WHAT AM I 2 DO!!!!!?

hi all,*waves* i am a pisces(so i already know im on dangerous land);however, im married 2 an wonderful gemini, whom i love and no one else. Lately he has been moody, difficult,suspensious,and ....i dont know,i hate 2 think he is w/ some 1 else,especially well i havent told him im 15 weeks pregnant yet. i've been knowing 4 about 9 weeks , dont get me wrong, but i've been afraid 2 inform him, yet. i know what u r probably thinkin and sayin 'why wont u just ask him'. well how would u feel if some 1 ask u if u where cheatin' and turn around and tell u their expectin'.all i want is 2 KNOW he isnt ''wilding'' on me so i would feel sorry 4 tellin' the "good" news. i really dont know how and in what way to ask him b cause his so quick and testy some times, so i sought 2 ask his people..you geminis...........am i just bein' 2 clingy, negative, and insecure or is he innocent and just bein' a gemini? thanks in advance 4 ur helpin hand.

Hi Neptune....Congratulations! Is this your first baby? You must be a very strong woman to be able to keep it together and seek out advice. My hat off to you and my heart goes out to you as well. I will give my 2 cents but as you may have heard before, only you will know what is right for you and your loved one.

I think you are in a very difficult situation, but you need to find a way to address both issues. Which one comes first? I would want to know about his possible relationship with someone else and give him plenty of rope to feel comfortable to be honest with me. I would approach it as, I am feeling like we are in trouble, I feel less connected to your feelings and I am wondering if you need some space to explore another possibility for you.....after that was on the table and I felt comfortable that he was forthright, I would give it a few weeks to congeal and re-evalute, then I would let him know about the pregnancy because if he is the father he would have the right to know.

The thing you may need to deal with is that to some men, the knowledge of a creating a child just plants their feet firmly on commitment to the mother and to love and support her. Some women can accept this and some can't. Some men run the otherway and you never hear back from them and some stay and resent it.

No one can know how this will unravel, but you need to figure out what you need in order to provide for the baby responsibly, if you decide to keep the baby (vs. adoption) can you afford to raise the baby on your own? Did you and the father ever talk about children and how did he feel about it.....Did he know there was a possibility of your becoming pregnant or was this a real accident (the 1% condom failure)?

I hope you can come to a confident conclusion about how you are going to approach this and prepare your self in how you will cope with each one of the possibilities in the outcome. My best wishes for you and the baby.

((O)) Hugs to you,

Well after Stardance's advice.. there isn't much left to say except congrats... and i hope this all works out for you! After you give some more info back from stardance's msg.. i'll give more input, cuz i need some of her questions answered..lol sorry 😢

okay...thanks. i know it sounds strange, but DID that helped a little,stardance

I'm glad if it helped even just a little. I did answer your question if he was innocent and you were being clingy, but I don't know how anyone could know that better than you could.

As for how to ask him the dreaded question, I would wait until he was in a relaxed mood, over a nice dinner maybe with some wine (non-alch for you and the baby 🙂 ) -just theoretical of course- try to ask calmly without too much emotion. I honestly don't know if I could ask without emotion if I was in love with my hubby and worried he might be fooling around, I would be crushed and have a hard time keeing my emotions at bay.

Good luck with everything!

Is there a reason why you are almost half-way through your pregnancy and have not told your husband? I'm guessing that you already know his feelings on having a child....in that case, you have to face the music and tell him sooner than later- your Gemini will be more angry finding out about the child as he is driving you to the hospital to have it than he will be if you just buck up and tell him....you really need to take a look at your relationship- should be able to share these things with your husband- we Gems tend to get moody and it may seem like we're acting suspicious, but most of the time we are looking for someone to notice and ask us what is wrong- he just needs an open forum to let it out- but it is not good for you to start thinking of things he may or may not be doing- not good for your heart and not good for him- if you want to start the subject, don't attack him like "Have you been cheating on me?" A Gem will not take kindly to that. Just sit him down and start talking- it'll all come out in the conversation. For the sake of your soon-to-arrive baby, you two have to figure out a better way to communicate rather than guessing and tip-toeing around- it'll wear you out girl! I do wish you all the best- at this point you need to do what is best for all concerned and talk- it'll take off the pressure and everything will be out in the open.

im sorry i hadnt been an my blog for i while. im just estatic to know my gem of a hubby isnt cheatin'. 5 days ago i sorta tricked the answer off of him (im not goin' to state how...sorry), and im ever so receive he isnt w/ some 1 else.and i was even more glad to see him not get offended and upset by the question.("it was just stress", he say,"and i rather be to my self when gettin' over it") and that gave me the okay to tell him im pregnant, he was excited..
so the thought of him cheatin',being upset when asked 'are u cheatin?',and the issue of my news pissing him off...............was all in my head.
i should have known that he would never do anything like that, i guess i was afraid he would turn into my "dad" and my child would never see him, receive anything from him, or the worse.......never be held by him.and this special thanks goes out to the ones who gave me advice (i cant remember your names but i still thank u).GOD BLESS YOU ALL.😉 😉 😉