How to accelerate getting over a breakup?

Posted by Astrobyn
Fucking someone else as soon as possible really does help.

Posted by underwaterthing
Hello my lovely Leos. I am coming to you for advice. I, a fellow leo, just got my heart thrashed by a Capricorn. After months of making plans, introducing to family, etc, and a strained road trip. He just left without saying goodbye. And I knew, that was it. Not a word, but I just knew.

That being said, this isn't about my sob story (but hey no leo likes to be left without a word!) but I'm truly wanting to move on and be happy. I don't want to hate, I don't want to pick it apart, I don't want to want him back, and I don't want to be weak. I want to better myself and do EVERYTHING I can to move on and get him out of my head and my heart.

Do you have any tips for getting over a breakup in a healthy accelerated manner?

Thank you
xoxo

Posted by Chuckcem
5. Challenge yourself. Make a conscious effort to move on and not think about where your ex is and what you're doing. Block him on social media, dont tempt yourself by keeping track of him in any way. If you hear about him or see him, even if he's with someone else, don't assume he's doing great without you. Remove his presence from your sight and mind.

6. Lastly, remember you are a Leo and have no shortage or possible suitors. Finding someone new can be a challenge, and annoying if the prospects seem dull/slim, but life is a game of numbers. If you found someone to love once, you will certainly do it again.

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Posted by underwaterthing
Do you have any tips for getting over a breakup in a healthy accelerated manner?
xoxo

Not trying to get over it in a "healthy accelerated manner."

Just feel what you need to feel, don't force anything, and let time and space do the rest by force of nature.

Time and space will always exert their power in their own time, regardless of any little methods or tips and tricks you'll try to conjure up. And you'll only make things harder by running from or avoiding your feelings, which is the opposite of acceptance.

This is the nature of all thoughts and sensations: they come and go. Your previous problems seemed equally as pressing and important in their time as your current problem does now (replace "problems" with "feelings", if you like), but they are no more, absent from the present by force of nature. Your present difficulties share the same destiny.

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Posted by tiziani
That's a lot to want in one step. I think you'd probably end up putting too much pressure on yourself and hold yourself back.

At first it's just about picking one thing you want to change for yourself, prioritise that especially if it's something where once you change it, the rest falls into place as a consequence.

There's no need to always be a better person, there's just the next moment and dealing with what's bothering you head on.

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Posted by Chuckcem
5. Challenge yourself. Make a conscious effort to move on and not think about where your ex is and what you're doing. Block him on social media, dont tempt yourself by keeping track of him in any way. If you hear about him or see him, even if he's with someone else, don't assume he's doing great without you. Remove his presence from your sight and mind.

6. Lastly, remember you are a Leo and have no shortage or possible suitors. Finding someone new can be a challenge, and annoying if the prospects seem dull/slim, but life is a game of numbers. If you found someone to love once, you will certainly do it again.

Wow Chuck. Your response really impressed me. Thank you for your empathy, detailedness, and understanding. Thank you also for your time. I actually copied the list and saved it to my desktop. I find it very practical

THE ONLY one I have a problem with is deleting on Facebook. I'm not sure why, bc it isn't good for me. I guess it's me not wanting to be 'mean' make things more awkward etc. Also probably a bit of hope and curiosity. But in my heart of hearts I know we could never make amends. I couldn't trust someone that does what he did again. I'm gonna give it a week or so then probably remove him there. I will see. IDK why I'm not just like IM DONE WHAT A JERK and deleting him, but I don't feel that way. I guess bc I know once I do that, it is final...

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Posted by underwaterthing
I wonder if other leos do this....When you upset or leave me (the beginning of the end) I start slowly throwing out all our memories. Like one every day. Pictures, gifts, or I will slowly take down FB pictures etc. Always in a way where most likely someone wouldn't notice. It's like I already know it's over, and I'm letting go, but don't want to fully admit it. But I've never ever done that and the relationship lasted afterward. It's like a ritual. It helps, doesn't feel too impulsive, plus is nice to not see those things around anymore. And also, if they come back a day after and apologize, most likely I will have only thrown away one thing and won't get in trouble/regret it lol. Leave me alone a week or two and I will have erased you completely.

Posted by Chuckcem
5. Challenge yourself. Make a conscious effort to move on and not think about where your ex is and what you're doing. Block him on social media, dont tempt yourself by keeping track of him in any way. If you hear about him or see him, even if he's with someone else, don't assume he's doing great without you. Remove his presence from your sight and mind.

6. Lastly, remember you are a Leo and have no shortage or possible suitors. Finding someone new can be a challenge, and annoying if the prospects seem dull/slim, but life is a game of numbers. If you found someone to love once, you will certainly do it again.