LEOS MEN HELP PLEASE
This topic was created in the Leo forum by Peachpeaches on Monday, May 6, 2013 and has 15 replies.
IS there anyway possible to get a leo man back that has cut you off!
All my waiting cost me to lose him the longer my waits the more room for others
As Seraph says its hard to think straight when you give so little information...
The thing about our relationship all the bad stuff happen on the phone in person we would have so much fun I mean a lot of fun but we couldn't get the phone conversation right and I never had any authority by phone but in person he would melt and I had a voice
that's confusing.
Posted by Neurath
As Seraph says its hard to think straight when you give so little information...
This is also one of the most difficult leo's from what I read his birthday is the most complex. It says they have the most problems in relationships. he has been divorced more than once I was afraid of that as well.
Posted by msX
that's confusing.
Yeah I think I'm out and it probably is a blessing for me to go on and be free in a new relationship I just fell in love at the end I didn't care before. You saying that really helps me feel like I escaped I big problem
Are you serious this man is not done contacting me. Wow that is amazing to me looks like the relationship is doomed.
Wow, this is all over the place. What I am hearing loud and clear is you are setting yourself up in relationship for the to fail. What is call the self fulfilling prophecy. You really need to step back from any relationship and take a break to get get yourself and your confidence together.
"I wanted to be friends because I had just got out of a relationship and I needed some time well 3 months later we were intimate accident for me he said he set me up and planned it anyways it was amazing."
You wanted to be friends. You should have kept it at that level. You are also blaming him for the the intercourse. You do not accidently open your legs and his penis just falls in. That was a decision you made and could have said stop at anytime.
"The whole relationship I really never showed real love towards him he was always giving. I was focused on my career, I didn't realize it as a problem until later."
You mention you did not show love and even said later, you always feel love when you are about to lose the person. You career is your number on focus and the fact everything is one sided and given from the other party in the relationship is unfair. You are unable to give any type of emotion to a person until they are about to walk out of a relationship shows that you really don't care for the person but afraid of being alone and things are not going your way.
"He said I saw him less than the man he was."
I think he is right. You saw him as a tool for your own personal needs. As mentioned before, your relationships appear to be one sided. They give and you just take with no interest in building a healthy relationship that involves real emotions of you reciprocating anything back to them.
"Second time we were about to try again I blew him off because he put the relationship in my hands to decide if we should be together i didn't want to get dumped again I wanted him to decide so I just said the next time we go out we decide."
Again, all one sided. You wanted him to make the choice so he could be the bad guy and again dump all of his emotional health into you while you commit and do nothing in the relationship.
"I wanted to be friends because I had just got out of a relationship and I needed some time well 3 months later we were intimate accident for me he said he set me up and planned it anyways it was amazing."
You wanted to be friends. You should have kept it at that level. You are also blaming him for the the intercourse. You do not accidently open your legs and his penis just falls in. That was a decision you made and could have said stop at anytime.
"The whole relationship I really never showed real love towards him he was always giving. I was focused on my career, I didn't realize it as a problem until later."
You mention you did not show love and even said later, you always feel love when you are about to lose the person. You career is your number on focus and the fact everything is one sided and given from the other party in the relationship is unfair. You are unable to give any type of emotion to a person until they are about to walk out of a relationship shows that you really don't care for the person but afraid of being alone and things are not going your way.
"He said I saw him less than the man he was."
I think he is right. You saw him as a tool for your own personal needs. As mentioned before, your relationships appear to be one sided. They give and you just take with no interest in building a healthy relationship that involves real emotions of you reciprocating anything back to them.
"Second time we were about to try again I blew him off because he put the relationship in my hands to decide if we should be together i didn't want to get dumped again I wanted him to decide so I just said the next time we go out we decide."
Again, all one sided. You wanted him to make the choice so he could be the bad guy and again dump all of his emotional health into you while you commit and do nothing in the relationship.
"I say some things he does not like because he says we need a break " You never loved me", "You think this is a game", and I say " The whole time your were running game on me" "
I think he hit the nail right on the head here. And you are not able to see your faults so you push the blame back on him. Whereas everything you wrote has shown he has tried with you. You didn't want to accept it and use him for your own personal needs.
"4. I realize this hurts him but he kept doing this push pull stuff and it confused me. I thought he was killing me with kindness"
From what you put, you are the one doing the push and pull. You look at what he could "possible" do to you. These are unhealthy coping mechanisms, like I said you pushed him away before there was even a chance of anything developing because you are afraid of allowing yourself to really care for someone.
"5. Then months later he says he is talking to other people and now he is taking some girl serious"
Good for him. Let him go.
"I try to profess my love something I have never done, I always hid my feelings. I never really showed him love I really just received it. "
Until you are able to grow past this in yourself. You will never be happy in a relationship and always self-sabotage it. Stay away from any relationship right now and work on your self.
Thanks guys I really appreciate all the wisdom. I learned a lot in this relationship and I am getting myself together.
The reason being was I always put everyone before me and get hurt so when I met him I said I am not getting hurt this time. He claims I did give him the attention he needed and I did not need to apologize that he had to blame himself for a lot of stuff but I think I started it all but I learned I'm not afraid of getting hurt anymore I will continue putting my best foot forward. I will not be afraid if someone leaves.
He is a manipulative player by the sounds of things, and you were pushed into something you were not ready for. It's a classic recipe and now you need to heal and get distance. What you've said is classed as minor psychological and emotional abuse and it should not be tolerated. You may have fallen in love with him but that does not mean you should act on it. In a weakened state emotionally and mentally you will not be able to resist more plays from him - it is lucky he has 'dropped' you as you've said it. Long term, things would have gotten worse. It is possible you're reluctance to go too deep saved you from someone that wanted his claws locked in and you unable to do anything about it. Focus on your career for now, heal up, and find someone else when it's the right time in YOUR life. Do not try to get him back because he will see this as victory and press much harder than he has done before. Do as other women have done and stay away.
I am feeling good not sad or hurt anymore I feel free. I am talking to a great guy he is awesome he actually amazes me. I still think about my ex and wonder what was it really all about if I knew the truth I think I would not wonder. Because he said some words that keep messing in my head that she is his age and settled in her career. My career is moving forward I have put so much time and work into my career and it is paying off. I am also happy for the experience because I have never been hurt like that before and I needed to treasure the emotion for my career, I am an actress and an author my 2 books will be released by the end of this year. One is from a traditional publisher and one is self-published.
One thing I miss about my leo man he use to answer just about every call and call me instantly back and he would move quickly whenever I needed him. I'm not really getting that from my other relationships. I loved that about him.
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