Loving and dating LEO Men... Advice, Pointers???
This topic was created in the Leo forum by Babykaykesiam on Tuesday, December 22, 2009 and has 6 replies.
well coming from a Leo female dating a Leo male......all I know is that Leos love the chase but we fall in love very quickly....sometimes this isnt such a good thing because we can fall out of love very quickly too.
As far as showing him how much you care? my advice would be to say that you're there if he needs to talk or just hang out but dont smother him - thats a no no with Leos.....but then again you should know what we want LOL.
Nobody said love was easy but you shouldnt have to say "I love you" when he says so. The Leo Im dating also said the "I love you" very early on but the's also non-committal but its clear he wants and is giving a committed relationship...go figure.
Just take it slow, enjoy the leo fun and be true to yourself. If he's confusing you so much and you're concerned about the ex? date other men - dont wait around for him to have fun with you while he makes up his mind and goes running back to the ex........if she's still calling and he's answering??? Id be questioning why he's answering (to yourself).......if they're over then they should be "over"
As far as showing him how much you care? my advice would be to say that you're there if he needs to talk or just hang out but dont smother him - thats a no no with Leos.....but then again you should know what we want LOL.
Nobody said love was easy but you shouldnt have to say "I love you" when he says so. The Leo Im dating also said the "I love you" very early on but the's also non-committal but its clear he wants and is giving a committed relationship...go figure.
Just take it slow, enjoy the leo fun and be true to yourself. If he's confusing you so much and you're concerned about the ex? date other men - dont wait around for him to have fun with you while he makes up his mind and goes running back to the ex........if she's still calling and he's answering??? Id be questioning why he's answering (to yourself).......if they're over then they should be "over"
Well I cant answer that - only he knows but to be so upset about her calls? perhaps its because you're around when she calls.....calls at midnight? she's trying to check up on him? Id be changing my number or blocking her number - all are very possible and quite easy 
If he truly wants her out of his life there are ways
If he truly wants her out of his life there are ways
Bk I would encourage you to slow down, be cool, your just dating and dating for a man means something totally different for women, (some) women tend to be 10 steps ahead of a man in the dating process and begin to put too much expectations which can lead to disappointment when/if things don't work out.
NO HELP, don't help a man even if he ask during the dating stage or at any stage for the exception of marriage, helping feels too much like motherly love, if you want romantic lover type love than stay away from the helping, with some men helping makes a man feel weak and no man wants to feel helpless as in WEAK. If he's depressed just let him know your available when he wants to talk and wish him well...that's enough
If a leo male likes you, is into you (or any man for that fact) he will suggest most of the getting together and honestly it will be easier for you to tell if he's sincere if he's the one coming to you, it doesn't mean you can't initiate but I find when women chase men they never feel as loved and appreciated as she would if she allowed the natural process of him coming to her to happen. If he's not initiating it's a sure sign of he's just not that into you and/or laziness...either way it's not a good way to start with a man.
Showing love comes very natural for a leo male, you have to set the pace and help him slow down, he can burn you out quite quickly and move on even faster, so slow down, it's okay for him to show his love and affection but hold off reciprocating but be very appreciative of the love and affection you receive....Chatz advice is perfect and she's right
He is not over his ex BUT don't let his past distract you from creating great experiences with him. Sure sign he's not over her is the name calling, he calls her a bitch then he will call you the same when/if things don't work out, that's a clear indication that HE'S THE REASON it didn't work out between them and he's most likely still stuck on her....so beware of men that speak poorly of his past relationships, It's not always a sign of fault and guilt on her part but it's a clear indication that he's still stuck on her most likely b/c he fucked up in some way so theres unresolved feelings.
He's not your boyfriend, your just dating, don't make it YOUR issue b/c it's not, be observant but not nosey and focus more on being happy and creating great experiences with him, that will be a huge factor in him letting the past go.
NO HELP, don't help a man even if he ask during the dating stage or at any stage for the exception of marriage, helping feels too much like motherly love, if you want romantic lover type love than stay away from the helping, with some men helping makes a man feel weak and no man wants to feel helpless as in WEAK. If he's depressed just let him know your available when he wants to talk and wish him well...that's enough
If a leo male likes you, is into you (or any man for that fact) he will suggest most of the getting together and honestly it will be easier for you to tell if he's sincere if he's the one coming to you, it doesn't mean you can't initiate but I find when women chase men they never feel as loved and appreciated as she would if she allowed the natural process of him coming to her to happen. If he's not initiating it's a sure sign of he's just not that into you and/or laziness...either way it's not a good way to start with a man.
