Leo's and Vulnerabilities

Do you find it hard to express those most closest vulnerabilities? I am so selective who I allow in my inner circle and still I find it difficult to show my vulnerable side. Do you? I almost exposed my self to my Virgo friend and I pulled it back quick. I can talk about my past, things I have overcome, but if it is something I am currently going through or have yet to overcome, I find it hard to express. What about you?

My guy is a Leo and he is so expressive when talking about his past but if it's the topic of the now or the us he clams up. I often wonder if its because he doesn't feel for me the way I do for him?

Posted by jessejames
My guy is a Leo and he is so expressive when talking about his past but if it's the topic of the now or the us he clams up. I often wonder if its because he doesn't feel for me the way I do for him?

This is sounding like a Leo trait. If it is current I will clam up. It is something I have not overcome and that is hard to expose in myself.

Okay, I'll chime in.

If it wasn't for the anonymity of this board, I wouldn't be pouring half of my mind and current feelings.

I tend to push people away when they're getting too close... I feel too vulnerable. I can tell you there are only 3 people in this world who knows me "completely" and none of them are my parents. I have a very small circle that I allow myself to be completely vulnerable... raw, naked vulnerability and those 3 people earned their way into my circle and they earned it hard and it took years of getting into that circle.

I'm like what you have mentioned, more than happy to divulge my past... but not my current life. I'm very protective of my heart and mind and hardly anybody gets close enough.

Most people think Leos are their best friend.. but they hardly know even a quarter, at least that's how I am. Leos tend to have an open personality which allows other people to think we're open, vulnerable and gullible... but to me, it's a facade. We're happily living life while we're observing, questioning, "digging" to find the truth. To see if you are worthy enough to even have 1 inkling of information that's going through our mind. Mind you, it is part of our trait, but when it comes to the deep part of Leos, hardly anybody gets to that point without earning it.

And that's pretty much how I am as Leo. I'm sure I'm not alone. 🙂

Posted by JessiedLeo
Okay, I'll chime in.

If it wasn't for the anonymity of this board, I wouldn't be pouring half of my mind and current feelings.

I tend to push people away when they're getting too close... I feel too vulnerable. I can tell you there are only 3 people in this world who knows me "completely" and none of them are my parents. I have a very small circle that I allow myself to be completely vulnerable... raw, naked vulnerability and those 3 people earned their way into my circle and they earned it hard and it took years of getting into that circle.

I'm like what you have mentioned, more than happy to divulge my past... but not my current life. I'm very protective of my heart and mind and hardly anybody gets close enough.

Most people think Leos are their best friend.. but they hardly know even a quarter, at least that's how I am. Leos tend to have an open personality which allows other people to think we're open, vulnerable and gullible... but to me, it's a facade. We're happily living life while we're observing, questioning, "digging" to find the truth. To see if you are worthy enough to even have 1 inkling of information that's going through our mind. Mind you, it is part of our trait, but when it comes to the deep part of Leos, hardly anybody gets to that point without earning it.

And that's pretty much how I am as Leo. I'm sure I'm not alone. 🙂

You hit is right on the nose. IMHO I can talk about things in the past, stuff I have come to terms with. But if it is current or I still struggle it is so hard. And when I speak of my inner circle, that is so hard to get into. I had one person and she then shit on it and used things against me. I have my Virgo friend who has earned it, but still so cautious with. I was about to put something out there, then pulled back at the last minute. To vulnerable for me still. This board is great with the anonymity. We will be there for anyone, but so selective who we allow to see our true inner selves. We protect that with a passion. And yes it takes so much time as we evaluate people to determine if we can trust them with that aspect of ourselves.

Posted by TheLioness79

Posted by JessiedLeo

You hit is right on the nose. IMHO I can talk about things in the past, stuff I have come to terms with. But if it is current or I still struggle it is so hard. And when I speak of my inner circle, that is so hard to get into. I had one person and she then shit on it and used things against me. I have my Virgo friend who has earned it, but still so cautious with. I was about to put something out there, then pulled back at the last minute. To vulnerable for me still. This board is great with the anonymity. We will be there for anyone, but so selective who we allow to see our true inner selves. We protect that with a passion. And yes it takes so much time as we evaluate people to determine if we can trust them with that aspect of ourselves.

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Amen sistah! 🙂

I tend to "test" people to see if they're worthy of even having me... like my poor Taurus guy. I'm putting him through the ringer right now. I'm questioning "everything" about him down to what he's wearing. But I can tell he wants to be with me and he tells me everything... even when he's in the bathroom and it took him more than 3 minutes to respond to my text.

