Getting a Leo back...
This topic was created in the Leo forum by Tube89 on Monday, August 31, 2009 and has 17 replies.
Hey.
Just looking for some helpful tips as to getting a rather typical Leo back. He's very much a social person and needs his friends, and has a rather large ego...yet he is unbelievably generous, tolerant and was very loving. I'm a sagittarius. We were together for a year and a half, and he talked about how he couldn't wait to live with me and I was the one for him.
We had a very passionate, strong relationship but did have our small bickering moments, yet these were easily settled. I'm aware now that I didn't pay him enough attention and took him for granted. I also didn't make enough of an effort with socialising with his friends, due to me initially being very shy and self conscious, yet he bought me out of my shell.
He ended the relationship 3 weeks ago, saying the spark was gone and he was no longer in love with me, but still cared. The day before however, he had been saying he did love me. We also went away together shortly before the breakup and it was perfect, he seemed to be very happy.
I have seen him since a few times and he has been very chatty and interested in me, also talking about what he's been up to. I saw him last night after no contact for a week and a half. I was talking to someone else, he came along and listened to the convo, I went to leave after the other person and he grabbed my hand and told me to 'Wait' then asked after me, seeming very concerned (I've recently had an operation) and told me I looked amazing. Everytime I've seen him I've made sure to be smiley, up beat and pleasent.
I feel that there is a chance of reigniting this spark, as there seemed to be so much there and such a strong relationship. Any tips?
Just looking for some helpful tips as to getting a rather typical Leo back. He's very much a social person and needs his friends, and has a rather large ego...yet he is unbelievably generous, tolerant and was very loving. I'm a sagittarius. We were together for a year and a half, and he talked about how he couldn't wait to live with me and I was the one for him.
We had a very passionate, strong relationship but did have our small bickering moments, yet these were easily settled. I'm aware now that I didn't pay him enough attention and took him for granted. I also didn't make enough of an effort with socialising with his friends, due to me initially being very shy and self conscious, yet he bought me out of my shell.
He ended the relationship 3 weeks ago, saying the spark was gone and he was no longer in love with me, but still cared. The day before however, he had been saying he did love me. We also went away together shortly before the breakup and it was perfect, he seemed to be very happy.
I have seen him since a few times and he has been very chatty and interested in me, also talking about what he's been up to. I saw him last night after no contact for a week and a half. I was talking to someone else, he came along and listened to the convo, I went to leave after the other person and he grabbed my hand and told me to 'Wait' then asked after me, seeming very concerned (I've recently had an operation) and told me I looked amazing. Everytime I've seen him I've made sure to be smiley, up beat and pleasent.
I feel that there is a chance of reigniting this spark, as there seemed to be so much there and such a strong relationship. Any tips?
I think he does care about you, but don't take that as a sign of wanting to take you back. I think he's just happy everything worked out the way he wanted: he has successfully broken up with you but you're still a part of his life. No hurt feelings as far as he's concerned. I could be wrong.
But...he still looks at me in the same way.
I am so in love with him, I just want to know any hints for setting a Leo's heart aflame again...It literally seemed to be there, then suddenly he ended it. He's a very implusive person, and I am making sure I give him his space.
I am so in love with him, I just want to know any hints for setting a Leo's heart aflame again...It literally seemed to be there, then suddenly he ended it. He's a very implusive person, and I am making sure I give him his space.
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Hmmm.... unfortunately as a Leo, we dont usually break for good until we are totally sure. Sometimes we act impulsively and say or do things that we regret but we very quickly rebut when we react this way. I have to say I agree with ET's post above. I am sure he will ALWAYS care for you and will want you in his life, but it may not be the way you wish. I know in my case, I ALWAYS want the peaceful break up and I am VERY capable of having you in my life as a friend, actually I PREFER having you in my life if I deeply cared for you. Its a Leo thing, we love to be surrounded by people we care for. We truly want to see you happy. If you WANT him back in your life, the only thing you can do is be honest with him about your feelings and tell him what you want. You may not get the answer you want, but it is probably the best shot you have at making it happen. You are a Sag so communication between the two of you should not be a problem. Just be honest, but be prepared.
Good luck!
Good luck!
