Why gemini men,,,, why?

Long story short... We (cappy and gem) have been together for 4 years, been fine.. Things have been fine...

We had a short misunderstanding on text and I thought he was upset.. But it turns out he wasn't. And then he says,, but we do need to have a talk.
I tried to get together tonight because I got nervous and upset and he was not free because he had a family thing, he was texting like normal and meanwhile, I'm here thinking its the end of the world! ( not the world... But you know what I mean). So I asked him what it's about.. Whether its serious.. Can we talk on the phone... And he jokes and laughs and says he's out with the family and no time,

I don't know what to do... I don't even know if it's a serious talk... Am I getting dumped,... (If he dumps me, I swear,,, I will be pissed after 4 years...).. Or is it just a talk about us and where we are...

Ugh!!!!! It's driving me nuts!!!!!

Some enlightenment gems? He's been texting me good morning every day like he always does... 😢

^^+infinity 🙂

Dear Cap girl dating a Gem,
I know you're worried, but chances are.. He will be in a better mood later and will forget what he wanted to talk about. You need to learn how to trust your Gem man.
Sometimes, they have something to say, and by the time it's time to say it, they've moved on and everything is all right and dandy.

Stop worrying, it'll be all right.

Signed,

Cap girl also dating a Gem.

Thanks guys.... I once read that gems cracking jokes is a good sign... It's when they get serious and talk, that's when there's an issue,

I hope it's nothing and just a fleeting thought... I can't handle more stress like this right now sitting and wondering,

Mercurys retrograde isn't helping either....

I guess I can't push him to talk if he's not ready. I'll let him come to me I guess? Unless my stubborn cappy head ignores him.....

Oh dear... my cappy fingers are itching to say something 😢

I feel like asking him if we are gonna talk.. what's going on.. blah blah blah..

but when i re-read his texts which were all jokey.. it makes me feel like I might be overreacting.

I know him too well.. that he can't be pushed to do something he's not ready or wanting to do (a gem thing I suppose?).
Should I wait? Should I let him come to me?

I hope I haven't lost him... after 4 years and this is how it plays out.. I'd be pissed. 😢

Posted by savagetai
Oh dear... my cappy fingers are itching to say something 😢

I feel like asking him if we are gonna talk.. what's going on.. blah blah blah..

but when i re-read his texts which were all jokey.. it makes me feel like I might be overreacting.

I know him too well.. that he can't be pushed to do something he's not ready or wanting to do (a gem thing I suppose?).
Should I wait? Should I let him come to me?

I hope I haven't lost him... after 4 years and this is how it plays out.. I'd be pissed. 😢

Cappy girl,

I'm telling you this, because I've been through it.
And bare with me, because I normally speak French, but I'll do my best to explain.

You need to learn how to stop stressing about things like this.
It can be learned, and I did.. So can you.
I know it's eating you inside, you need answers, you want them now, you just HAVE to know and you don't want to wait..

But Gems, they're the opposite of that.
They're like flowers. Or, a cake you're baking.
You can't push a flower to bloom faster by opening it up. You can't crank the over higher to make it bake faster (It'll burn).
You just have to wait for it to be ready.

That's why you need to learn how to be patient.
But because you have to be patient doesn't mean you have to sit in your living room wondering about ifs and whats and things.

That's why you have to do other things to change your mind.

Like call friends and hangout, or go shopping.
Or play video games.. I don't know what you're into really, but just do things you love in order to not think about when he's going to be ready. It's what I do, and after a while, Gem will talk to me and tell me what's wrong and we will talk..

I learned the wrong way that pushing a Gem to talk will end up in an explosion. That's why I'm telling you this.
Used to always ask mines (I know 6 Gems, best friends and friendlationship) and because I care, I was always all like: "Aww tell me. I'm listening. Please tell me. I wanna know!" and all of them all told me to STFU (Literally) because I was too pushy.

So I learned to wait, and it payed off. I got better results with all of them.

So, whatever you do. DO NOT PRESSURE him.. You'll get the opposite of what you want. Which is answers.

Ok so what happened? Any updates?

What happened to the Virgo?

Virgo was a long time ago! 🙂


Update: I was right.. we did need to talk.. and we are taking some time apart.
Note to everyone.. he's a gem with an aquarian moon. Doesn't get more flighty than this.
He basically said that he felt that his personal life was stagnant.. it wasn't really progressing, and that the way he feels with friends, family and me.. was just stagnant. he admitted to being selfish and very independent and he's not sure that's how he wants to be. He said he likes being on his own which is fine but it doesn't progress him in any aspects and it's not what we wants. He's not sure what he wants. I knew that both of us were not in pursuit of marriage and kids anytime soon because that's not what we want right now.. but whether we want to have it ultimately.. was a different story. So he said he needs some time to think this through.. and I know we both have things to consider in terms of long term, but i don't like not knowing. and then i started crying.

He pulled me close and started tearing up and just a sad mess. I never thought he was capable of such emotions but that made me cry even more to see him upset. He couldn't stop kissing me and telling me how much he cared about me and he told me he doesn't want to date anyone else because that isn't the issue.. and he hopes that I don't too for now. I don't feel like I can anyways... i love him way too much.
There's nothing between us that's bad.. the physical is super amazing.. he admits he needs to take lots of cold showers now with me not around.. we always have a good time...
The only thing i can say is... I am always there to make him happy. Always.
Perhaps too much sometimes.. and he needs to see what he's missing.

I'm patient but a little emotional about it all(being a cappy with a pisces moon).
I don't really know what to do.. how it'll play out or what I should do.
I'll always feel like reaching out, but i know that i'll probably play cold turkey to avoid being hurt.

Any advice?
I don't want this to end...

And of course... i want to reach out to him.. but I want to make sure he has his space...

i need to like... text everyone else.. but him! 😢

any advice/comments would be appreciated. 🙂

The way I understand things. He wants to be with you, but he also doesn't know what he wants himself.

Like my Gem. He likes to be around me, see me as his girl, but he also likes to be around other girls and he want his life to progress.
They like to move around too much to stay at the same place for too long. Stay with the same person too long.
Young Gems at least. Because I know a lot of mature Gems and once they settle, it's for good and for a long time.

I also know they tend to realize that something good is gone from their life once it's missing. And that when they have something really good, like us Caps who can show them that stability can be good for their busy minds, they get trapped.

Kind of like keeping a buzzing bee in a cage. Even though you bring a perfect flower to the bee everyday, giving it security, the bee will still long for freedom.
It's the same with Gems.

So do your own things for a while. Don't reach out. Change his name in your phone to "Do not contact"
If he contacts you, answer friendly but never like you're his girl.

Make him miss you.

I'm currently in the process of doing the same thing so if you want support, let me know. I'll give you my contact info and we can be like two recovering drug addicts talking to each other instead of talking to our Gems and run back to them 🙂