I'm not laughing... because I know what I'm putting the poor guy through... but it's my way of "feeling him out" getting to know if I'm "THE ONLY ONE" in his life. Period. I even told him that I would introduce him to some of my female friends so he can go out on a date! LOL! (not laughing at him, but laughing at myself because I know I'm being so ridiculous!) OMG! My poor Taurus guy... I love him to pieces, but he doesn't know it.... yet. I have this front with him that we are just buddies... but I can tell the poor guy is trying so hard to get close to me. I have my steel wall up. And I've let it down a bit so he can take a peek ... but not too much.

I know Leos are like this and I know I'm like this because once that steel wall is down... all hell breaks loose and I become this mush, this loving, happy, comfortable, frolicking pile of fun and big huge vulnerable, loving, loyal, affectionate, hard loving Lioness. I will purr even if there's nothing to purr about so as long as I know I have his loyalty and faithfulness and being in the deep, wholeness, soul-sucking high of being in love. There's nothin

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There's nothing like being in love and I've only been in this deep, soul-sucking love twice in my life and I want to be there again. But only after the poor guy has gone through my ringer. People say Taurus loves hard, no, in my humble opinion Leos love 10 times harder but it's just harder for anybody to penetrate our walls... we are romantic. We know how to bring romance into the relationship and keep the fires burning hard. But I know I'm worth it, Leos are worth it. I have testimonials from past boyfriends even the ones I wasn't as deeply in love as I've described. 🙂

I get that testing. I tend to observe people can pin point genuine or fake. I observe their behavior with me, in public, on social media, with other people, how they handle conflict, etc. Sad thing with my "ex"husband Leo, we never built a bond where I could trust him with my in vulnerabilities because he is such an introvert and would never open to me so I could never open to him. Don't get me wrong, I knew he loved me to the core. And I know he will always love me to the core. I will always be his one. But there was never that bond in our 14 years of marriage. The friendship. So I always had the steel wall up. I couldn't give him my true inner self because he never allowed me to because of his own introversion self.

But this Virgo friend, we have built a strong friendship and I have allowed him in this circle. This aspect thought I was going to give of myself it so raw and vulnerable I balked.Something ex has put me through in the past that is hard to talk about. His friendship is the world to me. I don't know if he knows I am falling for him. He is such an amazing person. But throws me for a loop. Our convo the other night I told him when I meet him finally in person (after 10 years) I felt heat, but there was more. Something so beautiful in him and he gave me a sense of calmness. I can read people easily. But he has thrown me for a loop. I have scratched the surface but he guards it so close. He admitted he does guard himself, but I know more about him on the inside then his mother does. And he is very close to his mother. +1 for me—

I have given him some vulnerabilities of myself, which was hard, but I trust him. I know I am not ready for a relationship. I want the divorce over first because he deserves to be #1 and I don't want to hurt him just in case. Plus I need to get me straight. I was married at 19 and 14 years of marriage. I need to get myself together. I want to give him all of me and I can not do that yet. Then on the other side of the coin, I am not sure where he stands with me. Friend or potential for more. Because if we do come together as more, he will have something he never had in his life. A Lioness who will literally become his slave to make sure he is taken care of and loves 10 times harder then he could ever imagine. We Lionesses love to take care of those we love hard for. Hopefully I am laying the ground work for this long time until the final resolution.

Posted by WoundedLeo
I have no problem talking about emotions, feelings and vulnerablities....then again...I've been thru years of therapy LOL.

LOL....so have I. Still have problems.

See lionesses and lions I'm so proud of you!! That is awesome! You told me to back off without telling to back off. I needed that.

Posted by TheLioness79
Do you find it hard to express those most closest vulnerabilities? I am so selective who I allow in my inner circle and still I find it difficult to show my vulnerable side. Do you? I almost exposed my self to my Virgo friend and I pulled it back quick. I can talk about my past, things I have overcome, but if it is something I am currently going through or have yet to overcome, I find it hard to express. What about you?

Interesting stuff-- I'm nodding along as I read. 🙂

The past "things I have overcome" already have the stamp of Victory-- so yes, much easier to share.

I hate to say it, but there is almost an element of embarrassment because of the current struggle-- whatever it may be.

And I don't want to be told how to handle it; chances are, I already know-- just haven't felt moved to act, yet, or I don't want to be made to feel like my chosen course is in any way wrong.

For some reason, this also reminds me of this thread-- Feast or Famine

Second post down has some good info, imo, on the way Leos operate.