Posted by Mg
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.
Posted by MgYou should never wait for another person to change.
My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
Posted by peachy06Lol you think you so nonchalant....
A guy shows signs he dosn't like you, but you stay with him, you're weird.
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-III want to come move in with you. Can I?Posted by Mg
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.
Are you fucking nuts?click to expand
Posted by EmhendoHow can she move on?
Move on.
You a mother now, it's all about your baby.
Posted by LadyNeptuneOh.Posted by Emhendo
Move on.
You a mother now, it's all about your baby.
How can she move on?
He is paying all the bills. She is unemployed, was in school, and now she has a child to feed.click to expand
Posted by MgWhat are your birthdates?
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.
My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.
He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.
After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.
It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.
After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.
Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.
My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
Posted by MikeNYNYC27 jan, 3 augPosted by Mg
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.
My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.
He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.
After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.
It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.
After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.
Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.
My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
What are your birthdates?click to expand
Posted by LionandafishHe flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
Posted by EmhendoIdk. Sorry op, your between a rock and a hard place. And not in the fun way.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Emhendo
Move on.
You a mother now, it's all about your baby.
How can she move on?
He is paying all the bills. She is unemployed, was in school, and now she has a child to feed.
Oh.
She need to go back with family or something then. I wouldn't even bother trynna make her make a Leo nigga care.click to expand
Posted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.
My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.click to expand
Posted by MgI need years too.Posted by MikeNYNYCPosted by Mg
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.
My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.
He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.
After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.
It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.
After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.
Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.
My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
What are your birthdates?
27 jan, 3 augclick to expand
Posted by MaxianHe hasnt gotten over his ex because all throughout tge years after his breakup with her(9years) he has been constantly looking out for her, tring to know her whearabouts. But she has withdrawn from all social media n she has not contacted him ever since they parted. Even after we got together, he has tried looking for her n wished her on her birthdays in despair that she might visit her old account and get in touch with him. When they broke up, he was totally shattered n hasnt gotten over a long time.
What did you find in his phone that he hasn't gotten over his ex? Is he talking to her? Or just pics?
The junior might just be for attention, because Leo love and need that.
How were you in the beginning? Is it possible to go back to thow you once were before the baby?
Posted by ChuckcemYes its true. Made the wrong move.
The short answer is probably not. This has nothing to do with zodiac signs. You moved in with a stranger that you met on a dating app after only two months and then later had a kid with him after problems had already arisen.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by Mg
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.
Are you fucking nuts?
I want to come move in with you. Can I?click to expand
Posted by LionandafishI cant do anything about him forgetting his past, i dont want to control him. As an aquarian as much as I want my freedom i respect his space and freedom too. But i want to be there in his next phase of life, i want to see my future with him. I want him to move on. Maybe he hasnt find a closure on his past, a proper one. Not sure how to help him on itPosted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.
My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.
Everyone is different. My dad, my cousin's husband, my other cousin, my aunt, my cousins son, are all Leos and we are all so different to each other so it's hard to flat out say "this is what Leo wants". But I know with me, when it comes to exes, if you were part of my life and someone I cared for, I always will care for you. That doesn't mean I'd ever love you past a platonic way or be disloyal to my current partner just means you're always important to me because your part in my life helped shape me into who I am today. As for the work colleague, probably just attention or an ego boost. If he deleted the messages then that's probably done now.
What is he doing to you? Is he arguing, putting you down, making back handed remarks? If I get like that it's because the other person isn't doing what I want and I feel taken for granted. It's an ego/pride driven reaction. Can you pin point what he's saying and what it's a reaction to or be more specific so I can understand what is at the root of it.click to expand
Posted by PurpleskyPosted by Mg
He has his ex' pictures stored in his google drive. He considered her serious in his life. I value his feelings. It hurts to know why he doesnt trust me with his past. Why he doesnt trust him to share his deepest.
I have not broken his trust in the past. Infact i did not know all of this till 1.5 years of our relationship. All the while was wondering whats wrong till, i thought maybe i shld try to find answers on his phone as he is not opening up.
that sucks, just having to dig through his phone is not gonna help you its only making your feelings get hurt...click to expand
Posted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.
My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.
Everyone is different. My dad, my cousin's husband, my other cousin, my aunt, my cousins son, are all Leos and we are all so different to each other so it's hard to flat out say "this is what Leo wants". But I know with me, when it comes to exes, if you were part of my life and someone I cared for, I always will care for you. That doesn't mean I'd ever love you past a platonic way or be disloyal to my current partner just means you're always important to me because your part in my life helped shape me into who I am today. As for the work colleague, probably just attention or an ego boost. If he deleted the messages then that's probably done now.
