Leo trait?

This topic was created in the Leo forum by canceraqua on Thursday, September 15, 2016 and has 21 replies.
My moon is Aquarius but my ex has his moon in Leo, and our biggest problem was that he always felt like I treated him like everyone else and I always felt like he didn't give me the emotional space I needed (unless we were fighting lol). But the reason we could never get over it was our second problem, his way or the highway. If he wanted to do something that I didn't like, I would listen to his side of why he should be able to (keep in mind even though I am a cancer I am not a jealous person so there is not much that I am not okay with) and usually I would let him do whatever he wanted unless it was something that could hurt him or someone else. But when it came to me doing something he was even slightly uncomfortable with, the answer was no and if I tried arguing him on it I was yelled at for disrespecting him and the fight would typically last us two days until I finally just gave up my case. So my question is, is the whole needing to feel like you are in complete control a Leo thing? Because I love my ex to death and he always wants to work things out which one day I would love to do, but that is the one thing about him I can't take anymore because I need to feel like an equal, not feel like I have to hold his hand while he makes every decision for the both of us. And if it is, is there a way to get him to be less controlling? (His mars is also in Scorpio so maybe I am just screwed when it comes to him being controlling and cut off all loose ends lol)
Alright..

The moon is in LEO.

And the keyword here is PRIDE.. EGO.. ADORATION..


Leo moons are needy as hell, think about a King or Queen... We want to be treated like royalty, and your Aqua moon probably treats him in a more "friendship" type of way...


One, stop giving him his way all of the time.. For sure. Even if it hurts him, because it will.. But FIGHT BACK. I wish our moon could be more chilled, but it's a little too grand at times.
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I was literally told by someone.. "I noticed you don't ask me about me a lot and talk about yourself" and I felt bad because I didn't notice..

Like I said I'm super generous but idk how to take the Leo in me. I'm TRYING though, I truly am...

After dealing with a Cancer moon it kind of made me love myself to where it's like I'm obsessed with myself now... Idk.

But the best way to deal with him.. Is to express yourself. Like don't do the mind game stuff manipulation you know... But let him know, TALK TO HIM. The thing is Leo moons need is someone who won't give up, we are built off loyalty.
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Yup. He even says he will never give up on me. So when he does, then I know there's something seriously wrong.
Yes. It means we truly are DISAPPOINTED .. That's what bothers me the most.. We are grand, so we expect a lot lot lot in someone we truly do.. And we are not for the weak.


One thing I do hate is how I can cling to someone... Idk why, but it's frustrating..



Also ... Maybe try a relationship game etc.. But TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. And be sincere/genuine we can smell the BS..
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Aqua moons can be mean and mouthy. Yea, we're about the bigger picture, the world, blah blah but sometimes we can really pull some selfish moves by neglecting the one in front of us and arguing until pigs fly
I completely agree with this! I will be so busy in my own world that I completely forget that I need to attend to my personal relationships and when someone tries to give me a hard time about it, I say something rude and witty that shuts them down completely (Rising is also in Gemini lol).
Aqua moon here and yes we are stubborn but not to the extent as a freakn leo moon. They are very shady, selfish and egocentric. One thing i noticed they play this easy going, cool guy behavior but deep inside they are weak and emo wussies
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Posted by TheLibraMudra
Yup. He even says he will never give up on me. So when he does, then I know there's something seriously wrong.
Yes. It means we truly are DISAPPOINTED .. That's what bothers me the most.. We are grand, so we expect a lot lot lot in someone we truly do.. And we are not for the weak.


One thing I do hate is how I can cling to someone... Idk why, but it's frustrating..



Also ... Maybe try a relationship game etc.. But TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. And be sincere/genuine we can smell the BS..
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See, here’s the problem, I have talked to him about it, multiple times. I have told him how I felt both when I was in the heat of the moment (sun in cancer and it comes out every once in awhile) and when calm, neither works. And if it does, he is cooperative for a couple days before he goes back to his old ways. Then will tell me that my way of things is the less efficient way and the only way to do things is his way. But he actually never tries my way of anything for longer than two days before he gets annoyed with it because I am “asking too much”. Which is why I ultimately left him because I couldn’t do it anymore. But he comes back once every two weeks talking to me about working things out and when I did give him the time of day, he just goes back to what he was doing. But when I am distant and tell him that I refuse to just come back, he is amazing up until I finally come back, then comes back with Mr. I’m always in charge. The only other time he tries for me is when I give up on him and try with someone else, then he will try harder than ever. Then when I do finally leave that person for him, he will just tell me that he knew I wouldn’t last with whoever because they aren’t him and goes back to doing everything I can’t stand, lol.
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Posted by TheLibraMudra
Yup. He even says he will never give up on me. So when he does, then I know there's something seriously wrong.
Yes. It means we truly are DISAPPOINTED .. That's what bothers me the most.. We are grand, so we expect a lot lot lot in someone we truly do.. And we are not for the weak.


