Alrighty..... what's the story leo guys?

Ah flip, I'm usually so switched on and clued up but I'll admit when it comes to the opposite sex, I need some educating lol!

Okay, story is this:

Met a Leo guy. I wasn't overly interested at first, I thought he was just out for the bed-hop. I ignored him most of the time. I let him come round one night and we sat up talking for hours. He didn't make a move on me, it was just a talk, bit of a giggle blah blah blah.

Since then we've slept together (yes, yes, it's pretty hot) and he comes to my home A LOT.

Thing is, he'll pop in for coffee, come round to make me dinner, he'll help me with stuff around the home. Sometimes we do the deed but not always, it doesn't seem to be about that (although hot dig it, you leo guys are wild lmao!).

So.... when he's here (and he must enjoy it because he's here a lot by his own choosing)there is no kissing, no cuddling etc, it's mates.
And that's okay, a FWB is what it seems to be so far. He contacts me every day, several times a day, tetxing, emailing, calling round, picking things up for me and so on.

We've spoken about relationships just in general. 4 times he's asked whether I want kids, he does, I'm undecided. So... he's due to leave the country in a few weeks and I'd actually like to be in something more with him. He did make a comment about being worried about meeting someone because he'd wrestle with staying or going and yet here he is, night after night, popping round "for half an hour" and just staying here. Last night he was due to go out with his mates and he just didn't, he stayed with me.

Mixed signals: no intimacy. Here all the time. Talking about moving (I don't mention it). Loves to do things for me. Contacts me all the time. And yet seems to have walls up.

hat to do? Ask him if he wants more and risk being rejected (although that's not a huge deal, I don't much care, I'll survive lol) or not ask him and wonder?

How can I broach it oh wise Lions (and Lionesses)?

well u've got it all figured out then! if ur not afraid of the truth and possibly risking rejection then definitely ask him straight up! we leos have a tendency to be rather blunt and will usually tell u exactly what is going on... even if it means we don't know just yet. at least we'll tell u. go for it!

agreed.....Im leo female but if you ask directly I'll certainly tell you - am seeing a Leo man as well (yeah go figure LOL) and he's much the same.....but ask directly, dont beat about the bush 🙂

Yes, just ask. I for one, appreciate honesty and being straight forward. Leo's don't play a lot of games when it comes to how we feel about you. Don't fear rejection because if you don't ask you will never know and then you have to deal with the "unknown" and the "what if" of the situation. Sometimes, that can be worse than rejection.

I'm confused....Why would she ask him? If he's FWB there is no real relationship and most likely will never be....Now let's watch this get complicated after he rejects her *sigh* this ship is going down fast. Another girl that can't be in an FWB situation and now attempts to set boundaries, get love, get some semblence of a real relationship by asking, ASKING IS THE DOWNFALL of all relationships, your going to be hugely disappointed. If you like his company, if you enjoy him being around my suggestion is to let leo lead you into a relationship, if he doesn't then kick his ass to the curb and find another lover and maybe you might try being clear about the relationship before entering into sex to alleviate the drama...jus saying

Leo women are nothing like the men relationship wise, the women are straight the men are not so straight up like leo females, you will not get the answer you won't, if he's honest he will be brutally honest and say no, if he's uncomfortable he will give you a side ways answer and avoid you to allow you time to detach from him...so be sure you know what your getting into.

It's been so long that i logged in here, I'd forgotten about this thread.

The end result was this: Leo male was most definitely interested and we ended up dating for a while. I liked him...except he had a childish way of using silent treatment when he was pissed off. No communication, no relationship as far as I'm concerned, so i ended it.

Shame really, because he was quite sweet in a lot of ways - but without communication it's impossible.

Meh.... :o)

Hey NZAqua...question for ya!

Did you ever think that the reason why he never communicated is because he didn't feel comfortable to do so with you? Or maybe because he felt so strongly hurt (for whatever reason), that he felt the need to control his emotions before talking to you? The main reason why I'm asking is because I do the same thing when I'm upset with my Aqua friend, and he is probably of the same mindset when I distance myself...that it's childish. If anything, maybe you could help me see the other perspective.

Throughout my friendship with this Aqua, I've been hurt many times (he is someone that I like more than a friend). He hasn't done anything to hurt me intentionally, but nevertheless; I've been hurt. I stopped talking to him a few times. Not because I wanted to teach him a lesson. Not because I was being a baby. Not because I thought he should make the first move. But because it was painful for me to look him in the face w/out sobbing...or lashing out...or playing the blame game. I couldn't force a smile, something Aquas can do very well.

Aquas can be just as upfront and very "matter of fact" as Leos. Although it's appreciated; it's your ration and logic that can make your straightforwardness sting like a Scorpio when our feelings are involved. Someone (e.g. me) who is feeling/being vulnerable or emotional, doesn't like to have it 'insinuated' that their emotions are invalid because they are irrational. Emotions aren't supposed to be rational, and TBH; it's almost offensive to be made to feel 'discounted' because you sometimes allow your emotions to have their influence. I'm not suggesting that this may have been how you dealt with your Leo. I'm just saying. And in my opinion, intuition or even gut feelings can be just as employable in life as logic and reason.

I think this is one of the biggest conflicts between Leos and Aquas, and as a result; Leos are made out to be demanding and attention seeking, while Aquas are made out to be cold and detached. Neither is true for either sign. It takes two people to make a relationship work. Along with the effort (if both parties want the relationship) involves adjusting to the ways of others. Of course I wouldn't expect an Aqua to continue to pull a hurt Leo out of its lair. Nor would I expect a Leo to shut off his feelings (i.e., not communicate) when he's upset with his Aqua. But with the understanding of each other, the effort could be made find a happy medium.