you to make-out in a car." Okay, but dude you basically grabbed my crotch in the movie for like 45 minutes, now you want to be chivalrous. hahaha


I'm well confused. His behavior is so contradicting.
it's only not creepy to you because you are attracted to him enough so his actions don't seem creepy


aka


you are planning on sleeping with at some point soon so his actions are actually warranted
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Totally agree. the dynamic is getting confusing to me. Probably because I am so used to passive sexual men. So, I was looking for input on how to proceed. If others have had experiences with such forward men, as I have not.
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Posted by nano

Holding hands, okay. Kissing a little, okay. Making out, no.


Hand holding and kisses on the cheek are the best.


In terms of showing sexual interest after a couple of dates.....


palm , wrist and neck kisses are my signature.


If things are getting really hot and heavy


then a slight touch behind the knees during a make-out session would be my go to
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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Lioness18881
Nah gem guys are just like that. He probably does really like you. They express interest by acting like a slimy man whore but it's genuine interest, not just sex. They just seem that way.
Yeah, as I'm typing it sounds so slimy. And, it was aggressive, but it didn't seem creepy. I cant explain it. But then, after the movie he walks me to my car, kisses me and says "have a good night." After I get home he texts me, "I wanted to kiss you more but it was cold and I didn't want to ask you to make-out in a car." Okay, but dude you basically grabbed my crotch in the movie for like 45 minutes, now you want to be chivalrous. hahaha


I'm well confused. His behavior is so contradicting.
it's only not creepy to you because you are attracted to him enough so his actions don't seem creepy


aka


you are planning on sleeping with at some point soon so his actions are actually warranted
Totally agree. the dynamic is getting confusing to me. Probably because I am so used to passive sexual men. So, I was looking for input on how to proceed. If others have had experiences with such forward men, as I have not.
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Take a step back....let him chase you a little.


Geminis like games.
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Will do!
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Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Lioness18881
Nah gem guys are just like that. He probably does really like you. They express interest by acting like a slimy man whore but it's genuine interest, not just sex. They just seem that way.
Yeah, as I'm typing it sounds so slimy. And, it was aggressive, but it didn't seem creepy. I cant explain it. But then, after the movie he walks me to my car, kisses me and says "have a good night." After I get home he texts me, "I wanted to kiss you more but it was cold and I didn't want to ask you to make-out in a car." Okay, but dude you basically grabbed my crotch in the movie for like 45 minutes, now you want to be chivalrous. hahaha


I'm well confused. His behavior is so contradicting.
it's only not creepy to you because you are attracted to him enough so his actions don't seem creepy


aka


you are planning on sleeping with at some point soon so his actions are actually warranted
Totally agree. the dynamic is getting confusing to me. Probably because I am so used to passive sexual men. So, I was looking for input on how to proceed. If others have had experiences with such forward men, as I have not.
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if you like him, then I would most likely just proceed with him as if that is the usual way he is - time tells all - if you wait long enough, it all comes out lol

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Also am I the only who feels like based on the description of this particular Geminis "moves" that the sex when it does indeed happen will most likely be lame?



There were a couple of red flags in helium's description.
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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also am I the only who feels like based on the description of this particular Geminis "moves" that the sex when it does indeed happen will most likely be lame?



There were a couple of red flags in helium's description.
hahahaha. I just spit my coffee.
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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also am I the only who feels like based on the description of this particular Geminis "moves" that the sex when it does indeed happen will most likely be lame?



There were a couple of red flags in helium's description.
hahahaha. I just spit my coffee.
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I mean where was the seduction? where's the buildup?


him buying you popcorn? maybe with butter?
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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Posted by heliumfiasco
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also am I the only who feels like based on the description of this particular Geminis "moves" that the sex when it does indeed happen will most likely be lame?



There were a couple of red flags in helium's description.
hahahaha. I just spit my coffee.
I mean where was the seduction? where's the buildup?


him buying you popcorn? maybe with butter?
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He has a great touch and is an excellent kisser, actually the best kisser. However, he is 28 and it shows. I can see where youre coming from. He'd probably need to be led a bit in the seduction department. I dont think he has too much experience in that area.


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Posted by SuninLibra
I think this is the Gemini way I've known a few and they all were the same as u described, the good thing about gem they prepare u mentally for the physical flirt which I like tbh, I think u should just have fun and keep stimulate his imagination you'll have the time of ur life. Try not to over think things really its a mood killer
Yes, he definitely did prepare me verbally,leading up to date.
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Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also am I the only who feels like based on the description of this particular Geminis "moves" that the sex when it does indeed happen will most likely be lame?



There were a couple of red flags in helium's description.
One minute man confirmed haha
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