A little help over here please!! :)
This topic was created in the Leo forum by humorme on Wednesday, September 4, 2013 and has 5 replies.
So here??s my story. Any advice given would be nice!!
It??s been 3 months since I got my new job and I can??t seem to get along with a male colleague of mine, who happens to be a leo! Now, I know little about signs, well besides mine (pisces), so I could use your advice on how to behave towards him, since we have to work closely every day.
I am running out of patience though with his behaviour, and inspite of the fact that I treet him with respect and strictness, he doesn??t seem to bother at all and continues to let??s say... ???reject?? me as a colleague!
Let me point out that the first day i got there and our boss introduced us... he asked me my sign. I don??t know if that makes any sense and could be a reason for his behaviour, but some of my colleagues pointed out that he has a ???thing?? for astrology!!
The weirdest part of this typical working environment story is that a couple of days ago he asked me to join him at a party he had to go! And when I asked him if it??s a business party, he said no!! And then he just walked away without even hearing my answer!!
My friends told me that he might be into me. But I don??t care about that.
So I have a question for you:
Astrologically speaking, how can I make a leo understand that his behavior is unacceptable by me without causing any further tension between us?
(I usually deal with strong-headed people in a calm and assertive way, regardless their sign and I always succeed. But this guy... seems to be a very strong ???opponent??!! Lol)
It??s been 3 months since I got my new job and I can??t seem to get along with a male colleague of mine, who happens to be a leo! Now, I know little about signs, well besides mine (pisces), so I could use your advice on how to behave towards him, since we have to work closely every day.
I am running out of patience though with his behaviour, and inspite of the fact that I treet him with respect and strictness, he doesn??t seem to bother at all and continues to let??s say... ???reject?? me as a colleague!
Let me point out that the first day i got there and our boss introduced us... he asked me my sign. I don??t know if that makes any sense and could be a reason for his behaviour, but some of my colleagues pointed out that he has a ???thing?? for astrology!!
The weirdest part of this typical working environment story is that a couple of days ago he asked me to join him at a party he had to go! And when I asked him if it??s a business party, he said no!! And then he just walked away without even hearing my answer!!
My friends told me that he might be into me. But I don??t care about that.
So I have a question for you:
Astrologically speaking, how can I make a leo understand that his behavior is unacceptable by me without causing any further tension between us?
(I usually deal with strong-headed people in a calm and assertive way, regardless their sign and I always succeed. But this guy... seems to be a very strong ???opponent??!! Lol)
I definitely agree with @jynja. Discussing it over lunch would be perfect. But be sure to look him in his eyes and be firm. Don't let him intimidate you. And when he realizes that you are serious and you're showing no fear, he'll respect you and might even back down a little bit. When you stand up to them, they kind of coward down. We'll, at least this was my own personal experience with a Leo man at work. He tried to be all tough with me one day when we had a disagreement, I shut him down so bad. He was following me around and kissing my a** from that day foward. Lol! I'm a Pisces too btw. 
Thank you so much for the advice!!
I'm concerned though that if I ask him out on meal or even lunch he might take it the wrong way!! And my goal is to make him calm down a little bit, not to boost his ego!! lol
Jynja: He is a leo and if you are telling me that this is not the typical leo behavior then we have a serious problem here!! lol.
missnia08: I'm not intimidated in general and when I look him straight in the eyes and be firm (which is what I have been doing for the past few months we work together) that makes him even more competitive. I'm just trying to find the best possible, civilized way to avoid a conflict!! Well, of course I have no other option and my mercury in aries wakes up!!
But... I will try what you both suggested and may the stars help me!! lol
Besides... things couldn't get any worse!!)
I'm concerned though that if I ask him out on meal or even lunch he might take it the wrong way!! And my goal is to make him calm down a little bit, not to boost his ego!! lol
Jynja: He is a leo and if you are telling me that this is not the typical leo behavior then we have a serious problem here!! lol.
missnia08: I'm not intimidated in general and when I look him straight in the eyes and be firm (which is what I have been doing for the past few months we work together) that makes him even more competitive. I'm just trying to find the best possible, civilized way to avoid a conflict!! Well, of course I have no other option and my mercury in aries wakes up!!
But... I will try what you both suggested and may the stars help me!! lol
Besides... things couldn't get any worse!!
)
So this is what i think... I think that you did or said something. I absolutely hate it when new people come in anywhere and try to takeover ..at work , on DXP anywhere. I want to be like "where in the hell did you come from".
Maybe you did not. So if you are certain that it is not you and it is him then being direct is the only way to go about it. As fire signs we appreciate straightforwardness. Just say "dude what the ..." or "can I talk to you for a minute...then say I don't know if you like me or not but the last time a guy acted this way, I was 6 and he was 7". Then walk away. Just give him a taste of his own medicine.
