QUESTION FOR A LEO GUY---HELP!!

This topic was created in the Leo forum by hoosiermama on Thursday, May 9, 2013 and has 9 replies.
I am a Scorpio gal that just started dating a Leo guy. I'm skittish, because I've heard that he is a player...although this comes from only his jealous EX of course. Okay, so he blows up my phone texting, saying the most sweetest things that have ever been said to me before. Hung out as friends a few times, and have texted for weeks, and talked on phone a few times too. Asked me out a few times, I turned him down. Finally said yes. He starts laying the dirty talk on me via text. I play back. He's magnetic, not gonna lie. But deep down, I'm skittish and wondering if all he wants is a piece of action. We hang out, he starts laying on serious moves, I back up, although the chemistry is out of the roof! Told him I am not ready for that, I want to get to know him first, and feel we are moving way too fast and I've never moved this fast with anyone.. He said he understood. He also knows my track record and I've only been involved in 2 relationships in my life, so very clean past. I don't party, drink, anything like that, not to toot my own horn, but I'm a good girl lol. He knows it. but next day? Starts being withdrawn. No more sweet texts, but yet still texts me first. Still hangs out with me everyday. But has withdrawn somewhat. HELP? I've asked him several times what's up and said I feel he's being withdrawn but he says he's tired, etc etc.....But then says he likes me a lot and still shows complete efforts on hanging out with me every single day, kisses me, etc. But all the sweet texts have stopped and what were novels, became shorter texts. What could be going through his mind?? I've given him the option to back away if he's having second thoughts and we can be friends, etc-- he said no way, he's not. I'm just not ready for sex after only a week of dating, it's not me. I even admitted I know I have ran kinda hot and cold with him, but I start caving then back off out of fear of being played or used (happened many times to me, so yeah, I'm sick of it) I told him I would get there but it's too soon. Also---- I was dating someone and it was serious for six months then he moved to another state, and my Leo knew how much in love I was.... Insight anyone? Could use all the comments and advice I could get! Thanks in advance
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Posted by StillWater
Well you told him you want to go slow...so now he is still with you but going slow. So what's the prob?


Oh, I understand that, and I do appreciate that he is. But why would he stop all the sweet texts he was sending? All the emoji's, compliments he was pouring out to me all have stopped-----went down to "yeah" "yup" and just short answers....That's what I am most confused about I guess.
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Posted by hoosiermama
Posted by StillWater
Well you told him you want to go slow...so now he is still with you but going slow. So what's the prob?


Oh, I understand that, and I do appreciate that he is. But why would he stop all the sweet texts he was sending? All the emoji's, compliments he was pouring out to me all have stopped-----went down to "yeah" "yup" and just short answers....That's what I am most confused about I guess.
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The problem is we live from the heart with our women so when someone puts a block on one thing all other things are stifled. We are more like a dam than a tap and we can't dissimulate specific feelings and wants, only blanket dissimulate them all. Go slow effectively means he's reverted back to a more formal stage of dating where he feels he has to earn the right to say all of these sweet things to you again. Simply saying 'I'm not ready for this particular thing yet' is much better than saying 'Let's go slow' because on the particular thing is highlighted, right now the whole relationship is highlighted which is why he's coming across in the way that he is. He's not sure what has led to the outcome and thus is taking things in stages to understand you, himself and the relationship more.
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STAY AWAY!!!! Only advice from one scorp to another and one who recently gave up the ghost on leo man. He still trys to reel me back in....shaking my head......He will pardon my language but "mind fuck" you until you can't take it anymore and without any explanation. A very shallow man at that. I am very fond of a few leos on here but as for him he is written off.
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He will reel you in only to pull away. Once the chase is over he will lose interest. My new theory on men in general, you lose interest I'm gonna lose interest and exit.
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Posted by jessejames
STAY AWAY!!!! Only advice from one scorp to another and one who recently gave up the ghost on leo man. He still trys to reel me back in....shaking my head......He will pardon my language but "mind fuck" you until you can't take it anymore and without any explanation. A very shallow man at that. I am very fond of a few leos on here but as for him he is written off.


