GeminiSoul
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Libra communication
Yes, I have encountered such acts. I tried it all, lol. Eventually, I ignored his existence for the most part & focused on having fun, but was sweet to him. Open lines of communication are a must... In person, so there's no where to hide. 😛 That worked best with him. But gosh, he is fickle! He is a bit of a special case, so...! Good luck my dear 🙂
Open lines of communication? can you explain more?
Open, honest communication in person. Express your needs & wants. Libras as lovers like to be givers...they want to satisfy you, but they need to know how. Let them know what you want.
Dejavu. I'm trying to get help from the Libra board about the same issue. It drives me crazy. lol
Im a libra as well, and i just want it to go on record, that libra's do not have a communication problems, as a matter of fact we are the best in the zodiac at doing it. Rather or not we are being sincere when we comminicate can be up for question tho. I say that because if a libra really really likes you, man or female, you will find the things they say sometimes too good to be true. It will sound like they are trying to run game,and SOMETIMES we are, but most of the time we really mean it, especially if we know its going to make our partner feel good. If we dont have anything nice to see, we will most likley keep our mouths shut, and distance ourself from whomever or whatever it was the rubbed us the wrong way.
The only time it will bother us if you choose to ignore us, is if we really like you. If we dont, we either wont notice, or will be glad. If you pester us, or bugg us for not talking to you it will only make it worse...He will get irratated because he's probably trying to give you a hint, and you wont. But if we like you, and you jump down our throat we will be flattered because it means you care and you noticed we we'rnt around =) However this could go either way, so my advice is to approach him lighly, do whine, or sound like you have an attitude. Just simply keep it light and innocent. If he blows you off, leave him alone and move on. If goes all mushy like this "My bad baby, i didnt mean too..blah blah" so okay, and watch him. Watch what he does, this way you will know if he's sincere. So it's realy show and tell, action speaks louder than words.
The only time it will bother us if you choose to ignore us, is if we really like you. If we dont, we either wont notice, or will be glad. If you pester us, or bugg us for not talking to you it will only make it worse...He will get irratated because he's probably trying to give you a hint, and you wont. But if we like you, and you jump down our throat we will be flattered because it means you care and you noticed we we'rnt around =) However this could go either way, so my advice is to approach him lighly, do whine, or sound like you have an attitude. Just simply keep it light and innocent. If he blows you off, leave him alone and move on. If goes all mushy like this "My bad baby, i didnt mean too..blah blah" so okay, and watch him. Watch what he does, this way you will know if he's sincere. So it's realy show and tell, action speaks louder than words.
sorry, i had a typo above i meant "DONT WHINE TO HIM"
Hm.
So how long have you been in the relationship? I've done the Libra disappearing act myself a few times for different reasons. I mean, what's your background with the fellow. I think that would reveal a lot of the motives behind such behavior.
So how long have you been in the relationship? I've done the Libra disappearing act myself a few times for different reasons. I mean, what's your background with the fellow. I think that would reveal a lot of the motives behind such behavior.
Hey all,
Thanks for the help. I did talk to him about it and amazingly he was happy I noticed lol and promised to communicate more. The thing is that we both are busy bees and love to have our own space which honestly sometimes leave us not talking for a while and me as a Gemini analyze that as "why are we even together?!" lol and sometimes I end up calling and texting to test the waters. I noticed when I start doing that he relaxes a bit in a way waiting for me to contact. Anyway we talked about it and all 🙂
Wish me Luck 😄
Thanks for the help. I did talk to him about it and amazingly he was happy I noticed lol and promised to communicate more. The thing is that we both are busy bees and love to have our own space which honestly sometimes leave us not talking for a while and me as a Gemini analyze that as "why are we even together?!" lol and sometimes I end up calling and texting to test the waters. I noticed when I start doing that he relaxes a bit in a way waiting for me to contact. Anyway we talked about it and all 🙂
Wish me Luck 😄
Im a Gemini 21May girl in a relationship with a libra man and I am going through what youre going through now. He really wanted to be my bf now that he is ..he is loving when we are together but not keeping in touch when we are not together. Its worse because we live 40mins apart and have busy schedule. Its such a torture for us Geminis who loves communication. I also often ask myself "Why are we even together?"