What you don't want is an enemy. Especially not a Leo. I am pretty sure his influence at work is huge. So pick your battles. You can't go to war over every little thing.
Lastly, if a new person at my job called out a co-worker who had earned his stripes they would be banned to the corner lunch table for life. They would be labeled some kind of trouble maker, butter starter, brown nosing newbee, IJS. You sure you want to do this so soon? Three months isn't exactly a lifetime you know.
Maybe you did not. So if you are certain that it is not you and it is him then being direct is the only way to go about it. As fire signs we appreciate straightforwardness. Just say "dude what the ..." or "can I talk to you for a minute...then say I don't know if you like me or not but the last time a guy acted this way, I was 6 and he was 7". Then walk away. Just give him a taste of his own medicine.
What you don't want is an enemy. Especially not a Leo. I am pretty sure his influence at work is huge. So pick your battles. You can't go to war over every little thing.
Lastly, if a new person at my job called out a co-worker who had earned his stripes they would be banned to the corner lunch table for life. They would be labeled some kind of trouble maker, butter starter, brown nosing newbee, IJS. You sure you want to do this so soon? Three months isn't exactly a lifetime you know.
"As fire signs we appreciate straightforwardness. Just say "dude what the ..."
You sure about that? lol
I don't think that's an appropriate approach... perhaps a more polite version of that could be an appropriate approach... which I've already tried.
"Be VERY clear on this, because either this thread is going to be about you being able to get your work done with him around, or you working it with him around. The two are quite separate."
I would really appreciate it if we can focus on the real "problem" here, which is why I already mentioned it at first place (My friends told me that he might be into me. But I don??t care about that), in case someone brought up that aspect (if he is into me) and started to analyze it!!
I also pointed out that I am not very comfortable with the idea of asking him out on lunch in case i give him the wrong idea!! I think I've been VERY clear about this matter twice!!
"What have you tried to do so far? Often, all it really takes is to flat-out identify the tension and mention that work needs to get done. "I know we don't really get a long, but let's just get our work done."
This is exactly what I've done... twice!! He preferred to smile and simply walked away both times!! Nothing has changed.
"Please define "his behaviour" and "reject."
Something like what Nala13 said: "I absolutely hate it when new people come in anywhere and try to takeover ..at work , on DXP anywhere. I want to be like "where in the hell did you come from"." You can skip the part that says try to takeover cause it doesn't apply to this situation!! And the part of the "new people" since I'm not new to this company. I was just relocated to enhance "his" team!!
"So *is* work getting done after all? Or do you muse feel some level of (possibly manageable) discomfort?
Work is not always getting done the way it should. He creates tension in meetings and that effects the creativity of our entire team. It's simple. If our team sees it's "leaders" to disagree the entire time, that is a problem!! To me at least!!
"Is it that you're too focused on *him* and trying to create a happy situation *rather than* keeping your head down and working?"
Define happy situation...
You sure about that? lol
I don't think that's an appropriate approach... perhaps a more polite version of that could be an appropriate approach... which I've already tried.
"Be VERY clear on this, because either this thread is going to be about you being able to get your work done with him around, or you working it with him around. The two are quite separate."
I would really appreciate it if we can focus on the real "problem" here, which is why I already mentioned it at first place (My friends told me that he might be into me. But I don??t care about that), in case someone brought up that aspect (if he is into me) and started to analyze it!!
I also pointed out that I am not very comfortable with the idea of asking him out on lunch in case i give him the wrong idea!! I think I've been VERY clear about this matter twice!!
"What have you tried to do so far? Often, all it really takes is to flat-out identify the tension and mention that work needs to get done. "I know we don't really get a long, but let's just get our work done."
This is exactly what I've done... twice!! He preferred to smile and simply walked away both times!! Nothing has changed.
"Please define "his behaviour" and "reject."
Something like what Nala13 said: "I absolutely hate it when new people come in anywhere and try to takeover ..at work , on DXP anywhere. I want to be like "where in the hell did you come from"." You can skip the part that says try to takeover cause it doesn't apply to this situation!! And the part of the "new people" since I'm not new to this company. I was just relocated to enhance "his" team!!
"So *is* work getting done after all? Or do you muse feel some level of (possibly manageable) discomfort?
Work is not always getting done the way it should. He creates tension in meetings and that effects the creativity of our entire team. It's simple. If our team sees it's "leaders" to disagree the entire time, that is a problem!! To me at least!!
"Is it that you're too focused on *him* and trying to create a happy situation *rather than* keeping your head down and working?"
Define happy situation...
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