Leo man and aquarius women

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Mg on Friday, March 5, 2021 and has 31 replies.
I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.

My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.

He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.

After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.

It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.

After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.

Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.

My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
Move on.

You a mother now, it's all about your baby.
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.


Are you fucking nuts?
Just look at it as he came into your life to give you the gift of motherhood.

Take this gift and cherish it. He can be there. Not be there... Just be the woman you need to be for yourself and your baby. Him being a Leo will make this all so difficult and not worth the squeeze.
Posted by Mg

My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
You should never wait for another person to change.
Posted by peachy06

A guy shows signs he dosn't like you, but you stay with him, you're weird.
Lol you think you so nonchalant....
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.


Are you fucking nuts?
click to expand
I want to come move in with you. Can I?
If a guy is going to cheat, there's nothing you can do about it.

Especially now that you're pregnant. There's not a rush to have babies with a douchebag. You have to figure out how you can deal with or without him, he's doing what he wants and will continue to disrespect you. He doesn't see a reason to change.
Posted by Emhendo

Move on.

You a mother now, it's all about your baby.
How can she move on?

He is paying all the bills. She is unemployed, was in school, and now she has a child to feed.
Crazy


What was the argument about with the friend and what is the friend sign??

That could be a sign of disloyalty, that's important to Leo's

Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Emhendo

Move on.

You a mother now, it's all about your baby.


How can she move on?

He is paying all the bills. She is unemployed, was in school, and now she has a child to feed.
click to expand
Oh.

She need to go back with family or something then. I wouldn't even bother trynna make her make a Leo nigga care.
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.

My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.

He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.

After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.

It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.

After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.

Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.

My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?
What are your birthdates?
Posted by MikeNYNYC
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.

My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.

He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.

After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.

It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.

After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.

Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.

My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?


What are your birthdates?
click to expand
27 jan, 3 aug
Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.
He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.

My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.
Posted by Emhendo
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Emhendo

Move on.

You a mother now, it's all about your baby.


How can she move on?

He is paying all the bills. She is unemployed, was in school, and now she has a child to feed.


Oh.

She need to go back with family or something then. I wouldn't even bother trynna make her make a Leo nigga care.
click to expand
Idk. Sorry op, your between a rock and a hard place. And not in the fun way.
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.

My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.
click to expand


Everyone is different. My dad, my cousin's husband, my other cousin, my aunt, my cousins son, are all Leos and we are all so different to each other so it's hard to flat out say "this is what Leo wants". But I know with me, when it comes to exes, if you were part of my life and someone I cared for, I always will care for you. That doesn't mean I'd ever love you past a platonic way or be disloyal to my current partner just means you're always important to me because your part in my life helped shape me into who I am today. As for the work colleague, probably just attention or an ego boost. If he deleted the messages then that's probably done now.

What is he doing to you? Is he arguing, putting you down, making back handed remarks? If I get like that it's because the other person isn't doing what I want and I feel taken for granted. It's an ego/pride driven reaction. Can you pin point what he's saying and what it's a reaction to or be more specific so I can understand what is at the root of it.


Posted by Mg
Posted by MikeNYNYC
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that. We both are adults in our late 20s. Im doing masters in arts and so im full time studying. He is working full time. After moving in, 1 week all was great. Slowly things changed.

My bestfriend told him off regarding an issue and it became a thing for him that he showed his face a lot and mentioned that I did not stood up for him where actually I did, just that my friend is more dominant. Thats when everything started.

He showed more attitude, less interest in me, more fights for trivial issue, feeling he is disrespecting me, stopped spending time with me and taking me for granted.

After that i got pregnant, unexepected. We kept the baby because both of us wanted too. He confuses me, sometimes he is normal, and rest he is distanced.

It went on a year like this, and our child was born. He is very close with our child.

