Thinking about clubbing a Pisces for my lair...

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by GemsRaGalsBestPal on Sunday, November 28, 2010 and has 30 replies.
Hi Gems! I'm super excited about a Pisces I met last night.
Have any of you had any experiences that you can offer up any tidbits of advice for me? I've never dated one and have no idea how to pursue or not pursue....
Also, he lives 2 hours away in the next town. Is this a no-no for the fishy?
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I was with a pisces for a while. Everything was great until he knew he HAD ME emotionally then he turned and became verbally abusive, manipulative, emotionally blackmailed me, when we'd fight ohhh god he'd say the MEANEST shit under the sun, he completely destroyed my spririt. HE did a 360 change from sweet, romantic and just beautiful to the son of satan it was HORRIBLE but I loved him so much and I was emotionaly and cried infront of him and I just opened my heart and soul to this guy and he eventually just threw it away.
I wouldnt recomend a pisces for a gemini but hey it was good the first few months I seriously considered being with him for the rest of my life and I wanted to have his kids UNTIL he turned. He also had major phsychological isses from the past and his childhood and I tried to help him through them but it was hard getting him to open up and it just drained my energy I became depressed and isolated myself from my friends and family etc thanks to HIM.
He lived about an hour away but was at my house EVERY SINGLE day and WEEKEND. He was also SUPER posessive and clingy and wanted to be up my ass ALL THE FKN TIME! And if i'd tell him I wanted space he'd like punish me for it and would ignore me and be like "you said you wanted your space didnt you?"
Go for it BUT keep a close tab on your emotions and dont give too much too soon otherwise he'll TAKE IT.
My 2 cents smile
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Wow, nats thanks for your input. Would you say the "quick to fall into a relationship" is a trait of pisces? Have you had any other experiences or seen other peeps go through something similar?
I hate the sound of a lot of emotional blackmail! I'm sorry you had to endure that. I know just how harsh that can be.
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Ohh believe me it was HARSH. He hated that I was so independant and his way of trying to control me was by emotionally blackmailing me because he KNEW how I felt for him and that id put him first because he made me fall so hard so quick. After we broke up he even told me he was "jealous" of me and thats why he'd manipulate me.
I had to stop talking to ALL my male friends who i've known for YEARRSSSSSS thre like brothers to me for him but he could have bitches calling him up and texting him and I couldnt say anything?. Ughh the last few months were just hell and I didnt leave him sooner because he completely destroyed me and my self esteem and he made me FEEL like i NEEDED him or I wasnt worth anything without him until I snapped out of it, opened my eyes and left him.
Well I dont know if its pisces sun trait but he also had venus and mars in aries so I think that added to the "falling quickly".
I only have myself as an example.. actually no, my taurus friend has been on and off with a pisces guy for a while he always re appears and he cheats on his gf well USED TO with her and didnt have any remorse about it... thats about it from that story.
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Oh yea and being around him made me super emotional. Id cry over anything and everything. I think his emotions rubbed off on me and it was NOT for the good!
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My Piscean man was everything under the sun wrapped into one. Beautiful and ugly, brilliant and obtuse, smug and warm, lying and brutally honest, deeply caring and mean, destructive and healing, tearing people down and raising people up, debaucherous and over-the-top healthy, patient and rushing headlong without looking, available and withdrawn, social and reclusive, heaven and hell. All at once! Two fish swimming in opposite directions! Most people he knew took to calling him by different names depending on which version of him they happened to be dealing with at the time. You never knew which side of him would answer the phone or the door! I loved him deeply, and still do, but could never stay with him long because he drove me batty! Being with him was the best relationship ever AND the worst. His Piscean multiple personalities and my Gemini multiple personalities created quite a confusing crowd at times. We could never tell which combination of personalities we would be dealing with at any given moment. And ditto what nats said: he could surround you with an intense energy of well-being, love, and beauty, and in the next instant be harsh, demeaning, and cruel. A rollercoaster of energy draining, energy giving, and energy draining again. I'm not sure what sort of woman could have withstood him, but it wasn't me.
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i dated a pisces on and off for about 6 years. i decided that i had enough and moved on. we where young tho... never a argument/fight between us tho.
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Posted by Whimsy
My Piscean man was everything under the sun wrapped into one. Beautiful and ugly, brilliant and obtuse, smug and warm, lying and brutally honest, deeply caring and mean, destructive and healing, tearing people down and raising people up, debaucherous and over-the-top healthy, patient and rushing headlong without looking, available and withdrawn, social and reclusive, heaven and hell. All at once! Two fish swimming in opposite directions! Most people he knew took to calling him by different names depending on which version of him they happened to be dealing with at the time. You never knew which side of him would answer the phone or the door! I loved him deeply, and still do, but could never stay with him long because he drove me batty! Being with him was the best relationship ever AND the worst. His Piscean multiple personalities and my Gemini multiple personalities created quite a confusing crowd at times. We could never tell which combination of personalities we would be dealing with at any given moment. And ditto what nats said: he could surround you with an intense energy of well-being, love, and beauty, and in the next instant be harsh, demeaning, and cruel. A rollercoaster of energy draining, energy giving, and energy draining again. I'm not sure what sort of woman could have withstood him, but it wasn't me.


