Hot/Cold Leo Man-Quite a pattern

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Pisces1970 on Tuesday, March 25, 2014 and has 16 replies.
I am a Pisces woman very much in love with a confusing Leo man. We met and have been good friends for a little over a year. I was dating his roommate for a few months and when we broke up my Leo and I began dating a few months later.
Things at first were wonderful; he was very attentive and wanted to spend tons of time with me. Last month I went to a party without him, he had his teen daughter that weekend and wanted to spend time e with her but expressed to me that he didn??t think it was a good idea for me to go to this party for fear that it would be a bit wild. I went with a few friends and it indeed was wild. He was upset that I went and we had a falling out over that. There were women showing their breasts which he found out about and did not like. I told him I would never go to another party like that again unless it was with him but I wanted to go out of plain curiosity as I had never been to a party like that. We seemed to have gotten past that issue but since this it seems like weekly things will be going great. He tells me he loves me, is in love with me, wants us to get married, asking me to move in with him this summer when my lease is up, wants to be a family etc. but then will have a few days of no contact or just being distant which I give him the space.
Last week an acquaintance of ours, female offered him a free used I Phone 4 because his was having many issues. This woman is a single serial dater and a few weeks ago was very inappropriate at a bar showing her crotch to people??_gross! This same day I had an eye doctor appointment that he had planned on going with me to then we were going to dinner afterward. He sent me a text telling me he was meeting her for drinks to get this phone, I felt it was not appropriate but did not say anything at the time via text. He said not to worry that they were going to meet and he would still be there for my appointment. On my way to the appointment I get a call from her! She said he wanted me to stop and pick him up before my appointment and that we were all three going to dinner after. I told her I was already at the appointment and he needed to communicate with me, not her. I was infuriated to say the least.
He and I ended up going to dinner without her and I explained to him why I thought it was not appropriate and how I felt about her in general. He then tells me that they did not meet for drinks but ran around town getting the new phone connected, buying a new ch
buying a new charger and they just hung out at his house and had a few beers until I got off work so we could all go to dinner. He became very defensive saying that he can only handle one woman which is me, he wants nothing to do with her but friendship and that he cannot take the drama every week from me. I told him that if my expressing my feelings to him is drama then I am really sorry but I need to be able to talk to him and tell him how I feel. This all happened the day before my birthday.
That evening and the next day was great, no problems at all. We went to dinner for my birthday with my daughter and had a great time. I thought everything was great but apparently not. He has yet again stopped communicating. I received a text from him Friday saying that he had his teen daughter this past weekend and they were planning many fun things and he wanted me to go have fun over the weekend. I told him I am trying very hard to prove to him that I do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun but he is pushing me to do the things I do not want to do. I also told him I have a life outside of he and I believe it or not. I did go out of town and spent the night with my girlfriend and had a great time. I have not heard from him since Friday except for yesterday morning a brief good morning text.
What is going on with the hot and cold? Should I give him space until he comes back around? Will he come back around? I am just so confused!!
So basically he's got two chicks on his hand, plus a used iPhone he got for FREE. The dude's got game Big Grin
We could second-guess his motivations based on nothing, or we could do it based on his chart... this being an astology forum. So cough it up! You know any of his other placements? How old is he, and how old are you? He seems to have those old-fashioned values and ideals normally associated with Leos, Taureans and Caps. But he has a duaghter too, right? That may play into all of that.
Plus where do I find these parties that guarantee more than just a cleavage? And what's with all these Leo guys taking stuff from women for free without offering anything in return? Bunch of free-loaders! lol

I know he was born in California. He is 49, I am 44. Yes, he does have a daughter and a son both are teenagers.
Posted by Pisces1970
buying a new charger and they just hung out at his house and had a few beers until I got off work so we could all go to dinner. He became very defensive saying that he can only handle one woman which is me, he wants nothing to do with her but friendship and that he cannot take the drama every week from me. I told him that if my expressing my feelings to him is drama then I am really sorry but I need to be able to talk to him and tell him how I feel. This all happened the day before my birthday.
That evening and the next day was great, no problems at all. We went to dinner for my birthday with my daughter and had a great time. I thought everything was great but apparently not. He has yet again stopped communicating. I received a text from him Friday saying that he had his teen daughter this past weekend and they were planning many fun things and he wanted me to go have fun over the weekend. I told him I am trying very hard to prove to him that I do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun but he is pushing me to do the things I do not want to do. I also told him I have a life outside of he and I believe it or not. I did go out of town and spent the night with my girlfriend and had a great time. I have not heard from him since Friday except for yesterday morning a brief good morning text.
What is going on with the hot and cold? Should I give him space until he comes back around? Will he come back around? I am just so confused!!






Basically, you are getting back your bad karma, for dating his friend; and now dating him..Be careful, you could end up being in a love triangle with this one...Leo and Pisces=NOT GOOD!
How is it bad karma exactly? She didn't even date his friend, she dates his roomie and started dating the Leo after she broke up with the roomie.
It's not like they are brothers and there's a hands-off for life!
Posted by Pisces1970
buying a new charger and they just hung out at his house and had a few beers until I got off work so we could all go to dinner. He became very defensive saying that he can only handle one woman which is me, he wants nothing to do with her but friendship and that he cannot take the drama every week from me. I told him that if my expressing my feelings to him is drama then I am really sorry but I need to be able to talk to him and tell him how I feel. This all happened the day before my birthday.
That evening and the next day was great, no problems at all. We went to dinner for my birthday with my daughter and had a great time. I thought everything was great but apparently not. He has yet again stopped communicating. I received a text from him Friday saying that he had his teen daughter this past weekend and they were planning many fun things and he wanted me to go have fun over the weekend. I told him I am trying very hard to prove to him that I do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun but he is pushing me to do the things I do not want to do. I also told him I have a life outside of he and I believe it or not. I did go out of town and spent the night with my girlfriend and had a great time. I have not heard from him since Friday except for yesterday morning a brief good morning text.
What is going on with the hot and cold? Should I give him space until he comes back around? Will he come back around? I am just so confused!!