After a year and 3months living together, i went through his phone. Found out that he hasnt gotten over his ex, who was his 8 years ago and he actually has feelings for her. She left him for her family. And after we both started living together, he started pursuing/ flirting with his crush in his office, his junior. Had many of her pictures on his phone compared to mine. She didnt really respond to him well though n treats him as a good friend. Found this through his texts and all of this happened while we were pregnant. When i confronted him on both these issues mentioning i looked up on his phone, he said he has gotten over his ex and he doesnt have any interest on his junior. After a few days, when i went back to look at his chat with his junior, all of it was deleted.

Guess he is sticking with me because of our child. We have not gotten married yet. Feel he doent like me more because im not meeting most of his expectations. When i have made changes to everything of mine to meet his expectations, after confronting, there are some changes. But fundamentally he hasnt changed his attitude towards me, like during our arguments he makes it a point to not even hear my side to it.

My question is, do we have a future? Should i be patient to for him to change his liking towards me forgetting his ex, or should I move on?


What are your birthdates?


27 jan, 3 aug
click to expand
I need years too.
The short answer is probably not. This has nothing to do with zodiac signs. You moved in with a stranger that you met on a dating app after only two months and then later had a kid with him after problems had already arisen.
Posted by Maxian

What did you find in his phone that he hasn't gotten over his ex? Is he talking to her? Or just pics?

The junior might just be for attention, because Leo love and need that.

How were you in the beginning? Is it possible to go back to thow you once were before the baby?
He hasnt gotten over his ex because all throughout tge years after his breakup with her(9years) he has been constantly looking out for her, tring to know her whearabouts. But she has withdrawn from all social media n she has not contacted him ever since they parted. Even after we got together, he has tried looking for her n wished her on her birthdays in despair that she might visit her old account and get in touch with him. When they broke up, he was totally shattered n hasnt gotten over a long time.

Got to know about this through his other texts to his other childhood friends over the years about how he constantly misses her, even after many years.

Couldnt find any texts with his ex.

The junior was not a serious thing, cuz it didnt click at any point n he wasnt physically cheating on me though he did try for some other reasons.

I felt we shared some moments that reminded him of his ex, thats why he was very much interested in me? Like i had some similarities with his ex when we initially started, like our personalities and characteristics. They were just similarities n not exactly the same, so after we moved in together it was just short lived for a week. He realised it isnt the same n kinda moved out of some zone?!

All of this is my guess, but things im sure 1) similarities between his ex n me 2) he misses his ex till date. When they broke up, he told his friend that his ex isnt to be blamed n she had her own problems thats why she left n blah blah. So he isnt at all angry with his ex, knows why she left n really felt that they could have been together
Posted by Chuckcem

The short answer is probably not. This has nothing to do with zodiac signs. You moved in with a stranger that you met on a dating app after only two months and then later had a kid with him after problems had already arisen.
Yes its true. Made the wrong move.
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II
Posted by Mg

I met this leo man over a dating app, dated over 2 months and moved in with him in an apartment after that.


Are you fucking nuts?


I want to come move in with you. Can I?
click to expand


Why yes that's a great idea !
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.

My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.


Everyone is different. My dad, my cousin's husband, my other cousin, my aunt, my cousins son, are all Leos and we are all so different to each other so it's hard to flat out say "this is what Leo wants". But I know with me, when it comes to exes, if you were part of my life and someone I cared for, I always will care for you. That doesn't mean I'd ever love you past a platonic way or be disloyal to my current partner just means you're always important to me because your part in my life helped shape me into who I am today. As for the work colleague, probably just attention or an ego boost. If he deleted the messages then that's probably done now.

What is he doing to you? Is he arguing, putting you down, making back handed remarks? If I get like that it's because the other person isn't doing what I want and I feel taken for granted. It's an ego/pride driven reaction. Can you pin point what he's saying and what it's a reaction to or be more specific so I can understand what is at the root of it.
click to expand
I cant do anything about him forgetting his past, i dont want to control him. As an aquarian as much as I want my freedom i respect his space and freedom too. But i want to be there in his next phase of life, i want to see my future with him. I want him to move on. Maybe he hasnt find a closure on his past, a proper one. Not sure how to help him on it

Im ignoring his colleague's matter for the moment. Willing to let this go. Sometimes it takes me time mentally to overcome all of this situation. I harp on it and it takes me days to move on accepting all of this. Would have preferred him telling me all of this by himself. I value honesty the most. I value his feelings whatever they maybe. But i just want him to open up more. I want to be his friend. Somehow i felt we skipped the stage of being good friends and then partners to strangers, having a fling, flirtacious and then partners. We lack communication, he hates confrontation, doesnt take the effort to listen, like he doesnt even want to get in there and communication is a big no no. He knows that probably its not right but doesnt want to do anything.

