Where Do Us Virgo Guys Fall Short—?

After my most recent experience of being played with & led around by a Gemini Girl, I just find myself analyzing the entire situation. I'm not sure if I ever was certain of what she wanted from me. Confidence, chivalry, understanding, & personal freedoms were useless. Somehow, being me has failed me & it only matters because I love her still. I spoke to her like she was my best friend in the world. When my former Gem girl was going through her exhausted period where she needed separation from the world, I sent her to a spa in the mountains for the weekend because she needed it. I'm hoping by understanding the experience of your own relationships with Virgo guys, I can understand where I went wrong & learn from it. Please help me. All joking aside, I'm hurting really badly because I would've been happy just laying next to her while she slept. I would have played with her hair all night afraid that I would have to awake from my utopia. I would have never hurted her, always supported her ideas, and helped them come true if she asked me. I really didn't care how beautiful she was on the outside. I thought I knew her heart, & it was the most beautiful internal creation I'd ever seen in a human being. So it has to be me I guess. Please, enlighten me by describing your own romantic relationships with Virgo guys. Maybe it will help shed some light on my recent situation. Thank you in advance....

lol... Just looking for answers & perspectives. It would be greatly appreciated if you would elaborate why I'm a pain in the ass... What a person doesn't know or understand is greater than they are. I would like to try my best to understand. Where's the harm—

Predictable— Nice— No edge— lmao!!! If anyone is she's the boring one. I ride motorcycles across the U.S during the summer & take vacations to South America in the winter. I have a brain & a heart, but bored— Never that..

You have jokes.... I'm not interested in a Pisces or anyone else for that matter. I could have someone else whenever. People aren't ice cream flavors, but if they were I would have been happy eating a chocolate & banana cone daily. What I want is to compare notes with Gem girls who experienced Virgo guy relationships.

My last one was a virgo, 9 1/2 months insecure, liar, mean as in didnt even bring a bottle of wine over, didnt share much, wanted everything on his terms.. brilliant conversations between the two, sweet but turned out to be a fake and i think he had a gf but lied that he didnt, soon as i called him out on red flags he bailed, when I went awol he called me up coz he needed his ego polishing but didnt get his ego polished so flew into a rage, refused to have fun or socialise outside of my territory, good in the early days, a really good click until the mask slipped, I miss that but nah, sorry way above his league, too selfish, posessive and dishonest, but that was just him... end of story.

I believe you were just too giving lost. Don't give anyone anymore than you're getting. Point blank. Spa in the mountains? Pulaaaeeeeezzzzeeee!!! Hell 2 da no. What did she do for you? In a relationship there has to be a balance of give & take or else you will end up feeling used. Fuck her. Easier said than done I know, but don't give her shit else until she starts giving more of herself. Let her be & please DO NOT contact her.

Hey saucey by the time Ive finished i will have russled up a whole load of single emotionally available gems to pick from.. keep your eyes pinned on my new thread 🙂 .. its ok thank me later 😄 .. hell you owe me a whole load of man advice!

@harry.. right you! work ya sales pitch on my new thread, Im pimping out singletons for a life ever after lol.. YOUR COUNTRY NEEDS YOU! 😄

As GLV said, Gemini women are hard work for any man. My ex was a Virgo and he said I am crazy. Ah well... This man thought he was a gift from heaven to women. I fed into it for awhile--hey it was fun. Until I realized we would never be anything more serious than... Now I'm trying to sever contact with him and he always seeks me out when he doesn't hear from me. Why doesn't he just leave me alone. I no longer stroke his ego... Love him but I can't anymore.

Sorry for what happened, OP. It's been my experience in my relationships (as well as what I've observed in Gem friends) that until I'm head-over-heels for a guy his pampering me (or his being way more into me than I'm into him) can be stifling. I only want that sort of adoration after I'm definitely committed to a relationship. Before that, if feels embarrassing and uncomfortable. I know there are women out there who eat up that kind of attention, but I'm not one of them. The energy in that situation is too one-sided, and the more you give, the more I feel pressured and under obligation to behave a certain way or give more than I'm ready to give.

Posted by Whimsy
Sorry for what happened, OP. It's been my experience in my relationships (as well as what I've observed in Gem friends) that until I'm head-over-heels for a guy his pampering me (or his being way more into me than I'm into him) can be stifling. I only want that sort of adoration after I'm definitely committed to a relationship. Before that, if feels embarrassing and uncomfortable. I know there are women out there who eat up that kind of attention, but I'm not one of them. The energy in that situation is too one-sided, and the more you give, the more I feel pressured and under obligation to behave a certain way or give more than I'm ready to give.

