she and I met in the very first thing when I enrolled at one university. everything became complicated for both of us. Here??s the several reasons to it; she had a boyfriend while I broke up the 4 years of high school relationship which was too obvious that I needed a time to discover who I was prior to the break up. Ironically, we never hang out these days throughout college years although I offered at several times such as watching live hockey game, eating out, etc. However, she found an excuse to deny them. I had no clues because i never been bother to ask for her reasons of doing this. I focused on my own life with friends. She and I bumped into each other most of times. all we could go that far was to give each other a hug and had at least 5-10 minutes of conversation between the classes and parties.
after she graduated, she paged me several times to meet up at friend??s place during summer time before she headed to one country for backpacking for a year. She also wanted my own comics that I mentioned to her other day which I created the comics for both of us that she could keep while traveling. She loved it so much. At that period, she had a same boyfriend from college years. However it was difficult time to find a way to confess her about my feeling for her. She left America and I decided to send her a long email about my feeling and she replied, "thank you for putting everything on the table and that??s courage of you doing this. I had a hunch that you do. You did not make me uncomfortable and I have not looked at you differently.?? I was like if she had a hunch and why did she lead me on in the first place which she did not answer my question directly.
From time to time, we started to have several fights through long distance. When she returned to the US, everything became an awkward for both of us. She made it in one volunteer job in other state and moved there right there after backpacking trip. We have not have a chance to talk or catch up at all. She broke up with her boyfriend at same time. I could tell that she needed her time too. I left her a plenty of space lately. We still do talk on pager but not that much at all. Later she got new boyfriend right after she moved in Washington state. From there, I felt enough with her and told her that I wanted a day just us to catch up that all I ask for. she said she knows that too and she needed to put a family at her priority at this point. I was like why could not she say that very lou
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Nov 16, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 2245 · Topics: 36
She is 100% not interested in you, romantically. She likes you as a friend, and is trying not to hurt your feelings. You need to take the hint, and accept it, if you wish to continue your friendship. People who push Gems too much by having expectations of them will eventually be cut out of the Gems' lives completely, and you're heading down that road (based on what you have written).