I am a Leo woman "seeing" A Leo man..need I say more? lol Why did he come on strong and now nothing

This topic was created in the Leo forum by warriorlioness on Thursday, November 2, 2017 and has 56 replies.
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I started seeing a Leo guy last month. When we 1st met he was all into Me. The night we met we did not talk much though as I had to meet someone for a date. The Leo guy gave me his # and said if it did not work out with the dude to give him a call.


Fast forward that night and the Leo dude texts me and says "fuck that guy. There was a connection between us. I wanna see you". At the time I took it as controlling so I was like fuck this shit and blocked him.


A few days went by and I told my friends what happened and they said I should give him a chance. So I did. I texted him and since than we have gotten together 4 times with both sex, having intimate talk, etc..I mostly reached out to him while we were doing this texting etc but NOT MUCH or if he did text I would go with the flow of texting him back. Up till a week ago he always texted back. We saw one another had great chemistry with everything since I've know him. However I talked to him a week ago and told him I had something important to tell him(not that I was pregnant) and I'd prefer to do it in person because I care about him(I JUST found out I had an std and wanted to inform him). So during the last week since I have told him I have something important to tell him he has not reached out and been like "ok let's meet and you can tell me what it's about" nor does he no longer flirt back with me (and it's blunt flirting at times the kind that make you want to drop to your knees lol) nor has he responded to any of my texts really since than. What's even more confusing is I DID tell him that I was ready for a more intimate relationship(in the begging seems he wanted this where I was not ready and told him not to get attached as I was afraid of having real intimacy issues). The STD I know I got from my ex husband.


What's your guys take on this please? I don't get why he's not reaching out. I feel like since I have told him I have something important to tell him something shifted as well as Me saying I was ready for more intimacy ..which he responded me too. So why if ME too would he act total opposite. I feel not important honestly.


Edited to add he does work 12 hour shifts, goes to school, and has a 12 yr old son. I know that's alot on ones plate but still more effort after a month you would think.


Any tips how to deal with this too please? Ty
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Hi there,


Sorry about the health thing and you did the right thing by reaching out.


Men in general will say whatever they can to get in your pants. Anything.


They act like they can't breathe without vagina.


I wouldn't reach out anymore.


Let him reach out.


Also those friends of yours are idiots and probably are jealous of you which is why they have you that horrible advice.
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Start by using protection when you fuck.
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And they don't prevent all transmissions.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Start by using protection when you fuck.
Condoms break all the time.




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Only if you buy an off brand or use oil based lube.


edit: or the universe hates you...
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he doesn't respect you.


He sounds really trashy ....and kind of emotionally fcuked


I would avoid him. You tried to tell him...


I seriously think you should take Gobshites advice ..concentrate on getting better.


And respect yourself more.
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You had sex with him, that’s what happened.


He’s on to the next. Why do Leo’s always lead with sex when then know they want more?


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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.
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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
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I don't really think I worded things right. I might delete the post and take the std thing out.
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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.


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And than what if I get no response. If I don't talk to him how do I tell him ? He's literally 8 blocks from me which is unreal. If need be I'll show you to his House
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Posted by warriorlioness
Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
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Posted by Gob_Shite
Well done, he screwed you over (both figuratively and literally). Maybe you should focus more on dealing with your STD than him.


Posted by warriorlioness

A few days went by and I told my friends what happened and they said I should give him a chance.


That old chestnut. Don't tell me, all those friends are female...

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They told me to give him a chance after I 1st met him. And I am taking care of the std thing how do you know I'm not?


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Posted by warriorlioness
Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
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Sorry if any confusion and ty! We MET a month ago. We have been together 4-times hanging out and having sex . I definitely don't feel it's from him. No we did not use a condom.


Last week is when I told him I had something to talk to him about and that's when it seemed he changed.
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Posted by warriorlioness
When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.


He's probably dodging you cause your dropping all those scary words on him. He's like damn, I only fucked her a few times. Bish is cray.
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Hi there,


Sorry about the health thing and you did the right thing by reaching out.


