Leos - confrontation in the workplace

Please respond w/ insightful advice.

I'll try to keep this short and to the point.

I started this new job in March and I love it. I think this job will get me into better jobs in the field Im trying to work in healthcare. Great company . I just got the schedule I want and my paychecks are great. I cant complain cuz I spend like a maniac when there is a good amount in my account finally.Generally I get along w/ my co workers b/c I like to keep ithe shift short and to the point and wrk related, unless there is down time and we can talk off line about non work related stuff . As Long as Im in the mood of being upbeat and energetic I can keep it positive and professional. Thats how i am at work. Im able to communicate w/ my boss effortlessly . I can pull extra hours if I want to or if he wants me to. No complaints there.

I work w/ a partner overnights. And that person can change daily. Now for the most part I can feel out people and get thru the day w/ a person just by feeling them out. I dont have to like u to keep it professional. For me Its not about personal Its about professional. However in getting to know the people atvmy job someone is making false accusations on me that I for the life if me cant understanding that puts my job on the line. Like I said previously I can keep it professional w/ anyone no matter if I think that your a full blown idiot or not. And ive come aftosa them and it tales so much restraint to not say it because I dont want my hours to get cut just because of something lil. I can hold my temper. Which Im surprised myself. But someone is doing stupid shit which is getting unwanted attention on me.

Whoever this person /people they said I dented a company vehicle, Im eating peoples food, Im smokin pot recklessly at the job.
Now I do.smoke. because I quit ciggs and alchol and my general health and wellbeing has improved. Im not apologizing for that and Im not stopping either. It hasnt affected my work performance because my boss still calls me to work OT. Ive been working 120+ hrs biweekly. I work so much because I have that spending habit where I dont think Its a habit Its just me.
anyway at first I didnt think it was a problem working until I noticed lil shit. I call my boss every week he puts out the schedule and request for extra hours and he accepts. My thing is I think other co workers are jealous or doing so?? undermining shit to get my hours by letting this come to light or they dont like me.

Part 2

No one has seen me smoke. And whoever I talked to has been cool and accepting. So i dont know where this is coming from. Someone is going out of there way to get at me by being Nice just to hice behind faces so i cant have a direct confrontation Its all suspicion But rumors turn viral. I want to tell my boss. But he hasnt approached me. I had a previous incident at another job w/ a slimeball co worker and it ended badly I got transferred and took pay cut. And search and apply to the current job Im at now .That guy was a Brown noser he was trying to promote his self because that job is his life. I feel like the Same situation is happening here and I want to say something But dont know how to go about it. Im not worried about the pot thing. Im disturbed that someone went out there way to be Nice to me just to backstab me. And I think that people are Also trying to get there friends in the job.

Should I just keep working like nothing occured or should I do something.

Advice.?

Posted by Jynja
I think Leos generally put a lot of effort into achieving good results at work. In my opinion, this breeds resentment and jealousy and sometimes, competition. Healthy competition is good, but backstabbing people in office politics to get ahead is a whole other ball game.

This is how I see it:

If you talk to your boss about it, he/she might take it as you trying to save yourself and so came in to report yourself first to get an advantage. On the other hand, if you stay quiet and do not tell your boss about the rumors before they get to him/her, then you could find yourself in a defensive position.

I think it all depends on how urgently you need to deal with this. If you can play for a little more time, I would say shut-up at work altogether. No, I'm not saying don't be friendly - but the only way you listen and can hear things clearly is if you're quiet yourself. Take some time to perfect smiling back as a reply, nodding, speaking only what has to be said - absolutely little, and listening attentively. If people don't notice you there, they might reveal who is making the false accusations about you.

On another hand, if you think you can successfully steer a discussion with a senior worker (someone who has been there very long, but not your boss), you could probably ask if there have been instances when rumors were brought to light, and how they ended. Some company offices brush office rumors off and some take them seriously depending on how it will affect the company's image.


Hang in there. Hopefully, there are more solutions to try too.

Thx jynja

You brought up 2 actions that I like. But I like the option where Im drawing less attention to myself. This came out of nowhere for me b/c ive been doing the hard working not give a f*k Im going to get my paycheck regardless deal. Im so eager to present myself properly than to get dragged down by someones insecurities that lead them to inappropiate behavior. Im Always professional i can be be dead ass tires But Im earning my worth. Thank you

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/leo-how-to-handle-bullies-3816840/
This thread is a great help too. It helps knowing that others relate

As a male in healthcare you will always have rumours being spread around behind your back. People fear the potential a male has because of how few of us there are. They are especially worried about the hard working ones that remain professional and never blur the lines because feminine charm and guile will not sway you at whatever level you find yourself at. The thing about rumours is that they are simply malicious and created by people with no *real* power to hinder your performance. You must pretend that this has not happened and not mention it to anyway. If someone brings it up with you just smile and say 'People love to whisper' and then walk off, neither denying or confirming anything at all. This is how you prevent it from happening in the future. If you appear bulletproof you are bulletproof and people won't fire bullets at you. For this to become serious evidence must be used and as you have actually done nothing wrong where will this evidence come from? Rest assured that no evidence, means no issues, and that means you should have no concerns. Smile to yourself. You're doing a brilliant job and people are trying to throw this work ethos of yours into chaos. Do not let them.

