Made a mistake with Leo and want to redeem myself.

This topic was created in the Leo and Sagittarius Compatibility forum by undertow on Saturday, May 18, 2013 and has 9 replies.
Hi Leo forum.
I need outside opinions and ya'll are experts. Warning: Long.
I'm sagittarius, he's the leo. Both late 20's. Met 5 months ago after both going through a long dry spell after ending long term relationships.
We dated for about a month. I fell immediately (at first sight, no joke) but did everything in my power to keep it cool because I've been with a Leo before and know they don't like to be approached too aggressively. Things were amazing for that month. I have never had so much fun or felt so sure about someone.. I'm a sagg, I love my freedom and I am usually the one being followed after. I did not intend on effing it up.
Well, I did manage to eff it up. One fateful night, I was feeling a little insecure about the fact that he was still so casual about it and had never talked about feelings. I was having a terrible night of insomnia and had been drinking. He did not answer my (one) text for about 5 hours and I became increasingly irritated, started overthinking. This culminated in texting him "are you using me? what is this? fuck this sh!t you asshole" type of stuff.
That was it. He was done. He said I was crazy and we parted ways unceremoniously. I let it go on the outside, but internally I was a mess. I lost weight, neglected my family/friends. I thought about him constantly.
4 months later, I'm back to myself and casually dating, but he has not gone away. I still see him at events around the city at least once or twice a month. Of note: One night at a party I was talking to a guy who he knew (I had just met the guy but they had known each other for awhile) and Leo walked up and got directly in between us and asked the guy how's it going, etc. It was so obviously territorial, but he had NOT contacted me for two months at this point. Nothing more than a "HI" when we run into each other.
So I drunk texted him later that night saying that no one holds a candle to him sort of thing but did not proposition him or ask him to come back around. No response.
I have casually dated a few people since this whole thing went down but cannot get over this Leo, I cannot bring myself to sleep with anyone else or allow myself to even consider an actual relationship with any of these very great people. No one stacks up. Not even close.
So. Should I ever contact him again? He is still single. If it makes any difference, I am more conventionally attractive than him and I have a life and solid friends. Not a loser, just in love.
Did you have sex? Yes (amazing).
Were you just friends? No, it was clearly a dating situation
Were you friends with benefits? No, we met and immediately went on a date
Do you know what you were? I know it was intense but we hadn't discussed what we were and I guess that's what made me have a little insecure freak out
Were you official? No
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I guess my main thing is should I hold out hope for something so much better than everything else? Or should I just give up and go ahead with a relationship with a great person but feels mediocre in comparison to this guy.
Would a leo want to know that he's #1 above a bunch of contenders or does he want to be ignored?
Posted by Jynja
Ignore him, cry him out of your heart, whatever reasonable thing it takes to forget him - do it.
Let go and let love.


^This^-- because you're missing out on what's in front of you, undertow.
I suspect that one of the reasons you're so enamored with him is that he's "The One Who Got Away"-- how much Neptune do you have in your chart? Winking
Could you be a victim of "rose-coloured glasses"?
Meaning-- he isn't all that great; look at this, that you wrote:

"One night at a party I was talking to a guy who he knew... and Leo walked up and got directly in between us and asked the guy how's it going, etc. It was so obviously territorial...
So I drunk texted him later that night saying that no one holds a candle to him sort of thing but did not proposition him or ask him to come back around. No response."
Territorial? Likely, yes.
Rude? Definitely!
So why do you assume it will be "so much better"?
You deserve better than someone who treats you like that, in public.
I had a Leo guy do that to me while we were dating-- needless to say, it a was short-lived relationship. *shudder*
He may not be interested in you, but you have been given ample evidence that you really don't have much reason to be interested in him.
He sounds like kind of an ass to me. Tongue


Guys, thanks for responding.
To the ones who said "let it go" you are of course right, and this is what my friends have been telling me.
Why can't I? Well that's basically summed up by Montgomery's post. He is the One That Got Away, the ONLY one.
I'm almost 30 years old. I thought I had met my match! I wanted there to be some meaning to the misery I've gone through. In reality I guess I'm just suffering from a bruised ego and heavy regret for acting the way I did that time and self-sabotaging. Also throw some disbelief in there that he could run away so easily, after one misstep. He did say he was afraid of being hurt and didn't want to get emotionally caught up, as his only longterm relationship ended badly. Maybe it wouldn't have been a good scenario in the end anyway.
Going to lay in the bed I made... and find some uncomplicated good-enough-for-now to have fun with until I feel that amazing type of chemistry again. smile Now that I know it exists, I will never settle for less.
you can't let it go probably because you are spoiled and used to getting what you want.
you know...everytime i think the worst about why my leo is not contacting me or giving me the slip, it is never what i think and always a great excuse and he always says how much he missed me and stuff. i'll tell ya, conventional advice never applies to this leo man i love.
Posted by undertow

Going to lay in the bed I made... and find some uncomplicated good-enough-for-now to have fun with until I feel that amazing type of chemistry again. smile Now that I know it exists, I will never settle for less.



So you are going to use someone until you find what you really want? Is that what you are telling us?
Having great chemistry and maintaining a relationship are two different things.
Perhaps you need to stop dating for a while and work on being a more stable person before you mess up another potential relationship. I'm not seeing an attempt to make changes or improvement on why you keep having these problems. You seem to want to jump back in there with some hapless male to feed your ego or inability to be alone.
Drunk texting is a sign of not only poor judgment but, emotional instability. You should be able to wait longer than 5 hours to receive a response. Patience is one of the things you need to work on along with being understanding and not assuming the worst. I know you became smitten with this Leo but one thing you have to understand is that some partners require more space and freedom than others.
I say use this experience as a teaching tool. Good luck.
I suggest you send him a gift , something special , a surprise something .
Thx for writing this thread. I'm pretty much like you a gem who gets irritated when my Leo is not responding. It's been 3 days now. I think he's really inconsiderate but I'm not doing anything for now. He usually comes back after a week or two but it is slowly eating at me. Just when I feel like I have forgotten me. There he comes and swept me off my feet. I must be crazy cuz I have a gem and a cancer who are better than him and would never treat me like he does. But I guess we want what we can't get because we are spoiled pretty girls who always get things our way until we meet the lion.
Yeah leos are stubborn. But they always leave the back door open, unless you are obnoxious and consistent in being a jerk. We can forgive almost any misgiving once as long as you really prove you are sorry and know why you were wrong.
Leos can't resist their exes being super hot and not care about what they think. You must be a ball of wit and joy as well as truly being sorry. If a leo ever thought you were a kind person, meaning he never saw you cruel to anyone but him, then he will be the one sorry and he will come back. But if you were mean to anyone else in the course of your relationship he won't let you in. You will be labeled.
The best way to punish a leo is to ignore him. Ice cold. Not to say he was the best anything ever. Especially when he wronged you. He needs to be the one that tries to get back to your good graces. Obviously he did something wrong to piss you off for you to respond like that. Remember. But if you see him be affectionate. So he remembers the love. And then go on with yourself. You can only plant seeds. You cannot force.

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