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Jul 27, 2016Comments: 0 · Posts: 561 · Topics: 16
A Leo woman here. I'm currently in the giving end of Silent treatment with someone who is equally nice and annoying.
Come to think of it, I hate being involved in the silent treatment - I don't like to either give it or get it. I like to talk things out. But with this person, we had too many little fights and arguments. Either he'd say something aggressive or rude during an argument and that would make me go wild with rage after which he'd come back apologizing like the sweetest male on the planet, or he'd just not care at all - would break little promises very often, and not care to spend quality time with me, making me feel like an option, while he'd choose all other things and people over me (when I confront, he'd say that that was not the intention at all).
Above all, what annoyed me the most was calling me "just a friend" but showing almost all signs of love. I felt as though I was being used. I did confront a few times but each time, he'd act as though he was shocked to know what I had to say. In spite of the few really good, rare qualities he had, these annoying factors annoyed me a too much. He'd talk about the other gals he's interested in but if I ever bring up the name of someone else, I would be told that it may not be a good match, etc. Clearly he was possessive, jealous and took me for granted! It was as though I was pushed to end limit in a very short time (less than 3 months) to end it permanently.
Generally, I don't like to even give the silent treatment to anyone guys (it makes me feel bad, like a coward), forget receiving it (that would make me angrier). I keep wondering if I should break it, but then I ask myself: "Why did you start this? Only because he doesn't respect your presence or anything that you offer. If you end the silent treatment very soon when he's made no move, he'll only take you more for granted - he'll treat you worse in future, because he'll come to know that you will never fully leave him. So let it go on!"
What do you think? Are you fine with giving the silent treatment?
What are you breaking exactly .... If he is talking about prospective females to you... Then.... You are also an option.... Silent treatments are manipulation imo ... For what exactly though... There is no point in a silent treatment to someone that considers you an option .... Just bounce ... He has chosen others over you... Recognize that regal in you and walk away ... Cause you yourself also have options ... Your a Leo for God's sake ... Another prospect is not far ...
.. Leo sun ♌ and rising here
I don't give silent treatments unless I'm done completely ... But only when I'm done... I don't have time for those games ... Too passionate ... It's hard to stay silent when my heart is involved ... I can't fake silent at all... When my heart is out... I completely withdraw in fact disappear completely ... Closed door... Most think it's silent until years later they still see I'm no where in sight ... I gets the heck on... My Mars is in Scorpio ... I cut ties ... Most think harshly .... My silent treatments I disappear and I leave no trail only a memory .... Door slam if you will
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Feb 14, 2013Comments: 552 · Posts: 18848 · Topics: 149
Nothing wrong with silent treatment if it's to
collect your thoughts and make your next move
more reasonable than it would have been
otherwise... like in this case, you may want to
consider making the silent treatment
permanent.
You sound like you already know exactly what
he's about... you just can't *believe* anyone
could be so artificial, two faced and self serving.
Imo, once you accept what you already know,
you'll enjoy cutting this sugarcoated ugliness
out of your life.