Leos and emotions...whats going on in their heads?

This topic was created in the Leo forum by happykitsune on Tuesday, September 20, 2011 and has 26 replies.
He does this a lot and I've learned to just let him have his moments then let him communicate with me when he's ready.
The main thing is he gets pissed about stuff (money, career) and then he gets to a point where he wants me to understand the exact emotions he's going through. So I try to figure them out with no success. He claims I'm the closest anyone's gotten to understanding him, but I haven't got a clue what's going on in his head.
Any leos wanna take a stab at what he may be feeling? He really has a high sense of justice and doesn't take as good as he gives (criticism-wise). What the heck am I missing here? Apparently the fact that I get this is so important to him, so I'm here to get a better idea of it.
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omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready
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Posted by Lmfao
omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready


Yeah, he always does. I wouldn't be so worried about trying to figure it out except for the fact that he tells me he wants me to GET him, to understand what he's thinking.
He texted me last night and he seemed fine. Seemed like he wanted me over, but I was studying so we didn't hang. He does that tho...he has fits of rage then he'll be fine the next day. He's on the cusp of leo next to cancer so that explains his emotions.
I'm gna take a guess and say your leo is close to cancer as well if he gets the same way. Aaah! Drives me nuts sometimes.
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Posted by Lmfao
omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready


Yeah, he always does. I wouldn't be so worried about trying to figure it out except for the fact that he tells me he wants me to GET him, to understand what he's thinking.
He texted me last night and he seemed fine. Seemed like he wanted me over, but I was studying so we didn't hang. He does that tho...he has fits of rage then he'll be fine the next day. He's on the cusp of leo next to cancer so that explains his emotions.
I'm gna take a guess and say your leo is close to cancer as well if he gets the same way. Aaah! Drives me nuts sometimes.
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You see HK, you do get him. You said it yourself. "It seemed like he wanted me over". The fact that you knew that. Trust your instincts i'm sure he did. The Leo I just dealt with was like that also. His birthday was 7/31 & his venus was in Cancer. Boy do I miss him & I'm feeling a lil down about it because because I just did some report for us which said we were pretty very incompatible...Sad
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Posted by Lmfao
omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready


Yeah, he always does. I wouldn't be so worried about trying to figure it out except for the fact that he tells me he wants me to GET him, to understand what he's thinking.
He texted me last night and he seemed fine. Seemed like he wanted me over, but I was studying so we didn't hang. He does that tho...he has fits of rage then he'll be fine the next day. He's on the cusp of leo next to cancer so that explains his emotions.
I'm gna take a guess and say your leo is close to cancer as well if he gets the same way. Aaah! Drives me nuts sometimes.



You see HK, you do get him. You said it yourself. "It seemed like he wanted me over". The fact that you knew that. Trust your instincts i'm sure he did. The Leo I just dealt with was like that also. His birthday was 7/31 & his venus was in Cancer. Boy do I miss him & I'm feeling a lil down about it because because I just did some report for us which said we were pretty very incompatible...Sad
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I know, I get that part of him, but I thought that was just obvious. I'm talking about the way he thinks. He expects me to understand him on the level that no one else does, and apparently it upsets him to think I'm not on his level of thinking.

Darn those dang cancer signs makin' people moody. The leo sign can be just as bad tho. He has an aries moon too so his mood is usually very passionate, but short-lived. Yours probably had a quieter moodiness to him, if I had to guess
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Posted by Lmfao
omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready


Yeah, he always does. I wouldn't be so worried about trying to figure it out except for the fact that he tells me he wants me to GET him, to understand what he's thinking.
He texted me last night and he seemed fine. Seemed like he wanted me over, but I was studying so we didn't hang. He does that tho...he has fits of rage then he'll be fine the next day. He's on the cusp of leo next to cancer so that explains his emotions.
I'm gna take a guess and say your leo is close to cancer as well if he gets the same way. Aaah! Drives me nuts sometimes.



You see HK, you do get him. You said it yourself. "It seemed like he wanted me over". The fact that you knew that. Trust your instincts i'm sure he did. The Leo I just dealt with was like that also. His birthday was 7/31 & his venus was in Cancer. Boy do I miss him & I'm feeling a lil down about it because because I just did some report for us which said we were pretty very incompatible...Sad


I know, I get that part of him, but I thought that was just obvious. I'm talking about the way he thinks. He expects me to understand him on the level that no one else does, and apparently it upsets him to think I'm not on his level of thinking.

