Should I or Shouldn't I?

This situation has me perplexed so I gotta go ahead and post it...

I met a gemini 3 months ago. He is a grad student on scholarship and told me from the start that he would be leaving this summer for a 2 to 3 year teaching engagement in Europe. We were attracted and intrigued by each other so we started to see each other. We both had the intentions of this being something casual.

He is very busy but he always made time to see me every weekend from the start. As a matter of fact he was very consistent about it. I am very busy too so I had no problem giving him the freedom he needed. When we did see each other every weekend, we would have a great time together. Lots of great talk. Lots of great sex. I found myself starting to like him but I did not tell him. I preferred to display through affection and little romantic gestures. He told me he is always cool on the outside and never shows his emotions when he likes a girl. He could be hot and cold with me sometimes but he did little things to show me that he cared.

The problem began about 4 weeks ago. We spent the weekend together and felt closer than we ever did before. I was feeling great about it at first and then I got scared...but I let it pass. I figured whatever was meant to happen will happen. We saw each other the following weekend and same thing. Then I had this gut feeling that he would find a way to avoid Valentine's Day. Sure enough, the weekend before V-Day, he told me he would be too busy studying for a big test on the 17th and working on 4 projects and that he needed the whole weekend for that. I know he's super focused on school but I felt like he was using this as an excuse. I started to feel as if maybe he was planning to dump me. I took the opportunity to tell him exactly how I felt about our situation...that I liked him and the reasons why, that I understand he is leaving and I'm trying to keep it casual and enjoy him while I have him. I asked him if he was scared to celebrate Vday with me and he said no, he was truly busy....

Then he proceeded to tell me that he had decided in his mind that things were not going to work between us since he had to leave for his teaching engagement and he didn't know if we'd ever see each other again. Alot can happen in two years. I know this man well enough to know that he does not commit to anything unless he knows he can see it through. Anyway because of that, he says he had to talk himself out of liking me (the gemini switch-off in action). He still wanted to keep seeing me though atleast until he had to leave. I told him that I thoroughly enjoyed my time with him but I was not so sure if I'd ever see him again after this and I did not want to take up his study time. I said goodbye to him. I could tell he did not want me to go. He tried physically to stall my leaving but verbally did not try to stop me. I know that I blindsided him with my decision and I probably hurt his pride a bit.

My dilemma...I felt good about this at first. If a man can't and won't make time for me, especially on V-day, then why should I bother? But I miss him and I feel bad about cutting him off completely. I could be wrong but I think he may have cared for me more than he let on. I thought about calling him but my pride is not allowing it plus I do not chase men. Also what is stopping me is all you gems telling me that you are able to switch your emotions off. Maybe by now he has long forgotten about me and moved on. I dunno if I did the right thing by breaking things off or should I contact him?

Leave it. If it isn't going to pan out anyway why attach yourself further and make it harder on you both.

"Leave it. If it isn't going to pan out anyway why attach yourself further and make it harder on you both."

That is partially my attitude about this whole thing but I went into this knowing that he was leaving in the summer and I was prepared for that. Of course I would miss him and be sad that he was leaving but we could've kept in contact even just as friends. Besides, if you think about it, many great relationships come to an end at some point. We knew the exact date that ours was supposed to come to an end and we wanted to enjoy each other while we could. Quite honestly I thought we both went into it wanting a casual fling. I never expected us to last as long or get as close as we did.

"i You should stop putting so much importance into a celebration that exists mostly for making shops sell things. Valentine's day is everyday.

ii Did he truly had to study these days? If yes... you should have given him the right to do so and then make up to you after his exam.... You should had also supported him so you make sure that he doesnt fail. He would had appreciated it afterwards.

iii His life does not goes only around you... it goes around other things too. And you should let him the freedom to go and come back.. Dont worry he WILL come back to you... but that go thing is more important that you think.It gives him a security feeling and fills up his batteries."

You are right about V-day and I actually agree. It is just that I had a gut feeling that he would find a way not to see me on that day and I ended up being right, so I could not ignore that. As for his life revolving around mine, I totally do not feel that way. I gave him ample time to himself for his life and his studies. I was never demanding of his time or attention and was happy to see him once a week. Our time together was quality. He knows that I was understanding of his busy schedule.

Btw it truly tickles me when geminis put the words "logic" and "love" in the same sentence 😛 lol

You said you already cut off contact with him right? Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm being lazy... I need to look at what you read 😛
You already cut contact so why be wishy washy and go back and forth. Trying to contact him again would be a step backward. You need to look forward. And it's confusing to him.
I advise you to not contact him again because I'm a fellow water sign. It's so hard for us to let go of our emotions. I know you're pain but stringing this along will only make it worse on you in the end and want for just a little bit more time with him.
You've ripped the bandaid off... it'll sting but eventually it gets better. 🙂

Re the "expiration date", perhaps there is a better term I could use but let's just say that we both knew the date he would be leaving for his teaching contract and we had never discussed keeping it going while he was overseas until the day I broke it off. I know he was thinking "What's the point?" because too many things can happen in two years and he told me not knowing for sure if we'd ever see each other again was a consideration in his decision to flip that gemini switch. Gemini logic at its finest!

Yes I already cut off contact with him and we have not spoken to each other in almost two weeks. I unexpectedly saw him yesterday. He was studying outside at a cafe. I don't know if he saw me because he was looking down at his laptop when I looked at him. I just walked past as if I didn't notice him there since I was too nervous to speak to him.

Gemgal, you are right. I did sorta kick the ball into his field. I miss him ALOT but I won't contact him first. As a pisces, the hopeless romantic in me is hoping he'll call me but I won't be surprised if he feels more like Gingerscorp and thinking that what's done is done and why revive it so we can end it again.