I received a text from him Friday saying that he had his teen daughter this past weekend and they were planning many fun things and he wanted me to go have fun over the weekend. I told him I am trying very hard to prove to him that I do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun but he is pushing me to do the things I do not want to do.
This right here is the deal.....At first he wants you to have nothing to do with partying, and now, he is all for you enjoying it? Wishy washy behavior if you ask me. Also, he seems to have had a shift in his feelings for you, maybe its because he is spending time with this other woman, and she is giving him something to ponder about. Think about this as well. He wants you to go out and have fun, because he knows that he is going to, and not neccessarily all of his time is going to be spent with his daugh
*Daughter* Typo......
Posted by enfant_terrible
How is it bad karma exactly? She didn't even date his friend, she dates his roomie and started dating the Leo after she broke up with the roomie.
It's not like they are brothers and there's a hands-off for life!



Trust and believe, that if the two men were roomates, they shared some sort of bond.She dated the roomie first, and then dated the Leo..
I completely disagree that this is karma although I am a big believer in it. The roommate was going through a divorce and could not make up him mind if he wanted to go through with it. We are all three actually very good friends.
God, for fooks sake I'm so sick of reading this hot/cold leo shit.
Is it a leo thing?
Is it a guy thing?
Is it a relationship thing?
Or is it a lost interest thing?
Has this really got fook-all to do with their sign?
Posted by Pisces1970
I completely disagree that this is karma although I am a big believer in it. The roommate was going through a divorce and could not make up him mind if he wanted to go through with it. We are all three actually very good friends.



Idk. I don't think this is karma either, but I can see where Easha23000us is coming from. Isn't it part of the bro code, where you don't date a bro's ex-girl before asking him for permission or something like that (and vice versa w/ the girl code)? This whole thing reads like a high school drama, but you guys are way too old for this, imo.
Posted by Pisces1970
I received a text from him Friday saying that he had his teen daughter this past weekend and they were planning many fun things and he wanted me to go have fun over the weekend.
I told him I am trying very hard to prove to him that I do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun but he is pushing me to do the things I do not want to do. I also told him I have a life outside of he and I believe it or not.


Confused, here-- he wanted you to go have fun without him?
And why are you trying to prove you "... do not need to go to crazy parties or hang out in bars to have fun"-- and how is he "pushing" you to do that?
First off, who the hell is he to get mad about you going to a party just because he didn't want you to? Is he your daddy?! Um NO! You're a grown woman. I'm glad you went to that party anyway. Lol! And second, I hope you know that he's messing around with that woman that gave him this free "I phone". I really think he is. Most Leo men are known for doing this shit. Idk but I'm already seeing red flags from him. But at least he had the decency to call/text you and let you know when he can't make it instead of saying nothing at all. That's what young leo males do. But it could be game. He might be lying to you so he could hang out with that other chick. I would definitely say keep an eye out on him. But please my fellow pisces girl, don't let him hurt you too bad. Keep that foot down with him at all times. And if he's playing games, leave him FAST. Good luck hun. smile
Posted by missnia08
First off, who the hell is he to get mad about you going to a party just because he didn't want you to? Is he your daddy?! Um NO! You're a grown woman. I'm glad you went to that party anyway. Lol! And second, I hope you know that he's messing around with that woman that gave him this free "I phone". I really think he is. Most Leo men are known for doing this shit. Idk but I'm already seeing red flags from him. But at least he had the decency to call/text you and let you know when he can't make it instead of saying nothing at all. That's what young leo males do. But it could be game. He might be lying to you so he could hang out with that other chick. I would definitely say keep an eye out on him. But please my fellow pisces girl, don't let him hurt you too bad. Keep that foot down with him at all times. And if he's playing games, leave him FAST. Good luck hun. smile


+1
That's a drama pattern I see real often here on DXP. Leo man plays a bunch of females and they fight over him while he gets a bunch of freebies and attention for his ego. Charms the heck out of them for a while, and when he's done, leaves them all in the dust. Just my own opinion, but it looks like most of the unevolved ones want the faithful, ideal wife type who makes him look good, lets him feel like a king, and let's him do his own thing, but if he feels like hanging around with a bunch of other women he'll do it, just for his ego, because it makes him feel wanted, appreciated, and "like a man" and they're only temporary for him anyway. You can only hope they grow up and evolve one day. Thankfully, most Leo men I know in my own life are not like that.
Just a question: maybe he, in some twisted way, thinks you're clinging to him to much? You should bring that up with him. Or egotistically, b/c he's so used to the single life, he has no clue what it means to be "off-limits" himself.
As a bottom line, Nia's right, you gotta put your foot down. I think he's taking you for granted when you're out on a limb trying to communicate with him. And he's a Leo. He should know how much respect means to a person. I'd call him out on it.
God Leo males have the ability to be easy to understand but so uneasy too on other times.. Don't waste too much of your time Pisces ! He may not be ready to stop playing football with women's hearts ..