Men in general will say whatever they can to get in your pants. Anything.


They act like they can't breathe without vagina.


I wouldn't reach out anymore.


Let him reach out.


Also those friends of yours are idiots and probably are jealous of you which is why they have you that horrible advice.
They are definitely not jealous. Ty.


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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
Sorry if any confusion and ty! We MET a month ago. We have been together 4-times hanging out and having sex . I definitely don't feel it's from him. No we did not use a condom.


Last week is when I told him I had something to talk to him about and that's when it seemed he changed.
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Why didn't you use protection? He may be encountering some symptoms of his own right now.
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Posted by warriorlioness
Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
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I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
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Any chance you could have gotten the STD from him and he knows?

Maybe he's avoiding you because of that.

Just a thought



Good luck hun
No. I got it from my ex husband.


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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
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Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
Start by using protection when you fuck.
I got the std from my ex husband. I left him not to long ago. I was with him for 20 years. I never tested positive till I left him as apparently it was laying doormat. Plus I have alot of reproductive issues(endometriosis, etc so I thought the symptoms where from that).
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I got the std from my ex husband. I left him not to long ago. I was with him for 20 years. I never tested positive till I left him as apparently it was laying doormat. Plus I have alot of reproductive issues(endometriosis, etc so I thought the symptoms where from that).
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Posted by warriorlioness
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Start by using protection when you fuck.
I got the std from my ex husband. I left him not to long ago. I was with him for 20 years. I never tested positive till I left him as apparently it was laying doormat. Plus I have alot of reproductive issues(endometriosis, etc so I thought the symptoms where from that).
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I understand you were with one person for a shit ton of years and all about that raw life. But your single now and just rolling the dice. Be smarter.
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Posted by LittleFairy
he doesn't respect you.


He sounds really trashy ....and kind of emotionally fcuked


I would avoid him. You tried to tell him...


I seriously think you should take Gobshites advice ..concentrate on getting better.


And respect yourself more.


May I ask why you say he sounds trashy and yes I've been focusing on getting better been on meds etc..

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When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.


He's probably dodging you cause your dropping all those scary words on him. He's like damn, I only fucked her a few times. Bish is cray.
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Ok I don't get that why would he think that if I told him it had NOTHING to do with those things. The only reason I throw that shit in is because he was saying he didn't want to get me pregnant. He's 43 and doesn't want more kids. He's been flipped out about that since we met. So you there some humor in and than said it was NOT about any of those.

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When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.


He's probably dodging you cause your dropping all those scary words on him. He's like damn, I only fucked her a few times. Bish is cray.
Ok I don't get that why would he think that if I told him it had NOTHING to do with those things. The only reason I throw that shit in is because he was saying he didn't want to get me pregnant. He's 43 and doesn't want more kids. He's been flipped out about that since we met. So you there some humor in and than said it was NOT about any of those.

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If he doesn't want anymore kids he should prolly stop dicking down bitches raw. Js

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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
Sorry if any confusion and ty! We MET a month ago. We have been together 4-times hanging out and having sex . I definitely don't feel it's from him. No we did not use a condom.


Last week is when I told him I had something to talk to him about and that's when it seemed he changed.
Why didn't you use protection? He may be encountering some symptoms of his own right now.
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Because. Didn't insist on it at the time but I didn't t know I had it than. He didn't want to wear anything either yes I should have insisted he did but I didn't. Again I did not know I had it though when I slept with him


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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.
Sorry if any confusion and ty! We MET a month ago. We have been together 4-times hanging out and having sex . I definitely don't feel it's from him. No we did not use a condom.


Last week is when I told him I had something to talk to him about and that's when it seemed he changed.
Why didn't you use protection? He may be encountering some symptoms of his own right now.
Because. Didn't insist on it at the time but I didn't t know I had it than. He didn't want to wear anything either yes I should have insisted he did but I didn't. Again I did not know I had it though when I slept with him


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But you had no idea if he had an std or not. He's a virtual stranger. Your not his doctor. You don't know where his dick has been.