Showing love comes very natural for a leo male, you have to set the pace and help him slow down, he can burn you out quite quickly and move on even faster, so slow down, it's okay for him to show his love and affection but hold off reciprocating but be very appreciative of the love and affection you receive....Chatz advice is perfect and she's right
He is not over his ex BUT don't let his past distract you from creating great experiences with him. Sure sign he's not over her is the name calling, he calls her a bitch then he will call you the same when/if things don't work out, that's a clear indication that HE'S THE REASON it didn't work out between them and he's most likely still stuck on her....so beware of men that speak poorly of his past relationships, It's not always a sign of fault and guilt on her part but it's a clear indication that he's still stuck on her most likely b/c he fucked up in some way so theres unresolved feelings.
He's not your boyfriend, your just dating, don't make it YOUR issue b/c it's not, be observant but not nosey and focus more on being happy and creating great experiences with him, that will be a huge factor in him letting the past go.
Well yes it would be considered chasing and it means you're thinking of him more than he's thinking of you and I can just picture you sitting at home hoping/waiting/wishing he'd call or text or come around - we've all been there. Men arent' wired like us...they just get stuck into something else and lets face it, they sure as hell cant multi-task and that means working and thinking about something/somebody else.
As I said before, Leos need their alone time too especially if down/depressed because we get ourselves back up again - we dont need anybody to help us with that although we do tend to whinge and feel sorry for ourselves at times and you'll know about it LOL.
Again, as I said before too....go out and date other men - this guy isnt ready for what you're looking for and what you write sounds like you're already making you and him an "item", again, we've all been there.
Ive learnt a lot from Tiki - so much advice which I cant thank her enough for and although I rebelled and didnt listen as such I lost out but finally I sat down and let it all sink in and it has worked to my advantage - Im happier than Ive ever been and more confident in who I am.
The greatest advice she gave me and OMG it is so true - if men want you they WILL chase you, they WILL move heaven and earth to get what they want but all the chasing on the womans' behalf wont make them do it any faster in fact it'll make them run the other way.
You will be more attractive, sexier if you dont chase at all...dont answer his texts straight away, make him wait a few hours or even the next day - let him wonder if you're with somebody else, let him know you're not sitting around at home thinking only of him (and even if you are, do something like watch a great movie, have a relaxing bath, listen and dance like an idiot to some of your favourite music, take care of yourself, enjoy being who YOU are and above all dont ever life just for a man. There are so many out there and if they cant see how great you are? NEXT!!!!
Leos love the chase so when he's ready and he's keen on you? then he will pursue you - it doesnt sound like he's ready and nothing you do will make him ready - he'll do it in his own time but he may only wish to be friends - remember that.
As I said before, Leos need their alone time too especially if down/depressed because we get ourselves back up again - we dont need anybody to help us with that although we do tend to whinge and feel sorry for ourselves at times and you'll know about it LOL.
Again, as I said before too....go out and date other men - this guy isnt ready for what you're looking for and what you write sounds like you're already making you and him an "item", again, we've all been there.
Ive learnt a lot from Tiki - so much advice which I cant thank her enough for and although I rebelled and didnt listen as such I lost out but finally I sat down and let it all sink in and it has worked to my advantage - Im happier than Ive ever been and more confident in who I am.
The greatest advice she gave me and OMG it is so true - if men want you they WILL chase you, they WILL move heaven and earth to get what they want but all the chasing on the womans' behalf wont make them do it any faster in fact it'll make them run the other way.
You will be more attractive, sexier if you dont chase at all...dont answer his texts straight away, make him wait a few hours or even the next day - let him wonder if you're with somebody else, let him know you're not sitting around at home thinking only of him (and even if you are, do something like watch a great movie, have a relaxing bath, listen and dance like an idiot to some of your favourite music, take care of yourself, enjoy being who YOU are and above all dont ever life just for a man. There are so many out there and if they cant see how great you are? NEXT!!!!
Leos love the chase so when he's ready and he's keen on you? then he will pursue you - it doesnt sound like he's ready and nothing you do will make him ready - he'll do it in his own time but he may only wish to be friends - remember that.
You don't have to HIDE your feelings of being enamored, leos love positive energy and he will give back just as much as he can receive so stop worrying so much about making mistakes, you will always have a chance to change a behavior that isn't working out for you with a man.
