female capricorn seeking advice on her leo man

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So I was over the moon that I am his girlfriend now. He became even nicer to me, wanted to spend time with me even more, put in more effort in terms of speaking to me every other day etc. Then he forgot my birthday at which first I was upset but then didnt care anymore. He though took very to heart and his behaviour changed. Then a few weeks later he called me and told me that we can be friends but we should stop seeing each other romanticly. Said he has things to take care of at this poin t in his life and needs some space. So I was very upset crying etc. I decided to give him space and here we are now 3 mon th later we have started talking again. I initiated it. This time I have decided that I want to be with this person, I do love him for all the good qualities and he has many. The problem is that I dont know how to get him to love me again. I mean he said he cares for me, but is not ready for a relationship. I told him I cant simply be friends with him either. So I am stuck. I proposed we should date each other slowly again and this time no going back and forth and he agreed we should start talkign again to each other. He said he will be more open to me this time around. On my part he said he would like to see me more ambitious and goal oriented.
The dilema. How do I get him calling me and texting me not wise versa, Right now I am the one doing all the calling and it sucks. I want him to chase me. We both are very attracted to each other still. But I want him to want to be with me and chase me. How do I do that?

Have you tried NOT initiating - texts, calls etc yet?
I mean, no texting or calling unless it is strictly in re4sponse to his texting or calling.
I don't mean play mind games though... if he texts and you aren't busy then by all means do text back... but have you actually given him a chance to chase you?

+1 wagtail

Chase a man he will run. Stop chasing him and yes he'll most likely come back your way.

I have to say this though and I don't mean to be an asshole but what I have to say will most likely come across that way.

Just because you share chemistry with a man doesn't mean he wants to be with you. Clearly that's the case with him. Once you're friend zoned it's really best to accept that he's not that into you at the moment and move on.

Plus you don't get a Leo man by chasing him. You have to light his ass up with your Queenly attitude and phenomenal good energy. Look good, smell good, have men falling all over you b/c the Leo wants the BEST and if you appear needy for him, desperate to keep him he'll LOSE interest and LOSE you.

Have a big beautiful smile on your face, let him see you moving on graciously with someone else (let him think you've moved on) and being the territorial lion that he is he'll step up all by his Kingly self.

You have to know a little bit about the Leo mans nature. You displayed weakness and neediness and thus you'll get treated like the lowly beggar on the streets. Raise your head up high which can make a Leo male feel he NEEDS that kind of woman in his life and he'll meet you half way.

You're not going to get much going about it the way you are. Kill the desperate needy "I need him" vibe. Adopt an I don't need you even if I want you vibe, he'll be back and he'll do his part effortlessly.

Hey thanks tiki you are right. I agree with you. I will slow down my neediness and will hold my head high.

Posted by tiki33
+1 wagtail

Chase a man he will run. Stop chasing him and yes he'll most likely come back your way.

I have to say this though and I don't mean to be an asshole but what I have to say will most likely come across that way.

Just because you share chemistry with a man doesn't mean he wants to be with you. Clearly that's the case with him. Once you're friend zoned it's really best to accept that he's not that into you at the moment and move on.

Plus you don't get a Leo man by chasing him. You have to light his ass up with your Queenly attitude and phenomenal good energy. Look good, smell good, have men falling all over you b/c the Leo wants the BEST and if you appear needy for him, desperate to keep him he'll LOSE interest and LOSE you.

Have a big beautiful smile on your face, let him see you moving on graciously with someone else (let him think you've moved on) and being the territorial lion that he is he'll step up all by his Kingly self.

You have to know a little bit about the Leo mans nature. You displayed weakness and neediness and thus you'll get treated like the lowly beggar on the streets. Raise your head up high which can make a Leo male feel he NEEDS that kind of woman in his life and he'll meet you half way.

You're not going to get much going about it the way you are. Kill the desperate needy "I need him" vibe. Adopt an I don't need you even if I want you vibe, he'll be back and he'll do his part effortlessly.

I'm a Leo man and this is SPOT on. If I'm attracted to you and have chemistry, I will not pull back and distance myself. When I pull away it's because something has turned me off. Here's where you need to trust me. If I've been turned off and you are chasing me? Game over! I will lose ALL interest. If you do what tiki33 wrote, there is a chance. I may be able to work through whatever turned me off because I will start to see the other things I liked in the first place.

The best way is to apply the no contact rule. He will realize in time what he's lost or simply wonder what you're up to. Go on with your life, have fun, be gorgeous..

@Jackstobo ok I understand that. But my question in that case would be is if I apply the no contact rule or simply do not iniatiate the contact then how is he going to see the good qualities I have if he doesnt speak to me and doesnt see me. Thats the dilema that I have....

Posted by jlac
@Jackstobo ok I understand that. But my question in that case would be is if I apply the no contact rule or simply do not iniatiate the contact then how is he going to see the good qualities I have if he doesnt speak to me and doesnt see me. Thats the dilema that I have....

You need to trust that he already sees the good qualities. You being more ambitious is just a cop out in my opinion. If he wants to be with you, he will come to you. Leo's have a very hard time telling someone they care about they are no longer interested. They have no problem telling someone they barely know, but if they had a relationship, it's very difficult for us to hurt someone. I had a girlfriend that I lost interest in. I loved and cared for her deeply, but I lost interest romantically. When I pulled away, she smothered me. It pushed me completely away. I broke up with her. As soon as she left me alone I had a chance to realize how much I loved and cared for her. All the romantic feelings rushed back in and I wanted her back more than anything. I moved mountains to get her back, but I was too late. You need to completely leave him alone and hope he has the true feelings he needs to want you. If he does, he will track you down.

@Jackstobo Thank you very much for your advice. I appreciate it very much. 🙂 I will try to do that.