There's no sense in you projecting your own bad experience with a Leo man onto others, (until you've probably amassed an entire repertoire of bad experiences with Leo men.) When it comes to what the Leo man in question here is doing, withdraw/advance is common in genuine attraction, especially among less-needy souls. It's also common in something less-serious. However, there's no point in the OP running away before she can determine real intentions. And if she can't trust herself to do that, then she's in trouble when it comes to relationships in the first place, never mind with just one Leo guy.
If you're so afraid of getting "mind-fucked", you might as well not even leave the house. Everything entails risk, but if you venture nothing, you'll get nowhere. Granted, this Leo male might indeed be just "playing", but there's no reason to run anywhere. Are you in control of yourself or aren't you?
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Posted by StillWater
Well you told him you want to go slow...so now he is still with you but going slow. So what's the prob?


Oh, I understand that, and I do appreciate that he is. But why would he stop all the sweet texts he was sending? All the emoji's, compliments he was pouring out to me all have stopped-----went down to "yeah" "yup" and just short answers....That's what I am most confused about I guess.


The problem is we live from the heart with our women so when someone puts a block on one thing all other things are stifled. We are more like a dam than a tap and we can't dissimulate specific feelings and wants, only blanket dissimulate them all. Go slow effectively means he's reverted back to a more formal stage of dating where he feels he has to earn the right to say all of these sweet things to you again. Simply saying 'I'm not ready for this particular thing yet' is much better than saying 'Let's go slow' because on the particular thing is highlighted, right now the whole relationship is highlighted which is why he's coming across in the way that he is. He's not sure what has led to the outcome and thus is taking things in stages to understand you, himself and the relationship more.
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Hoosier, I'm in a similar situation with the Leo guy I'm dating, and what Neurath said couldn't be explained any better. Libra gal dating a Leo man started with fireworks, excitement, passion, and all of that newly infatuated sweet stuff that comes in the beginning. I've learned so much about the Leo sign just from spending time reading through older threads on behaviors and matters of the heart; I'd suggest you take some time to do the same. A lot of people say all of this horoscope stuff is nothing but made up, but I truly believe people really do follow traits of their sign, and there's an entire forum of knowledgable wealth to be found with interpreting behavior. I'd say this forum has been nothing but helpful, and has even made my friendship with the Leo I'm interested in more manageable since I can be on the same frequency with him (he's a July Leo!)
Anyway Hoosier, my Leo has gone "cold" too. But, like Neurath explained, I noticed with him he is now shifting gears to
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* too. But, like Neurath explained, I noticed with him he is now shifting gears to a more formal stage of dating. No more sweet good morning and evening texts, no more flattery, and he went completely cold with being intimate too (Which in a sense was kind of a let down from all of the chemistry because he's just so damn irresistible, but I feel this is probably a better route to make our friendship in the beginning more solid). We do hangout yes, and we actually do things that make us challenge each other to be better and get a better connection and friendship going. I see this as trying to understand it from his point of view (since the majority of Leo men fear commitment), and it is making our connection stronger.
Trust me, if a Leo is putting forth action instead of just talking (as in still making effort to hang out with you), it's a good sign. (At least from my experience thus far!)
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Posted by Jynja
OP - I think I already replied on the Scorp forum. You've effectively held the man back from pursuing you with the order to take it slow. He won't risk losing you so he's holding back.
NOTE: (And I wonder if this applies to Leo men too)...
If you dim my shine too long and hold me back from my natural WILD (Very very wild) self, I'll wake up one day and disappear. My heart will break free from the restrictive chains holding me and soar. Sad thing is, I'm not afraid to turn up the heat and leave with a couple new dramatic effects hollywood would love to capture on camera. #jussayin.




I love this Jynja! You rock, thanks for getting my back!
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