Help I'm so confused by my leo man

This topic was created in the Leo forum by hannahelle1 on Monday, December 10, 2012 and has 12 replies.
I'm am madly, truly, and deeply in love with a Leo man. I'm so confused by him. To make a very long story short, I met a Leo man over the summer, I had been eyeing him for many months. We started to talk, and really had a thing, I thought, for each other. He told me straight up, he had a young girlfriend, he's almost 60, she's almost 30. We had lunch a couple times a week, laughed, had passionate and very long make out sessions, but never had sex. He looked at me, like no man has ever looked at me, he said things to me, which really made me think he was falling deeply in love with me, as well. He said he was trying to fight his feelings for me, because, for the first time in his life, he wanted to stay faithful to a woman. He said I was fogging his head, and making his life difficult, because of the way he felt about me, and continued to say, there is just something about us. Our time together became very intense, passionately intense, but no formal sex. He was so hauntingly familiar to me, it was scary, I felt like I knew him forever, and I didn't mind telling him how I felt. He started telling me, he felt if we took it to the next level, it would go places he'd never been, and didn't know if he ever wanted. He told me I made him see things in a woman he's never seen in his life, and it scared him. We got so wrapped up when we were together, it scared me too. I would have bet my life, he was madly in love with me, but then his actions said differently. When we weren't together, I wouldn't hear from him, he barely responded to an email, and blew me off when we had plans to finally have sex, he'd have every excuse. Then when we'd meet up, he'd whisper, "I love you", even when I'm pretty sure he didn't realize he was saying it. So began the push and pull, I wanted him to spend more time, no, I was not a hound, I would only email twice a week, and only see him twice a week, I never bombarded him with texts, calls, or emails, I gave him his space to figure out what he wanted. Finally, I said, I wish you and your girlfriend the best of luck, I hope everything works out for the two of you, and I walked off, hoping he would follow and tell me, something, anything, but he stood there, mouth dropped, as if he were surprised. That was last week, and I have not heard from him, nor have I contacted him. I miss him, , I want to contact him, but I'm not sure if he was playing me, of just totally confused by his feelings??? Help
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Well.....this doesnt sound good, and I doubt you will like what I have to say, or anyone else. But, we leo's are direct.
From what you've described, this was a fantasy affair. It wasn't dating, it wasn't friendship. You both blew by those stages and went directly into intense, infatuating, lustful fantasy land. You KNOW he has a girlfriend, so where, logically could this go? He IS cheating on her. making you the *other woman*. What kind of foundation is that to start a relationship on?
When you said you had a "date" to have sex, I was whatttttttt??? Do you notice you guys didnt have a real, old fashioned date yet....ever? Do you really want to be "that" woman? Arent you more valuable than that?
He bailed cus it was getting too real. It was making a move out of fantasyland and into "OMG we're really gonna F*CKland".
The real issue is......are you addicted to this kind of non-self serving behavior and if so, how/will you choose to get out of it?
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Thank You Jynja,
We work in the same building on Wednesday's, and he looks at me like no man has ever, I miss him so much, I miss his smile when he sees me, and how he turns me around when I ignore him and kisses me right on the lips, in front of everyone. I know he loves me, I just know he does, but I am so afraid, he's decided to let me go and find the love I deserve, without having to wait for him. Do you really believe he will come find me, I know I am his soul mate, I know we have known each other in past lives, so to speak, it was so intense, it was insane. I will wait, I won't contact, but I need to tell him so much, and I don't want to walk away without telling him I miss him terribly and cannot see past him. Please tell me what to do, I don't want to insult him, as he is a Leo, but I had to walk off into the sunset, just in case he were playing me, or unsure he realizes I am the one..but I don't think so......what would you do???
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I'm sorry I didn't start from the beginning. We started off just talking and becoming friends, then the make out sessions began. I did make it seem as if I looked at him, ran to him and started kissing him. We did have several conversations and enjoyed each other's company for a few weeks first. LOL.. I'm sorry for that confusion, but Big Girl Panties, you are right, he does have a girlfriend, and I think that is why he continued to say, "you came out of nowhere, and fogged my head, where did you come from?" And, no I have never been with a man who had a girlfriend or wife, not my style , this guy just spun my head, I just think the timing with us was wrong. Or, he may just be another player in the sea of players? I don't know, looking for advice.
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Jynja,
To answer your question: Absolutely, I hope he has love in abundance, I hope she loves him a tenth of the way I do. I wish him more happiness and love than anything else, with or without me. Because I truly love him, and true love doesn't necessarily mean, being with him. It is the most unselfish love I've ever had. And, the greatest love I've ever felt for a man.
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this is like deja vue for me. if you choose to wait for him just don't make it known to HIM cos then he'll never come back.
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R1gOrmort1s, Why do you think if he knew I was waiting he wouldn't come back? I'm confused, why would someone come back to a person they didn't think wanted them to??? and Thank You for your reply, I appreciate all responses as I am very sad today. And very much in need of advice.
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I should let Rigormortis answer your question, she may have meant something different. But, my opinion on that ^^^^ if he knows you're there waiting, he'll let you keep waiting. He knows he's got you and he won't do a whole lot about it. Keep you on the back burner. The back up plan. If he thinks you're moving on, that will light a fire under him to make a decision whether to let you go or change things in his life and come and get you.
That said, I think you did the right thing by letting him know you're walking away.
@Jynja - That is so sweet the way you put things!
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Thank You truecap,
I appreciate your words, and I like that you think I did the right thing, I want to be the center of his universe, not an afterthought. I love hearing from others it's so reaffirming.
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Posted by truecap
I should let Rigormortis answer your question, she may have meant something different. But, my opinion on that ^^^^ if he knows you're there waiting, he'll let you keep waiting. He knows he's got you and he won't do a whole lot about it. Keep you on the back burner. The back up plan. If he thinks you're moving on, that will light a fire under him to make a decision whether to let you go or change things in his life and come and get you.
That said, I think you did the right thing by letting him know you're walking away.
@Jynja - That is so sweet the way you put things!


thanks truecap....that's exactly what i meant. it's like all the time he knows you're 'waiting' for him he doesn't have to make a decision that's gonna hurt someone, namely his gf.
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Posted by hannahelle1
Thank You truecap,
I appreciate your words, and I like that you think I did the right thing, I want to be the center of his universe, not an afterthought. I love hearing from others it's so reaffirming.


Don't settle for anything less than the center of his universe! You deserve better!
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I have decided I will not settle for anything less than the whole dream..if he can't give it to me then he doesn't deserve me and he didn't truly love me. If he comes for me and proves with actions he meant all he said..then I will return the love ten fold..for now I'll just go about my business tomorrow and see what happens...I can't stress it any longer...
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