Why the HELL did I drunk dial him?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by RealTalk on Sunday, April 7, 2013 and has 43 replies.
WTF!!!!! Why oh why did I do this? I was doing soooooo good at NC with him & all of a sudden I get a weak DRUNK moment & call him. He has been contacting me lately & I've been ignoring him, but now I wanna grow some balls & call him & say "Let's go out next week"...he agreed. He just said ok.
Now normally I wouldn't have never called him & especially to say that?! Jeeeeeez...now IDK if I can keep that appointment with him. I want to see him but simultaneously I can't be bothered. I will not be contacting him to find out either. Dammit man!! I do miss him & have been thinking about him, but he's 50 shades of fucked up...*confused* Crying
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He's been contacting you, right? Ok, so let HIM lead the show. It will be easy for you, just relax, listen and watch him. Don't get drunk though Winking
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Posted by pathfinder
He's been contacting you, right? Ok, so let HIM lead the show. It will be easy for you, just relax, listen and watch him. Don't get drunk though Winking


Lol...I intend to just relax & breathe. Oh yeah, & no drinking. Big Grin
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Posted by CluelessCancer
Cause you can't always compartmentalize or control your feelings..sometimes you just got to go with the flow man..congrats.



Congrats?
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It happens.
If you don't feel like kickin' it with him next weekend, don't pick up the phone.
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Cause you can't always compartmentalize or control your feelings..sometimes you just got to go with the flow man..congrats.



Congrats?


On being human and not such a Robot. Winking *chuckles*
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Nope. I'd rather be a robot & not feel shit. Like your Virgo. *chuckles*
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Posted by antonarnia
It happens.
If you don't feel like kickin' it with him next weekend, don't pick up the phone.


But that's the thing...I WANT to kick it with him, I also want to kick him. Tongue
I change my mind like the wind so I may feel totally different next week. We'll see. Winking
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Posted by xdimplez
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WTF!!!!! Why oh why did I do this? I was doing soooooo good at NC with him & all of a sudden I get a weak DRUNK moment & call him. He has been contacting me lately & I've been ignoring him, but now I wanna grow some balls & call him & say "Let's go out next week"...he agreed. He just said ok.
Now normally I wouldn't have never called him & especially to say that?! Jeeeeeez...now IDK if I can keep that appointment with him. I want to see him but simultaneously I can't be bothered. I will not be contacting him to find out either. Dammit man!! I do miss him & have been thinking about him, but he's 50 shades of fucked up...*confused* Crying



well before i can answer this question i need to know the dynamics of your relationship
what made you love him?
why did you two break up?
how is he so fucked up?
and why are you so conflicted with him at the moment when its evident that you miss him?
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what made you love him?
The immediate comfort I felt from being with him, the flow, his light kindred spirit.
why did you two break up?
We had a huge fight last summer, never actually verbally said that we were broken up, but we just stopped communicating.
how is he so fucked up?
He has low self esteem & is a little bi-polar even though he hasn't been diagnosed. He has some issues.
and why are you so conflicted with him at the moment when its evident that you miss him
Because I don't want to revert back to the negative place we used to be in. I'm also afraid of my feelings for him. I know if I see him, I'm going to want to kiss him, touch him, make love to him, & I can't do that with him at this point. I have self control to an extent. I mostly go with logic but I know he's going to touch me & I may not be able to resist him, but it's crazy because I do want to see him. Guess If I do, I can't let him touch me. I need him to learn a lesson in all of this, is why I cannot give in to my desires for him.
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Posted by xdimplez
Posted by RealTalk
WTF!!!!! Why oh why did I do this? I was doing soooooo good at NC with him & all of a sudden I get a weak DRUNK moment & call him. He has been contacting me lately & I've been ignoring him, but now I wanna grow some balls & call him & say "Let's go out next week"...he agreed. He just said ok.
Now normally I wouldn't have never called him & especially to say that?! Jeeeeeez...now IDK if I can keep that appointment with him. I want to see him but simultaneously I can't be bothered. I will not be contacting him to find out either. Dammit man!! I do miss him & have been thinking about him, but he's 50 shades of fucked up...*confused* Crying



well before i can answer this question i need to know the dynamics of your relationship
what made you love him?
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Oh on a superficial note, the sex, his smile...not to mention how georgous he is. That also heightened the attraction, but other than that he's really a sweetheart.
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Posted by CluelessCancer
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Posted by CluelessCancer
Cause you can't always compartmentalize or control your feelings..sometimes you just got to go with the flow man..congrats.



Congrats?


