What's with this Gemini guy?

Posted by Moonbutter
What are his and yours placements?

Posted by Undine
You initiated. He was waiting for you to carry on. He still does, most likely.


What is so complicated? Do you know what you want from him, apart from sex?

Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter
What are his and yours placements?

You mean geographically or...? Beijing and Shanghai, we're both expats working in those cities

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Posted by carrazeda

Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter
What are his and yours placements?

You mean geographically or...? Beijing and Shanghai, we're both expats working in those cities

No, your astrological placements

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Posted by Moonbutter
What are his and yours placements?

Posted by hannahmontigo
Background

- We both don't live in the same city

- He comes to my city 1-2 times a month for work

- He used to text me everyday and his replies were almost always immediate


So I find it puzzling that he seemed very interested in the first month over text and kept emphasising how I was interesting, funny, sarcastic, independent and someone whom he feels he had chemistry with. He claimed what we had going was different and special. And what i noticed is that whenever he drinks, he tends to make a lot of confessions. In one occasion he randomly called cos he was drunk and after hanging up the phone he told me he loved hearing my voice and that it makes him smile. In another occasion he said that I should meet his best friend (but it didn't happen at the last minute due to unforeseen circumstances).


Of all the dates we'v been on (5-6), he has never made a move on me. Me having gone on many dates with men, it is normal for a guy to make an advancement at some point but this gemini guy was not. A little bit frustrating if you'd ask. Passive you think? He has mentioned before he naturally just doesn't have much initiative. Not sure if that's an excuse but my ex bf was actually at that level of passiveness where he wouldn't initiative anything so I would like to give him the benefit of doubt. I don't think he's shy because he's an extrovert and is pretty chatty and funny.


The most recent time we met was in his city (usually he would be at mine) and towards the end of the night, I thought I should ' be the man' and invited him over to my room which he willingly did. Well not much needed to elaborate from there. He was very kissy (Not sure if that even means anything because most guys who are just in it for the sex kiss minimally based on my experience).


Then two days later on my flight back we were exchanging good byes over text n that we would see each other again next month when he comes to my city. I didn't hear from him for a whole week after. I'm not the pushy sort so I didn't text him either. A week to me was a long given how we used to text everyday.


Just as I was going to conclude that I wasn't going to hear from him again because maybe he had already slept with me, he texted me asking me how I was and where I had disappeared to. I told him I thought he was the one who disappeared. Basically we both thought that the whole 'goodbye see u soon' was a polite way of asking each other f**k off and end things. He asked if I really think he's such a douche...


Halfway through he started to get tipsy (he admitted it) and said that I was screwing with his mind during the week I didn't text and that he didn't like it. He called me terrible. On my end I thought he was the one screwing with mine. He later concluded that we both just had communication issues and that someone needed to man up and ask what happened, which he did. He bid me good night and said he would text the next day.


Next day he texted but took hours to reply despite being online from time to time. I asked if his drunk words the night before was a sober man's thoughts... he said of cos and that I needed to be more optimistic.


Is this a typical gemini behaviour? Why is he being so complicated? He's usually more expressive about his feelings when he drinks but when he's sober it's as if he has this wall. I've had my share of experience with players and they are easy to identify. With this guy it's honestly very confusing because there are a lot of things he says that seem really genuine, more so when he drinks... but I'm not sure if he is just a master of deceit?


Hard to understand his behaviour it's like he's interested but he is not at the same time. If he isn't then why does he still reply my messages (despite taking hours these days). He will never leave any messages un-replied. He'll still ask me what I'm up to and stuff. Beats me.

Posted by TaurusinTexas
And that gem merc, means he's going to want regular communication.

Posted by TaurusinTexas
And that gem merc, means he's going to want regular communication.

Posted by Moonbutter
Ooh hehasthat Cancer Mars... he's gonna need you to pursue gently.