Posted by Neurath
As a male in healthcare you will always have rumours being spread around behind your back. People fear the potential a male has because of how few of us there are. They are especially worried about the hard working ones that remain professional and never blur the lines because feminine charm and guile will not sway you at whatever level you find yourself at. The thing about rumours is that they are simply malicious and created by people with no *real* power to hinder your performance. You must pretend that this has not happened and not mention it to anyway. If someone brings it up with you just smile and say 'People love to whisper' and then walk off, neither denying or confirming anything at all. This is how you prevent it from happening in the future. If you appear bulletproof you are bulletproof and people won't fire bullets at you. For this to become serious evidence must be used and as you have actually done nothing wrong where will this evidence come from? Rest assured that no evidence, means no issues, and that means you should have no concerns. Smile to yourself. You're doing a brilliant job and people are trying to throw this work ethos of yours into chaos. Do not let them.

Neurath- valid point.
I am admitting i smoke. But no one has seen me doing it , the people I have spoke w/ do it themselves or some other vice drinking whatever . My main thing is Its hearsay and Its gaining momentum by becoming viral. In your words 'malicious'. This doesnt affect my work performance at all b/c Im in my best shape health and wellbeing- Wise. Im not stopping . But like I said before a person/persona went out of there way to smoke at my face and throw shit at my back.

Now the lion in me wants to go on a flaming rampage and commit some acts of violence on pure reaction But the gentleman in me is stopping that and thinking logical. I just dont understand Why? The worst part is that I kno for certain an older woman early 50s is talkin. Since our first intros ive been cordial respectful professional. Ive havent worked w/ her But she does the gossiping for a fact. Thats how she operates and I kno for a fact she is trying to gun for a supervisor position. I dont want it. I just want a paycheck so i can maintain a Roof over my head. Ive been very respectful to all my coworkers. I havent even talked sh*t or if I do i keep it vague. I
id have a dispute w/ her pr

I'm not sure you mean you smoke cannabis but if that is what you're referring to when you admit that you 'smoke' be aware that random drugs tests can be performed on healthcare staff at any time. A rumour is enough to have a random drugs test performed on you. I'd nip it in the bud if that is what you're doing.

If someone throws something at you tell them that they need to go back to school if they want to act like a child and that our line of work is not suited to children. I'd be enraged if i saw someone do this to anyone, and yes they'd get put straight immediately. You do not need to do this aggressively, professionally is perfectly legitimate. Remember each member of staff must look over the others, because at the end of the day we are there to ensure the health and safety of many many people. If they cannot cope with that and have to resort to doing silly shit against a colleague they must be driven out of our sphere of influence over the public. It is not acceptable in any way shape or form.

There is no place for a bully in healthcare.

I want you to also know that whistle blowing is encouraged but looked down upon. All of the whistle blowers i have met have had their careers stamped and held at the point to which they whistle blow. It's disgusting. We're meant to be able to voice issues to seniors to get things dealt with but when you do this you'd better have MASSES of backup and evidence or YOU will be the one taking the fallout. I hope to rise through the ranks and change this ridiculous response by our superiors.

Posted by Neurath
I'm not sure you mean you smoke cannabis but if that is what you're referring to when you admit that you 'smoke' be aware that random drugs tests can be performed on healthcare staff at any time. A rumour is enough to have a random drugs test performed on you. I'd nip it in the bud if that is what you're doing.

If someone throws something at you tell them that they need to go back to school if they want to act like a child and that our line of work is not suited to children. I'd be enraged if i saw someone do this to anyone, and yes they'd get put straight immediately. You do not need to do this aggressively, professionally is perfectly legitimate. Remember each member of staff must look over the others, because at the end of the day we are there to ensure the health and safety of many many people. If they cannot cope with that and have to resort to doing silly shit against a colleague they must be driven out of our sphere of influence over the public. It is not acceptable in any way shape or form.

Neurath-

You hit the nail right on the head. But yes Im referring to cannabis. I know of random.ive held jobs and been able avoid thosethis is my first in encountering this bit.Its probably that I Mister a situation and these are the consequences. I agree in healthcare there shouldnt be any division when it comes w/ the profession. Its a pot of work that requires everyones input. I just dont get Why people act the way they do. Again thanks for the advice