Pisces in the doghouse for jealous of Leo wife

This topic was created in the Leo forum by steverino on Saturday, January 5, 2013 and has 26 replies.
She started working a day job and I was stuck on nighgts for a year. She kept saying a certain man's name with glee. I tried to ignore to not hur her feelings. Then I got quiet. What can I do to get her back? I was quiet for 4 days. We made up somewhat then the name was seen on a mirror. The man is gone just a crush but our marriage isn't going well at all she wants out.
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Who's now where for what now?
(Just confused about the title)
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It seems that I just can't say the right thing. I told her that I would fight for her by way of making myself worthy of her. She says that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me no more. I have in the past said some mean things to her because of her flirting. I didn't realize that she had an owners manual and I just should of asked if she had a crush on the guy and maybe not got this far. Now she is buying a house and moving with our 2 kids and says she needs time to see how she'll be in the new house. We currently live in the bottom half of a bi-unit. I didn't know how bad it was messing her up by trying to save money instead of just buying a house to ourselves. She said she needs passion and I'm a hopeless romantic. We have fought several times pretty bad now she read her/mine compatibility horoscopes and thinks she has the answer and she should be without me to succeed. I know that she will be hurt by guys and possibly destroy our children 12 &15. I just want another chance.
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Mr. Pisces man, for how long has your wife been trying to tell you she was unhappy, did you just do the famous pisces "shrug" off and ignore the flags being waved at you? If she's moving out and tells you she is done then she is done.
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Yes, she has been looking for homes but in an irrational manner. $ 400K and up with me just starting working again and her just starting. We have been trying to sell property I own, About $ 250K but no takers yet. I started sensing things were bothering her last couple of months. Thats also when she kept talking about a colleague that was like spears through my heart until I finally just stopped talking. I didn't know that was the ultimate insult to her. I have no problem buying a house even if its pricey. Now she found an awesome affordable home. I'd love to be part of it along with her and our children. Either way, if she isn't in love with me anymore I cannot be in a relationship with her even though she is the most wonderful, classy, and beautiful woman on the face of our planet. Oh, and I am madly in love with her. I would never sleep around, even when she is a bitch sometimes. Most of our inheritance is in my name due to reasons beyond our control. I am prepared however to give her half of everything whether legally necessary or not. She is the mother of my children and should continue to be a classy lady. I just want some advice as to what I can do or say to try and patch things up, if possible. She seems to be coming and going. I sense that she still loves me so I intend to fight to get her back at almost any cost. I would give my life for that women.
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This morning she was still cold towards me but not as much. She got something in her eye that was hurting her. I got a can of natural tear spray and helped her get it out. It took a while, she was feisty and jokingly pushed me couple times and slapped me a $ $ couple times I slapped hers. Later, I came home and bought something that we already had she grabbed it like she was gonna throw it, I slapped her tush, she slapped mine, and went back & forth several times. I was liking it, I think she was too. Later though she said she didn't want to go anywhere with me. She's into this conquer it alone thing.
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That is simply beautiful advice. Last Nov. we went downtown Chicago without the kids for the first time and saw a show. It was the most wonderful night of my life. She looked stunning and ....... Yes, she asked for some dirty talk and slapping and got it. I didn't know that was her I just thought it was spur of the moment. It was after this wonderful weekend that my emotions crashed with hearing the name and I just shut down. She of course, must have been thinking, what else can I do to please this guy. She picked and bought all of our nice clothes, found the show, I just paid and got the room. I don't think that I can find another soul-mate out there. I really don't think that I will live too long if I am not with her anymore. I would never do anything stupid intentionally but....
Thanks again, for the insight.
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It seems most of the Leo ladies on the forum are mad at me just reading about what happened. Please ladies, I need some ideas . Where should I take her? where would be the best vacation place for us? Where should we live? How do I make her trust me again. What should I do to be more attractive for her. I have started exercise & lifting. What should I wear? I tell her how I feel she's the most beautiful creature on the planet and I am sincere. I told her that I love her, that I have always loved her and I will always love her. And I think she knows that I am sincere. You can't BS this kind of love. I must have her back!
Thanks in advance.
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She just called me and asked if I was sitting down. She then said that she would accept my offer to renew our vows in Hawaii.
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Thanks for helping me understand the serious nature of my screw up(s). Thanks for the website. Any suggestions to help me read up, understand her better and make the rest of her life passionate and dynamic and of course love and success?
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Remember that I would pick up the kids from school, feed them, go to work right before she got home. We would see each other when she got up for work and I got home and weekends sometimes. In the mean time she met lots of nice and smart people to talk to and admitted that she was mad at me since we sold our house after my back injury. She let me make all the decisions back then. I like the new her. She took us for a ride in our truck to the frozen beach today driving 95 mph like Danica and looking like her but better. I told her that if this is how she drives now I would like to buy a lexus for her and our kids since the little guys don't like the truck and I don't have any payments. And we got a Black L350 with tinted windows, she loves it as well as the kids and I. Our sex life was good the whole time, even though I was an asleep jerk. She works with all men and most of them got the hots for her. She runs the show, departments were fighting for her when they realized she could fix things. she's attracted to smart savvy manager types, until they ask for some, then it turns her off. Her boss told her how he really, really likes oral sex. She came home asking me to write a resignation letter for her saying she feels like a prostitute. I wrote it but talked her out of quitting, she wouldn't tell me exactly what he said. She didn't talk to him for 3 days til he called her in begging for forgiveness. Yes, we need to communicate and I will suggest some weekend comm getaways. She asked that we both wear our wedding rings, I agreed.
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Posted by Jynja
Posted by aquansidenout
You two need therapy and you need to findout why all of a sudden after saying she wants out she wants back in. Sounds to me like she was screwing somebody else got her feelings involved and pictured more with this man then reality hit when she found out he was screwing everybody and she was just another notch on his bedpost. Ijs. Read between the lines.