When a woman is not confident she's her own worst enemy because she TRIES too hard, she try too hard not to make mistakes only to make horrible mistakes b/c of her fear, she try too hard to make her man happy which only makes him feel DOUBTFUL that she's the BEST for him, if she gives too much and tries too hard he can and may use it as an opportunity to take and mistreat so slow down on the trying. Just be yourself, don't revolve your whole life around him, don't get too caught up in his life and his drama, don't always be there to show him your a good woman, again it's about balance, it's about having your own life and making that more important because truthfully a GOOD healthy balanced man don't want a woman to revolve her whole life around him (if he's a real man and not a man-boy), your good enough, you don't have to worry and try too hard and if your not good enough then he can leave, it's really that simple.
Anything is irreversible, but it's only irreversible when you have the confidence to lead yourself in a way that says its about me too, it's not all about him him him, it's about me too. I know that sounds a bit weird but unless you love yourself and feel you deserve the best treatment from a man he will begin to USE you and not in a good way. Stop worring so much it's unattractive and it turn men off, believe it or not men have keen senses, they know when a woman is confident and when a woman has low self esteem, the low self esteem women try try try and get used in some way or another, the past is gone, start fresh, let all the drama go from the past, it doesn't matter anymore.
So chill out, go have fun with your life, get busy and when your with him be with him and when your not...out of sight out of mind until we meet again.
When a woman is not confident she's her own worst enemy because she TRIES too hard, she try too hard not to make mistakes only to make horrible mistakes b/c of her fear, she try too hard to make her man happy which only makes him feel DOUBTFUL that she's the BEST for him, if she gives too much and tries too hard he can and may use it as an opportunity to take and mistreat so slow down on the trying. Just be yourself, don't revolve your whole life around him, don't get too caught up in his life and his drama, don't always be there to show him your a good woman, again it's about balance, it's about having your own life and making that more important because truthfully a GOOD healthy balanced man don't want a woman to revolve her whole life around him (if he's a real man and not a man-boy), your good enough, you don't have to worry and try too hard and if your not good enough then he can leave, it's really that simple.
Anything is irreversible, but it's only irreversible when you have the confidence to lead yourself in a way that says its about me too, it's not all about him him him, it's about me too. I know that sounds a bit weird but unless you love yourself and feel you deserve the best treatment from a man he will begin to USE you and not in a good way. Stop worring so much it's unattractive and it turn men off, believe it or not men have keen senses, they know when a woman is confident and when a woman has low self esteem, the low self esteem women try try try and get used in some way or another, the past is gone, start fresh, let all the drama go from the past, it doesn't matter anymore.
So chill out, go have fun with your life, get busy and when your with him be with him and when your not...out of sight out of mind until we meet again.
to be clear every woman is GOOD ENOUGH but men are just like women believe it or not when it comes to knowing what they want, they have there OWN IDEAS and UNDERSTANDINGS about what's good enough for him, this could be a complete FANTASY, an unrealistic fantasy and/or it could be a sensible idea that he will only ACCEPT as his reality but in the mean time will date multiple women at a time until he feels his IDEA woman shows up. So it's really important not to BELIEVE you are the ONE for him, you may not be what he's looking for as a LONGTERM partner, he may not have even thought about anything beyond the honeymoon so it's really really important NOT to jump ahead of him and start picking out the China ware.
Most men won't tell a woman she's not what he wants as a longterm mate or if he tells her it will be more in the form of I'm not ready for a real relationship, let's just be friends kind of context but he will always be on the look out for HER, the ONE and it may not be you, it's really important not to skip ahead in the relationship department or you can get really disappointed and hurt. He can call you, text you, email you every day, he can spend enormous amounts of time with you and not have any real intentions of being with you longterm, the only way you will know is when you 2 get to a point that he wants to discuss being in your life. Until you both come to an understanding together it's best to assume your just dating and not take things too seriously.
Most men won't tell a woman she's not what he wants as a longterm mate or if he tells her it will be more in the form of I'm not ready for a real relationship, let's just be friends kind of context but he will always be on the look out for HER, the ONE and it may not be you, it's really important not to skip ahead in the relationship department or you can get really disappointed and hurt. He can call you, text you, email you every day, he can spend enormous amounts of time with you and not have any real intentions of being with you longterm, the only way you will know is when you 2 get to a point that he wants to discuss being in your life. Until you both come to an understanding together it's best to assume your just dating and not take things too seriously.
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