I don't mean to get your hopes up but... This is exactly what happen between me and my ex Leo when we first broke up. He broke up with me and it was three months before we got back together. Our relationship lasted five years before I finally broke up with him. I'm an Aries though, and he broke up with me for the opposite reason, lol I was a crazy bitch back than and that is why he broke it off with me, though I suspect his friends had something to do with it, lol one of them tried to get with me after the fact.
It would be helpful to get more information like both your charts or @ the very least both your birthdays (mm/dd/yy). And little more info on how he broke up with you.
But other than that the best general advice I can give you right now is just live your life and try to forget him... And try to avoid him, because if he really did care or love you he will come back to you. I promise. But if he really didn't than he won't. Trust me it's for the best. It's true what they say distance makes the heart grow fonder.
It would be helpful to get more information like both your charts or @ the very least both your birthdays (mm/dd/yy). And little more info on how he broke up with you.
But other than that the best general advice I can give you right now is just live your life and try to forget him... And try to avoid him, because if he really did care or love you he will come back to you. I promise. But if he really didn't than he won't. Trust me it's for the best. It's true what they say distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Thankyou for replying. My birthday is 04/12/89, his is 25/07/87.
God, I love him so much. He was so committed to us, he seemed so happy. He kept saying he really wanted to spend his life with me and how I'm the best thing that's happened to him. Oh here come the tears again!
I'm not willing to move on from him and what we had, it just doesn't feel right. We had so much...and it worked really well. I just need to somehow show him that this has kicked me up the backside and I've got my head on straight. I need to me less insecure and emotional, and more sociable, flaws I'm already addressing for my own benefit as well as any hope of being with him.
I am willing to do whatever to have a second chance.
God, I love him so much. He was so committed to us, he seemed so happy. He kept saying he really wanted to spend his life with me and how I'm the best thing that's happened to him. Oh here come the tears again!
I'm not willing to move on from him and what we had, it just doesn't feel right. We had so much...and it worked really well. I just need to somehow show him that this has kicked me up the backside and I've got my head on straight. I need to me less insecure and emotional, and more sociable, flaws I'm already addressing for my own benefit as well as any hope of being with him.
I am willing to do whatever to have a second chance.
As for how he broke up with me, it was very sudden and out of the blue. Literally a few days before he bought me these lovely expensive balloons and chocolates as I was ill. We also talked about him living with me in my 3rd year at uni, and living with me was a desire he expressed regularly, saying he couldn't wait. He was sending the same loving texts and everything seemed absolutely fine. No-one saw it coming, his friends and family were as shocked as I was. He is a rather impulsive thinker. I know he was rather frustrated with his current job and the fact he still lives at home, as he doesn't have enough money together to move out right now.
I always heard through other people how he always talked about me and how much he loved me. He's had plenty of girlfriends in the past, and went travelling for 3 years and said all he wanted now was to be happy with me. To think only recently we went away together and it was...perfect. He was so excited about it, making lists about what to take and where to go. We just had each other, turned our phones off and lived in a tent for 4 days. It was like love's young dream...
It doesn't help that most of his friends are single and going out all the time I guess, but they all seemed to like us as a couple and they are lovely people, so I don't think they had any intentional influence with the break-up.
I've been in love before, and it didn't work out. Despite being very difficult, my gut and heart knew it was the right thing to happen and I was able to move on. This doesn't feel right, in fact it inside it feels like I'm screaming it's wrong. I've looked at our relationship very critically, and yes, there were low points, but as with every relationship. The times when it was right...it was just so right. I never believed in all that stuff about soul mates, but I know that he is mine. He believed that I was his too...
I just need to win his love back. I went wrong...and took him for granted.
I always heard through other people how he always talked about me and how much he loved me. He's had plenty of girlfriends in the past, and went travelling for 3 years and said all he wanted now was to be happy with me. To think only recently we went away together and it was...perfect. He was so excited about it, making lists about what to take and where to go. We just had each other, turned our phones off and lived in a tent for 4 days. It was like love's young dream...
It doesn't help that most of his friends are single and going out all the time I guess, but they all seemed to like us as a couple and they are lovely people, so I don't think they had any intentional influence with the break-up.