One thing I do hate is how I can cling to someone... Idk why, but it's frustrating..



Also ... Maybe try a relationship game etc.. But TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. And be sincere/genuine we can smell the BS..
See, here’s the problem, I have talked to him about it, multiple times. I have told him how I felt both when I was in the heat of the moment (sun in cancer and it comes out every once in awhile) and when calm, neither works. And if it does, he is cooperative for a couple days before he goes back to his old ways. Then will tell me that my way of things is the less efficient way and the only way to do things is his way. But he actually never tries my way of anything for longer than two days before he gets annoyed with it because I am “asking too much”. Which is why I ultimately left him because I couldn’t do it anymore. But he comes back once every two weeks talking to me about working things out and when I did give him the time of day, he just goes back to what he was doing. But when I am distant and tell him that I refuse to just come back, he is amazing up until I finally come back, then comes back with Mr. I’m always in charge. The only other time he tries for me is when I give up on him and try with someone else, then he will try harder than ever. Then when I do finally leave that person for him, he will just tell me that he knew I wouldn’t last with whoever because they aren’t him and goes back to doing everything I can’t stand, lol.
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Ohhh I had a ex who used that method.. it's their ego talking. They don't want anyone else to have you... move on.. Leo moon, cancer moon, whatever moon it is... he's just not ready for what you want but don't want someone else to offer it to you..
He's used to you reacting a certain way and can tell you're giving up so he's trying to find ways to get under your skin..


Heal and just don't act like it bothers you anymore
Leo moons do not need to feel like they are in "complete control." Instead, Leo moons need to feel appreciated from time to time because we give so much. Everything from compliments to even meaningful birthday cards go a long, long way.

Indifference or apathy threatens a Leo moons sense of security; apathy is the opposite of love, and anyone with Leo influences in general thrive off of that...whether they admit it or not.
Posted by themagnetoreborn
Leo moons do not need to feel like they are in "complete control." Instead, Leo moons need to feel appreciated from time to time because we give so much. Everything from compliments to even meaningful birthday cards go a long, long way.

Indifference or apathy threatens a Leo moons sense of security; apathy is the opposite of love, and anyone with Leo influences in general thrive off of that...whether they admit it or not.
You saying we like apathy? Or what?
Posted by arose32
He's used to you reacting a certain way and can tell you're giving up so he's trying to find ways to get under your skin..


Heal and just don't act like it bothers you anymore
Yeah honestly it's easy for me to move on for awhile, I always do. But I always just end up finding myself back at square one I guess. But also makes sense, he's a Virgo sun, Aqua rising, Scorpio Mars and I'm a Cancer sun Gemini rising, Virgo Mars. It's just when we are together for long periods of time he gets possessive of me which makes me run away every time because I hate being smothered by anyone. We do pretty well on the distance thing but he just gets in these moods and you can really tell our moons are opposing signs when we are together too long because we can't get along about anything lol.
Posted by themagnetoreborn
Leo moons do not need to feel like they are in "complete control." Instead, Leo moons need to feel appreciated from time to time because we give so much. Everything from compliments to even meaningful birthday cards go a long, long way.

Indifference or apathy threatens a Leo moons sense of security; apathy is the opposite of love, and anyone with Leo influences in general thrive off of that...whether they admit it or not.


Trust me my sun is in cancer, my Venus is in cancer, and my Venus is in my second house. I know all about material love and needing affection. I give it to him in bundles. He just always feels as if his way is the best and only way to go about things and I just want a say in my relationship with him is all.

I understand... I get possessive also. This cancer moon would retreat but she would be clingy and if I mirrored her, act cowardly.. cancer and Leo are just opposite ..

And I hope you guys get it together. Relationships are hard work period..
Posted by arose32
I understand... I get possessive also. This cancer moon would retreat but she would be clingy and if I mirrored her, act cowardly.. cancer and Leo are just opposite ..

And I hope you guys get it together. Relationships are hard work period..


Lmao, that's a Cancer for you. We get scared of being abandoned so the second we feel it, we cling. I used to do it with him but now not so much just because I am bored of the same old song lol. Which is probably why he is the one coming back now. Thanks for your help!

Posted by canceraqua
My moon is Aquarius but my ex has his moon in Leo, and our biggest problem was that he always felt like I treated him like everyone else and I always felt like he didn't give me the emotional space I needed (unless we were fighting lol). But the reason we could never get over it was our second problem, his way or the highway. If he wanted to do something that I didn't like, I would listen to his side of why he should be able to (keep in mind even though I am a cancer I am not a jealous person so there is not much that I am not okay with) and usually I would let him do whatever he wanted unless it was something that could hurt him or someone else. But when it came to me doing something he was even slightly uncomfortable with, the answer was no and if I tried arguing him on it I was yelled at for disrespecting him and the fight would typically last us two days until I finally just gave up my case. So my question is, is the whole needing to feel like you are in complete control a Leo thing? Because I love my ex to death and he always wants to work things out which one day I would love to do, but that is the one thing about him I can't take anymore because I need to feel like an equal, not feel like I have to hold his hand while he makes every decision for the both of us. And if it is, is there a way to get him to be less controlling? (His mars is also in Scorpio so maybe I am just screwed when it comes to him being controlling and cut off all loose ends lol)
If you want to know more about him, you may want to know his Ascendant sign. than you can watch his Astrological influences.