On being human and not such a Robot. Winking *chuckles*


Nope. I'd rather be a robot & not feel shit. Like your Virgo. *chuckles*


You're mean.
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I'm not trying to be mean. I'm being really honest. I WISH I didn't feel anything.
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Hey RT smile
I'm not sure what to say... But, I am curious to know how it goes. I hope it goes well! smile
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coz you were drunk?
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Posted by RealTalk
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WTF!!!!! Why oh why did I do this? I was doing soooooo good at NC with him & all of a sudden I get a weak DRUNK moment & call him. He has been contacting me lately & I've been ignoring him, but now I wanna grow some balls & call him & say "Let's go out next week"...he agreed. He just said ok.
Now normally I wouldn't have never called him & especially to say that?! Jeeeeeez...now IDK if I can keep that appointment with him. I want to see him but simultaneously I can't be bothered. I will not be contacting him to find out either. Dammit man!! I do miss him & have been thinking about him, but he's 50 shades of fucked up...*confused* Crying



well before i can answer this question i need to know the dynamics of your relationship
what made you love him?
why did you two break up?
how is he so fucked up?
and why are you so conflicted with him at the moment when its evident that you miss him?


what made you love him?
The immediate comfort I felt from being with him, the flow, his light kindred spirit.
why did you two break up?
We had a huge fight last summer, never actually verbally said that we were broken up, but we just stopped communicating.
how is he so fucked up?
He has low self esteem & is a little bi-polar even though he hasn't been diagnosed. He has some issues.
and why are you so conflicted with him at the moment when its evident that you miss him
Because I don't want to revert back to the negative place we used to be in. I'm also afraid of my feelings for him. I know if I see him, I'm going to want to kiss him, touch him, make love to him, & I can't do that with him at this point. I have self control to an extent. I mostly go with logic but I know he's going to touch me & I may not be able to resist him, but it's crazy because I do want to see him. Guess If I do, I can't let him touch me. I need him to learn a lesson in all of this, is why I cannot give in to my desires for him.
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Ahh...RT, I feel yah, and it proves that you're not a robot. See how you feel next week and then decidesmile
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I'm sure they make a app for locking your phone out from drunk dialing or texting lol....no but for real we have all done it. He will probably admire you taking the lead, we Gems love that....if he still appears 50 shades of fucked up (love that analogy BTW) then you can just say I was gonna try to give this one more shot but clearly you haven't fixed these issues....good luck!
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Posted by misslissa
Hey RT smile
I'm not sure what to say... But, I am curious to know how it goes. I hope it goes well! smile


Thanks ML!!
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Gemeliorist, yeah I am. I believe I'm EMO because I'm pms'ing...I will probably forget about it next week...at least that's what I'm hoping.
GemJenn, yeah he may like the initiation, but I'm not the initiator in my relationships, it was always him. I can't think about it too much though, I just have to flow with it.
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I hear you xdimps. IDK what I even want right now. I'm not even ready for a relationship with anyone, let alone an EX. I have to listen to my brain again because my heart is the devil sitting on my shoulder & the angel is my brain, lol. I'm gonna kick it with Ms. Brain right now & take it very slow. I'm not going to contact him at all & if he does, I'll proceed from there.
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A part of me wants to show off a bit too. I want him to see how great I look. How pretty my new hair color & style is, how my skin glows, how "apple-y" my butt looks, hehe Tongue
You know, make him drool & just totally leave him hanging. Big Grin
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*bump*
I don't think the drunk dialing was so bad after all. Big Grin
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Lol! Details.... So, did.you go out with him....? smile
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No we didn't officially go out yet, but he has been contacting me a lot. We made plans this week but he's having a hard time. He just lost a friend/co-worker of his. I met with him briefly last night. I guess he needed someone to console him a bit. He was pretty EMO & cried a little. He doesn't mind crying in front of me at all.
We talked about that & other things. We hugged, kissed...on the cheek! No heavy kissing, & was holding each other's hand. It was short & sweet. After I left he called me & asked if he could spend the night. I told him maybe another time. I can't jump into anything with him. I have to become friends with him again before anything, & see how much effort he puts into pursuing me. I'm letting him take the lead at my pace. Winking
But it was so good to see him again, & touch him...jeeeeeez! I feel like a girl in HS who finally kissed her crush!!!
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He'd just lost his friend last night. Right before I met with him he received the call. His co-worker was someone I knew as well, & had no idea he was speaking of the same person. Very small world. I learned he was speaking of this person when I viewed my fb page.
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile
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Because you can't deal with unresolved relationship issues by running away from them or pretending they aren't there.
if you don't deal with it with him, it'll keep coming up in future relationships...
Whatever it is. I don't claim to know what it is.
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Posted by misslissa
Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile
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Posted by Marmotini
Because you can't deal with unresolved relationship issues by running away from them or pretending they aren't there.
if you don't deal with it with him, it'll keep coming up in future relationships...
Whatever it is. I don't claim to know what it is.


