Posted by hauntHmmm I doubt it. Like when we began to be fully friends, he told me he still wants things to be the same as in hangout every weekend, keep communication going, etc. He didn't want things to change between him and I except that boundary. This was also before I called off the Valentine Days plans. It was ever since that where he became extremely distant and then would post things on his social media that were likely directed towards me since it seemed relevant to the situation. It could be he's busy, but he always makes time.
You’re reading way too into this, of course the vibe changed, you guys are strictly friends now. I don’t talk to my friends every single day, it’s nothing personal .. he’s probably busy. 🤷🏻♀️
Posted by JustBrowsingYeah, I haven't contacted him at all. So I mean I was thinking about reaching out in a week and kinda see how it goes.
You need to let him relax a little bit. By pushing any further it just makes things worse. Be warned, you might wait five minutes or five months.
Posted by macmillerThis is the first time I've dealt with a leo moon lol I've dealt with all other fixed moons lmao
Leo moons are a tripp lmao
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingHmm okay, maybe he was looking forward to that then. I do have a Leo moon but I also have a Leo mercury, if someone does something like cancel plans.. I’m pretty verbal about me liking it or not. Maybe talk to him about going back to the original plan, go do this vday thing with him as friends.Posted by hauntHmmm I doubt it. Like when we began to be fully friends, he told me he still wants things to be the same as in hangout every weekend, keep communication going, etc. He didn't want things to change between him and I except that boundary. This was also before I called off the Valentine Days plans. It was ever since that where he became extremely distant and then would post things on his social media that were likely directed towards me since it seemed relevant to the situation. It could be he's busy, but he always makes time.
You’re reading way too into this, of course the vibe changed, you guys are strictly friends now. I don’t talk to my friends every single day, it’s nothing personal .. he’s probably busy. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by DMVSee that's my thing. I've dated people where the foundation of friendship was already set, so I was able to be friends. With him, we never had that foundation, so usually I'm fine with burning a bridge and moving on. However, I'm trying to develop that habit and not do that anymore, which takes practice. I did want a relationship, however, I didn't want one anytime soon. When we had this talk, I told him that I'm aware that he isn't looking for anything anytime soon, and I am not looking for commitment anytime soon either, but I'd like something to develop later in the future future. the issue is, he expressed love for me already and I have to, but I think he's scared of being hurt again since his last relationship was a disaster and he was pretty damaged when I first met him. Even that, when I first met him I was looking for something casual, but he brought emotions into this first which then led me to exploring it. But it got pretty intense quickly and caused fear resulting him in pulling away. At least that's my perspective. I'm just trying to be patient, but it's kinda hard when we don't see eye to eye at the moment and we can't be on the same page if we can't communicate.
Dont you think you deserve better out of a mate and damn sure out of a friend??
Why even be friends??
Does being friends equate to any of your expectations?
You clearly want a relationship. You were clearly dating.
Now you're cool with being friends???
I dont get why people are continuously wanting to be friends with people when they want to be romantically involved.
Demand better
Posted by hauntI want to do that but I think I have to wait until he reaches out or something. He has a Virgo Mercury rx, so I'm sure he's probably overthinking every single detail lolPosted by Endlessly-dreamingHmm okay, maybe he was looking forward to that then. I do have a Leo moon but I also have a Leo mercury, if someone does something like cancel plans.. I’m pretty verbal about me liking it or not. Maybe talk to him about going back to the original plan, go do this vday thing with him as friends.Posted by hauntHmmm I doubt it. Like when we began to be fully friends, he told me he still wants things to be the same as in hangout every weekend, keep communication going, etc. He didn't want things to change between him and I except that boundary. This was also before I called off the Valentine Days plans. It was ever since that where he became extremely distant and then would post things on his social media that were likely directed towards me since it seemed relevant to the situation. It could be he's busy, but he always makes time.
You’re reading way too into this, of course the vibe changed, you guys are strictly friends now. I don’t talk to my friends every single day, it’s nothing personal .. he’s probably busy. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okay
Posted by slowdive80I feel like he lost control of the situation, like he wanted to maintain control. But when I did that he felt he lost control of the situation because he isn't getting what he wants. As a Pisces and having a Pisces stellium and 9H stellium, I hate control freaks too, I need room to swim around and be free. I also respect all decisions he's made up until now, I wasn't going to spend my money or spend time with someone on valentine's day when it's strictly platonic when I would've expected more couple-y things. I also wanted to respect his boundary, which was my main reason for doing that.
Whats ironic is leo moons are supposed to be a match for sag mooners like me. But I am turned off by arrogance and control-freakery.
I can imagine that the hooking up may be great as I can see them being uninhibited sexually. But that is it.
I feel the same towards aries mooners - sex might be great but the arrogance and controlling nature put me off.
