My Leo Man Expericence

This topic was created in the Leo forum by BrainyLibra on Sunday, February 10, 2019 and has 5 replies.
Met this Leo guy almost a year ago. Over this time it has been amazing and a challenge. He doesn’t want a relationship title until he has a foundation for himself. I as well don’t want that title until I can provide 50/50 into a relationship. I know he possibly messes with other girls. He’s not my man. He spends most of his time at my house if he’s not working or at home on FaceTime. 3 times within the past year( 3rd time current as of month ago) he had threatened to leave me. Either saying he wants nothing to do with me or the most recent time said he’s a burden on my life. At first when I wouldn’t entertain it he’d keep going until I react. I’ve come to learn that the reaction gives him some kind of security? After the fact he acts like nothing ever happened and things are 2x better than what they were prior to the arguement. I’ve come to learn tho he is a huge hypocrite. He does things he doesn’t like me doing. I’ve been getting on him about it. He now tries to fix. Told him his communication skills are shot. He’s fixing it. He likes it better when I stand my ground n defend and express myself. He hates when I hold things back. Gets him mad. He’s lowkey very insecure, he said that’s why he feels good when a girl finds him attractive because he’s insecure about himself. When we first started talking we’d have have sex every time we chill. For the past 4/5 months we have sex sometimes but we’re mostly just chillen watching movies, bumping music, smoking. He had a bad day he used to ice me out. But now when he says he’s having a bad he’ll say he’s going home. I’m like okay but if you change your mind your always welcome here. He always chooses coming over instead. He gets jealous. He doesn’t like the idea of me chillen with another guy who isn’t a strong friend of mine. One day I was at work told him my co worker wanted me to go on a double date n I didn’t want to but it would be my way home after work. He came and waited 30 mins for me to get out and “sorry I’m overprotective” I lowkey loved it. If he can come in as the “hero” he feels great. He needs a lot of attention though when he wants it lol. He’s sensitive. I snapped on him for the first time Bc he kept making fun of me and I had a really shitty day and wasn’t in the mood. That lend to him wanting to leave Bc he felt as tho he was a burden. He’s amazing but they are a challenge to keep up with.
Questions for you to ponder: How can the Leo leave you, if you're not together and you know that he's possibly with other women? Why are your tolerating his actions if he's acting like a hypocrite? What do you expect to get from a man who is obviously this insecure?
Leave as in stop being lovers/friends, he be feeling like he’s a burden Bc he doesn’t have his life together at his age. He expects people to give up on him easily. He tries my loyalty I guess but I’m naturally a loyal person. When it comes to other women if he is he’s making sure I don’t know about it. He’s not my man so he’s free to do as he pleases but he respects the request I ask of him if he does. I also go to my doctors appointments n have my annual checks. extra precaution. Yes he’s a hypocrite but I’ve told him he is and I’ve pointed it out. Now everytime does something hypocritical I’m on it. He may get a little sensitive about it but he puts a stop to it. I’ve come to realize if I tell him what’s wrong or what’s bothering me. he tries to make those changes. If I don’t say anything tho it’ll continue. N yes he’s insecure and he’s told me he’s insecure. He told me he gets jealous. He said when a girl flirts with him it makes him feel good because he really beats himself up. He knows I don’t like it but he won’t flirt back. You ask me what can I expect from a man that’s this insecure? I can expect change and transition. I don’t give up on those I love or care about. My relationships, friendships I fight for them till there’s nothing left to fight for or I’m clearly wasting my time.
im sorry, but you need to leave him, or he will hurt you in the long run. He is not good for you. And he dont treath you well. and he is a player. eaven if you become boyfriend girlfriend. He will keep playing you. your wasting your time.
Sounds like a lot of excuses to dodge commitment and keep pussy on tap.

If you were the 'right one' he would lock you down. Js.