Pissed off NOW at LEO. WHAT THE F!!!

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Babykaykesiam on Thursday, March 25, 2010 and has 11 replies.
Sad I have to write about the following events that came out of left field. Leo Sun and Scorp Moon What I am about to descibe is all realated to this creepy Scorp Moon. Bc of Leo Sun. It means his Sun is square his Moon
But he freaked out on me yesterday in a way I can only describe as Scorpio Moon darkness and intensity. And it was creepy.
It all has to do with lack of trust. He has been burned by women. So he is always suspicious if I am out with friends or if I don't return his texts. But he never gets mad, he just states he is suspicious.
All of a sudden last 3 weeks he grew more distant stating he is having stress from work, and then got a new job which stresses him. He has been in touch via phone and text but finally he said he wanted to see me since sunday but i got a new job project and I coudnt see him.
He finally said he "gets of work at 10.. is it too late?".. I said yes if it after 10 by the time u get home. I asked for alt days and he said he could see me frid sat or sun. I told him sun I leav for a work project and friday is good. He said he would work around my schedule if I had pans on friday. So I said "I will free my schedule just for u. I do want to see u too"
Ok so last night I suddenly get a text that he would be home by 925 (well befoe my 10 cutoff time). I was caught off guard as I thought he said we would do friday instead.. I already was in the middle of something and said Icouldnt make it yesterday. OMG he then proceeded to flip out, calling me a BS queen and the shittiest and fake person he has ever met, and that I am like all the rest of the women he has met who have betrayed him etc... his ranting went on for one hour via texts and him resending my texts back to me to prove I was supposed to see him that night. He says "I bet you are fing some other guy right now... I hate you , fk u, leave me alone, dont ever call me again, u wont see me anymore because I am suddenly busy etc..."
He then left me a voice mail saying the same thing and saying that he rushed from work and missed a cowrkers party so he could see me. And he rushed so he would make my 10 o clock deadline. He said now he is at home and miserable, and that I am a Bitch.
OMG OMG!!!
Anyway, I am usually calm with him, so I just threw some clothes on and went straight to his place and buzzed him. He said "why did you show up at 11 npw i am in bed". I said "well I am not letting u think such vile things and be upset over a stupid miscommunication
He let me in and we talked for 2 hours arguing about who was in the wrong. And he kept telling me to stop talking... he wanted me to say I was sorry. He said that would have stopped everything.
OMG he insists that there was no miscommunication, that things were clear. He told me I was insulting his intelligence.
Anyway it was an ordeal. Then he tells me he was sorry for being mean, and that he gets that way when he is pissed off.
What a wrath.
OMG how many texts he must have wrote saying "I hate you, you don't know what friendship and love is... you worshoip money, your job, and other things more than me... Never call me. I hate you I hate you!!!"
I mean I felt I coud handle him and I ended up calming him down and then we had wild sex. That passion came out of nowhere for us. But still, I told him if he ever behaved that way again, I would be breaking up with him.
I still feel he had no right to be so scathing. At the same time I have heard Moon in Scorpio's infamous wrath, and that u dont want to be on the receiving end of one. He was like Mr Hyde, and next thing u know he is laughing and calm like his usual Leo self (99% of the time he is a sweetheart) by the time I was done lecturing him about control of his anger.
Anyway what do u guys think of this.
This was verbal abuse wasnt it,and is this a good reason to leave NOW? Also the fact he could be so mean, does it mean he has met some other girl and was looking for an excuse to break up?
I am very bothered by this. I mean I need to nip this in the bud.
Maybe I should just be MIA now. I hate him now too for being so difficult.
Ok, it's official - he's got Big Issues.......








Run 4 yr lil ol life :-/
Posted by xxxLeogalxxx
Ok, it's official - he's got Big Issues.......







Run 4 yr lil ol life :-/



Thanks girl. I posted this on Scorp forum and it is so interesting how they "get" these tantrums. They say "test".
Ya I should run.. Unless I am up for the challenge. But this is draining. I can't let this behavior continue.
Posted by CancerLeoCam
Man..where to begin.....
Kudos to at least whomever broke the ice to talk/resume communications. OK, all in my opinion...and you know what they say about free advice...
...and remember also....you're dating this guy not married to him....
OK...
First, you DID make plans. There was a time and date. The way I read it he didn't want to wait and pressed for Wed. night? You can't drop everything just because he wants you too IMO. You're not married and even so that's selfish and inconsiderate on his part.
You held your ground. He threw a tantrum lobbying all sorts of really hurtful, disrespectful and vile things....and you gave in. I understand a bit why but still, c'mon.
Verbal abuse? -yes and not just a handful of anger released verbosity. Texting, vox mail, etc. all continuing on. I mean this is too much. He has issues (like we all do) about trust and such but projecting/taking that out on you is wrong. If you've never given him a reason to worry about being out with friends and you've reasonably proved/shown him (in your opinion) you are trustworthy nothing will change his mind in the short term.
The comments about no gap in communication is delusional.
Bottom line in a nutshell, he has shown you what happens when he gets angry. He doesn't make an effort to communicate-he leaves that up to you to do. He wants you to do everything, drop everything for him. I wish I (and many others I bet) could have that too but that is not the real world. he just sounds very selfish and giving in to him will keep him happy..........at your expense. You stick up and show reasonable cause to not give in and it's armageddon.
As I have mentioned I don't know everything (otherwise I wouldn't be single) but this sounds like a rough road for you. I would begin writing down really what you value in being with him and then evaluate that with the "costs." What is he bringing to the table (beyond hot wild sex-if that's the case) that is valuable? What are you providing in return? The answer to this outcome lies in that evaluation of said costs and values.
Best wishes, Cam



