When a gemini man ignores you...

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by VirgoLady2009 on Tuesday, May 16, 2017 and has 35 replies.
So let me start by saying I am a Virgo woman...

This Gemini sun/Aqua moon man has been after me for months, from going through my friends to get me, to direct messages on social media. The reason why I didn't react so fast is because I dated one of his fraternity brothers 4 years ago (before they were even fraternity brothers) and didn't need any drama in my life. Well... my friends talked me into going on at least one date with him so I did. He took me to a NBA playoff game and we had a blast...We began 'dating'...

Three weeks later we were having a conversation. I brought up the fact that I was starting to like him but I was a little 'hesitant' because of my previous relationship with his now fraternity brother. He explained to me that he already talked to him about the situation and that it didn't bother him because he is really into me. So I told myself I would drop it and not miss out on what I believe could be a good thing. (I now found out the my ex, he fraternity brother is no longer in the fraternity and that he dropped his letters)

The next night when we were talking, we start talking about sex (which is a pretty sensitive subject for me because I took a vow toward celibacy). I let him do most of the talking until he asked me how long has it since I had sex. My first mind was to tell him to mind his business, but since I am a fairly open person I told him 'over 1 1/2 years.' He chuckles and say why so long, I told him the reason which he seemed to be cool with afterwards...

A couple days later (this past Thursday to be exact) I was leaving to go out of town. He called and asked if he could see me before I left and I agreed. He comes over and everything was normal. Before I left he said 'we have a lot to talk about when I come back.' I said like what? He said we will talk when you come back.

I text him when I got to my destination and no reply. I text him the next morning and he says 'morning.' Which was odd because he always text longer messages...anyways I haven't heard back from him since Friday.

I am thinking he is no longer interested or maybe our sex talk turned him off. My friend think he is 'testing' me but I am not the type to chase a man that is ignoring me. Can someone explain this behavior?
I didn't even read that tl:dr stuff because the title says enough.

Why would you entertain someone who is emotionally manipulating you by IGNORING you with no definitive reason?

Quit being the 1950s doormat that Virgos tend to be prone to and move on. You will survive without this penis you grew attached to prematurely.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
"When a gemini man ignores you..."

you thank the lord jesus.

lololol
It could be different things. I'm certain that he likes that you're not out here and haven't had sex in awhile. With the same token, he knows this might become a problem in the future.

You're out of town so he's probably giving you space while he takes the space he needs to think about all of this. He's a double air so he is a thinker. Air signs and Aquarius moon ppl like their space. So him taking space while you're out of town isn't odd, especially since what y'all have is new. And it doesn't sound like you're exclusive. So he could be distant because men have needs and he might be filling those needs right now.

Do you know his Venus sign and mars sign? Hopefully something to balance out his sun and moon.

What are your Venus, moon, and mars signs?
Posted by Aries_Luminary
It could be different things. I'm certain that he likes that you're not out here and haven't had sex in awhile. With the same token, he knows this might become a problem in the future.

You're out of town so he's probably giving you space while he takes the space he needs to think about all of this. He's a double air so he is a thinker. Air signs and Aquarius moon ppl like their space. So him taking space while you're out of town isn't odd, especially since what y'all have is new. And it doesn't sound like you're exclusive. So he could be distant because men have needs and he might be filling those needs right now.

Do you know his Venus sign and mars sign? Hopefully something to balance out his sun and moon.

What are your Venus, moon, and mars signs?
I just got back in town late last night, which he knows and still not a word from him. He updates his social media regularly and even watched my snap the entire time I was away.

His Venus is in Taurus Mars in Aries

My moon is in Cancer, Venus is in Virgo Mars in Gemini
My Venus is in Taurus too. That def makes his sun and moon better to deal with in a relationship sense.

Anything is possible I believe.

How old are you guys? Mid 20's?
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
"When a gemini man ignores you..."

you thank the lord jesus.

Leave them alone. They are better than a cancer any day I imagine.
Posted by Aries_Luminary
My Venus is in Taurus too. That def makes his sun and moon better to deal with in a relationship sense.

Anything is possible I believe.

How old are you guys? Mid 20's?
I am 26 and he will be 25 next Tuesday.
Posted by infires
He is thinking about things, let him have his alone time. Doesn't mean he lost interest, ik virgos look into things deeply.

