Help me understand how to be supportive to my Leo

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Yellownight on Saturday, July 4, 2015 and has 5 replies.
So, my partner is a July Leo man. He is the quietest Leo I have ever met so, of course, I fell for him right away.

We have been seeing each other for about 4 months now, and it has been hard for me to wait for him to open up.
After the initial insecurities of going out with a quiet man (Is he really into me? Oh, god, I can't shut up!), I learned to read his actions instead of his words, and I have no doubt that he has feelings for me, and I am fairly certain he knows how I feel because I pretty much narrate my whole existence to him everyday and he hasn??t fled to save his sanity.

Little by little, I am gaining this Cat's trust. And he is gaining mine, as you may very well know, geminians struggle for dear life when we have to sit down and talk about what we are really feeling. So, obviously, we haven??t really set any labels to our relationship, which is perfectly fine by me. At least for now. We do see each other some 4-5 days a week, we love to eat together and talk about food while we eat, we lay in bed watching Scrubs for hours on end, and sometimes we just can??t help but poke fun at other people??s life choices because, come on, we are Leo and Gemini and we know better than them.

Every now and then, I will have the courage to ask him a very personal question (which, to be honest, doesn't happen too often), and he will always answer it, sometimes a quick short answer, and at others he tells me all about it in detail.

He has two cats. Recently, his 9 year old cat turned out to have diabetes. This has stressed both my Leo and the cat, resulting in a severe ear infection for him, and a trip to the hospital for the kitty. Both things have put financial stress on the table, as well.
The cat has been in the hospital for a few days, and his kidneys have started to fail; I fear he might not recover. We have gone to visit him every day, and my Leo has gone quieter than ever. Although I have made sure to let him know through actions that I am here for him, the thing is that I don??t want to go ahead and say ???I??m here with you if your cat dies??, and have him retreat even more because he may not want to talk about the dying part, as it is very painful.

So, I want to be supportive without being too pushy. I am afraid that if I ???over-support?? he will never want to fully open up to me (or I to him, for that matter). Do you have quiet Leos in your life? Are you one of them? How do you feel supported by your SO in times of need?
Gemini, leave the man alone.
Funny thing...

Geminis never listen to advice. The Leo man is hurting - leave him alone.

Actually Ssupes has it right, be his friend. Give him space to a degree just state that your there so when they come around they will come to you. It will be fine.
Posted by Ssupes
Continue to be his friend. That's the best thing you can do.

Posted by gemguyaz34
Actually Ssupes has it right, be his friend. Give him space to a degree just state that your there so when they come around they will come to you. It will be fine.

Thanks, guys. I do try my best to keep the relationship healthy, without letting my own insecurity and fears take over.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Just ask what you want when you want to. No rules. I bet his heart aches from his cat, Leo men have an affinity with their animals.

Just being there speaks volumes. Let him lay his head in your lap, scratch his head, play with his hair.. hug often. The little things mean a lot. If you notice his sink is full of dishes, just do them. Laundry, house stuff - they are very appreciative about it.

Gem and Leo are a great team. Hang in there.

These are all things I've been actively doing, especially hugging. Maybe the dishes not so much... I have been thinking mostly of emotional and financial needs. Thank you for being specific, beautifuldiaster.

Posted by 037
Funny thing...

Geminis never listen to advice. The Leo man is hurting - leave him alone.


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Sometimes we do.
I'll keep the space in mind, as always. It's something I also need in a healthy relationship. I'm not entirely sure if leaving him completely alone is what you meant, but finding balance in giving each other space is something I am definitely doing.