Yup. I know.
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile
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Yea... I'm a watery gem, too. smile Cancer moon, merc and mars.... I was lucky enough to end up with a gem venus, but having a moon in it's home sign makes it difficult. The internal battles... I can only imagine what he must go through... And thanks for the hugs back. They are also appreciated! smile
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Posted by RealTalk
No we didn't officially go out yet, but he has been contacting me a lot. We made plans this week but he's having a hard time. He just lost a friend/co-worker of his. I met with him briefly last night. I guess he needed someone to console him a bit. He was pretty EMO & cried a little. He doesn't mind crying in front of me at all.
We talked about that & other things. We hugged, kissed...on the cheek! No heavy kissing, & was holding each other's hand. It was short & sweet. After I left he called me & asked if he could spend the night. I told him maybe another time. I can't jump into anything with him. I have to become friends with him again before anything, & see how much effort he puts into pursuing me. I'm letting him take the lead at my pace. Winking
But it was so good to see him again, & touch him...jeeeeeez! I feel like a girl in HS who finally kissed her crush!!!


I'm letting him take the lead at my pace. But it was so good to see him again, & touch him...jeeeeeez! I feel like a girl in HS who finally kissed her crush!!!
Ahhh...Nice. Rooting for yah RT Winking
(haven't figured out how to bold yet.....) Sad
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile
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@ML
Gems are so misunderstood about how serious and patient we can be.... when we need/want to be.
@RT
Most don't realize that Gems are often very sensitive behind the theatrics. We can be very expressive emotionally without really understanding our emotions and generally have little fear in displaying them.
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile



Oh god, Water Moon and Venus in Cancer...like me....Plus its a Mutable Moon like his Sun sign at least I have a fixed Moon, stablizes things a bit, not much but yeah, just a bit...not so bi-polar....
Well, an earth sign can be good at times for us(grounds us) but they can become to protective over us, we see and feel that as smothering and controlling, I tend to run when that happens. I hate earth signs are very simplistic in their thought process, Gems, with water Moons, are deep as can be, earth signs will get frustrated at our complex thought processs and try to wrap it up in one sentence and tell us to get over it, trivializing our feeling and over all make us feel like we're fools and a joke....this drives me insane and I will pack my bag in a fucking heartbeat if you make me feel as if what I'm thinking and feeling is a joke, you won't ever see me again....

Earth signs need to show more respect to those of us that go deeper than the earthy/ground they stand on.
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What? Where did you dig that bullshit up from? I'm an "Earth" sign but my chart is dominated by air boo. Not so earthy there. Did that hurt your feelings or some shit because you seemed to take that pretty personal. I don't know who you've dealt with in the past, but don't put me in a group about your fucked up views regarding "Earth" signs.
You have no idea of what type of respect I show to ANYONE or how deep my feelings are. Don't project your bullshit experiences onto me. PEOPLE PE
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PEOPLE PERIOD need to show more respect to those of us that choose not to display our emotions on a billboard, & declare our undying love from the top of the mountains. Just because they're not "all in your face" doesn't mean they're not there & I'd appreciate it if people would realize that. If I didn't have emotions this thread wouldn't exsist.
I will pack my bag in a fucking heartbeat if you make me feel as if what I'm thinking & feeling is not as "emotional" as you'd like it to be. That can be very draining & annoying if someone is whining all the damn time, expecting you to hold their hand through everything. Ya won't ever see me again.
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile


Yea... I'm a watery gem, too. smile Cancer moon, merc and mars.... I was lucky enough to end up with a gem venus, but having a moon in it's home sign makes it difficult. The internal battles... I can only imagine what he must go through... And thanks for the hugs back. They are also appreciated! smile
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He's a oxymoron...Big Grin
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Awww, sorry for your loss... I'm sure he will remember that you were there for him with no strings attatched. smile I understand what you're saying about becoming friends again, first. And, it sounds like a good plan. Just make sure he understands that, too. If he's serious, he'll give you all the time you need and be as patient as he can. I'm also glad you had a good time with him, despite the loss. Hugs to both of you! smile


Thank you ML, I appreciate that. Yes, 1 day at a time. He's really sensitive but I used to think he was just being dramatic. But I realize he can be very emotional. Pisces Moon, Cancer Venus. Yup, a watery Gem. Thanks for the hugs!!! Sending them back to you! smile


@ML
Gems are so misunderstood about how serious and patient we can be.... when we need/want to be.
@RT
Most don't realize that Gems are often very sensitive behind the theatrics. We can be very expressive emotionally without really understanding our emotions and generally have little fear in displaying them.
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Yes!! I understand him better. I think I would hurt his feelings & not even be aware that I was doing so. "Dual"(ly) noted...Tongue
He's cried in front of me before & it just breaks my heart to see him cry. Whenever he's like that, I comfort him with a listening ear, hugs, & love.
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Posted by DeeGee
@RT: Typical Earth attitude...I pulled that shit out of my own experiences with Earth people and your response just validated everything I posted. Keep up the good work.


