My Gemini Son
This topic was created in the Gemini forum by Herself on Monday, August 26, 2013 and has 3 replies.
Hoping to get some advice from some of my sons fellow Geminis. He is Gemini Sun/Virgo moon, 10 years old.
As his Mother I, of course, want to do everything I can to help him succeed and get the most out of life. However, with him I think it's impossible. He has drive & passion like nobody I've ever seen. He wants to do it all and experience everything. Every time I say "no" I feel like I'm taking a little piece away from that drive, which in my eyes is a piece of him. I'm not talking about saying no to a candy bar, I have no problem with that. I'm talking about life experiences he wants to have. He's a great kid,does very well in school & sports, does his chores, has a hart of gold, etc.
His two biggest passions are wanting to travel the world and animals (we'd have a farm if it were up to him). A common scenario is that he'll take a book out of the library, read about a country or more specific location, marks it off on his wall size world map, then wants to go. Where I get stuck is trying to explain to him why he can't travel the world right now. He's currently saving his money so I can take him to Mt Ararat to find Noah's Ark...and he's dead serious. I tell him someday he'll be able to go but has to finish school first and things like that. Not acceptable to him. He thinks the world should be at his fingertips. So, how do I keep his spirit high and drive fed while he waits to grow up and do all of the things he plans? Books, local culture fairs, etc are some things I do but ti seems to make him more impatient.
Problem 2... He's started having nightmares that our family is going to die and he is left homeless with a monster trying to get him. I try to be logical but that's not working in this case. He's such a loving child that these nightmares are making him very emotional. He says they feel real. He wants to look it up online before I decide to take him to a doctor about it or not. I'm just wondering which approach is best for Geminis.
Any advice is much appreciated.
As his Mother I, of course, want to do everything I can to help him succeed and get the most out of life. However, with him I think it's impossible. He has drive & passion like nobody I've ever seen. He wants to do it all and experience everything. Every time I say "no" I feel like I'm taking a little piece away from that drive, which in my eyes is a piece of him. I'm not talking about saying no to a candy bar, I have no problem with that. I'm talking about life experiences he wants to have. He's a great kid,does very well in school & sports, does his chores, has a hart of gold, etc.
His two biggest passions are wanting to travel the world and animals (we'd have a farm if it were up to him). A common scenario is that he'll take a book out of the library, read about a country or more specific location, marks it off on his wall size world map, then wants to go. Where I get stuck is trying to explain to him why he can't travel the world right now. He's currently saving his money so I can take him to Mt Ararat to find Noah's Ark...and he's dead serious. I tell him someday he'll be able to go but has to finish school first and things like that. Not acceptable to him. He thinks the world should be at his fingertips. So, how do I keep his spirit high and drive fed while he waits to grow up and do all of the things he plans? Books, local culture fairs, etc are some things I do but ti seems to make him more impatient.
Problem 2... He's started having nightmares that our family is going to die and he is left homeless with a monster trying to get him. I try to be logical but that's not working in this case. He's such a loving child that these nightmares are making him very emotional. He says they feel real. He wants to look it up online before I decide to take him to a doctor about it or not. I'm just wondering which approach is best for Geminis.
Any advice is much appreciated.
Thank you for your responses. I would never tell my kids something was impossible. I meant, it feels impossible for me to keep his drive high and give him what he needs so I don't kill his spirit.
I talked to a friend of mine who is involved with a summer student exchange program with families from Spain. I have all winter to think about sending him for next summer. Also, I'll be starting him on an actual plan. Costs, timeline, etc. to get him to reach certain financial goals at certain points over the next few years. Of course, when the time actually comes for him to travel I'll be paying what he wasn't able to save lol
I just need him to not feel trapped or caged. I know that feeling and it eats you alive.
Me:
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Libra
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Libra
Him:
Moon: Virgo
Mercury: Taurus
Venus: Taurus
Mars: Aquarius
I talked to a friend of mine who is involved with a summer student exchange program with families from Spain. I have all winter to think about sending him for next summer. Also, I'll be starting him on an actual plan. Costs, timeline, etc. to get him to reach certain financial goals at certain points over the next few years. Of course, when the time actually comes for him to travel I'll be paying what he wasn't able to save lol
I just need him to not feel trapped or caged. I know that feeling and it eats you alive.
Me:
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Libra
Venus: Virgo
Mars: Libra
Him:
Moon: Virgo
Mercury: Taurus
Venus: Taurus
Mars: Aquarius
The exploration gene cannot be squelched. It's inherent in Geminis, and is a driving force in our personalities, so don't worry that you're going to harm him by denying him some things. I also got shut down by my mom when I begged to be an exchange student (she didn't have the money), but, if anything, it made me more determined that I would travel as an adult.
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