So that leaves just the sag moon and I think I prefer that as even there are flaws they tend to not be controlling or that arrogant.
But that has just been in my experience
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingHe probably is overthinking everything and I’m guessing that’s why he’s gotten distant. I’d talk to him, be straightforward or you’ll be waiting forever. He’ll take forever to over analyze everything.Posted by hauntI want to do that but I think I have to wait until he reaches out or something. He has a Virgo Mercury rx, so I'm sure he's probably overthinking every single detail lolPosted by Endlessly-dreamingHmm okay, maybe he was looking forward to that then. I do have a Leo moon but I also have a Leo mercury, if someone does something like cancel plans.. I’m pretty verbal about me liking it or not. Maybe talk to him about going back to the original plan, go do this vday thing with him as friends.Posted by hauntHmmm I doubt it. Like when we began to be fully friends, he told me he still wants things to be the same as in hangout every weekend, keep communication going, etc. He didn't want things to change between him and I except that boundary. This was also before I called off the Valentine Days plans. It was ever since that where he became extremely distant and then would post things on his social media that were likely directed towards me since it seemed relevant to the situation. It could be he's busy, but he always makes time.
You’re reading way too into this, of course the vibe changed, you guys are strictly friends now. I don’t talk to my friends every single day, it’s nothing personal .. he’s probably busy. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingOmg that’s my combo hahaha Leo moon Scorpio mars 😂😂 we can be really stubbornPosted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okayclick to expand
Posted by hauntI might give it a week and just go from there otherwise I'm gonna leave it alone I think that's best for this situation.Posted by Endlessly-dreamingHe probably is overthinking everything and I’m guessing that’s why he’s gotten distant. I’d talk to him, be straightforward or you’ll be waiting forever. He’ll take forever to over analyze everything.Posted by hauntI want to do that but I think I have to wait until he reaches out or something. He has a Virgo Mercury rx, so I'm sure he's probably overthinking every single detail lolPosted by Endlessly-dreamingHmm okay, maybe he was looking forward to that then. I do have a Leo moon but I also have a Leo mercury, if someone does something like cancel plans.. I’m pretty verbal about me liking it or not. Maybe talk to him about going back to the original plan, go do this vday thing with him as friends.Posted by hauntHmmm I doubt it. Like when we began to be fully friends, he told me he still wants things to be the same as in hangout every weekend, keep communication going, etc. He didn't want things to change between him and I except that boundary. This was also before I called off the Valentine Days plans. It was ever since that where he became extremely distant and then would post things on his social media that were likely directed towards me since it seemed relevant to the situation. It could be he's busy, but he always makes time.
You’re reading way too into this, of course the vibe changed, you guys are strictly friends now. I don’t talk to my friends every single day, it’s nothing personal .. he’s probably busy. 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
Posted by Sag898Yeaahhhhh. I kinda figured he would be stubborn with all of that fixed energy. I'm mutable dominant, so most of the time I tend to flow with everything, but I also have cardinal energy which would make me take lead -- like in this situation -- not everyone could have the upper hand all the time. Idk if trying would even help lololPosted by Endlessly-dreamingOmg that’s my combo hahaha Leo moon Scorpio mars 😂😂 we can be really stubbornPosted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okayclick to expand
Posted by JustBrowsingthis is what I'm thinking too. I don't wanna give him the satisfaction of me trying and then him blowing it off or have my efforts be wasted like that.Posted by Endlessly-dreamingI'd leave it alone, you chasing him will encourage bad behavior. He's the one with the problem.Posted by JustBrowsingYeah, I haven't contacted him at all. So I mean I was thinking about reaching out in a week and kinda see how it goes.
You need to let him relax a little bit. By pushing any further it just makes things worse. Be warned, you might wait five minutes or five months.click to expand
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingWell what is your end goal?Posted by Sag898Yeaahhhhh. I kinda figured he would be stubborn with all of that fixed energy. I'm mutable dominant, so most of the time I tend to flow with everything, but I also have cardinal energy which would make me take lead -- like in this situation -- not everyone could have the upper hand all the time. Idk if trying would even help lololPosted by Endlessly-dreamingOmg that’s my combo hahaha Leo moon Scorpio mars 😂😂 we can be really stubbornPosted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okayclick to expand
Posted by Sag898I mostly want to retain the friendship, I enjoyed his company and I know he enjoys mine. I want to be able to hangout for Valentine's day but just as friends.Posted by Endlessly-dreamingWell what is your end goal?Posted by Sag898Yeaahhhhh. I kinda figured he would be stubborn with all of that fixed energy. I'm mutable dominant, so most of the time I tend to flow with everything, but I also have cardinal energy which would make me take lead -- like in this situation -- not everyone could have the upper hand all the time. Idk if trying would even help lololPosted by Endlessly-dreamingOmg that’s my combo hahaha Leo moon Scorpio mars 😂😂 we can be really stubbornPosted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okayclick to expand
Posted by Gobby😂. He's talking about firebunny... at least he better be 🤨 @PowerDonutPosted by PowerDonut
Shit placements
@LostinmyMind11
*stirs shit*click to expand
Posted by slowdive80I don’t see any controlling nor arrogance in aries mooner. Not a slight bit. 🤷♀️
I feel the same towards aries mooners - sex might be great but the arrogance and controlling nature put me off.