Posted by Cobyco

Posted by hannahmontigo
Background

- We both don't live in the same city

- He comes to my city 1-2 times a month for work

- He used to text me everyday and his replies were almost always immediate


So I find it puzzling that he seemed very interested in the first month over text and kept emphasising how I was interesting, funny, sarcastic, independent and someone whom he feels he had chemistry with. He claimed what we had going was different and special. And what i noticed is that whenever he drinks, he tends to make a lot of confessions. In one occasion he randomly called cos he was drunk and after hanging up the phone he told me he loved hearing my voice and that it makes him smile. In another occasion he said that I should meet his best friend (but it didn't happen at the last minute due to unforeseen circumstances).


Of all the dates we'v been on (5-6), he has never made a move on me. Me having gone on many dates with men, it is normal for a guy to make an advancement at some point but this gemini guy was not. A little bit frustrating if you'd ask. Passive you think? He has mentioned before he naturally just doesn't have much initiative. Not sure if that's an excuse but my ex bf was actually at that level of passiveness where he wouldn't initiative anything so I would like to give him the benefit of doubt. I don't think he's shy because he's an extrovert and is pretty chatty and funny.


The most recent time we met was in his city (usually he would be at mine) and towards the end of the night, I thought I should ' be the man' and invited him over to my room which he willingly did. Well not much needed to elaborate from there. He was very kissy (Not sure if that even means anything because most guys who are just in it for the sex kiss minimally based on my experience).


Then two days later on my flight back we were exchanging good byes over text n that we would see each other again next month when he comes to my city. I didn't hear from him for a whole week after. I'm not the pushy sort so I didn't text him either. A week to me was a long given how we used to text everyday.


Just as I was going to conclude that I wasn't going to hear from him again because maybe he had already slept with me, he texted me asking me how I was and where I had disappeared to. I told him I thought he was the one who disappeared. Basically we both thought that the whole 'goodbye see u soon' was a polite way of asking each other f**k off and end things. He asked if I really think he's such a douche...


Halfway through he started to get tipsy (he admitted it) and said that I was screwing with his mind during the week I didn't text and that he didn't like it. He called me terrible. On my end I thought he was the one screwing with mine. He later concluded that we both just had communication issues and that someone needed to man up and ask what happened, which he did. He bid me good night and said he would text the next day.


Next day he texted but took hours to reply despite being online from time to time. I asked if his drunk words the night before was a sober man's thoughts... he said of cos and that I needed to be more optimistic.


Is this a typical gemini behaviour? Why is he being so complicated? He's usually more expressive about his feelings when he drinks but when he's sober it's as if he has this wall. I've had my share of experience with players and they are easy to identify. With this guy it's honestly very confusing because there are a lot of things he says that seem really genuine, more so when he drinks... but I'm not sure if he is just a master of deceit?


Hard to understand his behaviour it's like he's interested but he is not at the same time. If he isn't then why does he still reply my messages (despite taking hours these days). He will never leave any messages un-replied. He'll still ask me what I'm up to and stuff. Beats me.

That's definitely normal for us. I totally understand him. We don't express our true feelings to anyone and if we do the alcohol helps take the edge off. The time we aren't reaching out to u we're waiting on your move. When we ain't initiating any advancements we're giving u a chance but when u get us alone behind closed doors the other twin comes out lol.

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Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter
Ooh hehasthat Cancer Mars... he's gonna need you to pursue gently.

Pursue gently so give him all the space he needs? Are cancer in mars generally very passive? Cos it feels like it and he has admitted to being so... but not sure if it's just an excuse.

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Posted by Cobyco

Posted by hannahmontigo
Background

- We both don't live in the same city

- He comes to my city 1-2 times a month for work

- He used to text me everyday and his replies were almost always immediate


So I find it puzzling that he seemed very interested in the first month over text and kept emphasising how I was interesting, funny, sarcastic, independent and someone whom he feels he had chemistry with. He claimed what we had going was different and special. And what i noticed is that whenever he drinks, he tends to make a lot of confessions. In one occasion he randomly called cos he was drunk and after hanging up the phone he told me he loved hearing my voice and that it makes him smile. In another occasion he said that I should meet his best friend (but it didn't happen at the last minute due to unforeseen circumstances).