He did his disappearing act before and he came around after a few days but I gave him no attitude. I did told him before that id appreciate him to tell me when if ever he needs space and i would understand it. It would be better then be left wondering and having him not picking up the phone cuz it makes me feel rejected and hurts my feelings which will end up me creating this wall around me to protect myself
He did his disappearing act before and he came around after a few days but I gave him no attitude. I did told him before that id appreciate him to tell me when if ever he needs space and i would understand it. It would be better then be left wondering and having him not picking up the phone cuz it makes me feel rejected and hurts my feelings which will end up me creating this wall around me to protect myself
Wow we have the same story! Except that we live around 1 hr and half (by plane) away from one another 🙂. Well You can always use the advices put here and also find my thread in Libra section. All I want to say is that I found out that it's completely normal for them to do so. Therefore, you can sit with him and discuss it in a very calm understanding way - as believe me if you showed him you're angry or so he'll disppear for longer periods of time. Libra loves to know that you love them, that you understand, that you care so be calm and gentle with them. When they disappear it's not that they don't love you, the keep you in their minds, but perhaps they have tasks to do or so. Oh and they can never multi-task. One more thing, let him do the chasing. When Libra notices that you're the one always making the effort to communicate: text, call ... etc. They first get lazy and expect you to do all the contacting and second they might as well ignore and disappear because they want to thave their space and not be chased (that I also got from the forum here). So my advice is: Talk to him in a gentle understanding way and show your needs, relax, get busy with other things in your life, and once he notices that, he'll start chasing you 😉 Libras are great lovers once they fix their mind on a special someone they're very loyal, loving, caring and would do anything to please their partner. You'll enjoy being with him once the communication fact is solved 🙂
A link to my discussion in Libra section: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/understanding-a-libra-help-2169259/
A link to my discussion in Libra section: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/understanding-a-libra-help-2169259/
wow great to hear from you! yeah I notice they like to do this because this is his 3rd time doing the disappearing act. Weve been together 6 months now. Ill take your advise and let him chase me. But tonight I called him and he was sweet and all like nothing happened. He told me he has been spending a lot of time with his friends lately and told me abt his weekend and all...Its like you said its not like he has forgotton abt me but it seems like he was occupied with something else...*sigh
tbh I donno if I can keep this up with him. Part of me wants to make this work because whenever we meet its just magical. But apart of me dont think I can deal with this emotional roller coaster. Im mentally exhausted sometimes. I tried going abt my daily life as usual but I keep on thinking abt him and wanting to spend more time with him. He havent told me he wanted to see me again this weekend. We didnt meet last weekend and Im just wondering if he is going to want to see me or not and its just so annoying.
why cant I have a normal bf. On the other hand I have this saggi guy who is very very into me and trying so hard to win me over. We just hang out like friends in group now. I wish I would fall in love with him but I just cant. I guess Libra man has more appeal to us then sag man.
I donno how you do it....how do you cope with his disappearing acts...its annoying the hell out of me tbh
tbh I donno if I can keep this up with him. Part of me wants to make this work because whenever we meet its just magical. But apart of me dont think I can deal with this emotional roller coaster. Im mentally exhausted sometimes. I tried going abt my daily life as usual but I keep on thinking abt him and wanting to spend more time with him. He havent told me he wanted to see me again this weekend. We didnt meet last weekend and Im just wondering if he is going to want to see me or not and its just so annoying.
why cant I have a normal bf. On the other hand I have this saggi guy who is very very into me and trying so hard to win me over. We just hang out like friends in group now. I wish I would fall in love with him but I just cant. I guess Libra man has more appeal to us then sag man.
I donno how you do it....how do you cope with his disappearing acts...its annoying the hell out of me tbh
lol @ Gemini and Libra relationships...
Gemini be careful not to chase libra no matter how subtly, if a libra is really into you, they will come after you. They will be subtle games, but libras like communication so they will reach out somehow. They are also cardinal signs which is a sign of initiation. On the flip side, Libras can like easy attention so you will catch libras more than other signs being lazy to make contact. However, when they want something, the lazy side will completely disappear.
Geminis are a lot more impatient than libra that's why gemini will end up doing the chase but distract yourself if you feel the urge to, please.