I've been in love before, and it didn't work out. Despite being very difficult, my gut and heart knew it was the right thing to happen and I was able to move on. This doesn't feel right, in fact it inside it feels like I'm screaming it's wrong. I've looked at our relationship very critically, and yes, there were low points, but as with every relationship. The times when it was right...it was just so right. I never believed in all that stuff about soul mates, but I know that he is mine. He believed that I was his too...
I just need to win his love back. I went wrong...and took him for granted.
let it go, sweetie. these ppl aren't lying to u. even though i am a leo female, when i break it off, that chapter of my life is closed. for good. i always want the mutual, peaceful break up and will always care for u, cherish u, and desire to keep the friendship. i am still good friends with my ex and i broke up with him almost 2 years ago!
look, i've been there. i've gone through what ur going through and it's hard to let go. try to see it from a different perspective. it's not about holding on because nothing is forever. enjoy the memories u created together.
look, i've been there. i've gone through what ur going through and it's hard to let go. try to see it from a different perspective. it's not about holding on because nothing is forever. enjoy the memories u created together.
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Posted by ninjamu
let it go, sweetie. these ppl aren't lying to u. even though i am a leo female, when i break it off, that chapter of my life is closed. for good. i always want the mutual, peaceful break up and will always care for u, cherish u, and desire to keep the friendship. i am still good friends with my ex and i broke up with him almost 2 years ago!
look, i've been there. i've gone through what ur going through and it's hard to let go. try to see it from a different perspective. it's not about holding on because nothing is forever. enjoy the memories u created together.
I concur!!! Couldnt have said it better myself. Leos are all about the peaceful break up. We want you in our life because we do genuinely care for you, but when we are done.... we are done.... chapter closed. We may appear to still be interested, but that is just our way of caring. We are warm and nurturing creatures, we cant help it. Sometimes it does appear to be misleading, but its not malicious or intentional. When this happens, and we see that we may be giving you false hope, we will TELL you not to hold out, however it may still appear to YOU that we are still holding on. Once we recognize it we will COMPLETELY remove ourselves from your life until such time we can reappear without creating false hope.
I too am still very close to all of my exes. I recently just tried to go out to dinner with my ex husband of 16 years and because I am done, I expected that it was fine. But, it became clear that he was not ready for that so I have broken off contact with him for now. At least until he can accept that we have no romantic future together. I wish to have him in my life because he was a huge part of me and my family for many years. He is partly responsible for who I have become today.
So, your Leo probably does genuinely care, he just doesnt wish to continue a relationship with you now. Give him his space, back off and move on with your life. If HE does want you back, he will surely come once he sees that you are doing fine without him. If he doesnt than you are one step closer to the next chapter of your life anyway!
So, your Leo probably does genuinely care, he just doesnt wish to continue a relationship with you now. Give him his space, back off and move on with your life. If HE does want you back, he will surely come once he sees that you are doing fine without him. If he doesnt than you are one step closer to the next chapter of your life anyway! - LLLTBL
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Hi Tube89
I see it's been two years since your post. Since I am a Sag also in a similar situation with a Leo male at the moment I was wondering how it turned out?
I see it's been two years since your post. Since I am a Sag also in a similar situation with a Leo male at the moment I was wondering how it turned out?
This incident seems very similar to the one I had with my leo ex.
We're currently seeing each other now, but not official. It took a year of very little communication to get over the mistrust we had. Mostly on my part because of a previous ex who gave me trust issues. Time is a big factor...that and growing stronger by yourself.
We're currently seeing each other now, but not official. It took a year of very little communication to get over the mistrust we had. Mostly on my part because of a previous ex who gave me trust issues. Time is a big factor...that and growing stronger by yourself.
Leo's EGO's get in the way of sacrafice... I am a scorpio male who might have a flare up but I will always come down and say I am sorry.. This friend thing is all about pity and fear of what the enemy may do.
I gave my heart.. my love.. my care. my money to please her .. making all her misery go away and in turn she stated..
If the right guy was to come along better then me she would leave?? I was shocked to her such RUTHLESS rudeness..
Imagine if I said BTW if a hotter slimmer woman came along I would drop you ... IMAGINE miss LEOS..
Dropping and going COLD is an Aqua trait.. that is why they have no LONG TERM DEEP BLOOD friends.. I have friends who i have known my entire LIFE.. who would bail me out of JAIL with one call at 4am.. EVEN IF i did not speak to them over 16 yrs..
