My gemini is so indecisive!

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Chachacha- What steps have you taken to get your anger issues under control? There are people out there who's profession is to help. Please find one. You are in Canada, yes? Then you should be able to get free or very cheap help, yes?

I'm saying this in all sincerity, and with as much caring as I can muster (given what Tiz just revealed, which makes me feel sick to my stomach).
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Posted by duchessedenemours


But for other people who aren't disgusting and would like answers, I would say that Gemini will go back and forth because they constantly add new angles to their thought process. And they will approach with 3 or more different angles. Hard to choose when each usually requires giving up something else. But eventually they will make a decision and stick with it, it just comes after all options are exhausted completely.



+1

And, most of the time we see it from all angles... Lol! In the speed of light sometimes, too. Lol!
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Posted by duchessedenemours
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Just so known.... He has tried to leave (SEVERAL times), kicked her out, and called the police on her, as well.... Just for the record.

It would be the same for me.... Hurt my pet and you're out for good!!! And, won't look back either....

Hell, after that thread.... I could never take her seroiusly. Hence, my irritation with the gemini verbal bashes.



Well it's good that he has done that... But what is "trying to leave"?
You do it or you don't.
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That's where the confusion sets in for me.... Normally, when anyone "tries to leave" it means that somehow they were talked into staying.... But, that information has never been given by her. Whenever you start to ask her questions, at least when I do, they are ignored.
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Posted by misslissa
Just so known.... He has tried to leave (SEVERAL times), kicked her out, and called the police on her, as well.... Just for the record.

It would be the same for me.... Hurt my pet and you're out for good!!! And, won't look back either....

Hell, after that thread.... I could never take her seroiusly. Hence, my irritation with the gemini verbal bashes.



Well it's good that he has done that... But what is "trying to leave"?
You do it or you don't.



That's where the confusion sets in for me.... Normally, when anyone "tries to leave" it means that somehow they were talked into staying.... But, that information has never been given by her. Whenever you start to ask her questions, at least when I do, they are ignored.



I think the most common way people get talked into staying is actually via indirect means, when they are under the illusion they have no support network.

That's what happened with me and an ex. She was always putting energy into working on my friends, slowly trying to use what she claimed were their opinions to her advantage. Trying to work my parents, my family etc. till there's an illusion that you're nothing without this person in your life.

I had my part in it too of course, but the point is I never saw it coming. I could only see straight after we'd moved to different countries. I'm guessing most of their friends have no idea about the extent of what's going on inside the house.
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I agree with you, Tiz, on both points! Which are signs of an abusive relationship... I bet no one has a clue... Which is sad on a whole other level...
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his all seems pointless.....so in all fairness, this was posted back in Oct 2013.....I just think of their abuse of their pets PERIOD

Posted by Chachacha
like yesterday he said he doesnt stay attatched to things so in a year or too were getting rid of the pets. i said the dog? thats ok cause i dont get attatched to things either, then he said and the cat to and everything else. so i said like the house too and he said everything, and i said like the pets n house. then he said and YOU TOO (meaning me) so i said are you serious and he said yes in a confident voice im leaving you next year. then i said k n i threww the cat outside started slapping the dog to release my pain then he seen me crying and asked why. i said isk and he said was it because i said i was leaving you, i was just joking. what kind of sick joke is that?




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i was broken without words he hits the dog when hes mad too that's where i got it from its like he didnt even notice i was mad
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Posted by gemeliorist
(Sigh) ....this all seems pointless.....so in all fairness, this was posted back in Oct 2013.....I just think of their abuse of their pets PERIOD

Posted by Chachacha
like yesterday he said he doesnt stay attatched to things so in a year or too were getting rid of the pets. i said the dog? thats ok cause i dont get attatched to things either, then he said and the cat to and everything else. so i said like the house too and he said everything, and i said like the pets n house. then he said and YOU TOO (meaning me) so i said are you serious and he said yes in a confident voice im leaving you next year. then i said k n i threww the cat outside started slapping the dog to release my pain then he seen me crying and asked why. i said isk and he said was it because i said i was leaving you, i was just joking. what kind of sick joke is that?




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i was broken without words he hits the dog when hes mad too that's where i got it from its like he didnt even notice i was mad


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okey, but if she was angry with him, she schould slap him, no the dog

no excuse to hurting pets...for me
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Posted by duchessedenemours
It actually sickens me that he hasn't left your ass.

But for other people who aren't disgusting and would like answers, I would say that Gemini will go back and forth because they constantly add new angles to their thought process. And they will approach with 3 or more different angles. Hard to choose when each usually requires giving up something else. But eventually they will make a decision and stick with it, it just comes after all options are exhausted completely.



it sickens me that you believe im the antagonist when im here seeking help for myself. but anyways cant count on ignorant people for answers
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Posted by Whimsy
Chachacha- What steps have you taken to get your anger issues under control? There are people out there who's profession is to help. Please find one. You are in Canada, yes? Then you should be able to get free or very cheap help, yes?

I'm saying this in all sincerity, and with as much caring as I can muster (given what Tiz just revealed, which makes me feel sick to my stomach).



i have been using my cancer mars i just walk away from situations im not the one with anger issues believe me ive solved that long time ago. I get angry when he gets angry plain and simple only difference is im looking for a resolution or medical solution hes looking for power somehow someway because he breaks my property. Thats not the issue though. He wants to be disciplined with routine and responsibility. Its hard comprising when we both want to be in the entertainment industry i think hes secretly addicted to drama.
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What's this "beating pets" stuff everyone keeps bringing up? I missed that thread.



