Am I being paranoid or is something wrong?

Everything was back to being very good before college ended.We hung out everyday,from day to night and were very much connected throughout the day.Then cllg ended and we came back to our respective cities and are now in an ldr.When coming back,I gave him a diary in which I had written about our encounters since day one and my feelings for him,he gave me a handmade cute little card.After coming back however, things have changed.It's been 2 weeks since cllg has ended.We send good morning and good night texts and 7/10 days we talk over the phone for half an hour approx.I am okay with less contact since we both are at our parent's home and it is thus understandable.He tells me he loves me and all.However, a few things have been bothering me.

1.Whenever once or twice I've mentioned if he'll come to visit me when I shift to my job city,he either skips the topic or says I'll see.

2.Today when we were talking,he told me in the past two days,he's been playing minesweeper.I asked him yesterday over text if he was free,he said,he wasn't.And today he said he was playing minesweeper and mind you,he's hadn't called me these two days(except for a 20 sec call yesterday telling me his hangouts crashed and his msgs are not being delivered to me,I was out and said I'll call you back,then he didn't answer when I did).I said nothing.

3.Today when he called,I told him I was going to a place and there will be no network or mobile signals and I was sad I'll not be able to talk to him for approx 10 days.He said-'Yuhoo' :/

When this happened,I didn't react but got very upset.He said I've developed in you the capability to be without talking or talk very less.I said what was the need and got very upset.He said sorry many times then He said you have your lunch.I said okay.He knew I would hang up so he started talking about other stuff.He sensed I still was and then I said if you don't want to talk that much,please let me know straight away instead of 'making me used to not talking much'. He said he loves me,I said okay and then he said 'love you cancelled'.I said what? He didn't repeat.I was sad and said okay don't talk to me now.He was like what?! I said I'm very hurt and if he doesn't want to talk,he should tell it to me straight away.He said he was joking(he always says that when making pathetic comments on break up,etc). I said I don't know why you should make hurtful jokes when here I am everyday wishing to just talk to you.Why cut out on communication when it is the only thing we have when in long distance.He said sorry and I controlled myself.We spoke for another 2-3 mins and then we hung up.
I don't know,maybe I'm being paranoid but maybe this long distance is scaring me.When together he is so loving and nice,infact even in ldr he tells me he loves me but all these things make me feel scared.I don't want to spoil it.I need help.

Posted by lovinglioness1115
"1.Whenever once or twice I've mentioned if he'll come to visit me when I shift to my job city,he either skips the topic or says I'll see." - He's an uncommitted coward

"2.Today when we were talking,he told me in the past two days,he's been playing minesweeper.I asked him yesterday over text if he was free,he said,he wasn't.And today he said he was playing minesweeper and mind you,he's hadn't called me these two days(except for a 20 sec call yesterday telling me his hangouts crashed and his msgs are not being delivered to me,I was out and said I'll call you back,then he didn't answer when I did).I said nothing." - He's not treating the relationship seriously

He tells you that he loves you, but his actions say otherwise. Actions speak louder than words. I'm sorry to say this, but you need to dump him and move on. There are people out there who will treat you right, not like this guy.

That's so sad.He even told me that I'm the only girl he's ever gotten so serious about.That he wants to marry me and all...I feel very bad and let down now 😢 Why then did he say all that? why hang out with me so often when he's not serious? He took 4 yrs to get into a relationship.6yrs after his first relationship he's gotten into one with me after telling me that now whatever he wants,he wants permanent.Can it also be that he wants to break up but wants to do it gradually so that he'll feel that I don't end up as hurt? 😢

Posted by lovinglioness1115
Telling you that you're the only girl he's ever gotten serious about and that he wants to marry you is just his way of trying to tie you to him and keep you attached to him. Don't trust him. His actions are telling you that he doesn't want anything serious between you guys, and I don't like to say that because I always like positive things, but that's what it looks like is going on in his head.

puff all leo men are the same... they all said i wanna marry you. it's all crap..wtf is wrong with them?

