So strung outon this dayum Gem guy

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by lotuslily on Saturday, July 16, 2016 and has 17 replies.
I need help...I met this Gem guy in Feb and it was one of those cosmic flash in the pan connections where you fall hard head over heels in a single night.

It lasted a total of 2 weeks and now it is almost August and although my head knows why he is not right for me and why I'm better off without him, I still dream about him practically every night. He affected me so deeply... even if the connection was mostly sexual. I want to be free of himnow to move on.

I meet other guys and my heart cries "but it's not him..."


The worst part is that i didn't even know him properly... if he was a good person... I know he lied to me a whole bunch... didn't treat me with respect.... my headd knows all this, but for some reason my heart is still all fucked up over an asshole!


I havent even been able to distract myself by finding another lover because I'm too scared they'll do what he did to me too.


I almost wish I'd never met him. I think about him every day. I wake up thinking about him. I go to sleep and I dream about him, and then because Idreamabout him, wake up really bummed and thinking about him. It keeps repeating like this and I'm not able to move on and let go.
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HAHA! Sounds like me... I remember doing that. I've actually just osted another manifestation for a lover in the aries board.


Thanks for your words geegee... fingers crossed I geet someone new and awesome soon.
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No wonder they call Gemini as the Satan of all zodiac.
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Posted by lotuslily
I need help...I met this Gem guy in Feb and it was one of those cosmic flash in the pan connections where you fall hard head over heels in a single night.

It lasted a total of 2 weeks and now it is almost August and although my head knows why he is not right for me and why I'm better off without him, I still dream about him practically every night. He affected me so deeply... even if the connection was mostly sexual. I want to be free of himnow to move on.

I meet other guys and my heart cries "but it's not him..."


The worst part is that i didn't even know him properly... if he was a good person... I know he lied to me a whole bunch... didn't treat me with respect.... my headd knows all this, but for some reason my heart is still all fucked up over an asshole!


I havent even been able to distract myself by finding another lover because I'm too scared they'll do what he did to me too.


I almost wish I'd never met him. I think about him every day. I wake up thinking about him. I go to sleep and I dream about him, and then because Idreamabout him, wake up really bummed and thinking about him. It keeps repeating like this and I'm not able to move on and let go.
That's the problem...you got dicknotized.
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Why do they say Gems are good for Aries?
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
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Posted by lotuslily
I need help...I met this Gem guy in Feb and it was one of those cosmic flash in the pan connections where you fall hard head over heels in a single night.

It lasted a total of 2 weeks and now it is almost August and although my head knows why he is not right for me and why I'm better off without him, I still dream about him practically every night. He affected me so deeply... even if the connection was mostly sexual. I want to be free of himnow to move on.

I meet other guys and my heart cries "but it's not him..."


The worst part is that i didn't even know him properly... if he was a good person... I know he lied to me a whole bunch... didn't treat me with respect.... my headd knows all this, but for some reason my heart is still all fucked up over an asshole!


I havent even been able to distract myself by finding another lover because I'm too scared they'll do what he did to me too.


I almost wish I'd never met him. I think about him every day. I wake up thinking about him. I go to sleep and I dream about him, and then because Idreamabout him, wake up really bummed and thinking about him. It keeps repeating like this and I'm not able to move on and let go.
That's the problem...you got dicknotized.
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So. Totally. Dicknotized! COMPLETELY got sucked into the 'dicksand' haha...
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Posted by libralotus
I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
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Posted by lotuslily
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
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Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


I just don't know what else to say.


All I could think of is that, Gemini need to have the connection before anything else. If they can't find that connection with that person, they move on and will carry on searching.


Once they do, trust me, you won't even believe that he/she is a Gemini because they are so weak with that person, they fall for.




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I can attest to that. A lot of my Gemini friends get me the most. They're really good at comforting me, too! I love Geminis but for other people they're super complicated.

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Posted by lotuslily
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


I just don't know what else to say.


All I could think of is that, Gemini need to have the connection before anything else. If they can't find that connection with that person, they move on and will carry on searching.


Once they do, trust me, you won't even believe that he/she is a Gemini because they are so weak with that person, they fall for.






I can attest to that. A lot of my Gemini friends get me the most. They're really good at comforting me, too! I love Geminis but for other people they're super complicated.

Yep.


Complicated and can be a pain in the ass sometimes, just like the Libras..oops! Heeeeheee


I hope you're feeling better now. I read your thread about the Cancer dude. smile

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It's okay. I've accepted that I'm literally the most misinterpreted and disliked sign! haha but thank you. I'm fine.
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Posted by LonerLoop
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Posted by lotuslily
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


I just don't know what else to say.


All I could think of is that, Gemini need to have the connection before anything else. If they can't find that connection with that person, they move on and will carry on searching.


Once they do, trust me, you won't even believe that he/she is a Gemini because they are so weak with that person, they fall for.




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Trust me... We connected amazingly. And then he got introduced to a supermodel and I guess being able to say you're sleeping with a supermodel beats sleeping with a regular woman. Again, my head completely gets why he did what he did... Everything about her was totally glam and exciting to a man's ego... but the lying and disappearing and not even having the balls to tell me it was over really affected me.
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You can't go as high and as fast as you did with this Gemini, or anybody, and not expect to land... unless, you are used to flying high most of the time which would mean that you brought the high.