Darn those dang cancer signs makin' people moody. The leo sign can be just as bad tho. He has an aries moon too so his mood is usually very passionate, but short-lived. Yours probably had a quieter moodiness to him, if I had to guess
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Yes he did. I was just beginning to understand it. How long have you been seeing him?
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Posted by FireDragonScorpio
my leo is at the virgo end. he says that his father told him that no matter how broke or how down he was to always walk with his head held high and never to let on cos the outer impression is sometimes enough to lift your circumstances and change things for the better.
so consequently, if he has issues with stuff like that, he usually goes into hibernation for sometimes a few weeks, drinks too much, wallows in it all so that no-one see his despair and then emerges fresh as a daisy, like nothing happened.
i think that's the part they want you to 'get' if you know what i mean?
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Hmm I thought about that. I even told him that was the case with him, but he didn't like what I was saying and even told me I was mocking him. I was very confused :/ Damn my saggy foot-in-mouth syndrome, I guess I was too harsh with it.
I think there's something more to it.
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Posted by Lmfao
omg , mine does this too, like if he has issues with money or career he will say he is fine but i know he is not he will shut him self away from me and i will keep bothering him but in reality they are fine they will come to you when they are ready


Yeah, he always does. I wouldn't be so worried about trying to figure it out except for the fact that he tells me he wants me to GET him, to understand what he's thinking.
He texted me last night and he seemed fine. Seemed like he wanted me over, but I was studying so we didn't hang. He does that tho...he has fits of rage then he'll be fine the next day. He's on the cusp of leo next to cancer so that explains his emotions.
I'm gna take a guess and say your leo is close to cancer as well if he gets the same way. Aaah! Drives me nuts sometimes.



You see HK, you do get him. You said it yourself. "It seemed like he wanted me over". The fact that you knew that. Trust your instincts i'm sure he did. The Leo I just dealt with was like that also. His birthday was 7/31 & his venus was in Cancer. Boy do I miss him & I'm feeling a lil down about it because because I just did some report for us which said we were pretty very incompatible...Sad


I know, I get that part of him, but I thought that was just obvious. I'm talking about the way he thinks. He expects me to understand him on the level that no one else does, and apparently it upsets him to think I'm not on his level of thinking.

Darn those dang cancer signs makin' people moody. The leo sign can be just as bad tho. He has an aries moon too so his mood is usually very passionate, but short-lived. Yours probably had a quieter moodiness to him, if I had to guess


Yes he did. I was just beginning to understand it. How long have you been seeing him?
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I've known this guy for almost 6 years now. You'd think I'd know him inside and out, but according to him not even his bff knows as much as I do...which is apparently very little.
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We Leos are very proud...and money & work are two areas where of things don't go our way our pride will not let us show it or share it with just anyone. I think we are also our own worst critics and we have high expectations for ourselves...probably higher than what anyone could have for us.
As far as criticism goes, yeah we don't like that too much. Chances are we already know what our imperfections and mistakes are and we don't need anyone to point them out to us. We want you to see us as perfect not the way we see ourselves.
The fact that you even want to start trying to understand us means the world to us. My advice is to just keep trying and just be there for us...
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My BFF Leo of 20 years (also ex) is almost the complete opposite. He has a cancer rising. Ugh. So he wants to talk about everything. But like yours, he wants me to completely understand. Pat him on the back, console him, tell him he is absolutely right about everything etc. I cannot imply there is anything he could've done to make a difference in the outcome, because then I'm against him too, i don't understand him, and blah blah blah. I have to wait a few months later, then ever so subtly mention that maybe, sort of, kind of, he could have maybe, sort of, tried something different. He can criticize like a mutha, but can't take one drop back. So maybe he just wants you to take his side, tell him you understand and say how messed up it is, and tell him he's the greatest lol
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Posted by Burberryplaid
We Leos are very proud...and money & work are two areas where of things don't go our way our pride will not let us show it or share it with just anyone. I think we are also our own worst critics and we have high expectations for ourselves...probably higher than what anyone could have for us.
As far as criticism goes, yeah we don't like that too much. Chances are we already know what our imperfections and mistakes are and we don't need anyone to point them out to us. We want you to see us as perfect not the way we see ourselves.
The fact that you even want to start trying to understand us means the world to us. My advice is to just keep trying and just be there for us...
I keep reading about how Leos don't like criticism & to be careful how you handle disputes & conflicts. So as a Sag you know how difficult that is for us. Of course I read all this AFTER I had my first dispute w/my Leo. He let it be known that something I said really upset him. Anyway I just wanted to say that I think Leos should try to keep in mind what I told my Aries sister & Scorpio son. Everybody who smiles in your face isn't always your friend.