Know too many libra & gemini relations that have not worked cos of this. Check again on all the boards, all signs do disappearing act, when they do, it makes them more mysterious, more fascinating and what not. Actions speak louder than words, don't forget.
Libras like geminis can charm with words *shrugs* however, there is more of a control mechanism with libra as cardinal signs, if you are not careful, you will end up communicating the way you think they like to be communicated with, instead of being yourself. This happens with some people that go into relationships with Aquarius too just cos Aquas are so darned stubborn 🙂
As Gemini is a mutable signs, they will tend to want to do more of the adjustments they think libras would like. Adjustments don't last for long, you end up losing yourself or being very unhappy.
This is my experience/observation as I am surrounded by libras & geminis... anywhos, enough rambling... take it easy!
Gemini be careful not to chase libra no matter how subtly, if a libra is really into you, they will come after you. They will be subtle games, but libras like communication so they will reach out somehow. They are also cardinal signs which is a sign of initiation. On the flip side, Libras can like easy attention so you will catch libras more than other signs being lazy to make contact. However, when they want something, the lazy side will completely disappear.
Geminis are a lot more impatient than libra that's why gemini will end up doing the chase but distract yourself if you feel the urge to, please.
Know too many libra & gemini relations that have not worked cos of this. Check again on all the boards, all signs do disappearing act, when they do, it makes them more mysterious, more fascinating and what not. Actions speak louder than words, don't forget.
Libras like geminis can charm with words *shrugs* however, there is more of a control mechanism with libra as cardinal signs, if you are not careful, you will end up communicating the way you think they like to be communicated with, instead of being yourself. This happens with some people that go into relationships with Aquarius too just cos Aquas are so darned stubborn 🙂
As Gemini is a mutable signs, they will tend to want to do more of the adjustments they think libras would like. Adjustments don't last for long, you end up losing yourself or being very unhappy.
This is my experience/observation as I am surrounded by libras & geminis... anywhos, enough rambling... take it easy!
Posted by taurus/gemBabe
wow great to hear from you! yeah I notice they like to do this because this is his 3rd time doing the disappearing act. Weve been together 6 months now. Ill take your advise and let him chase me. But tonight I called him and he was sweet and all like nothing happened. He told me he has been spending a lot of time with his friends lately and told me abt his weekend and all...Its like you said its not like he has forgotton abt me but it seems like he was occupied with something else...*sigh
Been there and done that. A little bit of history about me: I've been with this guy for years now and there was one time I broke up with him (when we were in college) because he basically didn't have time for me. He spent time with his friends, family, college work ... etc and every other thing but me. We broke up and he tried a few times to get back together with me saying he always loved me and he really missed me and all that. I rejected him for like umm 3 times and everytime saying the same thing "you didn't even have time for me .. everything in your life was more important than me". That was a surprise to him as he kept saying he really didn't know I felt that way and he didn't mean to do that - which to me as a Gemini was a great surprise!!
Coming to think of it I did a few wrong things, too. I was the one to always call and contact him. Everytime I call I would complain about him not being in touch and that he doesn't care. He would listen to me then give me any lame excuse because he wants to avoid such talks. At that stage I didn't understand that him as a Libra saw things different than me so I lost him.
Posted by taurus/gemBabe
tbh I donno if I can keep this up with him. Part of me wants to make this work because whenever we meet its just magical. But apart of me dont think I can deal with this emotional roller coaster. Im mentally exhausted sometimes. I tried going abt my daily life as usual but I keep on thinking abt him and wanting to spend m ore time with him. He havent told me he wanted to see me again this weekend. We didnt meet last weekend and Im just wondering if he is going to want to see me or not and its just so annoying.click to expand
Before getting back together with him I decided to change my plans lol. When he was trying to get me back he was always c
Before getting back together with him I decided to change my plans lol. When he was trying to get me back he was always calling/texting me which was great because he was doing the chase. However, when we finally got back together he disappeared. People in here told me that that should be normal because he is now trying to understand and balance himself that we're back together. They urged me to talk to him in a gentle way, which I did and it worked! So the complaining never works lol.
If you want to keep this relationship:
1) Talk to him in a very gentle loving way explaining your needs.