This is spot on.. we have to be hooked on you first, we kinda know if you are the one before we are actually involved with you because if we like you weve probably already done our homework.

Sometimes, I think Virgos in general come off to be too much so "ours"
Most like/need a challenge. At least I do. If someone shows me they're mine too early on it's almost a deal-breaker.

Posted by GeminiLovesVirgo
@Gemstar: Tell me about it. Today, I gave up and ended whatever I have with this Virgo guy. Last night, I drunk-texted him and said I quit. He figured what I was talking about. This morning, he said to me that our status as "friends" won't change anytime soon. I told him, it's fine. We can keep it that way. But he has to make sure he won't fall inlove with me. And then he said we can never be too sure. Crap! When he sends me messages today, I try my best to be "professional" and just talk about work. I ignore some of his messages as well.

I gotta know where I stand. I cannot be just the friend who supports and listens to him. I need to know that while I give him the assurance, he can assure me too that I have value. And no, since I'm not getting that, better to end it now and move on to the next. What does this guy think? I chose him just because I was looking for something serious. I wanted a long-lasting relationship. But if this serves to be wrong ( which I really think it is ) why should I waste my time right?

After all the "I miss you's" the "I like you for who you are", "I accept you for what you are" FRIENDS— REALLY??

If Geminis are hardwork, Virgos are hardwork as well. And nope, not gonna feed his ego. He can go find someone who will give him the same thing I gave him if there is any. GOODLUCK. He lost me.

GLV,

It's hard to let go; it was very hard for me. It still is...

Well entire website attendees it seems...lol.. I think there are many ridiculous Virgo men out there that seem to lack confidence & a sense of self. As expressed thoroughly above, don't baby any guys ego excessively. Who the hell wants to date an insecure child— Luckily I don't fall into that category at all. I know who I am, I know what I want, & I'm not completely sure where I'm going, but I know I'm going to have a ball along the way. I found out the Gem girl I've been talking too, her grandfather's in the hospital & she's helping her aunt move into a house. She's hasn't been to work in weeks because she's so worried about her grandpa who raised her. The way I see it, she needs time & knows where to find me if she wants to.

Posted by Whimsy
Sorry for what happened, OP. It's been my experience in my relationships (as well as what I've observed in Gem friends) that until I'm head-over-heels for a guy his pampering me (or his being way more into me than I'm into him) can be stifling. I only want that sort of adoration after I'm definitely committed to a relationship. Before that, if feels embarrassing and uncomfortable. I know there are women out there who eat up that kind of attention, but I'm not one of them. The energy in that situation is too one-sided, and the more you give, the more I feel pressured and under obligation to behave a certain way or give more than I'm ready to give.

+2 and copy word for word.

@Lost...hey you. Sorry to hear about this situation with the gemgirl. It just means somebody else is coming your way 🙂

But before they do, here's what you really have to start to practice even now...SLOW DOWN and marinate on, and celebrate in each day. A few of us helped you through a couple of other very lengthy posts, and as we guided, you swore you inderstood and was committed to just chillin...but really Lost, you didn't, you kept wanting her (Gem girl) to give and get even deeper. You wouldn't just let the good moment be. It had to be all or nothing. I told you before, gems don't need you to fix the world for them, but just accept that she will go off on her own to fix and find her way...don't follow, don't beg for her to stay longer, just be there, because she will be back....

But noooooo...you needed for her to prove that she was "ALL IN" with regards to her heart, and it fustrated you that she didn't express her feelings of care/like/love outwardly and openly and all day long like most signs do. Gems won't do it. But we told you how to pay attention to what she does and the many other ways that she shows you how important you are to her. That was not enough,

In the end...you somewhat made the "air" unbreathable for for.

But I hope you won't be scared off from another gem ever in life. 🙂 and I am sorry it didn't work...you know I was rooting for you.