Why would you be so reckless with your own health?? Just cause he didn't want to wear one... Have more self respect! Your health is more important than his pleasure.
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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
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This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.

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And than what if I get no response. If I don't talk to him how do I tell him ? He's literally 8 blocks from me which is unreal. If need be I'll show you to his House
Then yeah you would have to go to his place. And I get that you wouldn't want to drop something like that by text.
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Yea besides him not contacting me since this past sat I do care about him a Nd at least would like to do it in person because of that.


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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.

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The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.
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Start by using protection when you fuck.
I got the std from my ex husband. I left him not to long ago. I was with him for 20 years. I never tested positive till I left him as apparently it was laying doormat. Plus I have alot of reproductive issues(endometriosis, etc so I thought the symptoms where from that).
I understand you were with one person for a shit ton of years and all about that raw life. But your single now and just rolling the dice. Be smarter.
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Right I'm just explaining and clearing up things. Plan on being smarter.i was just clearing up the fact that the new guy did not give me it and I did not know I had it during any sex with the new guy. I found out AFTER the last time we had sex

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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.



The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.



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Lucky me great divorce parting gift from my ex husband. Wouldn't be in this spot if he didn't give me it.


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Posted by warriorlioness
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Start by using protection when you fuck.
I got the std from my ex husband. I left him not to long ago. I was with him for 20 years. I never tested positive till I left him as apparently it was laying doormat. Plus I have alot of reproductive issues(endometriosis, etc so I thought the symptoms where from that).
I understand you were with one person for a shit ton of years and all about that raw life. But your single now and just rolling the dice. Be smarter.
Right I'm just explaining and clearing up things. Plan on being smarter.i was just clearing up the fact that the new guy did not give me it and I did not know I had it during any sex with the new guy. I found out AFTER the last time we had sex

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Actually it's very possible he did. Either way you need to tell him asap.
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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.



The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.



Lucky me great divorce parting gift from my ex husband. Wouldn't be in this spot if he didn't give me it.


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How long ago did you get divorced?
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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.



The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.



Lucky me great divorce parting gift from my ex husband. Wouldn't be in this spot if he didn't give me it.


How long ago did you get divorced?
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Left my ex husband in Aug divorce is in works and will be final by Dec but in my mind I'm divorced

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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.


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I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.
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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.



The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.



Lucky me great divorce parting gift from my ex husband. Wouldn't be in this spot if he didn't give me it.


How long ago did you get divorced?


Left my ex husband in Aug divorce is in works and will be final by Dec but in my mind I'm divorced

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August was 3ish months ago. 20 years and zero synptoms. And you've been fucking this new guy the past month and SUDDENLY have an std. It seems more probable that the Leo passed it to you.


It doesn't really matter though. What's done is done. Just promise me you'll be smarter and safer going forward.
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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.
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Ty so so much for this! Crap I'm not trying to be hard on myself but it seems it be better if I wanted to say anything at ALL and done it in person with telling him I had something important to tell him in the 1st place. Fuck now o see where he could be freaked.


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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.
Ty so so much for this! Crap I'm not trying to be hard on myself but it seems it be better if I wanted to say anything at ALL and done it in person with telling him I had something important to tell him in the 1st place. Fuck now o see where he could be freaked.


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Don't overthink it (that's clearly what we're all here for). Just take a step back and let the guy come to you. Honestly if he doesn't want to hear what you have to say (which is SUPER important to his own health), that's on him.


I agree though with @LadyNeptune. I think something is a bit fishy. I wouldn't be surprised if he has something, unless you already know for a fact who gave it to you.
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"I wouldn't be in this spot if it wasn't for him".


Actually if your gonna fuck randoms raw your asking to be put in this spot. Blaming your ex husband is such a cop out.
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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.
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And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

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Maybe I should clarify he did not give me the std and I did not know I had 1 till AFTER I slept with him.
Did you guys use protection? Did you have an outbreak a few days after?


