Gemini trying to decode a Leo..helppp :(

I've been kind of seeing/talking to a Leo man for about a month now and I am starting to like this guy..A LOT! We met at my work where he was a patient and there was an instant spark so to speak..we went on 3 dates within a week because he works out of town and at that time he only had literally 1 week left before he's gone for 4 weeks again so he asked me on 2 different dates and the third was just a bonus since we only saw each other while I was on a 45 minute break at work..it was still worth it..
So then he left for 4 weeks but we kept in touch..talked/texted everyday..before we go to bed and before he starts his shift so I started waking up at 4-5 A.M..I was never a morning person so waking up everyday to txt him a "goodmorning" message is kind of like a big deal for me..LOL but I didn't mind really..
In the span of 4 weeks of everyday talking, it seemed like we were a couple by the end of the month but both of us did agree not to put any label on what we are and that we should just "do whatever feels right" --it was my own words and I don't know if I should regret it or not 😢
So he came back for only a couple of days before his out of country trip for 2 weeks and I was able to spend some time with him but nothing happened except for hi/bye kisses..which makes me wonder if we??re an item or not..?
so weeks before his out of country trip he asked me if I could pick him up from the airport to which I gladly said yes..got really excited and went to shop for the perfect outfit for when I pick him up..(i know..way too excited) but then on the day that he left for his trip he told me that his friend will just pick him up since he has the key to his apartment and his car keys..you could only imagine how disappointed I was but I didn't say anything because I felt like we weren't in that level where I could act like his exclusive girlfriend so I just told him that I'm just gonna go to my friend's baby shower which is out of town so that he won't feel bad...ugh! i hate when I tend to put other people's feelings first before mine..and also, I said it because I didn't want him thinking that I don't have a life even if I already told that friend of mine that I already made plans on the day of her shower..but anyway..except the all of sudden change of plans, I felt like he wasn't as lovey-dovey with his txt messages before he left compared to when he was away for work..
what I've been wondering about is that..what kind of game is he trying to play? any thou

Right firstly i want to say this is typical Gemini saying something that the thoughts do not match - try and be more open with thoughts and feelings, it drives us leo's crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Secondly, you will never have a lovey-dovey leo that is about to go away on business. His mind set is very rigid, he is leaving his partner to go off and work like a trooper. We don't like to leave someone we find precious. We are the sort that gives either 0% or 100% into something so we know that one touch too long will make us thing "Fuck going away to work i'll just stay here with her". We learn at a young age this is not going to get us anywhere. He may be confused as much as you, its a big thing to walk back into the country to see someone with whom you're not on absolutely clear ground. What if he came back pulled you into his arms, kissed you and then you said "What the hell are you doing?" What if he comes back smiles, doesn't do enough and you say "What the hell are you doing?" It's way to complicated for the first time of going away.

This is an example of leo hot and colding, and our 'modes'. You just have to be patient, i do not believe he has done this to hurt you intentionally but i also think that he does not love you much - or at all, quite yet. REMEMBER WE LOVE WOMEN WITH THEIR OWN LIVES. Never be TOO available. And if you are available act like you're not before letting him think he's made you change plans.

Just be patient - i always find it strange when people date patients, mainly because as a MHN i'd lose my job for *Taking advantage of a person with hindered capacity* Ah well different fields i guess.

Hang in there. If it's meant to be it will pan out properly. Try not to worry, or rush him. I know this is difficult though!

Also want to add, having no tag makes things much more special. I love a woman that will let me stay tagless - and no that doesn't mean i'd cheat on them. It just means what we have is different from everyone else has.

Posted by Neurath
Right firstly i want to say this is typical Gemini saying something that the thoughts do not match - try and be more open with thoughts and feelings, it drives us leo's crazy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAHA..im usually good at being open with most people that I meet doesn't matter what their signs are..i am a Gemini and we tend to mirror other signs so we're usually likable..LOL but for some reason, this Leo guy has a different effect on me..He did send me flowers at work while he was gone out of the country and there was a hand-written note saying "I might be on the other side of the world, but you're still on my mind" so he obviously did it probably couple of days before he left.. I just wanna make sure that I'm not reading too much into this..but is it normal for Leos to just change their feelings in a matter of days? It just bugs me when he would change something that's been already planned..am i getting tested or is he drifting away?

Woman, you got flowers from a leo. Your on his mind. I've only sent flowers to one woman and that's the only woman i've ever loved so far. he would not send flowers to make sure he's on your mind if you weren't going to be on his. Did he send a vase with these flowers? If he did he wants you having him on his mind for a long time to come! No vase means he is unsure of how long he wants you but he definitely wants you in the short term.

If he did he wants you having him on *your* mind for a long time to come! < Made an error in my speediness. Am tired lol.