Wow. Where did you get all that? In this thread??


From the man she talks about at work, then all of a sudden she's unhappy, then she wants a divorce and now she wants to renew her vows.
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He was a manager in his 60's and married. It was a bit of a crush more professional, she told me later they clicked. She was getting it steady, in the mean time by yours truly. I make sure to never tell my beautiful lady no. He probably didn't ask for any, that's why the crush. If it did happen, I'd still take her back, wouldn't you?
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Thanks a bunch Jynja,
You make me feel good feeling good about us feeling good. If that makes sense, I'm sure it does to you. It is the RX350 got a great deal, slightly used, its a beauty. She feels like the lady that she is when driving it. I let my lady negotiate and got a grand more for our trade in than the other place. The sales person was like a whipped noodle as she had her hair down looking fine. I was hypnotized in pure ecstasy when we got home and was led by the hand. Too bad we had to keep the noise down because the kids were home. I also sent her an email link for latin dance lessens at a local place. She said that she wasn't interested, may have been the mood she was in. I'll try again next time. Thanks for all the romantic tips, I need all the help I can get. I like your style !!!!!
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It seems the honeymoon is over before it started. As if she started having doubts the next day. I sent her a text and added that all will be fine as long as I have her in my life. She texted back that she's been invited to dinner after work. I was sending another text which may have seemed like I ignored it and she sent: I will be having dinner tonight after work. She came home in a shitty mood stating that one of her coworkers, some dweeb that started hitting on her when word got out that we were separating, has moved onto a different project. His name just happens to be same as mine and he was smothering her. This morning I opened my eyes as she was getting dressed and she accused me of being a creeper. Then she walked out without saying bye. I made the mistake of calling her asking why she is being so bitchy. It didn't go well as you could imagine. She said that when we move to our new residence I should go along for a while. I sent her a text stating that: "I over-reacted and was a jerk" I'm fearing the worst. I know that isn't her talking but her frustration. But I can only handle so much before I have to defend myself. I want to tell her that if I were a dog, she'd be facing cruelty to animal charges. But I just can't do or say the right thing during this planetary alignment or whatever is affecting us at the moment. Any suggestions for a personal horoscope to help us through this? P.S. I did the cute note thing in her make-up case but am afraid that may not go well when she finds it tonight. Should I pull it for a different time.
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Where can I meet gentlemen like you? O_o I wouldn't even need the Lexus, all that love and attention you give would be more than enough for me.....*goes in the corner while shaking my head and cursing her good luck*
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Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Pisces 13.13 Ascendant Libra 3.43
Moon Scorpio 14.18 II Scorpio 0.00
Mercury Pisces 4.56 III Sagittarius 0.36
Venus Aries 25.42 IV Capricorn 4.20
Mars Pisces 9.51 V Aquarius 7.53
Jupiter Aries 20.54 VI Pisces 8.05
Saturn Aquarius 27.42 VII Aries 3.43
Uranus Virgo 7.48 R VIII Taurus 0.00
Neptune Scorpio 17.47 R IX Gemini 0.36
Pluto Virgo 12.56 R Midheaven Cancer 4.20
Lilith Sagittarius 5.27 XI Leo 7.53
Asc node Cancer 9.15 XII Virgo 8.05

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Leo 6.12
Moon Aries 20.34
Mercury Leo 3.26
Venus Virgo 10.45
Mars Taurus 19.48
Jupiter Aries 24.17
Saturn Cancer 24.21
Uranus Libra 28.35
Neptune Sagittarius 9.09 R
Pluto Libra 7.00
Lilith Pisces 19.28
Asc node Scorpio 28.28

Thanks a bunch for the help and the kind words. The top chart is mine the bottom is my wife's. Not sure of her birth time at the moment.