Doesn't have a thing to do with me being "Earth" but everything to do with me responding to sloppy thinkers & stupid bullshit. I have no time for nonsense & if that translates over to being EARTH, well I wear it proudly boo. Thanks...the work I put in is fantastic...no complaints at all.
You've never had a RL experience with me so keep that shit to the left.
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Posted by DeeGee
@RT: Typical Earth attitude...I pulled that shit out of my own experiences with Earth people and your response just validated everything I posted. Keep up the good work.


And if I'm annoying you, you can kindly get the fuck off the thread...with love. Earthy enough?
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@RT: Typical Earth attitude...I pulled that shit out of my own experiences with Earth people and your response just validated everything I posted. Keep up the good work.


Doesn't have a thing to do with me being "Earth" but everything to do with me responding to sloppy thinkers & stupid bullshit. I have no time for nonsense & if that translates over to being EARTH, well I wear it proudly boo. Thanks...the work I put in is fantastic...no complaints at all.
You've never had a RL experience with me so keep that shit to the left.



I prefer the right....Tongue
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Whatever floats your boat boo...right, left, side to side...hell, do the cha cha for all I care...hehehe Tongue
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@RT: Typical Earth attitude...I pulled that shit out of my own experiences with Earth people and your response just validated everything I posted. Keep up the good work.


And if I'm annoying you, you can kindly get the fuck off the thread...with love. Earthy enough?


No, thats just a bad attitude...
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Thanks for proving my point from the beginning. I'm just a bitch sometimes & it has nothing to do with Earth & I own that fully, but uh...what's your excuse? YOU'RE the one that's annoyed hun, or else you wouldn't have posted your little bitch rant. FOH...
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Posted by DeeGee
I was gonna continue this BS but decided to hide the post....keep us posted on the outcome of this union I'm curious to find out what happens. Although I have a pretty good idea.


"keep us posted on the outcome of this union I'm curious to find out what happens" GTFOH...I wouldn't tell you shit because it's none of your business & I know you're just dying to be all up in mine, but uh...try focusing on your life, not mine. Big Grin
But... I gotta say your idea is on point!!! Hahahaha...we're going to get married, have 2 kids & a coupla' pets. Thanks for being my biggest cheerleader!!! smile
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Blah, blah, blah. That's not personal. A drunken fucking text is not personal boo. I could care less about who knows that. I'm addressing what YOU said. "Keep us posted"? Why the fuck should I keep YOU posted about anything I do? Why the hell would you care?
You don't share a similar chart to his. You don't know shit about his chart. What, because I said he was a watery gem? That doesn't have shit to do with you. A couple of similarities in placements does not mean you know how someone operates. Don't you think other factors come into play such as environment, upbringing, male, female, race...because I do. It has ALOT more to do with an INDIVIDUAL than a fucking astrological birth chart.
You didn't like what I SAID that is why you went into bitch mode in the first place. Your watery little feelings were hurt for whatever reason, it's beyond me. I don't care to continue this dumb discourse with your simple ass so fuck off. I don't care if my thread is in the "gem" board, what's that supposed to mean? You're territorial? Kiss my ass bitch.
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Posted by DeeGee
keep us posted on the outcome of this union I'm curious to find out what happens.


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I am not the type to be up in anyone's business on here
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Really? A walking fucking contradiction. Whatever you say hun, lol. Have a nice day DG. smile
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Now it's becoming stupid? Your entire conversation was stupid, that's why I responded the way I did. The reason why you don't do VIRGOS? Lol, obviously because you can't handle us...duh. Most people are intimidated to DO us...we tend to get people open.
You didn't hurt my feelings. You we're being condescending & when people are condescending toward me I tend to go into bitch mode & I've willingly admitted that. I have no patience for tunnel vision fuckery, & nonsense, so I "calls" it out hun. Being a watery Gemini & all, I see how confusing that can be.


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Omg!!!!!!

**** does my infamous robot dance ****** ( virgals just love that dance! )
Lmao.... omg RT!!!! You are hilarious!
I now temporarily put my crusade against the evil virgals.... on hold because RT you are too much!!!!
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