I need to be his 1)friend, so that he will share more with me. He has a huge circle of friends that we hardly get our time together 2) get him to open up more, share more things 3) listen to what i have got to say ( when we argue its so difficult, he doesnt listen n ends up him talking about head where im talking about tail), 4) need to confront him if anything comes up in the best way possible that he doesnt get worked up and i get the issue solved 5) need him to share his views as much as possible 6) encourage him to communicate better 7) need to know his taste in women fashion (how he likes his women to be dressed)

Even though i might be an aquarius, i realosed i have a lot of traits of cancer when it comes it caring

I feel even when i ask him to be honest about his feelings he doesnt say much. More like he doesnt want to hurt me, I feel he tries to play the good man here. One incident he told in anger that he doesnt want to spend money for whatever i requested, n then he calmed down n told me to buy whatever i need. I thought he is stingy at first whenever it comes to money issue he tries not to spend as much.after reading general leo traits i knew that actually they like to spend luxuriously n love to spend for loved ones. Connected this issue to when he actually doesnt mind spending on himself n for his loved ones, whereas when it comes to me he is hesitant on spending. Sometimes it is about careful spending, but most of it is the other one i felt he doesnt want to spend much on me.

He likes me sacrificing my likes for him, but he wont do the same. He likes me pampering him with massages n everyother things that he wants me to do, but wont do the same for me. He is always hesitant and full of excuses.

Initially i did not take his liking seriously n we had fights about it. My point was just if u r not doing than im not doing too. But when i have found him drifting off, with all my best efforts im doing whatever he wants to make him stay.

I wont lie, he is very charming. Thats why even when i cross with him, he is able to change my mind n make me laugh, forgetting the incident altogether n i just give in. I dont know why im trying to retain him. I have lost romantic feelings for him but i do find him attractive. Probably with time i will drift off too, if nothing changes, even though i dont want to.

I have always wanted a leo, love how arrogant they are. Their pride is just amazing to look at. But realised, they have to love me as much as i love them to make the relationship work.

Actaully to answer u, yes i didnt did what he wanted but i wasnt taking advantage of him too nor was i taking him for granted. I was just being'me', n it prob didnt turn the way he wanted. But i have done some things in the past as he wanted. When i do so, he will hug me. And thats it, life goes on. He is just so high maintenance like this.
I did let him know i looked up at his phone n confronted, apologised for breaking his trust. He hasnt changed his password, he sometimes brings up the issue abt me looking up at his phone. Told him, its okay, take ur time to build trust again. He replies, no i trust u, the trust isnt broken
He has his ex' pictures stored in his google drive. He considered her serious in his life. I value his feelings. It hurts to know why he doesnt trust me with his past. Why he doesnt trust him to share his deepest.

I have not broken his trust in the past. Infact i did not know all of this till 1.5 years of our relationship. All the while was wondering whats wrong till, i thought maybe i shld try to find answers on his phone as he is not opening up.
Posted by Purplesky
Posted by Mg

He has his ex' pictures stored in his google drive. He considered her serious in his life. I value his feelings. It hurts to know why he doesnt trust me with his past. Why he doesnt trust him to share his deepest.