If it was a month later since you say he hasn't reached out for a month don't stress it. You tried to reach him, he ghosted you. Time to move on. Don't waste your energy on him.


I got it from my ex husband. I should have put that in my original post.
Ok if you know you have an std you have a moral responsibility to always use protection and let your partner know before fucking them.


That's not cool dude. Your playing with someone else's health.
This guy did not have an std at any point that I know of. I DID not know I had it till recently. I have NOT fucked him since finding out I have it. My EX husband gave it to me.



The problem with that is your contagious before your symptoms show up. Meaning you can be infected/infect someone while appearing clean.


You have no idea if this guy is clean or not.



Lucky me great divorce parting gift from my ex husband. Wouldn't be in this spot if he didn't give me it.


How long ago did you get divorced?


Left my ex husband in Aug divorce is in works and will be final by Dec but in my mind I'm divorced

August was 3ish months ago. 20 years and zero synptoms. And you've been fucking this new guy the past month and SUDDENLY have an std. It seems more probable that the Leo passed it to you.


It doesn't really matter though. What's done is done. Just promise me you'll be smarter and safer going forward.
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No I DID have symptoms with my husband you can still have symptoms but not get a pos result the symptoms with my ex husband I thought it was my female issues and thought nothing of it. The last 5 years or so of our marriage looking back he had bumps on his penis that where not there before(2) but the way they looked I thought they where just pimples. Also during those 5 years I also itched after sex with himbut again I thought it was my female issues. O get what your saying about the new guy but my gut says it's from my ex but yes I'll be smarter if me and this guy don't continue I might honestly not have sex for awhile with anyone


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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.


And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

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Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.
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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.


And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.
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Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.


"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

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"I wouldn't be in this spot if it wasn't for him".


Actually if your gonna fuck randoms raw your asking to be put in this spot. Blaming your ex husband is such a cop out.
Touche ok so that's what I get for wanting to jump and do something wild and crazy after bring with a narcissist abusive ex husband. That's what I get for being impulsive. Yea I get ya
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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.


And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.
Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.


"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

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Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.


Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.


It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.
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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.


And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.
Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.


"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.


Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.


It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.
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Gotcha well i guess we will see thanks. Unless he just finally decided im too much for him to deal with being freshly out of a relationship and adding that all into his stuff too. I have not unload all my stuff on him though the not getting attached and than having a convo about the intimcy was the only thing i brought up and that i had something important to tell him Other than that its been mostly getting to know eachother. Hes asked me stuff i have asked him stuff both serious and not serious. Basically he has been just as open and honest as I have been i believe. no get wehre you are coming from though. Trying to hink of how to word it. I have no problem wanting a to get to know a guy. this guy has told me he falls in love fast and i do the same. basically if that is the case we got 2 people who jump into things. what i want is a long slow burn and getting to know someone. its not that i have trust issues but i can see where it may come off that way. What i do have is not being use to getting to HONESTLY know someone. My ex i did not like honestly nor loved it was not real love and we never had real intimacy. So yea i guess im afraid of real love at times and than afraid if i do get real love well than shit it may hurt worse than the crappy end of the stick i got with my ex if it ends. honestly there was no reason for the intimacy convo on the phone with him because we where already having real intimacy. For some reason i had to bring it up. why i dont know. maybe doubuting that it was really true that make sense? or testing it?i should have just let the natural flow keep flowing.

Low maintence and chilll i am very much those 2.


Hest been really opena nd hones twith me too and hes put some serious shit out there already too probably even more serious. unless its getting to intense period for him. again who knows id love to chat with him hopefully i can get ahold of him and do that.

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Sounds like he may be ghosting. It's possible he's the one that gave you the STD (or maybe he found out already). Regardless, it's only been a month. It doesn't say much about the guy if he's already disappearing on you.


That being said, he might've been scared off when you said that you had something "important" to tell him. Seeing that it's only been a month, there's no way that can be good. Might be another reason he's silent.


When I told him I had something to tell him I stressed that I was not pregnant and that it had nothing to do with love nor commitment.