Gems are kind of the type to hold on and will let go if they want something done, will not beat around the bush
I get that but it's very rude of him to just flat out ignore me especially for no reason :/
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
*looks at self*

Uh, Gem sun. Check.

Aqua moon...er check. Okay, this is going to be interesting. I might be able to help.

*reads*

Wtf?

Maybe something is bothering him that has some emotional connection to past or...something. Something deep down is bothering him.

*reads Rocky's response*

*agrees*

*Taurus Venus*

...check

*Mars in Aries*

...check.

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Wtf is he doing?

What is his merc?
Lol I need all of the help!!

His merc is in Taurus as well

How is he ignoring you if he replied to your text?
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Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
*looks at self*

Uh, Gem sun. Check.

Aqua moon...er check. Okay, this is going to be interesting. I might be able to help.

*reads*

Wtf?

Maybe something is bothering him that has some emotional connection to past or...something. Something deep down is bothering him.

*reads Rocky's response*

*agrees*

*Taurus Venus*

...check

*Mars in Aries*

...check.

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Wtf is he doing?

What is his merc?
Lol I need all of the help!!

His merc is in Taurus as well

Thank God. I'm safe. Gem merc here.

Give him time. Something he is processing. Just let him know when he is ready to talk you're hear to listen.
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Do I text him and say that?

I've reached out twice and he has not responded back to me...
Lmao this sounds like me & my Gem friend except some of the factors are different. I didn't want a relationship, he could sense that & it seems like that made him try even harder (which was backwards to me, but made sense)

We kept fighting bc we wanted different things, I saw the bigger picture (disaster bc I dated his friend before he came around too) & he saw things in detail (he's an amazing person & we have fun together/create cool ideas)

Id rather have the friendship vs a relationship built on shakey ground
Please don't call him again. For your sake.

Just chill out. Go about your life. He's 24 years old. Don't expect too much out of him.

He's weighing things right now if he hasn't already made up his mind. You keep calling is just putting pressure on the situation. You guys are not exclusive. The Taurus in him will like your cancer moon and Virgo sun tendencies but it will grate at his Gemini sun and Aqua moon.

Most 24 year old men aren't ready to be celibate with you. Especially a man in a fraternity. I'm sure he has cooch falling out of his pocket.

Just relax. Take it as it comes. He'll most likely call eventually when u fall back. Let him explain his mental state and in a chill way let him know ghosting you isn't cool.
Posted by Moonbutter
How is he ignoring you if he replied to your text?
Okay so...he graduated Friday and was plan on having a small party afterwards.

After he text that dry and dull 'morning' text I replied did you get everything done for the party... no reply.

I got on snap and saw that he snap a video of him with his degree and I replied 'congrats! you look great by the way'... he opened it and never replied...
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by Moonbutter
How is he ignoring you if he replied to your text?
Okay so...he graduated Friday and was plan on having a small party afterwards.

After he text that dry and dull 'morning' text I replied did you get everything done for the party... no reply.

I got on snap and saw that he snap a video of him with his degree and I replied 'congrats! you look great by the way'... he opened it and never replied...
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Oh I see... he's putting you on the back burner until he's ready to talk to you I guess.
Posted by infires
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by infires
He is thinking about things, let him have his alone time. Doesn't mean he lost interest, ik virgos look into things deeply.

Gems are kind of the type to hold on and will let go if they want something done, will not beat around the bush
I get that but it's very rude of him to just flat out ignore me especially for no reason :/
He said he has something to talk about right, why don't you just hear it out. I wouldn't sweat it until there's something to worry about

he might have something on his mind

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I feel that I'm being patient. I haven't called or text him. Just giving him his space. I don't know what he wants from me but if he is looking for someone to chase him around he can just stay gone...
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
*looks at self*

Uh, Gem sun. Check.

Aqua moon...er check. Okay, this is going to be interesting. I might be able to help.

*reads*

Wtf?

Maybe something is bothering him that has some emotional connection to past or...something. Something deep down is bothering him.

*reads Rocky's response*

*agrees*

*Taurus Venus*

...check

*Mars in Aries*

...check.

8|

Wtf is he doing?

What is his merc?
Lol I need all of the help!!

His merc is in Taurus as well

Thank God. I'm safe. Gem merc here.

Give him time. Something he is processing. Just let him know when he is ready to talk you're hear to listen.
Do I text him and say that?

I've reached out twice and he has not responded back to me...
Yup.

This guy is being an ass. So be stern. "Well, you want to talk but you're not. I'm here when you're reaady to talk."