So that leaves just the sag moon and I think I prefer that as even there are flaws they tend to not be controlling or that arrogant.
But that has just been in my experience
Posted by DMVJust thought the same. Is being friends new for breaking up?
Dont you think you deserve better out of a mate and damn sure out of a friend??
Why even be friends??
Does being friends equate to any of your expectations?
You clearly want a relationship. You were clearly dating.
Now you're cool with being friends???
I dont get why people are continuously wanting to be friends with people when they want to be romantically involved.
Demand better
Posted by LostinmyMind11You think? Lol
So what actually happened up until this point?
There is a huge chunk of the story being left out here...
Posted by LostinmyMind11So basically what lead to this point was we hung out one weekend, I expressed my feelings and told him that I see potential in the future just not at this moment because we both have things we have to work on (him being out of a relationship, me getting out of a karmic cycle I was in with one of my exes last year) I wasn't hung up on my ex but basically I realized how much that relationship messed me up. He told me he doesn't see potential because he isn't looking for something serious anytime soon, though he loves me. We spoke on the phone and we agreed that we will remain casual. So the next day, he texted me asking why I blocked one of his friends from social media, now this person isn't like a close friend, it's another person who he was seeing. But basically I blocked the person bc I saw the person's story awhile back out of curiosity and blocked the person because I didnt want the person finding out or well to avoid the situation. I have no idea how I was even caught since this happened awhile back. (my speculation is that this person was lurking me, since the Virgo would post me on his social media and not post them)
So what actually happened up until this point?
There is a huge chunk of the story being left out here...
Posted by MissKrabsSee if he wanted more he could have told me, but instead he chose not to. I was fine with being casual until we were both ready for that type of commitment, but he told me he doesn't want that level of commitment at the moment, which I was fine with. It doesn't make sense in my head either, and trust me I don't care if he was talking to other people, I just be open about it lol. Yeah she asked him or I have no idea how they both even found out, but I mean that's another mystery honestly. LOLPosted by Endlessly-dreamingPosted by LostinmyMind11So basically what lead to this point was we hung out one weekend, I expressed my feelings and told him that I see potential in the future just not at this moment because we both have things we have to work on (him being out of a relationship, me getting out of a karmic cycle I was in with one of my exes last year) I wasn't hung up on my ex but basically I realized how much that relationship messed me up. He told me he doesn't see potential because he isn't looking for something serious anytime soon, though he loves me. We spoke on the phone and we agreed that we will remain casual. So the next day, he texted me asking why I blocked one of his friends from social media, now this person isn't like a close friend, it's another person who he was seeing. But basically I blocked the person bc I saw the person's story awhile back out of curiosity and blocked the person because I didnt want the person finding out or well to avoid the situation. I have no idea how I was even caught since this happened awhile back. (my speculation is that this person was lurking me, since the Virgo would post me on his social media and not post them)
So what actually happened up until this point?
There is a huge chunk of the story being left out here...
So we spoke about it, I was honest, things were good soooo fast forward to later that week, we went to a rave together. I wanted to be on the same page so we talked before the rave, like a day before and that was when he said he doesnt want to be casual, which then lead me to agreeing and canceling valentines day plans to respect the boundary. I'm aware I probs fucked up lol
At the rave all was good, like we danced and vibed together, but at one point I ran into a friend who was super clinging on to me even though I told him no. So this looked bad in front of him and his best friend and was aware. So I explained myself and then we ended up splitting at one point. We regrouped and when we did I got an off vibe from him and his best friend (I'm sure they spoke about it or thought I was doing something shady or like was using that friend to make him jealous) which was not the case at all.
Sooo I got weird vibes, so I backed off as he did too at the event. which then leads to this situation. I explained to him about the situation with my friend and he got mad saying he doesn't give a fuck, but I knew it bothered him because the vibe was just off the entire time and even after the event, I could feel it. So I asked if everything was good and if I need to know something or if he has anything to say. He said everything's good, so I said ok if everything's good on your end things are good on my end. I took his word for it. The next day I sent him a good morning text, have a good first day of class, and asked him about this artist (since our whole bond is based off similar music tastes etc). Sooo he never responded, which makes me believe that things are really not ok. But yet he still the first to look at my stories on social media, and he's posted some stuff on social media that was kinda directed towards me since it was relevant to the situation.
this sounds like he does want more but since you don't right now, he doesn't either and he is jelous and petty. not sure how this works in his head since he is seeing someone else. i guess he wants attention from both or who knows. so his other gf asks him why you blocked her? 😂click to expand
Posted by EllygantThis situation sounds almost exactly what's happening to my situation.