I co sign with this too! People talk about US having multiple personalities, PWAAAAAAa im pretty sure PISCES are the same because he was definately not just one sided. But his sweet side, i couldnt get enough of. When he was good he was PERRRFECCTTTTTT couldnt ask for a better boyfriend, but on his bad days my god, I wanted to push him off a cliff! They are definately complicated I just didnt stick around it was TOO complicated and emotionally draining. Pisces.. NEVER AGAIN.
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Ladies! Wow, this is all truly baffling and disturbing to say the least. I'm not in very deep and almost wondering if it's even worth the trouble.
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you will never know.... unless you try... these are just our experiences... yours may be different.
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I say go along for the ride (just so you can add another experience to the books). Enjoy the time BUT when he starts to show anything listed above... RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN and dont look BACK!!!! lol. Keep your heart GUARDED and DONT let him know you're falling for him (if it gets that far).
Mine would give me all the attention in the world and do eveyrthing for me and I thought aw what a BEAUTIFUL guy why didnt he come earlier?. Its one of their MANY faces! Also took me a good couple of months about a year actually to get over him.. Longest its EVER taken me to completely get over someone and we were only together 6 months!
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All I can say is that for all the hassle and pain I don't regret the relationship. We value our friendship to this day and are still very close, in a brother/sister sort of way. When he gets to be too much, I can go back to my own house and see him another time. And, honestly, the Piscean sex alone was worth the trouble!
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All good points. I think I'll probably proceed with caution anyway because I'm almost wondering if he's just seeing this as a "when I'm in town" kinda thing. I'm definitely looking for a relationship, but I tend to be too intense for most guys anyway.
When you girls were first starting up with your Pisces men did you pursue, did they, or was it a shared effort?
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I pursued for the first date and there after none of us really pursued.. we'd both be online chatting over msn messenger and he'd be like what you up to today (I knew he wanted to hang but wouldnt directly ask me) so i'd be like nothing wanna hang? and he'd be like yep im on my way.
It was just kinda like that just in conversation we'd be like wanna hang? wanna go movies? okay sweet. done. But I more so kind of pushed for a relationship... not really but he was very "go with the flow" so I had to be like okay I like you, how do you feel and what do you want? I initiated that conversation and he was all like I like you too...
Like 2 weeks later (weekend before valentines) he wanted to introduce me to his parents and held my hand the whole time we were there at his parent's house and then after he goes "thanks it was important for me for my parents to meet my girlfriend". I was like so im your girlfriend? And he was like YEP. Never questioned it again.
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My situation wouldn't be helpful to relate. It was intricate, complicated, and scandalous (kind of like my Pisces guy)smile
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Hmmn, that's really interesting. I can get down with some of that action. I like to lead, has anyone else had the same experience as nats in the beginning stages of the relationship?
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Posted by Whimsy
My situation wouldn't be helpful to relate. It was intricate, complicated, and scandalous (kind of like my Pisces guy)smile


Deep breaths! This makes me want to punch puppies. smile jk.
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Oh yea another thing that came to mind. We also had sex for the first time BEFORE we were official and in a relationship. Although we both knew we were heading into a relationship, we were "seeing each other" but it wasnt official and we slept together. The sex was initiated by him one drunken night at my place lol.
He was big on sex too (mars and venus in aries perhaps?) BUT he wasnt the best i've had. He wasnt very "seductive" he more so asked for it. He'd be like "can we have sex". LOL not romantic or seductive at all. And he wanted it often problem was he was premature for a while in the begining but then was alright. Even though it wasnt as adventurous as Id like it, when we slept together I could FEEL his emotions pouring out and its like he CONSUMED me, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and took my soul during our sessions. If it missed one thing about him, it was our love making & what made it good (apart from the negative like only staying in one position) was how he'd consume me with love and emotions during sex. Only guy i've felt that connection with.
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and they also LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE to drink. At least all the pisces I know do!
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nats - I sent you a PM
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I saw. Sent u a reply Winking
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Posted by nats
I could FEEL his emotions pouring out and its like he CONSUMED me, physically, spiritually, emotionally, and took my soul during our sessions. If it missed one thing about him, it was our love making