And after the talk when he finally messages you and you guys meet up, get a little angry at him and be all, wtf man? You wanted to talk but you didn't. Don't do this to me. I'm here. I like you. We are suppose to communicate blah blah blah mix your virgo stuff with it.
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I can possibly say that but my pride is in the way

After being ignored twice I really don't have anything else to say to him

He is saying everything with his actions...

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Please don't call him again. For your sake.

Just chill out. Go about your life. He's 24 years old. Don't expect too much out of him.

He's weighing things right now if he hasn't already made up his mind. You keep calling is just putting pressure on the situation. You guys are not exclusive. The Taurus in him will like your cancer moon and Virgo sun tendencies but it will grate at his Gemini sun and Aqua moon.

Most 24 year old men aren't ready to be celibate with you. Especially a man in a fraternity. I'm sure he has cooch falling out of his pocket.

Just relax. Take it as it comes. He'll most likely call eventually when u fall back. Let him explain his mental state and in a chill way let him know ghosting you isn't cool.


Thanks & great advice...I'm no longer reaching out to him...

communication is a two way street if he wants to ignore me fine...

I will let him be.
You didn't do anything wrong. So his behavior isn't warranted. I would stop watching every single snap he posts if it were me.

And ppl at this age don't have adult conversations about not wanting to continue on. They just disappear.

Good luck with this
Posted by Aries_Luminary
You didn't do anything wrong. So his behavior isn't warranted. I would stop watching every single snap he posts if it were me.

And ppl at this age don't have adult conversations about not wanting to continue on. They just disappear.

Good luck with this
Nope and I stopped watching his snaps on Friday.

He continues to watch mines.

I plan on blocking him...just to be petty lol
Posted by infires
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by infires
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by infires
He is thinking about things, let him have his alone time. Doesn't mean he lost interest, ik virgos look into things deeply.

Gems are kind of the type to hold on and will let go if they want something done, will not beat around the bush
I get that but it's very rude of him to just flat out ignore me especially for no reason :/
He said he has something to talk about right, why don't you just hear it out. I wouldn't sweat it until there's something to worry about

he might have something on his mind

I feel that I'm being patient. I haven't called or text him. Just giving him his space. I don't know what he wants from me but if he is looking for someone to chase him around he can just stay gone...
ghost him too then, you have an issue with this..that's why you made this thread.

you don't deserve that kind of treatment

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This is true. It did bother me ...still does...

Just trying to figure out the reason

I guess that the Virgo in me...
Posted by Goateeguru
Youre a Virgo. Theres prolly more to the story youre not telling
It's only been 4 weeks...

That's the whole story...

sorry you feel otherwise.
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Posted by Moonbutter
How is he ignoring you if he replied to your text?
Okay so...he graduated Friday and was plan on having a small party afterwards.

After he text that dry and dull 'morning' text I replied did you get everything done for the party... no reply.

I got on snap and saw that he snap a video of him with his degree and I replied 'congrats! you look great by the way'... he opened it and never replied...
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Probably cause he's busy setting up for the party, graduating, entertaining friends and family.

How long have you been dating?
I'm not seeing what the problem is here...

He's spending the weekend entertaining friends and family, graduation ceremony etc. Hes a little busy with one of the most important milestones people experience. So he missed a text or two, so what...?

Your traveling and out of town for work, vacation? You seem to have more time on your hands to obsess over his every move. Do you instead.

Geminis like when you have your own shit going on. Don't smother him with your neediness. Address this issue face to face when you get back, let him know you want more communication from him. Don't rage block him. Your gonna feel foolish once you cool off and have to add him back.

Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by Aries_Luminary
You didn't do anything wrong. So his behavior isn't warranted. I would stop watching every single snap he posts if it were me.

And ppl at this age don't have adult conversations about not wanting to continue on. They just disappear.

Good luck with this
Nope and I stopped watching his snaps on Friday.

He continues to watch mines.

I plan on blocking him...just to be petty lol
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Nah I wouldn't block him. Let him check for you if he chooses. Just continue to act like he doesn't exist if it is taken to that level. He's more light hearted than you based on your placements. So emotionally you'll take things more personally than he will

Posted by LadyNeptune
I'm not seeing what the problem is here...

He's spending the weekend entertaining friends and family, graduation ceremony etc. Hes a little busy with one of the most important milestones people experience. So he missed a text or two, so what...?