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Posted by arose32
I understand... I get possessive also. This cancer moon would retreat but she would be clingy and if I mirrored her, act cowardly.. cancer and Leo are just opposite ..

And I hope you guys get it together. Relationships are hard work period..


Lmao, that's a Cancer for you. We get scared of being abandoned so the second we feel it, we cling. I used to do it with him but now not so much just because I am bored of the same old song lol. Which is probably why he is the one coming back now. Thanks for your help!

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Yeah... but you guys are kind of draining. Don't know what you want you to be... clingy or cold.... maybe Leo's are too transparent for you guys that's all.
Posted by canceraqua
My moon is Aquarius but my ex has his moon in Leo, and our biggest problem was that he always felt like I treated him like everyone else and I always felt like he didn't give me the emotional space I needed (unless we were fighting lol). But the reason we could never get over it was our second problem, his way or the highway. If he wanted to do something that I didn't like, I would listen to his side of why he should be able to (keep in mind even though I am a cancer I am not a jealous person so there is not much that I am not okay with) and usually I would let him do whatever he wanted unless it was something that could hurt him or someone else. But when it came to me doing something he was even slightly uncomfortable with, the answer was no and if I tried arguing him on it I was yelled at for disrespecting him and the fight would typically last us two days until I finally just gave up my case. So my question is, is the whole needing to feel like you are in complete control a Leo thing? Because I love my ex to death and he always wants to work things out which one day I would love to do, but that is the one thing about him I can't take anymore because I need to feel like an equal, not feel like I have to hold his hand while he makes every decision for the both of us. And if it is, is there a way to get him to be less controlling? (His mars is also in Scorpio so maybe I am just screwed when it comes to him being controlling and cut off all loose ends lol)
My ex-wife and I had the same moon placements! And let me tell you, when it was good, it was like being with your soulmate; when it was bad, it was fucking WWIII:

Me: Gemini (Sun and Venus), Leo (Moon and Mars), Taurus (Mercury), Cancer (AC)

Her: Leo (Sun and AC), Aquarius (Moon), Cancer (Mercury and Venus), Virgo (Mars)

Our marriage was confirmation that sun sign compatibility is not enough to make things last. There were clearly some other nice aspects to our synastry, but in addition to the opposite moon sign ups and downs, her Virgo Mars was absolute brutality for me, and I'm sure my Gem sun didn't help in that area.

I do think your ex's Scorpio Mars has a lot to do with the control freak factor. My ex would tell you herself that I was certainly NOT the control freak in the relationship, although I'm sure my Gemini Sun and some other placements helped to mute my more firey moon and mars.

I wish you all the best. Think of your experience as one that was necessary for growth.

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I understand... I get possessive also. This cancer moon would retreat but she would be clingy and if I mirrored her, act cowardly.. cancer and Leo are just opposite ..

And I hope you guys get it together. Relationships are hard work period..


Lmao, that's a Cancer for you. We get scared of being abandoned so the second we feel it, we cling. I used to do it with him but now not so much just because I am bored of the same old song lol. Which is probably why he is the one coming back now. Thanks for your help!

Yeah... but you guys are kind of draining. Don't know what you want you to be... clingy or cold.... maybe Leo's are too transparent for you guys that's all.
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Eh I mean I suppose it depends on the Cancer, but the only time I don't know what I want exactly and play the whole clingy then cold game is if I truly don't understand the nature of my relationship with someone, then I will start to stand back randomly to prevent myself from getting too involved with someone because once us crabs love someone, we love them with no boundaries. And we can take one hell of a wild relationship if we really care. But personally I prefer little to no drama in my relationships because it's such a turn off to be fighting. But once I know where I am with someone, I will talk to them about when I need my space and all that confusing jazz.
@GeminiGuy76 Exactly how my relationship is/was lol. Either romantic novel good or we are arguing all the time and at each other’s throat, there is NO in between. He tells me all the time I am the one person he can’t live with, but also the one person he can’t go more than a month without either. And we have both tried with other people, but nothing feels as right. He completes me because he is basically everything I need, but he is the one person who does everything that makes me cringe. We go a month and everything will be perfect, then we are fighting again which makes me want to leave because emotional drama is a no go. But I can understand why her mars in Virgo would drive you a little crazy. Makes us kinda perfectionists and it can be an annoying mars to deal with on a daily basis.