bounderies
This topic was created in the Leo forum by Moodz2468 on Monday, January 20, 2014 and has 11 replies.
So I was seeing this guy on and off since last summer. Nothing set in stone as far as exclusivity. Recently u found out that he had sex with someone who is related to me by marriage. She IS sort of my cousin. I confronted him about it and he thinks there was nothing wrong with that. She had.no idea that me n him were messing around. She was really sorry about it. He wasn't so much. He said that I was jealous. I told him how I felt Like he over stepped his bounderies. he says he didn't think he SIS anything wrong. Things ended ugly between us. U put this on a Leo forum because he's a Leo. I think he did cross that line. Am i wrong to think that
Yes he knew.
I am mad at both of us. I know he can go what he wants, but i still think he crossed the line. I would never mess around with his cousins or anybody that was close to him knowing I'm intimate with him
True but i know if I was to do that to him he would flip out. Either way I still think its wrong. It's why I ended things with him. he was doing her behind my back and that don't make it right.
Ok can I ask u this. How would you react if you found out that somebody you was intimate with was having sex with your cousin at the same time. how would you feel? It wasn't strictly fwb status. It wasn't always about sex with us. We were on and off because of things going on in our lives. We been dating on and off. I'm not trying to change your opinion. I appreciate it. In my eyes, my personal experience with this. Im just angry n hurt about it all. I'm just trying to understand this
I would still be upset but not as bad as I am now. She's family. It's like I got stabbed deep in the gut. If it was anybody else it would feel like a dull ache that goes away in an hour.
Posted by GetMistedPosted by Jynja
**Since you have already decided that he crossed the line, insert what you want us to tell you here**
Now now. I know we're all laughing iinside, but we can at least help her understand a tiny bit.click to expand
She's entitled to say anything, laugh or whatever. I already feel like a fool. Just gotta get over it eventually
Posted by feby16aqua
Either way, I do think that because the two of you were just messing around and not in a relationship that those boundaries were not set.
I agree, but would like to add that I would not pursue anything further, just the fact he knew revealed what kind of a slimeball he is. Granted he wasn't in the wrong for doing what he did. No of course not. But if he's pulling shit like this in the beginning imagine the asshole shit he would pull later one. PLUS, regardless of whether he's in the wrong or not HE KNEW BETTER. EVERYONE KNOWS that if you really care for someone you don't go around sleeping with their cousin! If you had any self respect you need to burn this bridge... unless a FWB is all you're looking for, which I doubt since you were hurt from the whole situation which = emotions that you might not be able to separate from FWB.
Posted by xtinaPosted by feby16aqua
Either way, I do think that because the two of you were just messing around and not in a relationship that those boundaries were not set.
PLUS, regardless of whether he's in the wrong or not HE KNEW BETTER. EVERYONE KNOWS that if you really care for someone you don't go around sleeping with their cousin!click to expand
Lastly, since he did sleep with your cousin I doubt he cares for you very much, because he doesn't seem to care about making a good impression with you. Let that bridge burn baby burn!!
Posted by GetMisted
Have you ever been on a Beluga ride?
Posted by xtina
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Posted by GetMistedPosted by Moodz2468
I would still be upset but not as bad as I am now.She's family. It's like I got stabbed deep in the gut. If it was anybody else it would feel like a dull ache that goes away in an hour.
You would be upset either way.
You already know this. You already know that you enabled his behavior. That's why you're here.
Noone is going to tell you otherwise (at least they shouldn't). Noone is going to tell you that it's okay to be upset with him.
If you would be upset with him sleeping with non family, then you shouldn't have attempted a non-exclusive relationship with this man.
Plain and simple.click to expand
Your right.
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