I have not broken his trust in the past. Infact i did not know all of this till 1.5 years of our relationship. All the while was wondering whats wrong till, i thought maybe i shld try to find answers on his phone as he is not opening up.

that sucks, just having to dig through his phone is not gonna help you its only making your feelings get hurt...
click to expand


Yes i have a future maybe its not with him.
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


He flirted and stopped after a while when the girl wasnt proactively responding. He deleted the chat after confronting. Im quite expressive, I will like to communicate well, but he doesnt. He doesnt like to talk much. He once told me of his preferences, wjat he likes. When I did not pay much attention to it, he left at it and showed disinterest. After i searched about leo sign and realised that it could be the reason for how he is reacting, I made everything possible to my best efforts as his way, n there r slight improvements in how he responds to what i do for him. But however, the way he reacts to me, fundamentally hasnt changed.

My guess is his ex is haunting him. He hasnt moved on.


Everyone is different. My dad, my cousin's husband, my other cousin, my aunt, my cousins son, are all Leos and we are all so different to each other so it's hard to flat out say "this is what Leo wants". But I know with me, when it comes to exes, if you were part of my life and someone I cared for, I always will care for you. That doesn't mean I'd ever love you past a platonic way or be disloyal to my current partner just means you're always important to me because your part in my life helped shape me into who I am today. As for the work colleague, probably just attention or an ego boost. If he deleted the messages then that's probably done now.

What is he doing to you? Is he arguing, putting you down, making back handed remarks? If I get like that it's because the other person isn't doing what I want and I feel taken for granted. It's an ego/pride driven reaction. Can you pin point what he's saying and what it's a reaction to or be more specific so I can understand what is at the root of it.


I cant do anything about him forgetting his past, i dont want to control him. As an aquarian as much as I want my freedom i respect his space and freedom too. But i want to be there in his next phase of life, i want to see my future with him. I want him to move on. Maybe he hasnt find a closure on his past, a proper one. Not sure how to help him on it

Im ignoring his colleague's matter for the moment. Willing to let this go. Sometimes it takes me time mentally to overcome all of this situation. I harp on it and it takes me days to move on accepting all of this. Would have preferred him telling me all of this by himself. I value honesty the most. I value his feelings whatever they maybe. But i just want him to open up more. I want to be his friend. Somehow i felt we skipped the stage of being good friends and then partners to strangers, having a fling, flirtacious and then partners. We lack communication, he hates confrontation, doesnt take the effort to listen, like he doesnt even want to get in there and communication is a big no no. He knows that probably its not right but doesnt want to do anything.

I need to be his 1)friend, so that he will share more with me. He has a huge circle of friends that we hardly get our time together 2) get him to open up more, share more things 3) listen to what i have got to say ( when we argue its so difficult, he doesnt listen n ends up him talking about head where im talking about tail), 4) need to confront him if anything comes up in the best way possible that he doesnt get worked up and i get the issue solved 5) need him to share his views as much as possible 6) encourage him to communicate better 7) need to know his taste in women fashion (how he likes his women to be dressed)

Even though i might be an aquarius, i realosed i have a lot of traits of cancer when it comes it caring

I feel even when i ask him to be honest about his feelings he doesnt say much. More like he doesnt want to hurt me, I feel he tries to play the good man here. One incident he told in anger that he doesnt want to spend money for whatever i requested, n then he calmed down n told me to buy whatever i need. I thought he is stingy at first whenever it comes to money issue he tries not to spend as much.after reading general leo traits i knew that actually they like to spend luxuriously n love to spend for loved ones. Connected this issue to when he actually doesnt mind spending on himself n for his loved ones, whereas when it comes to me he is hesitant on spending. Sometimes it is about careful spending, but most of it is the other one i felt he doesnt want to spend much on me.

He likes me sacrificing my likes for him, but he wont do the same. He likes me pampering him with massages n everyother things that he wants me to do, but wont do the same for me. He is always hesitant and full of excuses.

Initially i did not take his liking seriously n we had fights about it. My point was just if u r not doing than im not doing too. But when i have found him drifting off, with all my best efforts im doing whatever he wants to make him stay.

I wont lie, he is very charming. Thats why even when i cross with him, he is able to change my mind n make me laugh, forgetting the incident altogether n i just give in. I dont know why im trying to retain him. I have lost romantic feelings for him but i do find him attractive. Probably with time i will drift off too, if nothing changes, even though i dont want to.