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My BFF Leo of 20 years (also ex) is almost the complete opposite. He has a cancer rising. Ugh. So he wants to talk about everything. But like yours, he wants me to completely understand. Pat him on the back, console him, tell him he is absolutely right about everything etc. I cannot imply there is anything he could've done to make a difference in the outcome, because then I'm against him too, i don't understand him, and blah blah blah. I have to wait a few months later, then ever so subtly mention that maybe, sort of, kind of, he could have maybe, sort of, tried something different. He can criticize like a mutha, but can't take one drop back. So maybe he just wants you to take his side, tell him you understand and say how messed up it is, and tell him he's the greatest lol


All good advice and I really like this cus it actually describes my leo. I think the fact that I'm a sag and I have this thing about being right and just blurting whatever really makes it hard to not jut say "hey you should have done this." I'm gna try to refrain from speaking my mind around him when he's going through HIS personal problems because, like you said, they don't take criticism well. You explained a lot that makes sense tho. Good info. I forget sometimes that leos really aren't looking for advice, but just want to be consoled and told they are great.
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We Leos are very proud...and money & work are two areas where of things don't go our way our pride will not let us show it or share it with just anyone. I think we are also our own worst critics and we have high expectations for ourselves...probably higher than what anyone could have for us.
As far as criticism goes, yeah we don't like that too much. Chances are we already know what our imperfections and mistakes are and we don't need anyone to point them out to us. We want you to see us as perfect not the way we see ourselves.
The fact that you even want to start trying to understand us means the world to us. My advice is to just keep trying and just be there for us...
I keep reading about how Leos don't like criticism & to be careful how you handle disputes & conflicts. So as a Sag you know how difficult that is for us. Of course I read all this AFTER I had my first dispute w/my Leo. He let it be known that something I said really upset him. Anyway I just wanted to say that I think Leos should try to keep in mind what I told my Aries sister & Scorpio son. Everybody who smiles in your face isn't always your friend.