GOING cold and keeping a friendship.. one part is what GOD wants.. if they carry on this way through out LIFE they will be Cursed Adultress es .. man 2 man 2 man 2 man in wonder.. WHY WHY is my life a mess..
I gave my heart.. my love.. my care. my money to please her .. making all her misery go away and in turn she stated..
If the right guy was to come along better then me she would leave?? I was shocked to her such RUTHLESS rudeness..
Imagine if I said BTW if a hotter slimmer woman came along I would drop you ... IMAGINE miss LEOS..
Dropping and going COLD is an Aqua trait.. that is why they have no LONG TERM DEEP BLOOD friends.. I have friends who i have known my entire LIFE.. who would bail me out of JAIL with one call at 4am.. EVEN IF i did not speak to them over 16 yrs..
GOING cold and keeping a friendship.. one part is what GOD wants.. if they carry on this way through out LIFE they will be Cursed Adultress es .. man 2 man 2 man 2 man in wonder.. WHY WHY is my life a mess..
@hurtinscorps
she's either a damaged leo or she took you for granted...just bcoz u did everything for her...u put your soul at her feet...
just turn the table...show her that u don't care anymore...if she loves u she will come after u...
give her a bit of drama...she likes it...
be a scorp and u will change the roar into meow
good luck!
she's either a damaged leo or she took you for granted...just bcoz u did everything for her...u put your soul at her feet...
just turn the table...show her that u don't care anymore...if she loves u she will come after u...
give her a bit of drama...she likes it...
be a scorp and u will change the roar into meow
good luck!
I am someones worst nightmare when crossed,treated badly and purposely hurt.. I love deep and true..
How hard is it to love and be concerned about the one that is loving you heart and emotions.
I basically have to do detective work to protect my blinded heart (secrets and lies).. ONCE i dig pulling the ROOTS and old stump out.. RUN RUN .. I will give you three chances to come clean after that.. your basically awakening in a ghost town losing everything..
My first ruthless Attention Whore experiences were with two Aquarius woman.. Both had lives of calamity,turmoil,lye and drama.. there was enough attention and spoilage for there "friends" only acceptance..
Now I have experienced a LEO .. and I have another online who is identical.. ITS THERE FANS...A/W FANS..
The only one who is TRUE are the ATTACKING WATER BOTTLE THROWING scorpio woman.. they are loyallll.. but will leave you in one snap..
I basically have to do detective work to protect my blinded heart (secrets and lies).. ONCE i dig pulling the ROOTS and old stump out.. RUN RUN .. I will give you three chances to come clean after that.. your basically awakening in a ghost town losing everything..
My first ruthless Attention Whore experiences were with two Aquarius woman.. Both had lives of calamity,turmoil,lye and drama.. there was enough attention and spoilage for there "friends" only acceptance..
Now I have experienced a LEO .. and I have another online who is identical.. ITS THERE FANS...A/W FANS..
The only one who is TRUE are the ATTACKING WATER BOTTLE THROWING scorpio woman.. they are loyallll.. but will leave you in one snap..
Posted by hurtinscorps
How hard is it to love and be concerned about the one that is loving you heart and emotions.
I basically have to do detective work to protect my blinded heart (secrets and lies).. ONCE i dig pulling the ROOTS and old stump out.. RUN RUN .. I will give you three chances to come clean after that.. your basically awakening in a ghost town losing everything..
My first ruthless Attention Whore experiences were with two Aquarius woman.. Both had lives of calamity,turmoil,lye and drama.. there was enough attention and spoilage for there "friends" only acceptance..
Now I have experienced a LEO .. and I have another online who is identical.. ITS THERE FANS...A/W FANS..
The only one who is TRUE are the ATTACKING WATER BOTTLE THROWING scorpio woman.. they are loyallll.. but will leave you in one snap..
"They are loyal but can leave you in one snap"
Yep I agree. Just broke up w/my Leo yesterday. I have no idea why everywhere says Sag & Leo get along because we don't. I see the original post was from a Sag two years ago. I wonder how that situation turned out. Anyway, he tried to do the friend keep me hanging thing (for sex). I wasn't having that & forced his hand.
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