In essence, you are having withdrawals from a really good time. It was not the Gemini because, as you stated, you don't even know him. It was the good time - endorphins saturated for two weeks.


So, I stead of missing him, you are missing the good time you had. Disassociate the good time from the person. He is a symbol of the good time. Dreams are about symbols.
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Posted by lotuslily
Posted by LonerLoop
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


I just don't know what else to say.


All I could think of is that, Gemini need to have the connection before anything else. If they can't find that connection with that person, they move on and will carry on searching.


Once they do, trust me, you won't even believe that he/she is a Gemini because they are so weak with that person, they fall for.




Trust me... We connected amazingly. And then he got introduced to a supermodel and I guess being able to say you're sleeping with a supermodel beats sleeping with a regular woman. Again, my head completely gets why he did what he did... Everything about her was totally glam and exciting to a man's ego... but the lying and disappearing and not even having the balls to tell me it was over really affected me.
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In Gemini case "connection" meaning mental connection. That is the kind of connection that can take a bit more of time and appreciation for it goes a long way.
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Having same prob with my gem but as soon as I realized he'd just a piece of shit....it got a lot easier to walk away. You can do it too.
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I'm actually in the same situation with a cancer right now. I totally get where you're coming from because it's all the same pain I've felt. I actually did things differently this past breakup. I tried to be happy even if I wasn't at all. I've faked it and actually am starting to feel it. It's the first time that I didn't beg for him back or mass-texted him lol. I started being healthy, running and going to the gym. It's made a huge difference in my attitude. Words really mean nothing. I can tell you a hundred things to do in order to get over him but it's not going to work unless you genuinely want to be.

You'll get tired of feeling like shit and one day wake up over it. It has to come from the inside, though. You have to really want to overcome this and actually do something about it.
I woke up this morning with a new determination to get his 'energy' to fuck off out my head and being. I've been keeping his phone number and have had him as a friend on fb still. I deleted everything to do with him from my phone this morning and removed him from my fb friends list too.... i see how I've been holding onto little bits of him i have left.... hoping we'll get more time together again one day... but enough is enough. I need to be gone with him. I want someone new and awesome.


Thanks for the suggestions for me to get a life... it's really solid advice. I'm glad you are taking yourself back too. I hope you find someone worthy of you who cherishes you xx
Yeah, of course. Geminis are confusing people.


I just don't know what else to say.


All I could think of is that, Gemini need to have the connection before anything else. If they can't find that connection with that person, they move on and will carry on searching.


Once they do, trust me, you won't even believe that he/she is a Gemini because they are so weak with that person, they fall for.





Why are you giving all that away? Sad


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Weak in what way? I thought my Gem ex loved me but he wouldn't compromise on certain things :/ although he did "cater to me" and communicate daily and with I love you, does that count? He didn't seem very Gemini.
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You can't go as high and as fast as you did with this Gemini, or anybody, and not expect to land... unless, you are used to flying high most of the time which would mean that you brought the high.


In essence, you are having withdrawals from a really good time. It was not the Gemini because, as you stated, you don't even know him. It was the good time - endorphins saturated for two weeks.


So, I stead of missing him, you are missing the good time you had. Disassociate the good time from the person. He is a symbol of the good time. Dreams are about symbols.
Oh you mean this Gemini!? Haha... I finally got closure on him when life arranged THE MOST epic synchronisation, which saw me minding my own business and walking straight into a play put of karma between him and his ex fiance, with me as some weird kind of antagonist. It was in September or October...


I was walking to my car after work and as I got to my car, the owner of the car next to me got to her car too. We both realised at the same time we had been parked in and commented to each other about how ridiculous the driver had parked. She was battling to get out of the parking so I went and directed her out, standing in front of her car. While I was directing her I thought to myself "I've seen this woman somewhere before!" And I asked her her name. She told me, and I knew straight away where I had seen her.... in the Gemini's fb pics. So I told her that. She said "oh, yes, he's my ex from 2 years ago," and wanted to know how I knew him. I told her we had a fling at the beginning of the year. She said "he'll make a good bf for someone one day". I told her I didn't want him as a bf and that it was just sexual... We chatted about him a bit more.


From there for some bizarre reason I asked her if I should add her on fb and she said yes. So I did.


The next day I got a message from him swearing at me asking me wtf is wrong with me that I "went up to" his ex and told her we had a sexual thing ????... like I was being all malicious.


She also sent me a message saying our conversation sparked outrage in her because he had still been lying to her (trying to get her back), and I had confirmed everything she knew was true but that he was lying about.


So... In a way, I went through all that with him so that someone else could get closure and healing from her pain to go with him. After realising that it wasn't about me and that that is who he is as a person (a liar and a broken, damaged human), I got my closure and was able to write him off completely.


Life works in really amazing ways! What we're the chances of that interaction happening? Of those two specific people parking next to each other, arriving at their car at the same moment, both being parked in and having to speak to each other to get put of the parking???? Life wanted that conversation to happen!


Bit anyway, you're right. I was addicted to the high from the pleasure hormones. And I was infatuated with who I was when I was with him. I was alive and vibrant.... same feeling with the taurus.... just... It feels respectful and healthy in so many ways.


Gemini was broken, disrespectful, and not a healthy set up at all.

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