What is he doing to you? Is he arguing, putting you down, making back handed remarks? If I get like that it's because the other person isn't doing what I want and I feel taken for granted. It's an ego/pride driven reaction. Can you pin point what he's saying and what it's a reaction to or be more specific so I can understand what is at the root of it.
I cant do anything about him forgetting his past, i dont want to control him. As an aquarian as much as I want my freedom i respect his space and freedom too. But i want to be there in his next phase of life, i want to see my future with him. I want him to move on. Maybe he hasnt find a closure on his past, a proper one. Not sure how to help him on it
Im ignoring his colleague's matter for the moment. Willing to let this go. Sometimes it takes me time mentally to overcome all of this situation. I harp on it and it takes me days to move on accepting all of this. Would have preferred him telling me all of this by himself. I value honesty the most. I value his feelings whatever they maybe. But i just want him to open up more. I want to be his friend. Somehow i felt we skipped the stage of being good friends and then partners to strangers, having a fling, flirtacious and then partners. We lack communication, he hates confrontation, doesnt take the effort to listen, like he doesnt even want to get in there and communication is a big no no. He knows that probably its not right but doesnt want to do anything.
I need to be his 1)friend, so that he will share more with me. He has a huge circle of friends that we hardly get our time together 2) get him to open up more, share more things 3) listen to what i have got to say ( when we argue its so difficult, he doesnt listen n ends up him talking about head where im talking about tail), 4) need to confront him if anything comes up in the best way possible that he doesnt get worked up and i get the issue solved 5) need him to share his views as much as possible 6) encourage him to communicate better 7) need to know his taste in women fashion (how he likes his women to be dressed)
Even though i might be an aquarius, i realosed i have a lot of traits of cancer when it comes it caring
I feel even when i ask him to be honest about his feelings he doesnt say much. More like he doesnt want to hurt me, I feel he tries to play the good man here. One incident he told in anger that he doesnt want to spend money for whatever i requested, n then he calmed down n told me to buy whatever i need. I thought he is stingy at first whenever it comes to money issue he tries not to spend as much.after reading general leo traits i knew that actually they like to spend luxuriously n love to spend for loved ones. Connected this issue to when he actually doesnt mind spending on himself n for his loved ones, whereas when it comes to me he is hesitant on spending. Sometimes it is about careful spending, but most of it is the other one i felt he doesnt want to spend much on me.
He likes me sacrificing my likes for him, but he wont do the same. He likes me pampering him with massages n everyother things that he wants me to do, but wont do the same for me. He is always hesitant and full of excuses.
Initially i did not take his liking seriously n we had fights about it. My point was just if u r not doing than im not doing too. But when i have found him drifting off, with all my best efforts im doing whatever he wants to make him stay.
I wont lie, he is very charming. Thats why even when i cross with him, he is able to change my mind n make me laugh, forgetting the incident altogether n i just give in. I dont know why im trying to retain him. I have lost romantic feelings for him but i do find him attractive. Probably with time i will drift off too, if nothing changes, even though i dont want to.
I have always wanted a leo, love how arrogant they are. Their pride is just amazing to look at. But realised, they have to love me as much as i love them to make the relationship work.
Actaully to answer u, yes i didnt did what he wanted but i wasnt taking advantage of him too nor was i taking him for granted. I was just being'me', n it prob didnt turn the way he wanted. But i have done some things in the past as he wanted. When i do so, he will hug me. And thats it, life goes on. He is just so high maintenance like this.click to expand
Posted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.click to expand
Posted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.click to expand
Posted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by LionandafishPosted by MgPosted by Lionandafish
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?
Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.
Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.
Thing is, Leos don't really want or need help. They arent weak or victims. They're not a project to fix because they're not broken.
I think you might need to work on yourself and your insecurities and stop worrying about helping him because nothing is wrong with him so don't treat him like there is. You've compared yourself to his ex and you're hung up on his experience with his ex. But that's the past, we learn from it, we grow from it, we remember it, but we don't live there anymore. So unless he has depression, he's not living in the past so leave it where it belongs and live in the present moment. It's been a long time so he has moved forward and is over her, you need to get over her too or you're going to ruin your relationship more.click to expand