2) Set some kind of communication symbol like tell him to text you when he thinks of you because that makes your day or so.
3) Relax, focus on yourself/work/life/hobbies/friends .. etc. Show him you have a life you enjoy too. Soon you'll be doing the disappearing too lol.
4) Play hard to get, like when he calls don't always answer. If he texts don't reply immediatly (that drives them crazy as they wonder what you're busy with lol). If he asks why you didn't answer say oh my mobile wasn't with me or I was out with a friend and didn't hear it ringing.
5)NEVER and I do mean NEVER chase him if he disappears again after you discuss the matter. If he still wants you he'll come back to you - always work with Libra.
However, if you think that's too much and you'd rather be with someone else then that's your call, but from my experience with a few other star signs they all have the "disappearing" thing except for cancers in my case which was a disaster since as a Gemini I needed my space lol. Libras are amazing, kind, and very understanding lovers that you will never regret.
If you want to keep this relationship:
1) Talk to him in a very gentle loving way explaining your needs.
2) Set some kind of communication symbol like tell him to text you when he thinks of you because that makes your day or so.
3) Relax, focus on yourself/work/life/hobbies/friends .. etc. Show him you have a life you enjoy too. Soon you'll be doing the disappearing too lol.
4) Play hard to get, like when he calls don't always answer. If he texts don't reply immediatly (that drives them crazy as they wonder what you're busy with lol). If he asks why you didn't answer say oh my mobile wasn't with me or I was out with a friend and didn't hear it ringing.
5)NEVER and I do mean NEVER chase him if he disappears again after you discuss the matter. If he still wants you he'll come back to you - always work with Libra.
However, if you think that's too much and you'd rather be with someone else then that's your call, but from my experience with a few other star signs they all have the "disappearing" thing except for cancers in my case which was a disaster since as a Gemini I needed my space lol. Libras are amazing, kind, and very understanding lovers that you will never regret.
zenalchemy - Great insight! I might as well add another point that, we as Geminis, are masters at multi-tasking so we can be busy with a project at work, talking to a colleague, posting on this forum and texting our Libra boyfriends lol. On the other hand, Libras can focus on one thing at a time so that would mean: Project for work, talking to a colleague in lunch break, posting on this forum from home, and texting their Gemini girlfriends before they go to sleep or maybe the next morning because they were so tired lol. It's a bit funny how different we are 🙂
Gemini chasing Libra? that is something new. I'm libra man, and i recently met this gemini woman... and i can't stop thinking about that bitch..🙂
Posted by nik555
Gemini chasing Libra? that is something new. I'm libra man, and i recently met this gemini woman... and i can't stop thinking about that bitch..🙂
It usually start with the Libra man chasing the Gem babe...mine started like that as well then the Libra man Ive fallen in luv with went missing for days now hes contacted me again like nothing happened...
Im tired...thx a lot you guys for your advises but it seems like its all abt him and we just have to be patient with his fickle ways. I cant do this anymore. Im ignoring him and ending this relationship with him for good. Im not going to explain to him either because he never cared to explain to me when he disappears even though ive told him before that if he needed space all he needed to do is tell me and id give him all the time in the world but he never did....i was at my wits end. It made me realise what a selfish and immature basta4rd he is and I dont want any of this. I refuse to play his game...Im out.
Thx a lot anyways xxx
May I ask if anyone feels that they (Libra men) do this on purpose?
What are they doing? What are they thinking? Any insight is appreciated.
I'm a Gemini woman seeing a Libra man. I am in the same situation where mine disappears for days and then reappears. It stresses me and drives me crazy.
He says he misses me, wants to see me, etc. - but he's the reason he hasn't seen/talked to me in days.
What are they doing? What are they thinking? Any insight is appreciated.
I'm a Gemini woman seeing a Libra man. I am in the same situation where mine disappears for days and then reappears. It stresses me and drives me crazy.
He says he misses me, wants to see me, etc. - but he's the reason he hasn't seen/talked to me in days.
Honestly, it amazes me how we're so similar yet find a problem in one thing that would ruin the whole relationship for some. Gems and Libras click in every way *if I may say* It's only that communication/being in contact part that is missing in almost every Gem/Libra relationship I've seen on this message board. However, if you guys can make it work I think it's worth it!