Your traveling and out of town for work, vacation? You seem to have more time on your hands to obsess over his every move. Do you instead.

Geminis like when you have your own shit going on. Don't smother him with your neediness. Address this issue face to face when you get back, let him know you want more communication from him. Don't rage block him. Your gonna feel foolish once you cool off and have to add him back.



"Rage block him" ???

Posted by nanobyte
He probably realized that you two just weren't compatible emotionally/sexually thus he lost interest, and he doesn't have the balls or the basic human decency and respect to tell you that. So he just ghosted you.

You two were not exclusive, so yea, he probably met someone else. Men can suck sometimes.
That's what I am thinking too..

I just wish he could say that *rolls eyes*
Posted by LadyNeptune
I'm not seeing what the problem is here...

He's spending the weekend entertaining friends and family, graduation ceremony etc. Hes a little busy with one of the most important milestones people experience. So he missed a text or two, so what...?

Your traveling and out of town for work, vacation? You seem to have more time on your hands to obsess over his every move. Do you instead.

Geminis like when you have your own shit going on. Don't smother him with your neediness. Address this issue face to face when you get back, let him know you want more communication from him. Don't rage block him. Your gonna feel foolish once you cool off and have to add him back.

I've been back in town for 2 days now and he knows it...

I feel like he wants me to reach out to him but I have and gotten no response

I'm not about to chase him around so I'll let his actions do the talking.

He preached how big he was on communication and all this other stuff

so clearly hes a liar too...

it's one thing to be 'busy' and another to be ignored...

I know the difference honey...
Posted by VirgoLady2009
Posted by LadyNeptune
I'm not seeing what the problem is here...

He's spending the weekend entertaining friends and family, graduation ceremony etc. Hes a little busy with one of the most important milestones people experience. So he missed a text or two, so what...?

Your traveling and out of town for work, vacation? You seem to have more time on your hands to obsess over his every move. Do you instead.

Geminis like when you have your own shit going on. Don't smother him with your neediness. Address this issue face to face when you get back, let him know you want more communication from him. Don't rage block him. Your gonna feel foolish once you cool off and have to add him back.

I've been back in town for 2 days now and he knows it...

I feel like he wants me to reach out to him but I have and gotten no response

I'm not about to chase him around so I'll let his actions do the talking.

He preached how big he was on communication and all this other stuff

so clearly hes a liar too...

it's one thing to be 'busy' and another to be ignored...

I know the difference honey...
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So if you have all the answers what's the purpose of this thread 'honey'?

Honestly you seem too sensitive to date a Gemini, and this is coming from a Pisces lol. People get busy. It's not that serious. Your not exclusive with him, it's early days. But if your gonna get butt hurt that he's not all up your ass 24/7 then you really can't handle dating an air sign.

Like I said before Gemini needs its freedom and doesn't like to be smothered. Best thing to do if your going to continue forward is too lower your expectations significantly and let things unfold as they may.
Posted by Eddie_Vanjovi
Posted by nanobyte
Men can suck sometimes.
What she is trying to say is that your man is gay. Sorry Sweetheart.
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lololol
Only other thing I can think of is he's doing the rubber band effect. Gets all close at the beginning. Then after the first month or so he pulls back to see if your gonna step up and show him your into him. If your not up for the chase then bow out for the next woman.
Hey, he's only doing what virgos excel at; ignoring/disregarding another human being whenever the mood strikes them to do so.

Who knows what it could be. Give it as much time as you want to, then either decide if you want to hang around or not. Personally, I think doing that to a person who's obviously been trying to reach out is pretty crappy.
Posted by infires
so much negativity lol

a virgo-gemini relationship can work out. they are basically the same, with different ways of thinking
I don't know. I know a Virgo female, male Gemini couple. Both have cancer moons. Been together off and on for about 10 years. Neither one is fulfilled they just settle for eachother. She's the provider in the relationship and he's a slouch who likes to look like he has things going for himself material wise. All things made possible because of her. So he stays because it's comfortable and for the perks. She stays so that she has someone. She can't be alone. And because they have kids together. They both cheat on eachother.
Posted by OrGasMe
I didn't read everything. But Gems like a mental challenge. If a Gem is ignoring you, he is probably bored. They usuallly come wandering back though. To entertain and see if they still have you.

Just my experience... With Gem ex and Gem best girl friends.
Yes, you gotta keep Gems on their toes