Posted by Neurath
Woman, you got flowers from a leo. Your on his mind. I've only sent flowers to one woman and that's the only woman i've ever loved so far. he would not send flowers to make sure he's on your mind if you weren't going to be on his. Did he send a vase with these flowers? If he did he wants you having him on his mind for a long time to come! No vase means he is unsure of how long he wants you but he definitely wants you in the short term.

🙂 yes..he did send the flowers with vase and a stuffed monkey..LOL now i wonder what that monkey represents! Last question...is Gemini and Leo usually a good match? I'm really new with this astrology thing and I keep on getting different answers so might as well ask an expert 😉

Yes so long as you remain open and honest, its the most important thing - and don't be secretive either. Arguments may get a bit heated but know that they are survivable. No relationship can exist without an argument happening at least once a year. I'm a firm believer that if two people love each other any sign can be with any sign - it just takes patience and understanding. When you know someone well enough you'll know when the time is right.

Posted by Neurath
Yes so long as you remain open and honest, its the most important thing - and don't be secretive either. Arguments may get a bit heated but know that they are survivable. No relationship can exist without an argument happening at least once a year. I'm a firm believer that if two people love each other any sign can be with any sign - it just takes patience and understanding. When you know someone well enough you'll know when the time is right.

Thanks Neurath..I knew this forum would help me figure things out! I hope everything goes well..he's coming back in 3 days!!! I'll post any updates if there will be any..again, thanks for your awesomeness! HA 😉

No worries. I hope things go smoothly for you - i've only advised on what myself am like as a typical july leo male. There's debate at the moment on whether july and august differ lol. Maybe an august will see this differently! However i do have a lot of experience with relationships and helping people work through difficulties in my field of work!

Neu.

Gemini women can make Leo men putty in our sexy hands. I know... They love our craziness! They love attention and we give it to them. He's not going to be all lovey-dovey in texts; that's not how they roll. He WILL let you know when he does want you and you won't have to guess if you're an item...

Posted by seraph

Posted by GemStar05
Gemini women can make Leo men putty in our sexy hands. I know... They love our craziness!

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HAHA..tell me seraph..was that an accurate claim?

Hi there..I'm really hoping to get a clear understanding on what my Leo man wants.He finally arrived from his out of country trip yesterday and he did call me while waiting for his connecting flight (same country, different city) so I was really happy about the call coz it I kinda got my assurance that we're still on with whatever we have..although it was a short call, it still made my day nonetheless.
He called me again first thing in the morning today to say hi and good morning but I was at work so again, it was a short call..he mentioned that he wasn't able to catch up with his sleep coz of jet lag which is understandable coz I had the same thing when I came back from the same trip. So moving on, he told me he was gonna come visit me at work today but he didn't, so I assumed that he probably passed out but he called me again this afternoon to check up on me so I told him that I was expecting him to come by at work earlier, he said that he got caught up doing his run arounds, but then I was thinking, were those stuff more important than saying hi to a girl that you've been kind of seeing?
I also hate it when I look at our conversation on my phone and it seems like I'm the only one who sends messages because he calls a lot..*sigh*
Now i'm confused if this Leo is playing games with me, or maybe doing that infamous hot and cold thing, or he just too scared to take things on the next level with me? Would it be too soon if I ask him where our relationship is at? I don't wanna rush him or anything, I just need an assurance for myself co last thing I wanna happen is for him to leave me hanging..alone. 😢

There is only one woman i would marry and have children with. I've known her nearly 9 years. We eb in and out together because i get scared about the whole thing. It annoys her immensely. The reason we haven't got to together, maybe the reason we'll never get together, is because it will mark a massive change for me. I would have to stop being so wild and actually settle down *shudder*. There's also the fact that i'd have to explain a whole lot of my past to her if it was ever going to work and that in itself puts me off getting serious with her.

This man isn't exactly hot and colding in the true sense because he is phoning you. The woman i have on my mind at the moment hasn't seen me since February even though i told her i'd see her in march (Yes i have not contacted her at all since february but its not because i don't want her its because i tend to go overboard and she's quite shy, so i give her time to herself). This is all known by me but she cannot understand this whole side to things which is why we'll probably never get serious. It wouldn't be her fault either. I don't like to push, push, push a woman into doing what i want. It is why i sometimes lose out to pushier men, because i can take it or leave it. I don't lack for other fun options. Its just not going to equal a serious commitment which is what i want with her.

Anyway, Leo's are simple in that we want a person in their entirety. I hate text messages because i can't hear the voice of the woman, i hate phone calls because i can't look at the woman, and i hate turning up all the time because the woman will perceive that as neediness. We are very passionate when the flood gates are opened but until that time we are cautious to the max. It's still early days for you so be patient. A side note is that my brother got annoyed this weekend as my parents were meant to help him - my parents got sidetracked by run-around things and forgot about my brother. I don't take this a malicious or intentional. It just sometimes happens. Keep the faith.