I get it, but I'm just giving you an outside point of view. If you knew someone for only a month, it's highly unlikely than any important conversation that needed to be discussed so soon would be positive. He may have run through a laundry list of possibilities already (good, bad, and neutral):


"I'm pregnant" (which you already)

"I'm married"

"I'm wealthy"

"I'm sick/dying"

"I may/may not have an STD" (which is actually the case here. This could even be too intense for him)

"I love you" (which is not good if he doesn't feel the same way about you after a month)

"I'm between jobs"

"I'm leaving town for a while"

"I'm going to jail"

"I have kids" (which would scare some people. In this case I'd asssume this would be fine since he has a child)

"I'm very religious" (depends on the person)

"I've never been in a relationship before" (a red flag for many people)

"I used to be a man"

"I need a date for my friend's wedding"

"I'm getting divorced"

"I'm in rehab"

"I really like you and have been hurt before" (completely normal, though possibly too intense if the person isn't serious)

"I can't do this unfortunately"


I know these are all over the place, but with only a month in, he may not be invested enough to have an important conversation. While ghosting isn't the best response, who knows where his mind is. For example, who knows what his past relationships have been like. He could be overreacting and thinking, "Great...another crazy one," even though he doesn't know the full situation yet.


That being said, he could just be a busy guy. We Leos are busy people by nature and usually have a lot of activities soaking up our time (jobs, school, social activities, family, etc). He may be waiting until he has a free moment to engage you. However if/when you do tell him your news (which is the right thing to do), just know that he may not be that understanding about it. He may drop things altogether.


And I know there could be more in the list but I've been honest from the get go. He knew I was I'm the process of divorce(he even knew when I filed it)he knows I have kids and other things on that list I went through. I'm definitely not a pushy type and honestly all our whatever it is lol I have not texted him much at all.


My gut says he has alot on his plate and he's afraid of adding on more with whatever this important is.


I do genuinely like this guy other than him not reaching out and it may be he's busy however I just want answers and to tell him whatds up. Till this things where completely cool.


When we 1st met I told him not to get attached and so yea not sure what that did to him either with me saying that. I also told him when we 1st met flat out what I wanted. Not a long term serious relationship with a guy. Just hanging out, getting to know each other, maybe having sex, doing this but I also said if I DO decide to get into a relationship that's long term and serious I want it to be with a nice guy. He seemed he wanted more in the begging too as opposed to me and idk maybe the dynamics switched. The day o did tell him I had something important to tell him I also told him remember when i told you not to get attached? He said yea and I said I said that because I fear real intimacy(not sex) and I'm still afraid but ready to go in baby steps and than he said me too. So see why I'm confused? Lol

Just wait and see what he does. I do advise that you be a bit more careful with your words in the future. Telling him not to get attached while stating that you have initimacy issues may have come across a certain way. Since he knows you are going through a divorce, he may be more understanding about your situation though.
Weird I was literally told that 2 weeks ago to be careful with my words.


"Telling him not to get attached while telling him you have intimacy issues might come across a certain way" ok so how could one take that?

Well literally the way it sounds, as if you have emotional/trust issues. Guys typically aren't looking for women with issues, especially if we've had to deal with emotionally damaged women in the past. It's just not attractive. This could lead to a guy closing himself off from you as a safegaurd. While some guys like their women a bit unhinged, most want a woman who is generally low maintenance (or "chill"). Again every guy is different, so this is all general.


Also generally speaking if a guy hasn't invested much time with you, revealing your personal problems too quickly could send him running for the hills. While it's always best to be honest, doing that too much honesty could also make you appear desperate. Desperation is never attractive. From his point of view, he won't know how deep your issues are until further down the line. In which case he may not stick around to find out.


It's the same reasons guys are told not to divlge any of their issues/fears early in the relationship with women. It may make them look crazy/needy and scare women off.
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are leo men not usually texters?


Ok so wait and see what he does so just dont reach out to him at all and than if he reaches out try to get together to talk about things?
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