I have always wanted a leo, love how arrogant they are. Their pride is just amazing to look at. But realised, they have to love me as much as i love them to make the relationship work.

Actaully to answer u, yes i didnt did what he wanted but i wasnt taking advantage of him too nor was i taking him for granted. I was just being'me', n it prob didnt turn the way he wanted. But i have done some things in the past as he wanted. When i do so, he will hug me. And thats it, life goes on. He is just so high maintenance like this.
click to expand


Ok so he's not abusive or a complete jerk but he's not responding or communicating how you want.. Is that the problem?

I can't speak for everyone, but in my experience with Leos and myself....

Leo's have a different definition of friendship to most people. We don't generally share feelings or problems and don't like burdening anyone. Friends are for fun and to help. Not to make sad or put in a downer mood with our problems. We love our friends so we don't want them to worry about us. We're tough and can deal with our own problems.

Our feelings are confusing because we're furious for 5 seconds and we roar, then we're hurt, sad, bitter resentful, fine, happy... we're all of it so we don't know how we feel. Pushing a Leo to talk about what's bothering them or pointing out they're acting in a bad way makes us push away and want to be alone until we're happy again. We know we say stuff we'll regret if pushed so we want to avoid it. Unfortunately, people see our need for space as anger at them, but it's not. We're trying to save them from ourselves because we're scared of hurting people and losing control of our emotions. When we've calmed down, we can talk about it but if it's going to bring strong emotions back to the surface and make us mean, we don't want to talk about it because we want to leave those feelings locked up where they can't cause anymore damage. So that's something you can't force us to talk about unless you want it to become ugly.

As for listening, we don't like criticism or anything that makes us uncomfortable so if it's all about what you don't like about us and what we're doing wrong, or how we should be, we will get our claws out and scratch back with all your flaws. It means your hurting us so we'll fight back. When we're not fighting you anymore, it means we are so broken on the inside from taking it for so long that we don't care anymore and your opinion is of no value. We're crap like that but we are hearing what you're saying even though we're arguing and speaking over you, we just don't want to hear it, you're hurting us and our emotions are overwhelming us so we need space afterwards to calm the fire.

Leo needs to be accepted and loved for who they are, and not manipulated or changed. If you try to change us, it means you don't love us because if you love us, you won't try to change us into someone else that you can love. So with communication, be mindful of if you're asking him to change. instead when he does something you do like, tell him you like it when he does it, or I had fun, or it was nice spending time together, I really liked just hanging out and talking to you... encourage good behaviour when it happens instead of picking at everything you hate.

As for his taste in women and fashion, that's insecure. Leo will love a person for who they are, not who they're pretending to be. We don't care if you put on weight, get ugly or any of that stuff, that's maybe important for initial attraction but our love isn't superficial and contrary to what people believe, we aren't shallow. We'll accept all of you and your flaws, but you have to accept ours too or we will leave because that's not love.

Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.






click to expand

Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.








click to expand



Thing is, Leos don't really want or need help. They arent weak or victims. They're not a project to fix because they're not broken.

I think you might need to work on yourself and your insecurities and stop worrying about helping him because nothing is wrong with him so don't treat him like there is. You've compared yourself to his ex and you're hung up on his experience with his ex. But that's the past, we learn from it, we grow from it, we remember it, but we don't live there anymore. So unless he has depression, he's not living in the past so leave it where it belongs and live in the present moment. It's been a long time so he has moved forward and is over her, you need to get over her too or you're going to ruin your relationship more.
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish
Posted by Mg
Posted by Lionandafish

Did he cheat on you or was he just flirting and stopped after confronted?

Unfortunately the circumstances of your relationship seem like they are more an obligation and loyalty to the child than a choice to be with each other.

Are you expressive of your feelings and show your care for him, or are you aloof, indifferent and detached emotionally? Reason I ask is because the Aquarius's I've dated haven't been expressive of their feelings or what they want, or made me feel loved.