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Sorry it came out messy.
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Posted by ReinaDelMar23
Where can I meet gentlemen like you? O_o I wouldn't even need the Lexus, all that love and attention you give would be more than enough for me.....*goes in the corner while shaking my head and cursing her good luck*


Thanks Reina,
If I may call you that, there must be lots of credit where its due. She stuck with me when we first met, drugging, rehab, then drinking, then bad a $ $ attitude due to jealousy. I have said things to her that I would do almost anything to take back. She has also and usually triggered my response but there were many times that I should have sucked it up or simply asked what's going on. Now she's starting a career and wants to go big time more than anything else in the world. She's using her beauty, smarts and personality to shmooze all the shmucks at work to get all the info out of them. Problem is they think she wants them, until they ask for some them its a big turn off for her. The one guy that she kept talking about was sincere about her aptitude she must have then developed the crush and he either knew better or sincerely didn't want any. I was not home to come home to, became jealous then swam away as they say. She took it really hard.
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Using your looks on the job is one double edged sword if there ever was one. I always try to let my personality and intellect shine on the job (definitely had to in the Navy). She might want to tone that down, that can get her screwed in the long run.
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Posted by Jynja
Well sir, you're quite right. Your wife must be feeling a sense of frustration and confusion in this time. It's very likely she suddenly believes she's too emotional and is trying to hold back on all that mushy. Or she could suddenly feel she needs to attend to somethings in a hurry.
Sadly, Leos with Aries moons can come across as aggressive and insensitive sometimes, but you can handle that. You're not easily intimidated or misled, your mind is deeply curious and always active so that might be a little of why you're quite sensitive to criticisms especially with those who matter deeply to you.
It's likely your wife's anxiety came across to you as indifference as well. I bet in your heart of hearts you know she didn't mean to hurt you intentionally. She's struggling and you can sense it - as you've said already. So, perhaps, as you must be feeling settled emotionally and mentally, you could offer her support and understanding? In this planetary alignment, you might be able to talk things out, but she might not be able to fully verbalize her problems so if you just let her know you'll be there for her no matter what, that might help.
If you hold on a day or two too, you might be able to talk and trash this misunderstanding out. Remember you're quite sensitive, and your Scorpio moon won't let you stay quiet if you've been hurt, but if you swallow your responses a little and let her just say what is up with her, you might find things are not really as bad as they seem.
It's easy to see why your love is rekindled. This planetary alignment is good for growing your love, but it is very difficult for your communication and might even affect your usual idealistic view of each other.
Also, you might have to make additional efforts to accept new changes, but perhaps not just yet.
Hopefully this works, and things are returned to normal. Fingers crossed for your love. smile


Beautiful interpretation Jynja,
It got better yesterday night and this morning. Then she came home early today because people at work are getting in her business and other issues. But, she said that she feels horrible because she made the decision to come back to me. I think its all the other stuff but what you gonna do. I told her that I'll be there for her no matter what. I'll keep fighting, I don't know how much more I can take. She said she freaked out when I called her i
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Got a little tipsy last night and she told me everything. She developed a crush on the guy she kept talking about. I sensed it and stopped talking. She was telling him her home troubles at work. He told her that it is ok that I'm in my cave and will come out and tell her whats wrong. And he told her that she should give me another chance. Later, he asked her why I was quiet. She told him because she was talking about him. He asked if he's the only one that she talks about. She told him that she mentions many others. A week later his project was done and he split and she doesn't know where he is. My hunch was right. He didn't ask her for any and I got quiet at the same time. If he was a horny toad it would have turned her off big time. He also told her that she should take her time and thinks things through before making any major decisions. This morning she was mad at me. She said she felt used because she came clean and I was acting like I no longer want her back. She probably sensed that I was starting to get grossed out by her. She said: Last week you were like a puppy begging me to come back, now after I told you everything you don't want me. I may have made a mistake by telling her that I still want her back. Its like a game, she wants me to want her but doesn't want me. It is strange, we still sleep in the same bed until the new home purchase in couple weeks. It is really weird. Any advise out there? Any cute 'like note' ideas that aren't too mushy?
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Posted by Jynja
I am quite confused, do you still want your wife back?
I imagine since you say you are grossed out, you find it hard to reconcile her flirtatious nature with your love and devotion to her. Do you need a break, would you want to stop pursuing her for a while?
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Great stuff, thank you for your valued opinion.
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Thanks Jynja,
I won't be the first to try drowning you in the fish bowl as I know from experience that I/we have trouble articulating these types concerns. Very interesting stuff indeed. I did have a phone conversation with her on the way home followed by person to person. Didn't go too well but I didn't try to get deep into the situation. I think it is a culmination of things of the past, advice from people at her work that don't have her best interests in mind and ignoring her when I shut down. That really hurt her, I think to where she said that's enough. I did plan on digging deeper tonight. She keeps asking if I have been faithful to her. I'll let her know to tell me if she's done something that I can handle it. And then I can follow up with your suggestions. She did say she doesn't want counceling. I find this concerning as if she has something to hide. One way or another we'll get to the bottom. She read my horoscope last Sunday, it said I'll meet my soulmate this year. I did lay my eyes on a very special lady at work today that I could see myself with. Pretty but not trying to get everyone at the meeting errections. If you know what I mean. She had her hair in a pony tail keeping things toned down and very pretty. But I digress..... I'm trying to save my current marriage right? Thanks again for the info.
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Also, love your new avatar!
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