@SooGem Hey, hey, hey now....... No....lol I vented here to you gals so I could do all the right things. I never actually shared any of the things I discussed on here with her unless I specifically said so. I had to vent to someone who knew what they were actually talking about, so I came to the source. I did ask her is we could be exclusive like Ahem.. 😉 she promised to answer me. Since then, I haven't brought it up because of her situations. (I feel like I'm writing an essay...) In addition, outside of this one thing, I haven't pressured her at all with regards to all that I had been feeling or thinking. And yes you did tell me to pay attention to what she does. I listened & followed to the T. She told me she wants to move in with me late yesterday night. It boggles the mind. After the post stated above my attitude is much different. I'm not sure what to do honestly. I'm more confused than ever. It's like she jumped from us barely speaking & her ignoring me to being bunk mates— My wonderful advisors on here....... WTF!!!! lol HELP ME?!?!?!
I grew a white hair in my head over this new monkey wrench.

Posted by LostintheSauce
@SooGem Hey, hey, hey now....... No....lol I vented here to you gals so I could do all the right things. I never actually shared any of the things I discussed on here with her unless I specifically said so. I had to vent to someone who knew what they were actually talking about, so I came to the source. I did ask her is we could be exclusive like Ahem.. 😉 she promised to answer me. Since then, I haven't brought it up because of her situations. (I feel like I'm writing an essay...) In addition, outside of this one thing, I haven't pressured her at all with regards to all that I had been feeling or thinking. And yes you did tell me to pay attention to what she does. I listened & followed to the T. She told me she wants to move in with me late yesterday night. It boggles the mind. After the post stated above my attitude is much different. I'm not sure what to do honestly. I'm more confused than ever. It's like she jumped from us barely speaking & her ignoring me to being bunk mates— My wonderful advisors on here....... WTF!!!! lol HELP ME?!?!?!
I grew a white hair in my head over this new monkey wrench.

Hey now Lost, what's good?
Okay so what happened after she asked to move in with you?

Also, I am a bit confused (guessed that's my fault since I went away for about a week) But uh, when did she (gem girl) start ignoring you. Last I remember, she wasn't ignoring you at all, but just wasn't responding in a way that you didn't understand, or were not accustomed to, which is why you were asking us to help you understand gem girl's style of communication right? So when did she go to "barely speaking to you"?

Quite frankly, for a gem girl/any gem for this matter, to ask you to move in together is a big deal. Most (well at least me) this is a huuuuge deal and not one taken lightly, we have to truly like you to even consider giving up some of that private space.

So that's why I am confused here...on the one hand, IMO, she is showing you that you gained/captured her heart. But to hear you tell it, she does not really show you she cares? Help me understand Lost 🙂

Posted by SoooGem

Posted by LostintheSauce
@SooGem Hey, hey, hey now....... No....lol I vented here to you gals so I could do all the right things. I never actually shared any of the things I discussed on here with her unless I specifically said so. I had to vent to someone who knew what they were actually talking about, so I came to the source. I did ask her is we could be exclusive like Ahem.. 😉 she promised to answer me. Since then, I haven't brought it up because of her situations. (I feel like I'm writing an essay...) In addition, outside of this one thing, I haven't pressured her at all with regards to all that I had been feeling or thinking. And yes you did tell me to pay attention to what she does. I listened & followed to the T. She told me she wants to move in with me late yesterday night. It boggles the mind. After the post stated above my attitude is much different. I'm not sure what to do honestly. I'm more confused than ever. It's like she jumped from us barely speaking & her ignoring me to being bunk mates— My wonderful advisors on here....... WTF!!!! lol HELP ME?!?!?!
I grew a white hair in my head over this new monkey wrench.

Quite frankly, for a gem girl/any gem for this matter, to ask you to move in together is a big deal. Most (well at least me) this is a huuuuge deal and not one taken lightly, we have to truly like you to even consider giving up some of that private space.

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You have a valid point there. When my ex gem wanted us to move in together, I was totally shocked & never thought he'd even consider going there, but he did. A few times. That's a huge deal for them so maybe Lost, you may be misunderstanding her. Miscommunication maybe?

AYYYYYYE—?? .. Well yes what sooogem said about moving in is VERY true.. did you say yes or no— WELL— WHATTA YA WANT TO DO—!!! .. GASP!! The power is shifting, no make her wait a lil while but be nice about it, you can let her know you would like that... eventually, let it grow a lil bit.. see you backed off a bit, she`s fetished too! :O

AWWWWWWWWWWWE @ HELP ME?!?! ..... O_O ... like yeah!!!!

But yes also sometimes virgo`s and gemini`s communication is all over the place when it comes to getting each other emotionally.