ChaChaCha interrogated the Gemini under duress by taking the family dog inside and committing violent acts against it, in an attempt to get some reaction out of the Gemini.



I missed that thread as well.

That is disgusting!!!


And he is still with her?




Apparently so, if this thread is anything to go by!

I was disgusted at the time as well. Now I am more surprised that these two people are apparently still pursuing such a destructive relationship.
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slander me all you want
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That is disgusting!!!

And he is still with her?



You touch my sweet dog and you are G-O-N-E!!!
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i dont care for pets my gemini is so indecisive that he bought the dog knowing he already has a busy rapper life style with too many people to entertain at our home because it is a recording studio that he doesnt even get excited over the dog anymore. Im the one left to pick up the responsibility, what grinds my gears is the fact im taking care of a dog he wanted and hes still searching for another.
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Posted by misslissa
Just so known.... He has tried to leave (SEVERAL times), kicked her out, and called the police on her, as well.... Just for the record.

It would be the same for me.... Hurt my pet and you're out for good!!! And, won't look back either....

Hell, after that thread.... I could never take her seroiusly. Hence, my irritation with the gemini verbal bashes.



i dont take geminis seriously their usually big boned and over due the talking. My gem tried to leave because i take relationships super serious. LEmme just clear something up. I said he was so angry with me he hit the dog/. I bought that dog i didnt like that dog i gave that dog away. If i dont like something i get rid of it. im more of a verbal abuser not a physical one. why would i hurt something when i understand how it feels to be hurt. I try to leave my gemini many times when i feel pressured by the opinions of others and as if its really not going to work because i simply can not understand him sometimes. but then i remember he is literally just acting like a gemini. I no not allow myself to get close to geminis. were not just compatible i can smell when their sh!t stinks.
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Posted by duchessedenemours
Posted by misslissa
Just so known.... He has tried to leave (SEVERAL times), kicked her out, and called the police on her, as well.... Just for the record.

It would be the same for me.... Hurt my pet and you're out for good!!! And, won't look back either....

Hell, after that thread.... I could never take her seroiusly. Hence, my irritation with the gemini verbal bashes.



Well it's good that he has done that... But what is "trying to leave"?
You do it or you don't.
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thats cause hes not trying to leave stop allowing others to tell you my story. Im the one that leaves. ive read many forums their fun i like literature. I dont even really need your opinions i can go home to my man and ask him straight up, but i rather get background information so we can communicate effective. Now that i live with him i try to leave in comparison to actually leaving. This is because he wont let me. The first 2 weeks of living together was heaven like when we started talking. He was his other happy twin. As weeks started to go by hes showed behaviour ive never seen before like hitting the dog when i asked him to calm down because hes scaring the dog who i just purchased for him. Thats probably where you get it confused. I do wish i wouldve know about his natal chart prior to being with him then we wouldn't have so many tyants.
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Posted by misslissa
Posted by duchessedenemours
Posted by misslissa
Just so known.... He has tried to leave (SEVERAL times), kicked her out, and called the police on her, as well.... Just for the record.

It would be the same for me.... Hurt my pet and you're out for good!!! And, won't look back either....

Hell, after that thread.... I could never take her seroiusly. Hence, my irritation with the gemini verbal bashes.



Well it's good that he has done that... But what is "trying to leave"?
You do it or you don't.



That's where the confusion sets in for me.... Normally, when anyone "tries to leave" it means that somehow they were talked into staying.... But, that information has never been given by her. Whenever you start to ask her questions, at least when I do, they are ignored.
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i am sorry i do not answer all your questions in a timely matter and effectively remember i stated i am 20 years young i live on my own with my boyfriend so i have many responsibilities. I just needed an outlet to vent. He doesnt like when i write my feelings down because he will find it and it will hurt him so therefore i will respect him and not do it. I choose not to speak to my close friends and family because they dont understand that people have their misunderstandings especially when love is involved. They will cause more havoc in my life.
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Posted by gemeliorist
(Sigh) ....this all seems pointless.....so in all fairness, this was posted back in Oct 2013.....I just think of their abuse of their pets PERIOD

Posted by Chachacha
like yesterday he said he doesnt stay attatched to things so in a year or too were getting rid of the pets. i said the dog? thats ok cause i dont get attatched to things either, then he said and the cat to and everything else. so i said like the house too and he said everything, and i said like the pets n house. then he said and YOU TOO (meaning me) so i said are you serious and he said yes in a confident voice im leaving you next year. then i said k n i threww the cat outside started slapping the dog to release my pain then he seen me crying and asked why. i said isk and he said was it because i said i was leaving you, i was just joking. what kind of sick joke is that?




Posted by Chachacha
i was broken without words he hits the dog when hes mad too that's where i got it from its like he didnt even notice i was mad




okey, but if she was angry with him, she schould slap him, no the dog

no excuse to hurting pets...for me
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never said i slapped the dog i said thats where i got the impression that he doesnt care that im mad because he hit the dog. on top of that he doesnt even hit hard that dog was abusive. advice never adopt a 5 year old dog. so we got a new dog paaa