Thanks Cam, you are very astute, and caring. Must be all that cancer with leo smile
Ya obviously the guy doesnt care about me... Sad
Posted by CancerLeoCam
BK,
Don't know about that but thanks. I do care. I sincerely hope you find a more deserving fellow. Best wishes, Cam


Awww thank you Cam. You are so kind. smile
Well, I'm a Leo/Virgo cusp male. I can see where he's coming from with the trust issues, but I have different traits, everybody with leo/anything else or just pure leo, can be like that, also the quick to anger thing, I myself if words of trust are broken, appointments not kept, can quickly become suspicious and frustrated. Guess that's the Leo, lol. A trait that I think is an anomoly in me, is that I am OVERTRUSTING. I will give somebody the benefit of a doubt for a long long long time, lol. If I do come up with concrete proof that something is very much amiss, and wrong. WRATH is how I react, lol. But this way this guy was acting, I was that way when I was lik....ummmm in my mid to late teens??? I grew out of that. I do tend, to be a bit selfish from time to time, but once my mistake is pointed out, I am quick to see it for myself and ask forgiveness. I am also very quick to forgive. I don't know, lol I was just giving a little bit of my point of view. Hope I was some kind of help in some kind of way!!
Posted by SuperJay122
Well, I'm a Leo/Virgo cusp male. I can see where he's coming from with the trust issues, but I have different traits, everybody with leo/anything else or just pure leo, can be like that, also the quick to anger thing, I myself if words of trust are broken, appointments not kept, can quickly become suspicious and frustrated. Guess that's the Leo, lol. A trait that I think is an anomoly in me, is that I am OVERTRUSTING. I will give somebody the benefit of a doubt for a long long long time, lol. If I do come up with concrete proof that something is very much amiss, and wrong. WRATH is how I react, lol. But this way this guy was acting, I was that way when I was lik....ummmm in my mid to late teens??? I grew out of that. I do tend, to be a bit selfish from time to time, but once my mistake is pointed out, I am quick to see it for myself and ask forgiveness. I am also very quick to forgive. I don't know, lol I was just giving a little bit of my point of view. Hope I was some kind of help in some kind of way!!



Thanks SuperJay. Leos are nice.
I do think a lot of the cruel things said was a reult of Leo combined with a dark mistrustful scorpio moon. Scorp boards have owned it already. It is interesting to see theor take.
They say it's about them wanting someone who understands the scorp way.
It is interesting!
I'm not even in an offical relationship with the leo ive been dealing with and i can tell he has got some issues that need to get sorted. He really hates...and i mean HATES it when i dont give him attention...im conviced that he looks for it elsewhere almost instantly. Im waiting for him to come online now so i can finally get the courage to ask him whats been going on and what does he want from me...sex? a realtionship? lately i have been very sick with an infection and i dont think he knows this because we have both been online and i havent spoken to him. I think he's been taking my distancing as something negetive when in actual fact i feel like im getting to close to someone who has really got their shit together emtionally. I CANT BELIVE THE AMOUNT OF EGO STROKING I HAVE TO DO WITH THIS GUY! LOL and his shyness can come off as cold and rude ...making it hard for me to approach him.
He has hinted to me that it's better when the girl kick starts things off. I think he may even be a hypocrite because there he was calling one of his mates a "pussy" because he didnt want to text a girl and he CLEARLY cant make the first move himself. I think he can ONLY when he's after sex.
I know leo's have a hard time trusting the opposite sex. My leo best friend has got MAJOR trust issues and can never seem to stick it out in a long-term thing. No matter how much she tries to...and she ALWAYS has another guy there as a back up. She currently has genuine feelings for a guy but he hasnt told her how he feels about her so in the mean time she is meeting up and contacting other guys who she knows likes her to keep the male atttention going. Ive told her that "using" other guys for your own personal benefit is wrong but that pride gets in the way and she just says "im bad...i know but it's who i am"...i get the feeling that this is what my leo guy does. Just today i caught him trying to get another girls attention. I dont know if it's because he got none from me but i dont feel comfortable enought to go to a guy who is currently hooking up with other girls. Has he got no patients????
I put on my facebook status "dont you hate it when you want to say something to someone and you actually to afraid to say it?"..im hoping it would make him think.
Wow, thats all I can say is wow. When the virgo erupted at me it was nothing like this. I don't know what to say. I guess its all about what you can handle from him. For me I can't handle being yelled at like that especially by a guy it makes me feel afraid. I hate feeling afraid because the only thing someone should fear is there personal God.
I would have to leave him alone from fear that the next time would be worse. However, after I snapped out myself because I hate fear and that makes me angry which makes me go off as well. I will say that for sure if he does that again its best to cut your losses early in the game. If he just wanted to have wild sex he didn't have to go crazy like that.
sounds like dude needs to be put in his place! i don't do arguing or yelling.
my ex libra became verbally abusive, and would fly off the handle, and i'd let him know right then and there that i'd hang up/block his number/walk away until he got his shit together and could talk to me like a grown up. this was post break up.
i'm glad u told him that u'd cut him out if he pulled it again. still, that's a red flag to me. he has deeply rooted issues and he's obviously not ready for a relationship. he needs to work on him first. i keep telling that to my ex when he fails with another girl but he knows everything so who the hell am i? perpetual adolescence i swear.

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