Does he love me?

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ebony10
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Hi there, I've been talking to a leo man again after five years!.. This is such a complex situation,that I'm not even sure how to start. Basically, after a very short time, this leo man, told me that he loved me, and repeatedly suggested marriage via text. Our relationship has consisted of mainly text messaging and him phoning me. We had met a couple of times, but our time together, was very short and sweet, and when I asked him why this was, he'd reply, by saying that he was scared, I was going to hurt him, because I had finished things five years ago, due to the fact that I hardly soor him. He said he was very hurt, but I'm not convinced. Their seems to be very little trust, as he is continually accusing me of seeing other men, and I'm not sure if it's because I have been previously married,and had a few relationships after things between us ended. He thinks I get bored, and will do the same to him.. I am so confused. Anyway, he finally invited me to his home, and one thing led to another, and we slept together. Shortly afterwards, he said he had to go and do some shopping for his supposedly sick mum, and dropped me home. I was so upset, that i got out of his car, slammed his door , without saying goodbye. He is now saying that he doesn't love me,mainly because I didn't preform oral sex with him!.. I am totally bewildered, and feel very hurt. He is now ignoring me. I know how crazy all this sounds, but please can someone shed some light in this bizarre situation. Does he love me?, or am I wasting my time. I am a sagittarian woman, if that's helps.
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rockyroadicecream
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You're wasting your time.

People who accuse others of cheating/seeing others are usually doing it themselves. In your case, it's interesting how he could manage texts and calls, but barely could see you. Perhaps there was another woman taking up his time?

And lol @ the oral sex bit. This guy was grooming you to get you into the sack. Now that he has what he wants, he's off.

Actions speak louder than words, and this guy is a nutter. Don't bother wasting time on such an individual. It's not as complex as you think it is.
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ebony10
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Thank you for your reply. I suppose in my heart, I know you must be right!, but the stupid thing is, I genuinely thought he still loved me!. As you say 'action does speak louder than words, and I feel the bigger fool, for giving myself to him again, believing that, this would somehow bring us closer together. The funny thing is, he's had many opportunities to sleep with me over the last couple of months, but he seemed to want to keep his distance, due to the fact that he thought I would Hurt him. I really don't know what to think!, but my pride really won't allow me to speak to him.
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Samolina
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Take it as a learning lesson.

Sometimes people can persuade you with the sweetest of words, but as time goes by their actions often speak louder. It can be hard to decipher if the words are meant or not, but he showed his true colors to you.

I say cut your loss, accept what happened and move on.

You are in charge of yourself.

And you deserve more than being told you aren't loved for not giving oral...right? ๐Ÿ™‚
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Easha23000us
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Posted by ebony10
Also, he is now speaking to me, but acting almost as if nothing happened between us!. I asked him if he loves me, and he's not replying, just keeping the conversation short and to the point!.. I feel very very hurt, and bewildered.He did say last night, that he felt I didn't enjoy sex with him!..




Be careful ok...He may need his ego stroked, therefore, keeping in contact with you. Everytime that you ask him if he loves you, he avoids the question, there goes your answer right there.Also,if he loved you, you would not have any doubts in your mind about his love for you...Yes, you are wasting your time, and NO, he does not love you...To be honest, I do not think that he even respects you.
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rockyroadicecream
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Posted by Easha23000us
Leo men are always dogging out Sag women...



That's because they think with their vagina and get upset that when they hand out the goods like candy that it doesn't get them what they want- actual respect and seriousness from the dude. Women need to realize that guys do not view sex like women do, and bringing it into the mix doesn't make them love you or want you any more. They just got what they wanted, and if they aren't all that into you otherwise, they're off because mission accomplished.

This guy sounds like a grade A asshole, though. OP, stop humiliating yourself by asking if he loves you. You sound desperate and he's feeding off of that. Stop texting him and don't respond to him at all. Block that shit and be done with it. Why are you so desperate to keep around a guy who's treating you like shit?