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Telling you that you're the only girl he's ever gotten serious about and that he wants to marry you is just his way of trying to tie you to him and keep you attached to him. Don't trust him. His actions are telling you that he doesn't want anything serious between you guys, and I don't like to say that because I always like positive things, but that's what it looks like is going on in his head.

puff all leo men are the same... they all said i wanna marry you. it's all crap..wtf is wrong with them?

We don't use our heads when we're in love, haha. We're emotionally driven; so we tend to think too far ahead when it comes to romantic affairs, hence the topic of marriage often coming up among us (I don't think this tendency only applies to men; I think it can also be applied to women). But this guy definitely has some issues he needs to fix himself before he can go throwing himself at people. I think when he's telling OP that he wants to marry her, it's all B.S.

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My ex told me a few times about marriage even childeren -pretty fast (lol)- but in the end I dont know if he even felt sth about me(?). So I wanna ask u

Only leo men in love can say i wanna marry you because they fall in love fast

or is sth crap to tell you just to keep ur interest?

No, it's true when we say it. But things can change. We just say it too fast and don't really think too far ahead

Update : He called me up yesterday. I missed his call.I called him after 4 mins,his phone was off.It was switched off for another 2 hrs.He's never done this.He then called me up.I missed again.I called back and he said my voice wasn't clear so he'll talk to me day after since tomorrow he has work(he has previously told me about it) and that he had called me just like that.I knew he had called up 2 hrs back to say something but has now changed his mind.I was on Hangouts where I had earlier msgd him I'm sorry so he had replied me 2. I then msgd I love him and that is above everything else,he texted me that his phone wasn't getting signals which is why he had to hangup and we can talk later.He said he's sorry if anything he said hurt me.Then he wrote love you and take care,good night.I saw the msg later and replied,I love you,good night and then slept.In tge morning I saw he had replied with just a smiley.In the morning I texted him good morning,love you,he's not seen the msg and no msg till now.He doesn't do that,atleast he texts good morning and night but today,not even that 😢 I don't want to ruin things...what should I do? Should I contact him,text etc or not?

Posted by sultrykitty
No, it's true when we say it. But things can change. We just say it too fast and don't really think too far ahead

He has said he wants to marry me many times when we were 2 months in the relationship and then the break up happened.After we patched up,he has said it only once or twice,at times avouded saying but still refers to my parents as his in laws or his,mine and stuff like that.One day though I asked if he doesn't want to marry me and he said he wants to but no one knows what will happen eventually,he does want to though.Also once I was flipping out on something and I said what if you don't marry me,he said,If God will want,we'll end up together.
One question,can he view this fight as a dimension of being insecure because he hates that about me and that was the reason of our first break up.I've controlled it a lot now but at times It just happens. 😢

I don't know WHY he's stringing you along.
But he's stringing you along...

You should go out on some dates, hang with friends and delete his number and block his messages @_@
You'll be okay, 🙂 and the feelings will fade with time.
This relationship is not what you think it is... Good luck hun x

dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

You're competing with Minesweeper.

Posted by Montgomery
You're competing with Minesweeper.

😆

*makes fist* Minesweeper 😡

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Posted by Montgomery
You're competing with Minesweeper.

😆

*makes fist* Minesweeper 😡

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😡 😄

Update :
Sorry for not posting for some time.
So next day,I sent him some funny texts (I didn't know what to do) then after 2-3 texts, he replied rather irritated.I was being still nice, he called.He told me he's out of town and hence won't talk for another 3-4 days.I said text? He said he'll see.I said I hope he's not upset,he said not at all.However, his tone was cold.
Next day I didn't text as much as the previous day,but a little more than normal.He has again not sent me good morning and night text.I didn't send him good night text that night.
Yesterday,he called.He spoke normally,told me whatever he's been doing at his relative's place,what all they do each day,etc.He asked me about what I've been doing and all,etc,normal stuff.We spoke for approx 30 mins.Then he said love you too and then we hung up.he texted a plain good night.
Today I haven't got any good morning text,also,no msgs are getting delivered to his phone.
Is he getting back to normal,is really busy or is he still the same?