My all time adivce for every person in every relationship: Your man needs space, they're different than us women, so focus on yourself and find other things to do. Or perhaps it's easier for me to say that since I'm a fairly busy woman 🙂
My all time adivce for every person in every relationship: Your man needs space, they're different than us women, so focus on yourself and find other things to do. Or perhaps it's easier for me to say that since I'm a fairly busy woman 🙂
can anyone help? I'm a taurus woman in love with a libra guy, we have only been together 6 weeks. I t was great to start with, he was so loving and I fell heavily for him he told me he thought he loved me by the second date! He brought his daughter and grand daughter to meet me. He's 52. He said he never gets jealous but then went off in a massive sulk, cutting all contact when he knew I had gone to see a previous BF to end all contact, this one wouldn't let go,was a pyscho, so needed to get him out of my life as I only wanted my libra man. I was upfront with my libra about what I had done and when the other one texted me I showed him the messages that I had sent back to prove I was not interested. He said He wished I hadn't shown him and he had been hurt before and wasn't sure if he wanted a complex relationship, additted to being jealous then said he was sorry for being paraniod! Out in public if another man looked at me he would immediately put a hand on me and keep it there. We carried on and things were great but he said he would come down one day and didn't ring until later. I threw a tantrum as I had been upset by one of my kids and snapped at him and told him not to come. I expected him to ring later and as he didn't I texted him to end it. Needless to say I apologised the next day by text, he wouldn't answer his phone, then found out he was checking out the dating sites. Again 2 nasty text messages from me to say I knew what he was doing so he changed his profile, (could have just blocked me). I sent 2 emails again all about me, I was hurt, he could have tried harder etc. Then after a week I calmed right down and sent an apology, this was followed up by another, 10 days later and 2 days later a voicemail and text to say whatever the problem is im here for him and we dont have to go over the problems if he doesn't want to talk, (he hates controntation) just start afresh and I really want him back. I have tried to redress the balance after snapping at him by almost grovelling and massaging his ego. It's been 3 weeks now and nothing from him at all. I know I was in the wrong but have I blown it with him and what can I do? It was so good to start with and he was really full on. saying he just wanted to be loved and he wanted me to be the one. Help!I really want to make it up with him.
Posted by sue1c
can anyone help? I'm a taurus woman in love with a libra guy, we have only been together 6 weeks. I t was great to start with, he was so loving and I fell heavily for him he told me he thought he loved me by the second date! He brought his daughter and grand daughter to meet me. He's 52. He said he never gets jealous but then went off in a massive sulk, cutting all contact when he knew I had gone to see a previous BF to end all contact, this one wouldn't let go,was a pyscho, so needed to get him out of my life as I only wanted my libra man. I was upfront with my libra about what I had done and when the other one texted me I showed him the messages that I had sent back to prove I was not interested. He said He wished I hadn't shown him and he had been hurt before and wasn't sure if he wanted a complex relationship, additted to being jealous then said he was sorry for being paraniod! Out in public if another man looked at me he would immediately put a hand on me and keep it there. We carried on and things were great but he said he would come down one day and didn't ring until later. I threw a tantrum as I had been upset by one of my kids and snapped at him and told him not to come. I expected him to ring later and as he didn't I texted him to end it. Needless to say I apologised the next day by text, he wouldn't answer his phone, then found out he was checking out the dating sites. Again 2 nasty text messages from me to say I knew what he was doing so he changed his profile, (could have just blocked me). I sent 2 emails again all about me, I was hurt, he could have tried harder etc. Then after a week I calmed right down and sent an apology, this was followed up by another, 10 days later and 2 days later a voicemail and text to say whatever the problem is im here for him and we dont have to go over the problems if he doesn't want to talk, (he hates controntation) just start afresh and I really want him back. I have tried to redress the balance after snapping at him by almost grovelling and massaging his ego. It's been 3 weeks now and nothing from him at all. I know I was in the wrong but have I blown it with him and what can I do? It was so good to start with and he was really full on. saying he just wanted to be loved and he wanted me to be the one. Help!I really want to make it up with him.
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