How Far Is Too Much?

I have a friend who has contacted me for the third time this week on a matter that I think could’ve been resolve better. Please help me bring some understanding to this girl.

Backstory:

my friend (let’s name her Sam) recently changed jobs from a pediatric RN to an ER RN. Her partner (let’s name her Amy) is a correctional officer. Long story short, recently their arguments have escalated to physical violence.This past weekend things became physical because Amy felt Sam was being too disrespectful and dictatorial. While Sam felt that Amy isn’t as clean as she need her to be around the house. Sam was left with bruises on her arm and Amy has scratches on her face. 😢😢

I recommended that if they couldn’t try couples therapy, maybe each individual need personal therapy. Also, I told her some relationships run their course and we have to know when it’s the end.

Plus I know that Sam’s mars is square Amy’s sun and they’ve always had this “Friendly competition” thing going on. But this is too far. I suggested therapy b/c Sam has mom issues where she fought her mom a lot growing up, but her mom is a Scorpio & that’s all I know. But What else can I tell her?

Sam is a Virgo sun, cancer moon and Leo mars

Amy is a Taurus sun, Aries moon, Taurus mars

Idk time of birth so no rising, etc…

Been there done that. It’s incredibly frustrating to have a friend or family member constantly vent to you about the same problem. And you can show them the obvious solution so many times. Eventually on the 1,453rd time your like, ok whatever 👍

Some people come to you under the guise of needing advice but really they want you to just listen and then validate their poor choices. They don’t want solutions, they thrive on the toxicity.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Been there done that. It’s incredibly frustrating to have a friend or family member constantly vent to you about the same problem. And you can old show them the obvious solution so many times. Eventually on the 1,453rd time your like, ok whatever 👍

Some people come to you under the guise of needing advice but really they want you to just listen and then validate their poor choices. They don’t want solutions, they thrive on the toxicity.

And this is something I’m noticing and learning.

Posted by DeeLovesRed

Posted by LadyNeptune

Been there done that. It’s incredibly frustrating to have a friend or family member constantly vent to you about the same problem. And you can old show them the obvious solution so many times. Eventually on the 1,453rd time your like, ok whatever 👍

Some people come to you under the guise of needing advice but really they want you to just listen and then validate their poor choices. They don’t want solutions, they thrive on the toxicity.

And this is something I’m noticing and learning.

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It’s depressing af cause you love them and want the best for them. But also need to protect your own mental health and well-being. This stuff takes a toll, even as a bystander.