Posted by TxOgal
dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

Did he do anything after that? What were his reasons?

I would just ignore him...see how many times he initiates conversation and what he says. You seem to be the engine of this relationship train and he is just a disgruntled passenger 😢

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Posted by TxOgal
dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

Did he do anything after that? What were his reasons?

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I made several threads about him in leo forum lol..

One situation he lied to me about him being busy on a day when we were going to meet .... and it was a big problem ..... later i found out from him he made up a lie cause i said something that hurt him lol (want to know what hurt him? i told him are you silly?! lol yes thats what hurt him) anyway several situations he was being flakey and you will hear endless reasons...


no birthday gift... wy didnt you get me one? oh i didnt knw what to get you... ill make it up to you... then he does nothing about it and he knows gifts are meaningful to me.. even if its a piece of paper.. oh and several months forward .. valentines day.. no gift lol n even argued with me that day and had a sharp mouth

i can go on.... but he had all kinds of reasons... busy at work.. sleeping... stressed out... blablablahhhh...

it got just lame.. i felt lonelier with him than being single

he tried to get back... was sweet sometimes.. mean other times when he knew i blocked him and not answering his calls or texts anymore... i just can never be friends with an ex and i know he cant either... bet he just wants to show me that he was the nice guy in the relationship...

im still happy its over.. i wish you luck

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Posted by TxOgal
dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

Did he do anything after that? What were his reasons?

I made several threads about him in leo forum lol..

One situation he lied to me about him being busy on a day when we were going to meet .... and it was a big problem ..... later i found out from him he made up a lie cause i said something that hurt him lol (want to know what hurt him? i told him are you silly?! lol yes thats what hurt him) anyway several situations he was being flakey and you will hear endless reasons...


no birthday gift... wy didnt you get me one? oh i didnt knw what to get you... ill make it up to you... then he does nothing about it and he knows gifts are meaningful to me.. even if its a piece of paper.. oh and several months forward .. valentines day.. no gift lol n even argued with me that day and had a sharp mouth

i can go on.... but he had all kinds of reasons... busy at work.. sleeping... stressed out... blablablahhhh...

it got just lame.. i felt lonelier with him than being single

he tried to get back... was sweet sometimes.. mean other times when he knew i blocked him and not answering his calls or texts anymore... i just can never be friends with an ex and i know he cant either... bet he just wants to show me that he was the nice guy in the relationship...

im still happy its over.. i wish you luck

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You never called him on that? So he was being flakey just like that? No reason?!

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dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

Did he do anything after that? What were his reasons?

I made several threads about him in leo forum lol..

One situation he lied to me about him being busy on a day when we were going to meet .... and it was a big problem ..... later i found out from him he made up a lie cause i said something that hurt him lol (want to know what hurt him? i told him are you silly?! lol yes thats what hurt him) anyway several situations he was being flakey and you will hear endless reasons...


no birthday gift... wy didnt you get me one? oh i didnt knw what to get you... ill make it up to you... then he does nothing about it and he knows gifts are meaningful to me.. even if its a piece of paper.. oh and several months forward .. valentines day.. no gift lol n even argued with me that day and had a sharp mouth

i can go on.... but he had all kinds of reasons... busy at work.. sleeping... stressed out... blablablahhhh...

it got just lame.. i felt lonelier with him than being single

he tried to get back... was sweet sometimes.. mean other times when he knew i blocked him and not answering his calls or texts anymore... i just can never be friends with an ex and i know he cant either... bet he just wants to show me that he was the nice guy in the relationship...

im still happy its over.. i wish you luck

You never called him on that? So he was being flakey just like that? No reason?!

