Wondering if this Gemini and I moved too fast?

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by ladylibra21 on Monday, July 13, 2015 and has 15 replies.
We started talking May 4th online, had our first date and met on June 3rd and we had sex for the first time June 22. He has a Venus in Cancer and a Scorpio Moon. Could he just normally move fast? He has had sex with 13 people but has only ever had 2 girlfriends we are getting really close and personal with how he is feeling about his life and he is opening up a lot to me, but I am wondering if I should find a way to slow it down because both of our schedules are so busy that we don't get to see a lot of each other, but the last time I saw him was Wed when he helped me move then we had sex on the 4th of July we were supposed to hang out the next day but he over slept due to working night shift. I am just really starting to like him and I am keeping this barrier there. I don't want to fall for him because he is not sure what career he wants which is affecting whether he wants to be with someone or not. I am not trying to jump to relationship status so soon because i'm a busy person, but I am not trying to be left high and dry either. I feel like it's about to turn into just sleeping with each other because we can only really see each other late at night now or on Sunday during the day. Is it too late to put on the breaks or can I still play up the friendship card? It seems like he respects me, but you can never be sure. Plus we started this around a time where supposedly Venus or the moon something like that was in Sag so supposedly that means it wont last. I would hate for it not to though he is starting to mean something to me.
@moongem but its not meaningless sex to me. I feel an intense connection when we have sex and I care I just don't want to care if he doesn't care.
Thanks guys maybe I am over thinking. I cant get him out of my head though I've never had someone really get me like he does everything just feels like puzzle pieces.
Lust is so right on here. Sometimes it can seem tricky and I should add to this that both Libra and Gemini can have tendencies to misread things by reading into it too much or simply over analyzing things that are just not that big of a deal. You can make a mountain out of a mole hill if not careful so remember that. I can't tell you how many times I have gone back and fourth with my Lib over things that were just, well.. stupid. So yes let it flow naturally and don't place assumptions on each other as this will only cause unnecessary issues. Us Gems can have a sharp tongue especially if we have given our heart to you and we think you are tearing it out or not appreciative. Lust is so correct when she said "thank god I didn't open my big mouth." That statement is so true. We don't mean to be mean, we just love that intensely when we finally think you are "the one." Libra's though known for such indecisiveness, do have the tendency to lead the Gemini on and then when we fall head over heels for them they try to do the pull away tactic, at least that's how we see it. Do not put up barriers. This is a no no. Have you done this to him unknowingly? If you are busy just let him know it and sometimes yes you may need to remind him repetitively. If you want things to go further then you need to be creative in finding ways to do it, you can make it happen. I always state to my Libra, it is a two way street and I can't do all the work. It takes two.
Thanks @Lust and @gemguy I am trying not to be that way, but after last night I keep feeling like I have to ignore him. He was kind of quiet yesterday after opening up to me about what he wanted in his life and I thought that was because he was tired from working night shift. Well last night he completely ignored me and I know he worked last night which was strange for me because we normally talk until I fall asleep. Today is his day off and I know he has been up for at least 2 hours and he hasn't said a word to me. Sad The only thing he said was "sleepy time" this morning when he got off work. But I know his ass was on Tinder all night Grr. This is the kind of stuff that makes me want to run away!
It may have just been that it wasn't the right time to bring it up. Remember, don't rush things and don't put up barriers. I know it's hard but if you do that, he will mirror you and do the same and that will get you nowhere fast. And as far as him not answering you right away, heh I can go on and on about Libra doing that to us Gems sometimes, but it doesn't matter because about what's in the past because it is part of getting to know one another and the do's and don'ts. I have learned that the best thing you can do is give each other space. Not doing so will only lead to inappropriate assumptions of one another which will kill all the good and have everything out of whack. When you come together is when you come together and it will make the experience much more worthwhile...believe me I know from my own experience. Winking It is true that absence makes the heart fonder..

Btw, now that's it's been a few days, how are things going?
Libralady- what's your Moon, Venus and Mars?
.@gemguy I gentley called him out on his withdrawal told him he could be honest with me &he said that he guesses he was thinking about the conversation we had about eventually wanting a relationship with him. In this convo I was explaining that I wasn't anyone's fuck buddy &I said that because I would eventually want one but when I say eventually that means a year from now &he is a fast mover so I think he thought I wanted something sooner he told me that he thought about his intentions &didn't want to get too serious too fast
and that he wasn't sure what to do because he still wanted to hang out with me but tnought I was getting serious. I explained to him that I shouldn't have worded it that way &that I just wanted to get the point across that I wasn't a fuck buddy.
He said he will still continue to do those things &we were always cool he just wasn't sure about how to get the point across to me. I told him I still want to have fun with him &jump his bones I just don't want him to use me for sex. He has since been acting normal and I'm just gonna chill and let him come to me
@WateryGem I have a Cancer moon, Sag Venus, and Leo Mars
Posted by ladylibra21
@WateryGem I have a Cancer moon, Sag Venus, and Leo Mars

Damn, I click so hard with Cancer Moon people... I can't help but want to cry for him, it's so hard to let go those connections. LOL My closest connections are with Cancer Moon people. Your love language will probably be different than his.. so it really depends on how you process your emotions. He will hide his emotions, especially, until, he feels confident you're not going to leave him high and dry. I noticed the more secure I feel with someone the more I share. I don't like things really moving fast..

For instance my ex Libra messaged me last night wanting to give "us" a shot again it triggered this fear in me b/c I hate feeling rushed or pressured. I do like knowing where I stand but I don't want to feel forced.
@WateryGem do you think I should back off then and ignore him some or should I still pick up when he calls? I think he has a hard time letting it go as well because last night he was like I saw you booted me off Tinder but I skipped right for you again anyway. I didn't boot him off I just deleted and redownloaded my account,but I wondered if it was just an ego thing or if he really cares? I don't mean cares as in love but as in wants to keep things going.
Please be fun and have stimulating conversation... we love someone that can make us laugh and flirt, and get really deep but come right back to being silly.
Posted by WateryGem
Please be fun and have stimulating conversation... we love someone that can make us laugh and flirt, and get really deep but come right back to being silly.

This is us all the way! But I am just gonna definitely back off he called a couple of time yesterday to tell me something crazy that happened at work, but he could have just been calling because someone else wasn't picking up. I am just gonna keep it in my head that there is probably someone else so I wont get too attached.
Watery Gem is right on with the statement "disappearing is something that is good when you are trying to get our attention but once we are in and truly connected, don't do this, it will ruin the trust and confidence." Let the door revolve a little bit yes, but like has been stated before be careful not to let things go into an uncontrollable spin.