Yes i did realise what all u have mentioned, it is true and thank u for explaining more, it was insightful. I have realised he did not prolong fights because he knew it will turn ugly. I feel bad for him when i think of his past, how he is unable to move forward n how much his ex has affected him. I will like to help him. How do i go about. Pls view my other posts on this too n do share ur opinions. I think u r able to share leos feelings better, fortunately.










Thing is, Leos don't really want or need help. They arent weak or victims. They're not a project to fix because they're not broken.

I think you might need to work on yourself and your insecurities and stop worrying about helping him because nothing is wrong with him so don't treat him like there is. You've compared yourself to his ex and you're hung up on his experience with his ex. But that's the past, we learn from it, we grow from it, we remember it, but we don't live there anymore. So unless he has depression, he's not living in the past so leave it where it belongs and live in the present moment. It's been a long time so he has moved forward and is over her, you need to get over her too or you're going to ruin your relationship more.
click to expand


How do I be his friend? I feel he spends more time n is comfortable around his friends, so how do i actually be in his friends list. dos and donts

How can i match his wavelength? How do i get to speak/ communicate with him on the same way he thinks?

n how do i move on from now? I have began to not go to him when i have problems, rather deal them on my own. trying to fulfil his expectations to my best of abilities, trying to clean my place keeping them neat as much as possible. Trying to look neat as possible, becuase i was always in pjs n messy bun. any more tips?

I see him as always moving forward, looking at the next step. trying to get to the next stage.

But,he has stopped celebrating valentines day after his ex, we havent celebrated 2 of my birthdays at all for all the time we were together but he has made his ex brithdays always special ( saw prev pictures), we have not celebrated his birthdays too, he told me he doesnt like celebrating his birthdays, while he has insisted his ex to be there on his birthdays when they were together (saw this through some texts).

this is why i felt he hasnt moved on.

Is there any circumstance where leos will talk their heart out? I will not pressure him as mentioned, but is there any other way? How do i make him open up to me more, not the way i want him too but rather him being 100% himself n express the way he is ? because i feel him closed, doesnt open up abt what more he wants, he is selective on saying things.

how do i deal with him when conflict arise? how will leos prefer to deal with issues? is it the way i put it, my tone?

I have accepted him as how he is, i dont criticise him on how he looks or dressed up. Im his admirer he knows that. I encourage good behaviour, when he does something nice for me, but he doesnt do that again. As in lets say, we spoke well one day, when i tell him that I enjoyed our talk, it doesnt happen again. Same as, when he wants me to massage his back and when i do it without complaining, he is fine. when i request him to massage for me, he declines it. he doesnt want to do the same. So lets say whenever he asks me to do it for him, i do it all the time. but when it comes to me, out of 10 times i ask him to do, he does it probably once only. So, what do i do. I mean this is a small issue, but i feel its reflecting in every other aspects in our relationship. so, what is the problem? my understanding is, if he has moved on, n likes me, then he shld actually do it right. In this case even if i can draw it to laziness what about other aspects in life? I dont see him willingly do things for me. When i do ask him if we shld continue in this relationship, he replies all is fine n i shld not make anything an issue, like im making it all up n all is fine.

Stop comparing yourself and your relationship to his ex. - if you feel inadequate, work on your insecurities and your own self worth.

NEVER compare yourself to anyone. Jealousy is ugly and why are you opening his closet and looking at his skeletons? Don't you respect his privacy?

Stop trying to mould yourself into what you think he wants. He was drawn to you, not a fake fabricated version. Leos hate fake people.

Don't ask him "should we continue this relationship" like you need his decision. It's your decision to continue or not, so you make that decision. Asking that question just shows your insecurities and again, that you need to work on your own insecurities and self worth.

You can't force someone to open up to you. People open up when they feel safe, secure, valued, not judged and comfortable. They don't open up if it's demanded or someone tries to force them to. It's supposed to be natural, not manipulated.

Finally, the only person you have the power to change, is yourself. Go out with your own friends, get a hobby, learn a new skill. Add value to yourself and your own life.