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I did ofcourse .. But he always acted like hes listening.. And even apologized some times .. But he got more careless about me .. I felt like im the one who wants to make all effort to keep this relationship. Reason? No.. All i got was lame excuses .. Only reason i know is its obvious he wasnt serious about it.. Or not ready.. Or sees no future.. Anyway he could have just talked honestly about what "he" wants to do. But no he just wanted to string me along.. He was getting the love and care and intimacy anyway what hes got to lose?! Lol i was blindly in love but i learned to watch my steps and keep my eyes open

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Posted by TxOgal
dont worry.. you're a bull.. you'll get over him fast... I did

i dumped the leo when he got too flakey like that and i was right (with help of dxpers on leo forum too and a wise friend lol) thank you guys

Did he do anything after that? What were his reasons?

I made several threads about him in leo forum lol..

One situation he lied to me about him being busy on a day when we were going to meet .... and it was a big problem ..... later i found out from him he made up a lie cause i said something that hurt him lol (want to know what hurt him? i told him are you silly?! lol yes thats what hurt him) anyway several situations he was being flakey and you will hear endless reasons...


no birthday gift... wy didnt you get me one? oh i didnt knw what to get you... ill make it up to you... then he does nothing about it and he knows gifts are meaningful to me.. even if its a piece of paper.. oh and several months forward .. valentines day.. no gift lol n even argued with me that day and had a sharp mouth

i can go on.... but he had all kinds of reasons... busy at work.. sleeping... stressed out... blablablahhhh...

it got just lame.. i felt lonelier with him than being single

he tried to get back... was sweet sometimes.. mean other times when he knew i blocked him and not answering his calls or texts anymore... i just can never be friends with an ex and i know he cant either... bet he just wants to show me that he was the nice guy in the relationship...

im still happy its over.. i wish you luck

You never called him on that? So he was being flakey just like that? No reason?!

I did ofcourse .. But he always acted like hes listening.. And even apologized some times .. But he got more careless about me .. I felt like im the one who wants to make all effort to keep this relationship. Reason? No.. All i got was lame excuses .. Only reason i know is its obvious he wasnt serious about it.. Or not ready.. Or sees no future.. Anyway he could have just talked honestly about what "he" wants to do. But no he just wanted to string me along.. He was getting the love and care and intimacy anyway what hes got to lose?! Lol i was blindly in love but i learned to watch my steps and keep my eyes open

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I just read some of your posts,well my bf too has cancer rising and air moon-libra.
No reason at all? So h

@Ilovemyaqua .. What a coincidence.. Your words were cut short though

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@Ilovemyaqua .. What a coincidence.. Your words were cut short though

Oops,just saw.
Hey,Both of us have Virgo rising too!
I asked -no reason at all?! He didn't try to reach out? You guys never discussed? You mentioned somewhere he is very loyal.So there was no one else.He just fell out of love?Did he find you controlling or that he felt like he was walking on eggshells? Did he have a previous suffocating relationship?
I'm sorry about bombarding you with so many questions.

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@Ilovemyaqua .. What a coincidence.. Your words were cut short though

I got almost the same tat on my bicep. Nice avi btw.

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Posted by TxOgal
@Ilovemyaqua .. What a coincidence.. Your words were cut short though

Oops,just saw.
Hey,Both of us have Virgo rising too!
I asked -no reason at all?! He didn't try to reach out? You guys never discussed? You mentioned somewhere he is very loyal.So there was no one else.He just fell out of love?Did he find you controlling or that he felt like he was walking on eggshells? Did he have a previous suffocating relationship?
I'm sorry about bombarding you with so many questions.

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I know it is strange.. we discussed but it did not get better.. I remember one day I told him honestly that i don't see our relationship going anywhere and I just could see from his body language that he doesnt plan on anything and is not thinking of a future for us. It was again disappointing that he chose to stay silent while Im the one looking for clues from his body language. it seemed to me like hes looking for an escape. Eventhough his words expressed otherwise.. saying how hes sorry and that he didnt mean to make me sad.. and him being here with me is bec. he loves me. But I just know that actions speak louder than words.. and i didnt like how he never dared to tell me that hes not sure or not ready or doesnt have a plan.. he just chose silence and his flakey actions, and i chose my peace of mind