He is going to sign the papers....
This topic was created in the Leo forum by TheLioness79 on Sunday, May 12, 2013 and has 3 replies.
Something happened Friday (I don't want to go into it) but he realized at this point he has no choice. It has been a tough weekend and I haven't processed it all yet. We went over the papers and made final edits and I sent it to my lawyer for the final copy. We should be getting it notarized this week and they should be filed. He will be leaving and going back out of country most likely very soon for a more permanent time. He may return here one day but he says he will come back and visit the kids. The divorce should be final no later then the end of June. I need to verify with my lawyer.
Even though I know this is what I want and need, we are not right or healthy for each other now. It is still hard to know you spent 14yrs married to someone and it didn't work. I entered this to say I Do, not I don't. We have had many struggles and many happy times but it just isn't right anymore. He needs to find himself.
Now it is time to heal, find myself, and start building a new life and future that wasn't originally in the plans. It is also time to work finish the grieving process and help my children through it as well.
Even though I know this is what I want and need, we are not right or healthy for each other now. It is still hard to know you spent 14yrs married to someone and it didn't work. I entered this to say I Do, not I don't. We have had many struggles and many happy times but it just isn't right anymore. He needs to find himself.
Now it is time to heal, find myself, and start building a new life and future that wasn't originally in the plans. It is also time to work finish the grieving process and help my children through it as well.
Seraph, yes no contest. I get Sole Physical and Legal custody of the kids. The PSA will be entered this month and most likely the beginning of June, my lawyer will take my disposition and papers will be drawn for the final decree. I would need to "serve" him which will be difficult since he will not be in country. In that case I will need to request from the courts for and Order of Publication to have him served in the newspaper. There is about a 20 day waiting period before I appear in court for the final decree. He doesn't have to be present.
Tiziani,
That is my hope that we can maintain a positive relationship and friendship especially for the children. I have no ill will against him and just know this isn't working and he needs to grow and find who he is. It does feel like a failure because you have planned out what your future is going to be and it when it doesn't there are natural feelings of failing. But that is what life is, our journeys of growth, downfalls, overcoming and rising, love, heartbreak, pain, and happiness. Goals are great but they are movable, adjustment, and changed. Doesn't mean you are a bad person, just life has a way of throwing things in your way for you to learn and grow.
Tiziani,
That is my hope that we can maintain a positive relationship and friendship especially for the children. I have no ill will against him and just know this isn't working and he needs to grow and find who he is. It does feel like a failure because you have planned out what your future is going to be and it when it doesn't there are natural feelings of failing. But that is what life is, our journeys of growth, downfalls, overcoming and rising, love, heartbreak, pain, and happiness. Goals are great but they are movable, adjustment, and changed. Doesn't mean you are a bad person, just life has a way of throwing things in your way for you to learn and grow.
Seraph, yes it is the most important thing out of this whole situation. They are the most important thing I have in my life and are my everything. This is the one thing I wanted above all. The custody status could change one day like I told him, but he needs to show a lot of growth and positive decision making and of course, being in country before this can happen. But I am not an evil person and will not keep the kids from him. If he wants to come visit them, he may. Visitation is established as agreed upon between us.
Thank you so much!!! I am every so grateful for your wisdom and support.
Thank you so much!!! I am every so grateful for your wisdom and support.
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