Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsThat's not jealousy-- it's disgust.
I didn't know I could be very jealous, until recently .
I somehow became jealous of a male co-worker.
I really liked this guy, I could get along with him quite well and I even considered him as a good friend.
The thing is that there is a female co-worker I'm being fond of and my male colleague also knows this.
For the last couple of months he started flirting his ass off with her, it annoys me, but of course I can't prohibit him from doing this.
In the meantime he tells me that he's not that interested in her, he probably wouldn't leave his wife for her (oh yeah, side note: he's married), but would 'bang' her if the opportunity would be there.
What makes it even more annoying is that he's making obscene (sexual) gestures relating her, which he makes sure I only can see.
Sometimes he's texting her and after he's done texting, he will look at me and will say something like '... soon, soon', with a big friggin' smirk on his face.
I told him that I like him as a colleague and even as a friend, but truly hate him for his recent behaviour.
I'm aware of my jealousy and I even apologized to him for that.
Telling him all this somehow backfired, because he seems to be enjoying the situation more and more.
What actually makes me jealous is that she likes him and really dislikes me. I can't blame her for that, I also like(d) the guy.
I just wish she could she his true colors.
I know being jealous in this situation is quite unreasonable, but I just can't help it.
Anyway, besides all of this, I'm usually not very jealous.
Posted by sultrykittyWe learn not to verbalize it.
Naturally jealous over anything.
We have to be #1, always.
Thankfully, most of us grow out of that. For the most part, lol.
Posted by MontgomeryGot that right.Posted by sultrykittyWe learn not to verbalize it.
Naturally jealous over anything.
We have to be #1, always.
Thankfully, most of us grow out of that. For the most part, lol.click to expand
Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsPosted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick'.
He even told me, if I would tell her the things he's doing, she probably wouldn't believe me and think I'm the bad person for 'backstabbing' him.click to expand
Posted by bricklemarkEhh... that could backfire pretty easily.Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsPosted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick'.
He even told me, if I would tell her the things he's doing, she probably wouldn't believe me and think I'm the bad person for 'backstabbing' him.
Oh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.click to expand
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by bricklemarkEhh... that could backfire pretty easily.Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsOh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.Posted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick.
Just saying.
Esp if this woman WANTS to believe otherwise... you know?
But refusing to listen or entertain it probably isn't a bad idea.click to expand
Posted by bricklemarkYeah, that's not what I said.Posted by MontgomeryPosted by bricklemarkEhh... that could backfire pretty easily.Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsOh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.Posted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick.
Just saying.
Esp if this woman WANTS to believe otherwise... you know?
But refusing to listen or entertain it probably isn't a bad idea.
Really? Have you ever had this kind of scenario and the chick didn't mind?click to expand
Posted by MontgomeryThat's not what you said? I didn't imply that's what you said. And you're the hyper-sensitive one, jesus l just asked a question.Posted by bricklemarkYeah, that's not what I said.Posted by MontgomeryPosted by bricklemarkEhh... that could backfire pretty easily.Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsOh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.Posted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick.
Just saying.
Esp if this woman WANTS to believe otherwise... you know?
But refusing to listen or entertain it probably isn't a bad idea.
Really? Have you ever had this kind of scenario and the chick didn't mind?
Unless you're telling me that you don't believe there are delusional women
out there... ?
Gaaahd, I forgot how hyper-sensitive you are. o___Oclick to expand
Posted by bricklemarkPosted by MontgomeryThat's not what you said? I didn't imply that's what you said. And you're the hyper-sensitive one, jesus l just asked a question.Posted by bricklemarkYeah, that's not what I said.Posted by MontgomeryPosted by bricklemarkEhh... that could backfire pretty easily.Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsOh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.Posted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick.
Just saying.
Esp if this woman WANTS to believe otherwise... you know?
But refusing to listen or entertain it probably isn't a bad idea.
Really? Have you ever had this kind of scenario and the chick didn't mind?
Unless you're telling me that you don't believe there are delusional women
out there... ?
Gaaahd, I forgot how hyper-sensitive you are. o___O
Also, do you know me? I don't remember ever interacting with you. Wow it's like talking to a 5 year old seriously...click to expand
Posted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsJust lettin you know, this type of thing just sits in your past, and it doesn't go away, l wish l'd attacked years ago in a similar case. Follow the insteuctions, it will work don't punish your future self.Posted by bricklemarkPosted by SecondToughestInTheInfantsPosted by bricklemark
@SecondToughestInTheInfants
Well next time he texts her you need to secretly record him and then show the chick.
Hehe, I was thinking the same thing, but if I would do such a thing, I probably would get the 'short end of the stick'.
He even told me, if I would tell her the things he's doing, she probably wouldn't believe me and think I'm the bad person for 'backstabbing' him.
Oh that's just fear, don't listen to him! Do it! He's really scared of the consequences, because it would destroy him, and she'll probably fall for you. You need to stay cool about tho, just hide a small camera maybe, just catch him in the act, if she sees it she will be absolutely disgusted, and she'll love you for warning her.
As what @Montgomery said, I think it would backfire.
I will try to ignore the male co-worker as much as possible, although it's a bit difficult in a work environment.
Just trying to keep things peaceful in the office.
I will see how things play out.
Like others, I just provided some background info for my jealousy and took the opportunity to vent my frustrations a bit.
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