Yes, just like that! And ditto on the drinking and every other vice under the sun. Addicted to addiction.
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Oh look, you don't get any Pisces to help you over here either
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P-Angel, if you would have read the post (which is located under the Gemini forum) you will clearly see I'm not asking the Pisces. I'm asking the Gemini. I also posted this at the same time I posted on the Pisces boards not because I wasn't getting what I wanted here or there, just different points of view.
Fellow Geminis, please don't engage this one no matter how much she stomps and screams here. It's really not worth the time.
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Posted by nats
After we broke up he even told me he was "jealous" of me and thats why he'd manipulate me.
I had to stop talking to ALL my male friends who i've known for YEARRSSSSSS thre like brothers to me for him but he could have bitches calling him up and texting him and I couldnt say anything?. Ughh the last few months were just hell and I didnt leave him sooner because he completely destroyed me and my self esteem and he made me FEEL like i NEEDED him or I wasnt worth anything without him until I snapped out of it, opened my eyes and left him.


Here is another quote to validate my claims about the jealousy of a Water sign. In this example Nats is discussing her history with a Pisces. She delves into the same type of jealousy and mistrust that the Cancer from my preious example displayed.
Although, this particular water creature steps it up a notch by letting her know he WAS AWARE of what he was doing and was doing it on PURPOSE.
To be in what you think is a loving partnership between two people, only to find out later that in fact the person was knowingly manipulating you.... that is horrendous.
Yet another reason Water signs ake the worst romantic partners.
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Posted by GemsRaGalsBestPal
Hi Gems! I'm super excited about a Pisces I met last night.
Have any of you had any experiences that you can offer up any tidbits of advice for me? I've never dated one and have no idea how to pursue or not pursue....
Also, he lives 2 hours away in the next town. Is this a no-no for the fishy?




no-no fishy...sorry, all the ones I ever had anything to do with or knew were weird and psycho after a while. you will hate the guilt trips, the smothering, the constant controlling...

they are fine as friends though.
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Posted by Whimsy
Posted by nats
Addicted to addiction.


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I've been married twice, and both of my husbands were Pisces!
Both marriages were 10+ years - and I stayed for so long for the same reason Nats did. Both of them were so emotionally abusive that by the time they were done with me, I didn't know which end was up! After the first marriage, it took me a LONG time to get involved with anyone seriously. When I did, it was with the one that ended up being my second husband. You see, the first one had trained me to think everything was my fault, I was the nut job, blah blah blah. I spent a lot of years after that working on "Me". When things got serious with the second one, and I learned he was a Pisces, I didn't even bat an eyelash! Why? Because, I'd just spent YEARS fixing everything the first one had said was wrong with me! So I jumped in with both feet - right outta the frying pan and into the fire!
Second one was worse, by far, than the first. The mind games, the control issues, the selfishness (I kid you not - the night my mother died of brain cancer, he demanded I fly home to him and let someone else take care of the final arrangements, etc. When I told him no, and that he'd better be careful what came outta his mouth next, he freaked out. I found out the next morning that he locked me out of our joint bank accounts and put a hold on my debit and credit cards! As if losing my mother wasn't enough, he put me in the position of not being able to pay the funeral director a deposit!!), the deception and lying about anything and everything.... by the time HE was done with me, I was absolutely, positively CERTAIN that I was the dumbest, sorriest woman to ever walk the planet.
It took a year of therapy to get it through my head that HE was the problem, not ME! It took another 2 years of therapy to really internalize and morph that knowledge into the strength to actually leave him. When I told him I was leaving, he actually admitted that he knew we weren't good for each other, and proceeded to apologize for all the hell he KNOWINGLY put me through. We were able to part in a pretty amicable fashion, which was a surprise to me, and since then, he's actually been a good friend.
So what have I learned?? NEVER get romantically involved with a Pisces again. Both of my fishes were sharks, and very nearly ate me alive. But even though I have a lot of scars, I don't regret it because of what I learned. I now know that I have the strength to survive ANYTHING, and for that I can thank my two Pisceans!
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Hahahaha, oops, I was pulling stuff from this thread for DXP Survivor and didn't actually mean to unearth it.
In the end, my Pisces ate my soul for breakast and washed it down with coffee. Fucker.
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Pisces men make good friends for me--that's it. The few I dealt with were very pushy; telling me the were interested in me in one breath then in the next breath planning how we could have sex at lunchtime! LOL! Never once pausing for breath to see if I was even interested in them. Ok I'm overexaggerating a bit (not all of them planned lunchtime sex), but for the most part conversations with these men were good; they made me laugh. Then it was like *yawwwnn*. Not saying they're all like that...just my experience with them. LOL!
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