Of all the dates we'v been on (5-6), he has never made a move on me. Me having gone on many dates with men, it is normal for a guy to make an advancement at some point but this gemini guy was not. A little bit frustrating if you'd ask. Passive you think? He has mentioned before he naturally just doesn't have much initiative. Not sure if that's an excuse but my ex bf was actually at that level of passiveness where he wouldn't initiative anything so I would like to give him the benefit of doubt. I don't think he's shy because he's an extrovert and is pretty chatty and funny.


The most recent time we met was in his city (usually he would be at mine) and towards the end of the night, I thought I should ' be the man' and invited him over to my room which he willingly did. Well not much needed to elaborate from there. He was very kissy (Not sure if that even means anything because most guys who are just in it for the sex kiss minimally based on my experience).


Then two days later on my flight back we were exchanging good byes over text n that we would see each other again next month when he comes to my city. I didn't hear from him for a whole week after. I'm not the pushy sort so I didn't text him either. A week to me was a long given how we used to text everyday.


Just as I was going to conclude that I wasn't going to hear from him again because maybe he had already slept with me, he texted me asking me how I was and where I had disappeared to. I told him I thought he was the one who disappeared. Basically we both thought that the whole 'goodbye see u soon' was a polite way of asking each other f**k off and end things. He asked if I really think he's such a douche...


Halfway through he started to get tipsy (he admitted it) and said that I was screwing with his mind during the week I didn't text and that he didn't like it. He called me terrible. On my end I thought he was the one screwing with mine. He later concluded that we both just had communication issues and that someone needed to man up and ask what happened, which he did. He bid me good night and said he would text the next day.


Next day he texted but took hours to reply despite being online from time to time. I asked if his drunk words the night before was a sober man's thoughts... he said of cos and that I needed to be more optimistic.


Is this a typical gemini behaviour? Why is he being so complicated? He's usually more expressive about his feelings when he drinks but when he's sober it's as if he has this wall. I've had my share of experience with players and they are easy to identify. With this guy it's honestly very confusing because there are a lot of things he says that seem really genuine, more so when he drinks... but I'm not sure if he is just a master of deceit?


Hard to understand his behaviour it's like he's interested but he is not at the same time. If he isn't then why does he still reply my messages (despite taking hours these days). He will never leave any messages un-replied. He'll still ask me what I'm up to and stuff. Beats me.

That's definitely normal for us. I totally understand him. We don't express our true feelings to anyone and if we do the alcohol helps take the edge off. The time we aren't reaching out to u we're waiting on your move. When we ain't initiating any advancements we're giving u a chance but when u get us alone behind closed doors the other twin comes out lol.

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Posted by MissM
I have pretty much all the same placements as this guy. Pretty much if i know i want something i go after it usually but if i'm unsure or it goes too fast then i completely get freaked out and back off a bit. I want to know the other person feels the same way and for them to make some effort as well.

Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter
Ooh hehasthat Cancer Mars... he's gonna need you to pursue gently.

Pursue gently so give him all the space he needs? Are cancer in mars generally very passive? Cos it feels like it and he has admitted to being so... but not sure if it's just an excuse.

Yes... Mars is the energy exerted sooo think of how Cancer is and apply ?

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Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter

Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by Moonbutter
Ooh hehasthat Cancer Mars... he's gonna need you to pursue gently.

Pursue gently so give him all the space he needs? Are cancer in mars generally very passive? Cos it feels like it and he has admitted to being so... but not sure if it's just an excuse.

Yes... Mars is the energy exerted sooo think of how Cancer is and apply ?

Ahhh ok, well good luck to me then. lol This is so draining

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Posted by hannahmontigo

Posted by MissM
I have pretty much all the same placements as this guy. Pretty much if i know i want something i go after it usually but if i'm unsure or it goes too fast then i completely get freaked out and back off a bit. I want to know the other person feels the same way and for them to make some effort as well.

But i dont get the part we didnt speak for a week then he randomly texts me out of the blue when he was tipsy telling me he thought i disappeared and screwing his mind etc then now he has gone missing again with my latest text unread. Decided to prompt him days back and he DID reply quite quickly (seemed like a sincere response, wasn't brusque or anything) then went missing ALL day again. Is he doing this on purpose, it's so annoying. If he has lost interest then don't text me and tell me I disappeared and that you don't like it blablabla. It's like he's the one screwing w me not the other way round lolol seriously...

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