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Hmm, yes we are bad about that aren't we..the criticism/blurting out stuff I mean. Makes you wonder how leoxsag is even a good pair.
But I guess if you really care for each other you'll have both sides willing to work on the thing that drives the other crazy. Now that's real love there.
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Lol, mine would get angry but never say he is sorry about anything, i would apologize for something i didnt do such as try to ask whats wrong and figure it out, i noticed they hate when you keep asking whats wrong ton of times, now i have no idea what my leo has as far as next to cancer i know his bday is aug..15
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so consequently, if he has issues with stuff like that, he usually goes into hibernation for sometimes a few weeks, drinks too much, wallows in it all so that no-one see his despair and then emerges fresh as a daisy, like nothing happened.
OMG, lol mine would have issue where he pays all the bills and then doesnt have enough money . he would stop texting calling ,etc me till he has it again i would think he would ignore me but in reality he hates being like that and so true he dont want any one to see him like that
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Being a Leo sun Leo moon let me tell ya this...we are at our most loving when we feel loved and happily content in the relationship. Meaning, understanding each other and loving one another unconditionally because we are VERY passionate beings. What i HATE the most is someone who picks me apart and criticizes me because it reminds me a lot of my mom, but i respect it when people tell me i'm being rude or mean because i don't like to come off this way. We want someone who will always have our backs, someone who will take the time to do special things for us to show that u care. I have never expected anything huge in return but unconditional love, physically and emotionally. We just love being in love and we hate when we feel down because when we hurt, we feel horrible. I always shut down when i feel like a failure or when i'm not in control of my emotions or certain situations. For some reason with me, i handle bigger problems a lot better than i do smaller ones. Some people will understand us better than others, but we just need someone who can see that we're upset or sad, and be there for us. Don't ask too many questions when we're upset because we dislike that. Just wait til things cool down or whenever ur partner wants to talk about it.
Just be there for ur leo, try to understand him as best as you can, and when he's upset and can't really speak, like me, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings and it really helps. I've asked my Taurus to do this and it works for him as well. Your mans moon and rising definitely has an affect on the Leo sun, especially his moon in this situation. Good luck and i hope things work out smile
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Being a Leo sun Leo moon let me tell ya this...we are at our most loving when we feel loved and happily content in the relationship. Meaning, understanding each other and loving one another unconditionally because we are VERY passionate beings. What i HATE the most is someone who picks me apart and criticizes me because it reminds me a lot of my mom, but i respect it when people tell me i'm being rude or mean because i don't like to come off this way. We want someone who will always have our backs, someone who will take the time to do special things for us to show that u care. I have never expected anything huge in return but unconditional love, physically and emotionally. We just love being in love and we hate when we feel down because when we hurt, we feel horrible. I always shut down when i feel like a failure or when i'm not in control of my emotions or certain situations. For some reason with me, i handle bigger problems a lot better than i do smaller ones. Some people will understand us better than others, but we just need someone who can see that we're upset or sad, and be there for us. Don't ask too many questions when we're upset because we dislike that. Just wait til things cool down or whenever ur partner wants to talk about it.
Just be there for ur leo, try to understand him as best as you can, and when he's upset and can't really speak, like me, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings and it really helps. I've asked my Taurus to do this and it works for him as well. Your mans moon and rising definitely has an affect on the Leo sun, especially his moon in this situation. Good luck and i hope things work out smile


Yes, all good advice to follow.
I will remember this the next time he gets upset, which is quite often with his lack of money and bills he has to pay. Oh goodness!
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I'm just curious, does he ever lash out at u for him not having money, stuff that doesn't really involve u?
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Posted by delishhh
I'm just curious, does he ever lash out at u for him not having money, stuff that doesn't really involve u?


No, he just gets cold. But if I am persistent in asking him what's wrong he has a tendency to get mad and yell at me. At that point I stop because I know I've gone too far.
Why? Do some leos do that? My ex taurus used to do that, but in a manipulating way. I let my leo know about that and he promised me he'd never do that and he never has.
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Pride is a huge thing that does get in a leo's way, until u make them realize talking about problems isn't so bad smile I used to stay quiet for hours until i basically had to give in knowing that my relationship wasn't going to work if i didn't. I had to open up and communicate. And i'm gonna tell u a lil secret. The reason i don't like to explain why I'M upset is because half the time i'm too mad to speak & the other half is cuz i'm too embarrassed to tell u why i got mad in the first place LOL (like getting jealous)
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Pride is a huge thing that does get in a leo's way, until u make them realize talking about problems isn't so bad smile I used to stay quiet for hours until i basically had to give in knowing that my relationship wasn't going to work if i didn't. I had to open up and communicate. And i'm gonna tell u a lil secret. The reason i don't like to explain why I'M upset is because half the time i'm too mad to speak & the other half is cuz i'm too embarrassed to tell u why i got mad in the first place LOL (like getting jealous)


WOW...
Now that you mention it I vaguely recall my leo mentioning this once. This was back when he was dating someone else. He told me he was mad, but the reasoning was so stupid and that it was because he had bad jealousy at the time. He wouldn't let her know, but it was so bad in his head it made him mad, and he hate it.
I think I can recall some other times he's done this, so what you're saying makes a lot of sense.
If you think of any more secrets feel free to post them. You've been very helpful smile
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I'm just curious, does he ever lash out at u for him not having money, stuff that doesn't really involve u?


