Leos, how do you handle cheaters?
This topic was created in the Leo forum by Amber911 on Monday, October 18, 2010 and has 18 replies.
When someone cheats on you and you find out about it from your best friends, how do you handle it? Is there any chance of you going back to that person?
I would confront them and if it were true, I would walk away and erase that persons existance from my head. Honesty and Loyalty are two of the most important things in the world. It's something our sign is known for and we deserve no less in return. To cheat is the most awful thing you could do to someone who loves you and anyone who cheats does not deserve to be taken back.
Pretty much the same goes for me as with lioness81. However, their removal of existence from my life doesn't have to be forever. I will require time to be apart (that means NO contact!), and I will decide how much time is necessary (basically, whenever I am truly over it), then maybe we can try and be friends again. One must realize that I do not go back to romantic relationships once I end things. I close that chapter of my life forever but we can try and re-establish a purely platonic relationship. Once those romantic feelings cease, they never returned. I am forever turned off so resuming a sexual relationship is absolutely not an option.
I'll always care but I do not tolerate betrayal. I give my all in any close relationship and in that "all" includes utter vulnerability. I'm not afraid to put myself out there like that but I won't be walked on either.
I'll always care but I do not tolerate betrayal. I give my all in any close relationship and in that "all" includes utter vulnerability. I'm not afraid to put myself out there like that but I won't be walked on either.
Hi Amber911...
Have to say that I feel exactly as lioness81...cheating makes you history in my book and there is no going back.
I too uphold honesty and loyalty in the highest regard and respect it in all my relationships. Someone like this would be wiped from my life as well...someone I cant trust as my man and lover certainly will never be trusted as a friend either.
Have to say that I feel exactly as lioness81...cheating makes you history in my book and there is no going back.
I too uphold honesty and loyalty in the highest regard and respect it in all my relationships. Someone like this would be wiped from my life as well...someone I cant trust as my man and lover certainly will never be trusted as a friend either.
Sam, I didn't cheat so there's nothing to work on.
I asked the question to see how Leos would react and if their's a common answer and cause I'm nosy. Sure, it's not tolerated among most people, but not everyone has the same viewpoint as you or myself. You believe in second chances, the LEO above you doesn't. That's why I posted my question here.
I asked the question to see how Leos would react and if their's a common answer and cause I'm nosy. Sure, it's not tolerated among most people, but not everyone has the same viewpoint as you or myself. You believe in second chances, the LEO above you doesn't. That's why I posted my question here.
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Leos are loyal and self respecting people....to forgive and forget isnt even an option if you're cheated on. Sure, you can go back, you can be friends, you can even be lovers again and/or move back into that relationship but as a Leo? I could never forgive nor forget.
A fullstop would need to be put at the end of the story that once was and a new chapter or story begun. To forgive is to give as before....if giving what you gave before allowed your partner to cheat? then continuing to give as before isnt going to stop them from doing it again.
To punish indefinitely wont work either...one would need to truly put a fullstop and start again doing things differently....will it work? all stories are different and it depends on how in love and how the relationship can thrive knowing that the person you loved so much could betray you in the worst possible way with somebody (mostly) who meant nothing or very little. Time also heals and everybody is different with how much time they need.
Most people who cheat are only sorry they got caught or they'd have stopped it before getting caught. Ive been with a cheater and his only answer was "I didnt know how to end it" and "I didnt want to hurt you nor her" but thats just a cop out...he was getting it from 2 women and he was enjoying the attention....can I forgive? not on your life.
The simple answer is - DONT CHEAT on people you say you love, dont say you're in love if you are going to cheat, dont pretend you're in a committed relationship when you have your feelers or penis looking elsewhere. And for those who have been cheated on? You cant possibly forgive (giving as before) but a relationship can certainly survive infidelity but there are costs....depends on how strong the relationship really is.
A fullstop would need to be put at the end of the story that once was and a new chapter or story begun. To forgive is to give as before....if giving what you gave before allowed your partner to cheat? then continuing to give as before isnt going to stop them from doing it again.
To punish indefinitely wont work either...one would need to truly put a fullstop and start again doing things differently....will it work? all stories are different and it depends on how in love and how the relationship can thrive knowing that the person you loved so much could betray you in the worst possible way with somebody (mostly) who meant nothing or very little. Time also heals and everybody is different with how much time they need.
Most people who cheat are only sorry they got caught or they'd have stopped it before getting caught. Ive been with a cheater and his only answer was "I didnt know how to end it" and "I didnt want to hurt you nor her" but thats just a cop out...he was getting it from 2 women and he was enjoying the attention....can I forgive? not on your life.
The simple answer is - DONT CHEAT on people you say you love, dont say you're in love if you are going to cheat, dont pretend you're in a committed relationship when you have your feelers or penis looking elsewhere. And for those who have been cheated on? You cant possibly forgive (giving as before) but a relationship can certainly survive infidelity but there are costs....depends on how strong the relationship really is.
As Linda Goodman very very aptly put
""Here's to me and here's to you, and here's to love and laughter-I'll be true as long as you- not a single minute after."
That's how we leos handle cheating.
Well..that, and we forgive but don't forget. Too much self-respect runs in the sign baby, I'd walk away, dignity intact.
""Here's to me and here's to you, and here's to love and laughter-I'll be true as long as you- not a single minute after."
That's how we leos handle cheating.
Well..that, and we forgive but don't forget. Too much self-respect runs in the sign baby, I'd walk away, dignity intact.
Hello There
If someone cheated on me, I'd simply walk out thier lives without a trace.
I would pretty much keep quiet and not say a single word to them. Give no reaction. Just up and leave. Let them dwell in the guilt for the rest of their days.
I would pretty much keep quiet and not say a single word to them. Give no reaction. Just up and leave. Let them dwell in the guilt for the rest of their days.
lioness81 HOW DO YOU SAY LEOS WANT HONESTY AND LOYALTY WHEN YOU GUYS ARE THE BIGGEST CHEATERS NARCISSIST PEOPLE I VE EVER MET YOU CATCH A PERSON U GET MAD BUT WHEN U GET CAUGHT DOING SOMETHING IT OK .. BECAUSE YOU DID IT RIGHT
@lovebucket,,,, i dont know but the one im with he admit he fucked up and i dont even know if thats in leos blood to say he is sorry and he was wrong ... but so far hes been showing good things do they learn from theyremistake when they hurt the love one
I am a leo and I tried to take someone back who cheated on me. It just didn't work out I couldn't move past it. two words: It's over
@NY LEO ANSWER THIS .IF LEOS ARE SO FAITHFUL WHY DO YOU LIKE TO FLIRT AND TEXT AND ETC IS IT LIKE AND REASSUREMENT THAT YOU STILL GOT IT
@FREETOBE .... ARE YOU A LEO... LOL .. IDONT KNOW I GET A FEELING THAT IF HE IS FLIRTING WHAT ELSE WILL HE BE DOING
My ex scorpios best friend is a leo. He said hi to me last night. I kinda wanna do him. Too bad I never will.
WHEN I'm in a committed relationship! I'm like a horse with blinders! As far as Cheaters go? "TWO FINGERS"!!! Never again another chance.
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