Need help with a Leo woman

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Dwax on Thursday, October 10, 2013 and has 17 replies.
Okay so I found this site browsing around google, trying to research you Leo's and figure you all out more. So here's my situation, I'm a capricorn who has been single for a long time and recently got interested in a Leo woman. We haven't known each other for long, but if you know us caps we are very slow to open up and trust people, and within the first week she had me feeling like I could tell her anything wich is unusual to me, and it was also a mutual feeling. The first whole week, from sundown to sun up we would talk and always hold a conversation non stop. But now a little bit later, she seems kind of cold to me. She doesn't respond as much, an when she does it's only a few here and there then she goes off for awhile. I tried asking her about it, but she seem to have gotten agitated with me so I instantly stopped and apologized to her. She said me asking about it shows my insecurity about the subject and is unattractive and it kind of hurt me, because I'm not insecure I know I would treat her like a queen, I just know that my communication skills over the years with women have gone shy, and I'm also bad at reading them hence why I'm here. She still seems Interested, just not as much. A positive though, if I don't talk to her for awhile, she will sometimes start a conversation and ask what I'm doing. I've been single for 8 years now, and I'm tired of it. I really like this little lioness but my communication skills with women have kinda got shot over the years, especially after rejection after rejection and making me feel like it's me. This Leo has got me underneath some spell, and all I've ever wanted was a girl to show how special she is to me by either letting her know how beautiful she is everyday, or do something like cook for her so this Leo seemed perfect at the right time, because I hear Leo's love that kind of stuff. We've only really been just texting and talking on the phone, because she left state to work and we met over online but she's supposed to move back in a week or two, and I want her to be begging me to hang out and meet up rather than "we'll see what happens when I get there" I've obviously liked some girls all these years, but this girl is different. As far as all of our views on life and what's happened to us, we're twins. I've never found a female like me, so I want to make this work. She has an amazing radiance and I love it. Please no negativity, I iust want to know what would bring you Leo's back in this situation.
details
Before I actually respond... you're 22 and have been 'single for over 8 years now'?
details
Yeah. It's embarassing I know. I asked for no negativity haha. I've had like little flings throughout those years, but none that really got serious or even really worked out. This one I would actually like to get serious with though, and would like it to work.
details
Posted by Dwax
Yeah. It's embarassing I know. I asked for no negativity haha. I've had like little flings throughout those years, but none that really got serious or even really worked out. This one I would actually like to get serious with though, and would like it to work.


You kind of answered your own question. smile
"A positive though, if I don't talk to her for awhile, she will sometimes start a conversation and ask what I'm doing."

So
Don't make it so easy.
While I think this is true:
"letting her know how beautiful she is everyday, or do something like cook for her... I hear Leo's love that kind of stuff."
We don't necessarily want it handed to us on a silver platter.
Maybe a little "cat and mouse" -- or seagoat (?) is in order. Winking
details
Yeah I dont like tell her 5 mins, but I do like to compliment her. I mean all women love compliments haha, but I just read that Leo's enjoy it a little more.
And I'm well aware my 2nd statement kind of answered my 1st question. It wasn't a very good answer though really. Me and this girl hit it off way better than any of the past ones though, it feels a lot different than the other ones did that's why I'm obviously trying to achieve help on the matter. Usually I'd just blow it off and move on but I don't want to.
And cat and mouse is exactly what I think she's trying to do. I've been thinking about playing the same card. Because she's used to me responding quickly. I have noticed that when it takes me longer to respond, she's a little more talkative.
I just wanted a 2nd opinion from some Leo's. If y'all had a guy who was in my position, would it bring you closer if I played the same card she is? Or would it turn you away due to lack of attention? I'm obviously not good with women or the games they can sometime play. I'm a capricorn, I'm shy and not really good with people period. I've kinda always been a loner.
details
Ok here's a cure to your dilema. I mean maybe this only works for me. There's a couple of ways people get to my heart and when they do they own it.
How they won me:
1)Gemini guy before always took me out on a different types of dates. He was glamorous, easy to talk to about serious things and also he mix in some fun in it. He showered me with gifts and even tried his best to cook for me. He treated me like a queen at the same time his bestfriend. In time, I ended up loving the man. Oh and he was very affectionate and his eyes looks at me as if I'm the most beautiful woman.
2)Leo man did the hot and cold tactics with me. Sort of like pull and push. He will say and do something so romantic that most man wouldn't say or do. He was sincere and we will talk about things I can never tell people which attracted me to him. But one day he loves me the next day he don't. Drove me crazy.
3)And My Cap guy who I dated for 5 years. He became my lover and my bestfriend. I love how he cater to my needs and I feel safe when I'm with him. There's no masking anything. I can look my worst and he will assure me I look beautiful. The only problem with Caps is that you guys have your way of suffocate. Sometimes we need space and time to unwind. It's nothing personal. We Leo will come back and we will contact you. Sometimes with me less is more. When I am interested and I am not getting the respond I usually do, it makes me think and then I actually try and put more effort for the person. This is when LEO ego comes out.
Well goodluck, My advice is tone done the calling or texting. Instead when you see her make it a romantic night (candles, flowers and your eyes should always focus on her)
details
I do know I have a way of suffocating as you say, wich comes natural for caps apparently. I don't mean to do it, if I'm interested in someone I just love to be around them. But what you described is pretty much us. she's already told me it feels like we've been best friends for years now and we've only know each other for a short period of time. And I've even seen her not at her best, and I'll let her know the honest truth that I still thinks she's just as beautiful.
Pretty much what you're saying though, is give her some attention but at the same time, do the opposite some too and make her lioness ego kick in, make her wonder, and come to me? I'll be using your advice if this is correct, but anymore would be really appreciated smile
details
Give her space, but don't be flighty.
(I wasn't being rude... I just found it trivial to count 'dating at 14' as actually dating, that's all).
details
Posted by Lioness0802

2)Leo man did the hot and cold tactics with me. Sort of like pull and push. He will say and do something so romantic that most man wouldn't say or do. He was sincere and we will talk about things I can never tell people which attracted me to him. But one day he loves me the next day he don't. Drove me crazy.