No, he just gets cold. But if I am persistent in asking him what's wrong he has a tendency to get mad and yell at me. At that point I stop because I know I've gone too far.
Why? Do some leos do that? My ex taurus used to do that, but in a manipulating way. I let my leo know about that and he promised me he'd never do that and he never has.
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I think everybody has there moments but I don't lash out much anymore, however i used to a lot when i was a younger smile Fire signs take the cake on goin berserk for sure! you just need to tell him to check his tone if he comes at u crazy & to NOT talk to u that way because ur only concerned/trying to help. Just remember, its easier to get ur point across when ur calm. hope all goes well happykitsune smile
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both signs are sooooo similar, its uncanny
speaking from experience, both very prideful and demanding lol. only real differences are leo seems to have better social control over themselves, where sag doesn't yet sag can be lucky with the happy go lucky thing.

Astrology aside, it all comes down to consideration for the other person. If he's hurting/struggling then cracking jokes aint gonna help. Flip it- when you're trying and he criticizes you it probably discourages you? since y'all seem good at conversation about it, why not say something along the lines of "babe I'm trying to be the best i can for you, how can i make you happier what things can i do to put a smile on your face?" some might call it a patsy style / wipe his ass / cater to him bullbutter statement but to me that's a display of love, honesty and devotion.


All very true. And yes it does discourage me when he criticizes, but I've learned he doesn't always mean harm by saying some stuff, just wants me to get stronger.
I have mentioned things like "I just want to be someone you can come to to get rid of your stress, not cause it." And I offer him a nice massage, give him tea, or we'll have an "intimate" night together.
I like the way you worded it though. I may have to try saying that the next time I see him. I think really all he wants from me is the attention, support, and affection I give him.
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I'm just curious, does he ever lash out at u for him not having money, stuff that doesn't really involve u?


No, he just gets cold. But if I am persistent in asking him what's wrong he has a tendency to get mad and yell at me. At that point I stop because I know I've gone too far.
Why? Do some leos do that? My ex taurus used to do that, but in a manipulating way. I let my leo know about that and he promised me he'd never do that and he never has.


I think everybody has there moments but I don't lash out much anymore, however i used to a lot when i was a younger smile Fire signs take the cake on goin berserk for sure! you just need to tell him to check his tone if he comes at u crazy & to NOT talk to u that way because ur only concerned/trying to help. Just remember, its easier to get ur point across when ur calm. hope all goes well happykitsune smile
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Thanks!
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Posted by Burberryplaid
We Leos are very proud...and money & work are two areas where of things don't go our way our pride will not let us show it or share it with just anyone. I think we are also our own worst critics and we have high expectations for ourselves...probably higher than what anyone could have for us.
As far as criticism goes, yeah we don't like that too much. Chances are we already know what our imperfections and mistakes are and we don't need anyone to point them out to us. We want you to see us as perfect not the way we see ourselves.
The fact that you even want to start trying to understand us means the world to us. My advice is to just keep trying and just be there for us...



How do you respond if they hurt your feelings? What if he just seems like he wants one thing?
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Posted by delishhh
Being a Leo sun Leo moon let me tell ya this...we are at our most loving when we feel loved and happily content in the relationship. Meaning, understanding each other and loving one another unconditionally because we are VERY passionate beings. What i HATE the most is someone who picks me apart and criticizes me because it reminds me a lot of my mom, but i respect it when people tell me i'm being rude or mean because i don't like to come off this way. We want someone who will always have our backs, someone who will take the time to do special things for us to show that u care. I have never expected anything huge in return but unconditional love, physically and emotionally. We just love being in love and we hate when we feel down because when we hurt, we feel horrible. I always shut down when i feel like a failure or when i'm not in control of my emotions or certain situations. For some reason with me, i handle bigger problems a lot better than i do smaller ones. Some people will understand us better than others, but we just need someone who can see that we're upset or sad, and be there for us. Don't ask too many questions when we're upset because we dislike that. Just wait til things cool down or whenever ur partner wants to talk about it.
Just be there for ur leo, try to understand him as best as you can, and when he's upset and can't really speak, like me, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings and it really helps. I've asked my Taurus to do this and it works for him as well. Your mans moon and rising definitely has an affect on the Leo sun, especially his moon in this situation. Good luck and i hope things work out smile


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Question:
So how do you talk to a Leo when you want to affect their behavior. If you don't want to fuss, complain or be critical but we have to communicate our needs? I know Leo's don't like to be rude or impolite. You said you don't like being rude. As a very balanced Libra can I say "I just thought what you did was rude and impolite and you are so much better then that type of behavior?".
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