My ex is a Virgo Sun/Leo moon. He was exceptionally hot to chase at first. Said he loved me right away, later said he was going to try to marry me a few times. Then when the relationship started progressing and we were actually being very emotionally intimate he shut down, so much so I not think he even realized it. Then when he did, he realized he wasn’t investing in me the way I had always said I needed and it wasn’t fair to me.
We later agreed that what I wanted he wasn’t capable of and agreed to break up. He insisted he still really wanted to be friends, kept hugging me and asking me to wait before I left. Text me multiple times that night saying he didn’t want to lose my friendship and he knows I dont stay in touch with ex’s but he really didn’t want to lose me. We didn’t really speak again after that tho. I didn’t have any interest in doing so, and so I haven’t really thought to his reasoning as a result.
If I had to wager now tho, Virgos are exceptionally soft and sentimental underneath. And I think they find it special when someone just ‘gets’ them so the idealistic and soft part of them wants to hold on, even though the mercurial and logical side says it’s not going to work. They are mutable after all, even with his fixed moon, so there will be that constant balancing of a dual nature. Let him go. If there’s enough there to make a real friendship, you’ll be able to do so after a bit of decompression time. If not then a ton least you don’t have to worry.
Posted by Sag898Posted by Endlessly-dreamingOmg that’s my combo hahaha Leo moon Scorpio mars 😂😂 we can be really stubbornPosted by Sag898Yeah, that's why I'm asking if there's a way to break out of it. I understand he doesn't owe me anything and I have to be okay with never getting an explanation. He's a Scorpio Mars, which doesn't help my case lmaooo
Virgos are really cold. Having a fixed moon on top of that hmmm. His mind probably got made up.
I do the same thing. What's his mars?
If he's just a friend he doesn't owe you anything anymore unfortunately. It takes time to your realize that but you'll be okayclick to expand
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingThis sounds like a Virgo question more than a Leo question. Virgos test potential lovers in ways that seem downright strange to more emotional/passionate signs. They can be very skittish emotionally and will use friendship as a way to slow things down in order to observe the other person. This is more comfortable for them than rushing into situations since Virgos enoy stable/consistent partners. Thats not to say Virgos can't be direct, but many take up the "wait and see" mentality when they are unsure of where things are heading.
Hello,
so I am kinda at a low point with a Leo Moon friend, he's a Virgo sun/Leo Moon and basically he's angry with me or won't talk to me. Basically we used to date/talk, but he told me he would prefer to be just friends for now because he isn't ready for that type of commitment even though he says he loves me, so I respected that and said we could be casual. He later changed his mind and wanted to be strictly friends. So, I ended up agreeing and canceling our Valentine's Day plans because I would then be crossing the boundary he is setting up (I explained this to him). Ever since then, he's been weird with me. The vibe has changed, he won't talk to me and he insists that things are fine, but they clearly aren't. We haven't spoken for a couple of days.
So I've never dealt with a Leo Moon before, but I have with the other fixed moons. Do you think this is something they will get over? Like to what extent does their anger reach? because I know his ego/pride is hurt, so I want to fix it but I also want to just give up and leave (flighty Pisces here lol)
Posted by Endlessly-dreamingThis is why right here...Posted by LostinmyMind11
So what actually happened up until this point?
There is a huge chunk of the story being left out here...
So basically what lead to this point was we hung out one weekend, I expressed my feelings and told him that I see potential in the future just not at this moment.click to expand
Posted by airearthfireThere can only be one of us here...so now we have to fight to the death. Dxp rules 🤷
I wanna chime in here because I am a Leo moon and Virgo sun.
1. We can be very possessive and jealous, especially if there is something we want. We self reflect and go inward but hope that you pick up that we want to be chased.
I am a woman - Im not sure of your social traditions (meaning whether you will chase a guy or not) but when Im in a funk... I want you to come check on me even if I dont reply right away.
2. When you "broke up" or rather agreed to - he could be thinking that he wants to think about whether or not he wants you as a friend or step his game up... what would he have to compromise? Bc thats what I would be thinking.
It seems like you really like him... and if you do, then you should tell him so and that you wouldnt want to just be friends going nowhere. Im sure he feels the same way based on your interactions. If he didnt, he would not have snapped at you and tried to play the cool guy... that is if his placements match mine.
My Leo moon makes me want attention. If I dont get it or if it feels like something isnt going according to plan then the Virgo in me gets anxious.
I would say to talk to him bluntly - if you like him, like him & tell him. If you dont, move on.