HELP understanding a Leo please!

Hi to all you Leo's out there...🙂
I am a Gemini needing some help and understanding on a Leo that I've worked closely with and best friends with for the last 9 years. About 5 months ago we decided to advance our friendship into a friends with benifits situation. Prior to then we had a sexting session a couple times but because we worked so closely together, he never wanted us to date. I no longer work there and that's when it progressed into fwb. Here's where I need all your Leo help... I'm pretty sure he has started dating someone this past week. We know everything about each other and he had just told me that he has felt very close to me for several years now and can tell me things that no one else knows. We wanted to make sure that our new fwb situation never came in between our friendship. In the beginning he would text me all day about work and then sexting what he wants to do to me, that he wants me again ect. The sex is amazing for both of us! He's said that he hasn't had much success in the sex area with other women because they could never keep up with him or they are dead fish and that he never knew what he was missing with me for 9 years! He said he can count on one hand how many good BJ's he's had and I am the best. Now...here's where I'm confused. If we are so close and have such a great connection, why wouldn't he want me as his girlfriend? He has 2 very busy sons that he has 50% of the time plus is very involved in their school and doesn't introduce women he dates to them so I know he doesn't date much and when he does date it doesn't last long due to his busy schedule. I'm an attractive, funny, smart woman and do not understand! Our great sex has put the cherry on top and I was kinda surprised when he started dating someone cuz I figured great sex and a best friend...I'd be in! Are those 2 things not enough for a Leo man to go for it? I'm sorry this is so long...I'll answer any questions you guys have! 🙂 thank you!

He probably doesn't want you as a girlfriend because by taking the fwb route, you bumped yourself out of that opportunity.

Thanks for commenting! I've never been in a fwb situation and honestly we had both been on an almost 2 year dry streak so it sounded good! Personally, I know I really don't want to be in a relationship where I'd be raising kids again since my daughter is now married but I also think our connection kept me kinda guessing?

Posted by Suzeej616
Thanks for commenting! I've never been in a fwb situation and honestly we had both been on an almost 2 year dry streak so it sounded good! Personally, I know I really don't want to be in a relationship where I'd be raising kids again since my daughter is now married but I also think our connection kept me kinda guessing?

Understandable.

From an outside pov, if I were you, I would just behave as if it isn't a totally bizarre thing he's doing

I'm with you... you would think that your relationship would morph into something a little more serious-- dating your bff is the ideal.

But maybe he doesn't realize that's what you are yet-- and logically, you know you aren't ready to be saddled with kids, either.

Maybe you could date around for a minute, as well-- and I suspect that will give him the opportunity to have the wide-eyed, holyshit moment when he realizes he wants to kill any other man that thinks he can have you.

This whole thing could work for your benefit, I imagine.

But I've never really understood how the fwb thing worked, without people catching feelings at some point.

Hope it works out, though. 🙂

Damn girl. You messed up being a fwb with a Leo man. You're pretty much asking to get your feelings hurt. Lol. I'm telling you, the way to a Leo man's heart is through his MIND. You must challenge it! Make him work for you girl. Let him know he ain't getting none of that kitty cat unless he put in work. (Although it's too late now. Lol.) If he wants to be your friend, then BE HIS FRIEND. Nothing more. Don't let him have his cake and eat it too. No having sex, no kissing, no touching, no licking, talking dirty. None of that. Treat him just like a friend. I bet that'll make you more appealing and make him wonder. Just sayin. Lol!

I definitely agree with Montgomery though. Play it cool, act like it doesn't bother you. And date other guys. He will definitely notice and get jealous. It happens everytime. But whatever you do, PLEASE play it cool. This is very important. Good luck hun. 🙂

You guys are great! I'm totally in tune with you and already planned on acting cool and not giving him any more of my goods! For the last 9 years he's dated probably a handful of women which all don't last more than a couple months if that so I know he will be knocking on my door soon enough and I have to be strong!

Anybody he dates will have to be VERY independent and willing to not see him very often and willing to let his boys be first and not them. He has set nights and weekends for his boys but he is SO involved that any day of the week they could have something with school, soccer, football ect and he will be there for them. This is why they normally don't work out for very long. I've never known a Leo and need help figuring them out! Just by knowing HIM..I did make him work for it and then he started saying how he wished I would ask him for it more often. Reading about Leo's I've read they both like the chase but then will also leave you in the dust if you don't answer there phone call or text. Which is it? In the beginning I noticed him on the dating site he's always on but still all up in my buisness so...I decided to tell him I had plans one night that he wanted to get together but kept me waiting till the last minute. I wasn't about to jump for him when he wants! So...he went crazy texting that night and the next day "wow, must have been some date!" All because I didn't respond till noon the next day.

Posted by Suzeej616
Anybody he dates will have to be VERY independent and willing to not see him very often and willing to let his boys be first and not them. He has set nights and weekends for his boys but he is SO involved that any day of the week they could have something with school, soccer, football ect and he will be there for them. This is why they normally don't work out for very long. I've never known a Leo and need help figuring them out! Just by knowing HIM..I did make him work for it and then he started saying how he wished I would ask him for it more often. Reading about Leo's I've read they both like the chase but then will also leave you in the dust if you don't answer there phone call or text. Which is it? In the beginning I noticed him on the dating site he's always on but still all up in my buisness so...I decided to tell him I had plans one night that he wanted to get together but kept me waiting till the last minute. I wasn't about to jump for him when he wants! So...he went crazy texting that night and the next day "wow, must have been some date!" All because I didn't respond till noon the next day.

See how it works? 🙂

And it was legitimate self-respect (works every time!); you weren't playing games (which is a no-no).


This next girl probably won't last, either-- but you do your part, too, ok?

Go have some fun.

Posted by missnia08
I definitely agree with Montgomery though. Play it cool, act like it doesn't bother you. And date other guys. He will definitely notice and get jealous. It happens everytime. But whatever you do, PLEASE play it cool. This is very important. Good luck hun. 🙂

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Yep. 😄 *high five*

Hi Jynja! Thank you for your thoughts What happened with your situation and your baby? Were all these people considering you their best friend or were you considering them your best friend? I'm sorry you had to go through the crap and be left with your jaw on the floor. I've been experiencing things similar to that also and it still amazes me! What is with all these people who are fake?