Wow, just posted something similar.
Leos are pretty stable, talking about the females, who have been my best friends. They will be there for you through thick and thin.
In terms of romance, if she contacts you, that is good. There is a liking. Just don't play the 'on-the-fence' with her when your heart starts beating a little faster.
details
Actually, Huntress gave me a chuckle Big Grin
14 doesn't sound too 'single' to me. However obviously... you seem to have matured early in life, Dwax Winking
details
Lol well it wasn't even really anything serious, just like a few month relationship. So basically I've never been in a serious relationship or had at a shot at love. I hear people tell me "be patient, the right girl is out there" but it always comes from people who are always in steady relationships or something and don't understand my position.
But I won't pull the on the fence thing when it gets more serious, I know exactly what I want. I wouldn't get that close and be like nahhhh lol.
I think she might be somewhat distant at times because in the first week or so we got really close, and she's had really bad past relationships as most people have had and she probably got nervous and is scared of beeing hurt or something along those lines. Idk if that's typical of Leo's? I think it's just human nature to be careful :p
details
Yes Exactly what I'm trying to say Dwax. I know when you're into someone You want to spend as much time with them. But if You make her feel like a princess and the best thing in the world when you guys are together that is good. The trick is not contacting her as much because she will wonder why you haven't and she will go to you instead. And when she text you do not text back right away. Wait a couple of hours just to show her you have your own life. And short text only like I am well.. Then when you see her again. be as romantic. You see what picture I am trying to paint here? You will conquer her with those. Be as passionate when you guys are together. Be sincere and listen to her. We like to blab about ourselves specially if we feel comfortable with you.
details
Posted by FUM
Actually, Huntress gave me a chuckle Big Grin
14 doesn't sound too 'single' to me. However obviously... you seem to have matured early in life, Dwax Winking


Caps seem to be very literal/honest.
+1 for it, though-- definitely. smile
details
Lioness she actually just texted me earlier. She texted me first too wich is a good thing smile I waited about 30 mins before I texted her back, but I'll take your advice an wait longer next time and make her wonder what I'm doing. But I definitely do treat her really good, just be extremely sweet and kind and try to make her feel as comfortable and appreciated as possible. I like to treat her like a queen, I always call her the queen lioness because she too is into astrology lol.
And Montgomery what's the point in lying?! I don't believe in it. Honesty is always the best answer to me smile I ain't got nothing to hide, I'm an open book.
details
Good Dwax! That's a good sign. Remember short answers only. Remember you're busy with your perfect life? Only in person you will go all out smile Goodluck!
details
Okay so a week later here is where I'm at. She's still beeing kinda cold towards me. I actually confronted her about it, because I tend to think negatively and always think that I did something wrong to upset them or something, and I had to ask if it was me. She told me it's because she's either busy, not around wifi (she only has a text app), or is just high and don't want to talk wich is understandable because I'll get stoned too and don't feel like texting, with an exception for her :p but one thing that confuses me is she says that, but I'll see her talking to people on Facebook (yes I was lurking) or something. She told me about a year ago she got a divorce, so I'm not sure if she just has a guard up or what to prevent her ego from beeing hurt again from a failure/unsuccessful relationship. Felines are also my favorite animal, I have two cats an I know when they want loving they'll come to you, but this is bullshit an the opposite. There is a positive though, we did Skype the other night for like two hours and there was no shortage of conversation. We both really enjoyed it, and she didn't want to seem to get off. But she was also drunk, and I hear Leo's get kittenish when they drink so I'm not sure. Ever since then, she's been back to her cold state. She's really back and forth- more cold than anything- and it's confusing me. If there's a phase 2 to this plan any of you could suggest, please do.
details
Dwax,
I don't quite understand what you mean by 'cold'.
Do you mean she does not talk to you, such as not responding or not initiating conversation?
With my Leo guy friend, I am learning that after he gives me all the attention in the world and gets what he wants, he goes back and completes his tasks. He is consumed with whatever he needs to do. So those are times, I initially did not understand of why the 'hot and cold'.
The cold times are when he is programmed to deliver whatever needs to get done.
Same goes for Leo females, they will focus on their tasks in hand. They also have a social circle they attend to. So it turns out, we need to wait out our turn.
For example these past few days, my Leo guy was constantly on my case. He kept calling, Skyping, texting like a mad person. We spent 4 hours Skyping and another longish time on the phone. I get exhausted!
Then now, no peep for the second day in a row. One thinks this should be balanced out, but it never is.
details

Leave Your Feedback

We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.

Home Astrology Comments Forums Search

©1997-2025 dxpnet.com. All Rights Reserved.
Advertising Contact Terms of Use Privacy Policy